بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, May 24, 2023

Tips: Ways To Tell That Someone Feels So Intimidated By You And What You Can Do About It

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ If someone does at least three of these things around you, they're most likely intimidated by your confident personality granted by Allah the Almighty: 
1] On a regular basis they feel too terrified to contact and approach you directly. If ever they need to ask you a question or inform you about something, they request somebody else to do that on their behalf. 
2] They generally can't make proper eye contact with you and smiling genuinely is too difficult for them to do in your presence. 
3] In most instances whenever they're about to cross paths with you, they instantly turn around and take a different route because they are too scared to have any interaction with you. 
4] Through observing their overall behavior and mannerisms, particularly when you're around, you can describe them as "disrespectful", "rude", "agitated", "insecure" or "uncooperative".
5] A lot of them quickly depart from any online group conversation (group chat) which you add them to without explaining to you the reason for their fleeing. 
6] When talking to them, you can really tell how nervous they are and admit that most of their responses with you are very brief and terse or vague and ambiguous. 
7] They have the silly audacity to cowardly criticize you behind your back yet when you confront them about their infantile acts and despicable gossiping, they're too afraid to say anything.
✅ What to do when it's confirmed that those individuals find your confidence "intimidating": 
1. Never doubt your self-worth and abilities all blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
2. Don't feel compelled to modify your attitude just to become more "approachable" or "likable" to them. As long as you intend to do something only to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while you're not oppressing anybody on purpose, the opinions of Allah's servants shouldn't negatively affect your life choices. 
3. Focus on pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while appreciating the special few souls whom Allah the Most Wise chose and destined to truly connect with you.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Tuesday, May 23, 2023

Note: Never Expect Meaningful Friendships With Narcissists

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ If you have some real empathy and true self-respect, 
Don't expect lasting friendships with actual narcissists 
Most of whom may connect with you to take advantage
Of your kindness - selfishly they wish to benefit
From your willingness to assist them in their projects.
~•~
Once they have profited from you and they've accomplished
What they wanted, expect these conceited narcissists
To vanish amidst conversation. New messages
From you gradually stop receiving quick responses.
They tend to "ghost" those who provoke them to feel jealous.
~•~
Or maybe so-and-so left you as they were upset, 
By one or some of your posts they got so offended.
They failed to reach out because they had zero courage 
To hear the truth or witness your gifts get acknowledged.
Or the disconnect was due to them being distressed.
~•~
Regardless of why they decided to act quiet,
Recall you can't build real connection with narcissists 
Who are typically selfish, obsessed with cosmetics, 
And they would rather embellish their public image 
Instead of seeking logic and collecting knowledge.
~•~
So if one day by some narcissists you get "ghosted", 
Don't suspect your self-worth. Stay strong. Don't feel dejected. 
Most shoppers reject anything that's too expensive. 
Perhaps your frankness causes them to feel defective, 
Or they've bad motives, and your faith must be well-guarded.
~•~
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith (Imaan) in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance (kibr) is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Monday, May 22, 2023

Tips: How To Deal With "Friends" Who Disappear Then Reappear After A Long Time Of Disconnection

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what would you do if some of your friends were frequently communicating online and then agreed to meet up one day, but when that day arrived they failed to show up and despite several attempts to reach out to them, they weren't responsive, although I notice them updating their social media accounts regularly? 
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. If you've known those friends for more than seven years while you firmly believe that they matter to you a lot, and you all reside in the same city, you could try paying them a surprise visit one by one and then ask them politely why they haven't responded to your messages in a long time. Maybe they're extremely sensitive and got offended by a number of your recent online posts and they lack the courage to confront you about what upset them. 
On the other hand, if they're merely acquaintances or colleagues who have never been on outings with you more than twice and until now you doubt their reliability, their sudden disappearance or decision to disconnect shouldn't impact you negatively. Rather it should remind you that the people whom we meet on earth, with Allah's Will, are all temporary and not every single one of those who regard themselves as friends of yours is guaranteed to stick by you until the Day of Judgment, particularly if your objectives in life are too different.
After attempting to contact those who suddenly discontinued chatting with you at most three times, simply detach yourself from them as well and quit stalking their Facebook timelines, pages and Instagram accounts etc. Why bother forcing yourself to pay attention to cowardly individuals who are obviously doing whatever they can to flee from you? Don't play "Tag, you're it!" with someone who doesn't want to play the game. Respect yourself enough to courageously walk away for Allah's sake from anybody who's too scared or too distracted to reciprocate your kindness, and avoid anything that fails to enhance your Imaan/faith. 
Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny and know that there is always wisdom in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala deciding who you get to network with and who are temporarily passing by as agents to train you in strengthening your capacity for desisting from sins.
If Allah the Most Wise decrees that you encounter those "former friends" again in the future, don't treat them in an inhumane way. Maintain your good manners for Allah's sake even in their presence while putting some distance, because you refuse to befriend prideful narcissists with a lousy tendency to vanish in the midst of conversation then reappearing as their gargantuan ego compels them to enjoy being chased. It makes them feel so obnoxiously "superior" when others shamefully beg for their "highly sought-after" approval. 
The only time you can consider reconnecting with a friend who's been silent or absent for a lengthy period is when they clearly explain to you the reasons behind their inability to respond to your messages in the past while overall you view them as righteous friends who inspire you to become a better Muslimah, and arrogantly refusing to reconcile could result in regret on both sides.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Sunday, May 21, 2023

Quotes: Don't Let One Problem Cause You To Become Ungrateful


🖋️ "Do not allow one worry (or one problem) cause you to forget thousands of Allah's blessings upon you."

Also do not allow one negative aspect about your husband cause you to disregard his many positive qualities and all the favors which he has done, including the countless gifts he gave. Forgiving others is actually easy when you truly love them for Allah's sake.

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Quotes: For Allah's Sake Be Much Better Than What People Assume About You


🖋️ "It is beautiful that the people in general (or most people) think well of you, 
And it is even more beautiful that you (in reality) are a lot better than what they assume."

The best of your deeds and noble qualities are known to Allah the Almighty Whose Love is more important than whether or not His servants applaud you or disapprove.