Poem: What To Expect When Many Insecure Females Envy You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅  Some things to expect when lots of females envy you, 

As you're skilled at doing worthwhile tasks which they can't do, 

Because you're prettier than them while they're insecure, 

Or you're married and they're single, or you're a wife who 

Is fine with her spouse staying wed to four, three or two, 

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Or your strong faith and trust in Allah causes them to 

Feel somewhat "inferior" so they strive to malign you, 

Unaware that Allah is the One Who granted you 

Those gifts as tests and to examine their Imaan too - 

They're not doing well if they remain jealous of you...

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Here's what to expect when many females envy you: 

Jealous females treating you in a way that is rude, 

Inventing rumors about you, trying to exclude

You from their outings so their self-hatred gets reduced, 

They wish to see you sad so their hurt ego is soothed.

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Expect envious females with low confidence to 

Frequently ignore your salaams, stubbornly refuse 

To show kindness to one whose good qualities seduce

Them to feeling as though they're more useless than proud mules, 

And make you feel "unseen", evincing ingratitude.

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Expect loads of eye-rolling from souls who envy you, 

Spiteful giggles and ridicule from the insecure, 

Exclusion from gatherings often done by those who 

Find your inner beauty threatening so they're forced to 

Mistreat you since your self-esteem makes them insecure.

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When treated with disrespect from those who envy you, 

Don't doubt your self-worth. Instead, have patience, gratitude

And contentment with the blessings which Allah gave you. 

Be contented we're not like them - disturbed, insecure

And ugly on the inside with manners immature.

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They're unhappy really, emotionally abused 

By their own jealousy and sins in oppressing you. 

Await Allah's Justice. Know that Judgment Day is true. 

And believe, with certainty, acknowledge that for sure 

Most people won't envy one who's idle, plain and poor.

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📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Note: How Some INTJs Would Deal With A Frequent Liar Or Scammer

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how would you deal with an acquaintance who has lied to you numerous times, particularly when it comes to business and some amateur sellers are so unreliable or irrational with the pricing of their products?

📝 Answer: Allahu A'lam. If I made a clear agreement with an acquaintance regarding buying some of her products at an agreed-upon price then on the day when they're about to dispatch the items they suddenly increased the price, specifically if the last-minute increase has nothing to do with delivery, I would: 

1] Unapologetically cancel the order just as they decided to alter an aspect of their dealing.

2] Still maintain proper manners with the seller but only this time become more visibly distant and uninterested in developing any deep connection with them, since they've already shown their true colors and idiotically confirmed they shouldn't be trusted at all.

3] Avoid entrusting them with my personal belongings and secrets as well as properties of loved ones. 

4] Patiently understand that since they're frequent liars, they can never be trusted in the future, so almost all of their claims and opinions would be taken with a grain of salt. I won't take their statements about themselves and others seriously because one can't be entirely certain if they are being truthful or foolishly inventing additional lies to pacify their jealous ego or alleviate their insecurities. So if they make up something like "our wedding took place in Shangri-La while we both said the Shahaada in Sri Lanka" I'd think to myself "yeah, whatever, act all you want - I don't believe you, clown."

5] Gladly avoid stalking their social media accounts and pages, and not bother endorsing their amateurish business to anyone. Why support liars and scammers if you're somebody who, for Allah's sake, values loyalty and integrity?

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📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for it is carried above the clouds. Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 3630

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn 'Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are four signs that make someone a pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of hypocrisy until he abandons it: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a covenant, he is treacherous; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he argues, he is wicked."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 34, Sahih Muslim 58

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever has three traits is a hypocrite, even if he fasts, prays, goes to Hajj and Umrah, and claims to be a Muslim. When he speaks, he lies. When he promises, he breaks it. When he is trusted, he betrays it."

Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 4039

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung from the same hole twice."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Note: 7 Things Which You Avoid Doing Since You're Not Immature

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things which you, if you're a truly mature adult, do not do: 

1] You do not act like obnoxious bullies nor do you give irrational instructions to people, including children, to mistreat others. 

2] You do not cut in line (go in front of an individual who's already queuing) unless you have an urgent need to do so and you are decent enough to apologize for any misconduct you display. 

3] You avoid making shallow judgments and boisterously ridiculing others. If you dislike a person for whatever reason, you keep your resentment to yourself, gracefully staying away from childish mockery and infantile gossip. 

4] You're capable of dining out and attending gatherings without obliging yourself to frequently take pretentious photos of the meals you've enjoyed, childishly flaunting what you ate to your online stalkers, almost in the same way some toddlers flaunt their colorful scribbles to their babysitters.

5] You don't get overdramatic nor do you make it a big deal when you discover that you weren't invited to a gathering, aware that the host likely didn't have sufficient budget to accommodate large numbers of guests, or they innocently forgot to invite you because they've got lots of loved ones and acquaintances to contact, or they cancelled their invitation because they figured that you'd automatically decline their invite due to busyness and preoccupation with other tasks.

6] Your rich values and remarkable self-control prevent you from acting on the urge to steal anyone's property and unattended belongings. Stealing is a despicable action which you'd never want to do.

7] As much as possible you refrain from blurting out supposedly offensive and disrespectful remarks, loudly expressing your loathing for someone or something as though you're controlled by your emotions, unless you're a witness of injustice and you intend to rectify a situation.

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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wherever you are, follow up a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Tips: Some Examples Of Group Conversation Games

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Two conversation games and two wholesome activities which you can try with a group of three or more family members, friends, acquaintances and colleagues (of the same gender) to become more familiar gradually with each other for Allah's sake: 

1✅ "Ask And Answer Questions": 

• Form a circle or be seated around a table. 

• The person who volunteers to ask the first question asks all the participants any random question which they also get to answer. 

📝 Examples of questions one can ask: 

1✓ Which of the main four rightly guided caliphs (khulafaa ar-raashideen) RadhiAllahu 'anhum do you find most relatable? Briefly explain your choice.

2✓ If you could delete a whole year from your life story or return to it to fix all the mistakes you may have done during that time period, which year would that be and why? 

3✓ Mention two to three Individuals from those whom you care about for Allah's sake whose personality, actions or life decisions inspire you to become a better Muslim. In what ways do you feel inspired by them?

• When all the participants have answered the first question, the person beside the first questioner asks the next question and so on etc.

2☑️  "Ask And Answer Questions Within 15 to 25 Seconds":

• Almost similar to the conversation game above but with limited duration to speak. A mechanical timer or timer application on an android phone can be used when playing this game.

• A participant who fails to answer a question within 15 to 25 seconds doesn't get to ask any question until after a particular round, when all the participants have attempted to ask and answer questions.

• Before the game starts, the participants write their questions on separate sheets of paper, without showing their questions to the other participants, then tear the sheet of questions into separate pieces then fold them so the group can pick one from the shuffled pieces of paper. Three to five questions must be asked by each participant or the one who volunteers to lead the game can decide how many questions every participant is allowed to ask.

📝 Examples of questions that can generate quick responses: 

1✓ Was there ever an instance in your life when you shed tears because you sympathized with someone? Who is that person whom you felt sorry for?

2✓ If you could select only three from your loved ones to travel with you abroad, to a country which you haven't visited before, who would those three be? 

3✓ What is one thing which you believe you're very good at, and you haven't seen anybody from your relatives who has mastered such skill yet?

3✅ "Encouragement To Read Together From The Mushaf (The Noble Qur'an)":

• Form a circle, be seated on the floor or around a table. 

• On separate cards or square sheets of paper, write random numbers of pages from the Noble Qur'an. Shuffle those cards or paper whenever a participant is about to select one. 

• When a participant randomly chooses a card or paper, they hold a Mushaf (with wudhu/ablution and as long as the female holding the Mushaf doesn't have her monthly excuse) or they open a Noble Qur'an application on an android phone then go to the page according to the number they've selected. The participant recites the Ayaat/verses on those two pages of the Mushaf / Qur'an application then the participant beside them reads to the group the translation of those verses/Ayaat in the language which is understandable to the majority. 

• Once those two have completed reading the Ayaat/verses in Arabic and the second language, another participant chooses a random page then reads the Ayaat/verses which the participant seated beside them later reads next.

4☑️ "Encouragement To Read Some Ahadith / Narrations of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.":

• Almost similar to the previously mentioned activity but this time instead of reading some random Ayaat/verses from the Noble Qur'an, the group can read a random Hadith and share what they've learned by carefully reading the narration, making sure that it is authentic and sound, not fabricated.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Links: PDF Booklet On The Rites Of Hajj And Umrah

📔 Islamic PDF document booklet on "the Rites of Hajj and 'Umrah" compiled by Abu Khadeejah Abdul-Wahid Alam based on the works of the major scholars of the era: Ibn Baaz, Ibn 'Uthaimeen, Al-Albaani and Salih Al-Fawzaan - May Allah the Most Merciful have mercy on them all, accept their good deeds and make them and us among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. (This PDF document is a sadaqa jaariyah, not for sale):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CgSK-SAPzVY7e53wkyMOUE0uLmVRaEa6/view?usp=drivesdk

https://abukhadeejah.com/hajj-and-umrah-madinah-guide-book-complete/