Note: Some Notes Concerning Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💭 Some notes on polygyny:
1. The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam stayed with Khadijah RadhiAllahu anha for so many years and didn't take another wife until she passed away. This shows that being in a monogamous marriage isn't reprehensible as the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam himself remained with only one wife in the beginning. It's possible for a man to find contentment with just one wife.
2. While it is permissible for men in Islam to have up to four wives, they are obliged to treat them as fairly as they can, with regards to family time management, satisfying the emotional needs of each wife and granting financial support.
3. A Muslim can Inn-sha-Allah earn rewards in taking care of a large family, trying to ensure he fulfils all his duties and responsibilities, especially if one of his wives is a former divorcée or widow with orphaned kids. By marrying her he gets the chance to be a supportive stepfather to those orphaned children.
4. A carriage being pulled by two fast horses may move faster than a cart being pulled by one horse. A carriage pulled by strong three or four horses moves even faster than the one dragged by two horses. A well-trained stallion or speedy horse can gallop a lot faster than a carriage pulled by four horses, especially if some of the horses from that carriage are stressed or inefficient. This similitude is like that of a man's marriage life. A beautiful and caring wife who has several kids with him can keep him satisfied that he feels no need to add another family member. On the other hand, a Muslim who is responsible and capable may have multiple wives to increase the population size of the Muslim Ummah or wed a woman so she is well taken care of instead of neglected trying to survive without a husband.
5. If your husband wants to take a second, third or fourth wife, that's his right. Avoid threatening him with divorce and keeping his kids away from him. Don't let shaytan manipulate you into unjustly thinking that your husband shouldn't marry another wife simply due to submitting to selfishness, jealousy, suspicion, ingratitude and impatience. When you realize how this fleeting world is temporary along with its trials and struggles, you'd be ready to sacrifice your ego or surplus pride for Allah's sake as you prefer the eternal bliss in Jannah Paradise.
6. Through polygyny there can be more diversity in the Muslim Ummah and peaceful relations especially when a husband has wives from different countries or tribes being unified with marriage.
7. A woman in polygyny can take recurrent rests from her chores as a housewife when her husband is with the other wife/wives. If fortunate to be friends with her co-wives, they can look after her kids when she needs some time for herself or when she's unwell.
8. Even if a husband may be unable to treat all his wives with the perfect amount of fairness and equal treatment, his wives must try their best to stay patient for Allah's sake.
Jannah will Inn-sha-Allah be their destined abode if they accept Allah's Decree patiently.
9. Polygyny isn't easily accepted by everybody just as not everyone can see the value of niqab/veiling the face and praying Sunnah Qiyam Al-Layl Tahajjud at night. As your authentic knowledge of Islam increases together with sincere application of what you've learned, your willingness to obey Allah and accept His Plans with patience also multiply, without overlooking your obvious rights as a loyal Muslim wife.

Note: If You Have Good Intentions You Don't Marry "The Wrong Person".

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Unless a woman purposely agreed to marry a guy who got released from jail or he's known for having committed innumerable crimes in the past, I don't believe that you, as a Muslim with good intention, end up marrying "the wrong person".
When Allah the Most Wise destines to give you a husband, it's your duty together with your soulmate to design the kind of love life that you want. If an art teacher gives you an empty sheet of paper to sketch on, it is irrational to blame them for giving you the wrong kind of paper if you're the one who lacks creative imagination, artistic abilities or at least patient willingness to learn some drawing skills.
Just as there are different kinds of artwork and forms of expressing oneself creatively, there are a wide variety of romantic journeys and love stories which aren't applicable for everybody equally. A lover may be completely fine loving her spouse from a distance, so a long-distance marriage doesn't worry her in the least. Another wife's temperament necessitates that she secludes herself once in a while, so she has no problem with seeing her husband just once a week or bimonthly. While these married couples enjoy love-making a lot and they're blessed with several pious children, other husbands and wives are contented with Allah's Qadr/Destiny in not having kids. Some wives are open to polygyny while others prefer to reserve their husbands for themselves only.
Getting married is one of the many tests from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala which requires lots of rewarding patience/Sabr, gratitude/Shukr and sincere efforts to keep progressing in order for you to pass this temporary examination. Not all exams are entirely similar. So passing a test makes it necessary that you utilize the means that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala granted you, among which are wisdom, the capacity to analyze the advantages and disadvantages of each circumstance, and the freewill to seek Allah's Guidance to do what you believe is the most fruitful decision that can
 Inn-sha-Allah generate a positive outcome, which is more likely to occur if you prayed Salat Al-Istikhaarah prior to selecting an option.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna) on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani