بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Thursday, July 14, 2022

Note: Feel Unsurprised And Unfazed When Someone Removes You From A Facebook Group Chat Or Some Online Forums

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how do you usually react when a user removes you from a Facebook group chat or bans you from an online forum? 
📝 Answer: Not surprised, not offended and not bothered at all (Alhamdulillah), especially if I never even checked the messages at that group chat and I don't have the slightest care and curiosity regarding what its members were discussing. 
If I were an active participant, regularly posting messages at that group chat, I'd guess I was either deleted by mistake or the admin removed me as a member because I wasn't participating enough or they couldn't stand the kind of posts I was frequently sharing etc. Regardless of what the reason behind my expulsion was, I'd understand they have every right to select which members stay in the group and which ones need to be discharged to abide by the group's guidelines, because that's something I myself may do if I managed my own group chat and found the presence of certain users unnecessary. 
Once I discover that a user deleted me from a group chat which I was never genuinely interested in joining, I'd delete the whole message thread so I don't have to bother with frequently noticing the group's name each time I check the inbox and recalling trifles which are completely irrelevant to me. If ever I encounter somebody online or offline who's part of that group chat, I would obstinately desist from asking them any question related to topics discussed in the group I was deleted from. Why bother attempting to gain more information on something which fails to inspire you to become a better Muslim and chattering about it won't do anything to improve the quality of your overall lifestyle? 
As long as we strive to maintain strong connection with our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, being rejected or despised by any of His servants, particularly those whose values are massively different from ours, isn't a big deal. 
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📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318
Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📑 Note: Reminder to read Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday, recite Surah Al-Mulk each day and night, and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'a~
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Tips: If You're Single And Interested In Marrying

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📜 Question: What advice can you give to an unmarried Muslimah who feels very eager to marry a seemingly pious Muslim man, whether he is already married or still single?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. 
1] Cautiously analyze your feelings of attraction and try to figure out why you find this guy attractive. If his outward good looks, physique and personality are what cause you to feel attracted, but he lacks sufficient qualities to be worthy of being your husband in the future, then alter your overall perception of him, for Allah's sake abstain from interacting with each other as much as possible, and consider him as just a distraction from your goals if he doesn't have the guts to carry out a marriage proposal in a halal way. 
2] If you adamantly sense that you can 
Inn-sha-Allah become happier and more successful in both worlds as this Muslim's future wife, then inform your parents about your serious interest in marrying a man whom you believe is a nice match for you. 
They can Inn-sha-Allah assist you in arranging your marriage to him at the most befitting time. 
If your mother and father aren't alive, you may consult your paternal male relatives (male mahrams from your father's side, not your mother's side as they're not as closely related to you as your father's male relatives) starting from your (paternal) grandfather, brother / brothers, half brother / half brothers, paternal uncles, paternal nephews (sons of one's brother from the same father) etc. 
If not one paternal male mahram is available to be your waliyy (guardian), your maternal grandfather and uncles may help you with marrying the Muslim whom you wish to marry for Allah's sake, in case a Muslim leader who is more qualified and suitable to act as your waliyy (guardian) isn't around to assist with the matrimonial rites. Allah the Most Wise knows best. 
3] Remember to pray the two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara before informing a male mahram (your father, grandfather, brother etc.) regarding your willingness to marry a certain individual whom they can speak to directly. 
If things work out and your father, grandfather, brothers etc. informed you that the man is willing to be your spouse then Alhamdulillah. If not, then patiently accept Allah's Qadr / Decree and understand that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has better plans for you. 
📜 Note: Even if you and that man become officially engaged, you still can't go on "dates" nor meet in seclusion since you're not yet connected until the advent of the actual Nikaah /  Waleemah / marriage ceremony. 
4] If the man whom you're interested in marrying for Allah's sake happens to be the brother of a close friend of yours, you may discuss the matter with her after you've prayed Salat Al-Istikhaara. Never log in to her social media accounts pretending to be her with the motive to persuade him to consider you as his future wife. Lies, deception and bad intentions are obstacles to a blessed marriage life. 
5] Even prior to considering a decent Muslim as your future husband and potential soulmate, do what you can for Allah's sake to ensure that you likewise have the characteristics which are necessary to being an ideal partner and righteous Muslim wife. Don't be one of those immodest females who enjoy uploading selfies and photos of themselves intending to search for the "perfect" guy. 
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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not resisting or complaining) is her consent."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6946 
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
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