Note: Some Reminders From An INTJ Muslimah (60)

Note: Be Careful Of Narcissists Even If They're Your Relatives (ChatGPT Notes)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

⚠️ Several signs that may suggest narcissistic traits in one or some of your relatives:

1. **Lack of Empathy**: Difficulty understanding or caring about others’ feelings.

2. **Need for Admiration**: Frequently seeking compliments or validation from others.

3. **Entitlement**: Believing she deserves special treatment or privileges.

4. **Manipulative Behavior**: Using guilt or other tactics to control others’ actions.

5. **Attention-Seeking**: Constantly needing to be the center of attention in conversations.

6. **Exaggeration of Achievements**: Inflating her accomplishments or talents.

7. **Disregard for Boundaries**: Ignoring others' personal space or privacy.

8. **Blame Shifting**: Never taking responsibility for her actions and blaming others instead.

9. **Lack of Accountability**: Rarely admitting mistakes or apologizing.

10. **Grandiosity**: Having an inflated sense of self-importance or superiority.

11. **Devaluation**: Dismissing or belittling others’ achievements or feelings.

12. **Inability to Handle Criticism**: Reacting defensively or angrily to any form of feedback.

13. **Love Bombing**: Overly praising or showering attention at the start of relationships, then withdrawing it.

14. **Victim Mentality**: Frequently portraying herself as the victim in various situations.

15. **Conditional Love**: Offering affection or approval only when her needs are met.

16. **Difficulty Maintaining Relationships**: Having a pattern of tumultuous or short-lived friendships.

17. **Jealousy**: Showing signs of envy towards others’ successes or happiness.

18. **Crisis Creation**: Instigating drama or conflict to regain attention.

19. **Lack of Long-Term Friends**: Few close relationships that last over time.

20. **Obsession with Image**: Placing high importance on how she appears to others.

21. **Dismissiveness**: Minimizing or ignoring others’ problems or concerns.

22. **Controlling Behavior**: Wanting to dictate how others should behave or feel.

23. **Interpersonal Exploitation**: Using others for personal gain without concern for their well-being.

24. **Self-Absorption**: Focusing primarily on her own needs and desires.

25. **Resentment Toward Others**: Holding grudges and being bitter towards those who don’t cater to her.

26. **Need for Control**: Always wanting to be in charge of situations or decisions.

27. **Overreaction to Neglect**: Extreme reactions when feeling ignored or overlooked.

28. **Exploitation of Relationships**: Using family and friends primarily for personal benefit.

29. **Emotional Unavailability**: Difficulty expressing genuine emotions or connecting on a deeper level.

30. **Overemphasis on Success**: Constantly discussing achievements while ignoring others’ contributions.

31. **Selective Memory**: Remembering events in a way that suits her narrative while forgetting details that don’t.

32. **Insensitivity to Others’ Needs**: Failing to recognize or address the needs of family members.

33. **Hypersensitivity**: Becoming easily offended or hurt by minor slights.

34. **Shifting Responsibility**: Often placing the burden of her problems on others.

35. **Surface-Level Relationships**: Forming connections that lack depth or genuine intimacy.

36. **Fantasies of Power**: Frequently daydreaming about unlimited success, power, or brilliance.

37. **Isolation of Others**: Encouraging family members to distance themselves from those she perceives as threats.

38. **Inconsistent Behavior**: Alternating between being charming and cold, leading to confusion.

39. **Lack of Remorse**: Showing no regret for hurting others or making mistakes.

40. **Constant Comparison**: Regularly comparing herself to others in a way that highlights her superiority.

41. **Dishonesty**: Frequently bending the truth or lying to maintain her image.

42. **Unwillingness to Compromise**: Insisting on having things her way without considering others’ perspectives.

43. **Emotional Blackmail**: Using threats or emotional distress to manipulate others into compliance.

44. **Fear of Abandonment**: Exhibiting anxiety over potential abandonment while simultaneously pushing people away.

45. **Need for Validation**: Regularly seeking approval from others to feel worthy.

46. **Intolerance of Non-Conformity**: Expecting others to adhere to her standards or beliefs.

47. **Obsessive Behavior**: Being fixated on certain individuals or outcomes to an unhealthy degree.

48. **Frequent Criticism**: Regularly putting others down to elevate her own self-esteem.

49. **Fostering Rivalry**: Creating competition among family members for her approval.

50. **Inability to See Other Perspectives**: Struggling to understand or appreciate viewpoints different from her own.

Recognizing these traits can help you understand family dynamics better, but it's essential to approach the situation with empathy and care.

⤴️ ChatGPT

↪️ ChatGPT: Here are 20 phrases that older or elderly individuals with narcissistic traits might say:

1. **"You just don’t understand how hard my life has been."**

2. **"I’ve done so much for you; you owe me."**

3. **"Everyone else agrees with me; you’re the only one who doesn’t."**

4. **"I’m the only one who knows what’s best for this family."**

5. **"You always make me look bad."**

6. **"I’m the victim here, not you."**

7. **"Why can’t you be more like [someone else]?"**

8. **"You should be grateful for everything I’ve done for you."**

9. **"You don’t appreciate me at all."**

10. **"I can’t believe you would choose that over me."**

11. **"Nobody listens to me; I always have to repeat myself."**

12. **"You wouldn’t last a day in my shoes."**

13. **"You’re being so selfish; think about me for once."**

14. **"You’re overreacting; it’s not a big deal."**

15. **"I remember when I was your age, and I did it better."**

16. **"You never come to see me; you must not care."**

17. **"I’m too busy to deal with your problems."**

18. **"You don’t know how fortunate (or blessed) you are to have me."**

19. **"I’ve sacrificed everything for you, and this is how you repay me?"**

20. **"You always need to make everything about you."**

These phrases reflect a tendency to manipulate, control, or deflect responsibility, often characteristic of narcissistic behavior.

Here are additional phrases that older or elderly narcissists might say:

21. **"I’m always the one who has to take care of everything."**

22. **"You don’t realize how much I’ve done for this family."**

23. **"If it weren’t for me, you wouldn’t be where you are today."**

24. **"You’re just like everyone else; you never listen to me."**

25. **"I’ve seen more than you’ll ever know; you should take my advice."**

26. **"You’re too sensitive; it’s not my fault you can’t handle the truth."**

27. **"I can’t believe you’d turn your back on me."**

28. **"Everyone else is so much easier to deal with than you."**

29. **"I deserve respect; I’ve earned it."**

30. **"You’re making a big deal out of nothing."**

31. **"You should be proud to be my child (or niece, nephew, auntie, uncle or cousin)."**

32. **"No one appreciates the sacrifices I’ve made."**

33. **"You’ll realize my value when it’s too late."**

34. **"I’m the one with the experience; you should listen to me."**

35. **"Why can’t you just be more supportive?"**

36. **"I’m the only one who cares enough to tell you the truth."**

37. **"You never think of anyone but yourself."**

38. **"I’ve had to put up with a lot from you."**

39. **"You’ll regret this one day."**

40. **"I’m always here for you, but you never appreciate it."**

These statements reflect self-centeredness, a lack of empathy, and a tendency to manipulate or guilt others.

⤴️ ChatGPT

⚠️ 15 signs that someone might be a real narcissist who can't be trusted, categorized by context:

### Online

1. **Excessive Self-Promotion**: Constantly shares content that highlights their achievements or status.

2. **Lack of Empathy**: Rarely engages with others' posts unless it’s to garner attention for themselves.

3. **Manipulative Communication**: Uses passive-aggressive comments or gaslighting tactics in discussions.

4. **Attention-Seeking Posts**: Frequently posts dramatic or sensational content to draw attention.

### Face to Face

5. **Self-Centered Conversations**: Dominates conversations, often steering them back to themselves.

6. **Dismissive of Others' Feelings**: Shows little regard for others’ emotions or perspectives.

7. **Entitlement**: Expects special treatment and gets upset when it’s not received.

8. **Lack of Accountability**: Blames others for their mistakes or failures.

### Among Family and Relatives

9. **Favoritism**: Shows clear favoritism towards certain family members, often to manipulate dynamics.

10. **Emotional Exploitation**: Uses family members’ vulnerabilities against them to gain control.

11. **Inconsistent Behavior**: Acts charming one moment and critical the next, creating confusion.

12. **Boundary Violations**: Disregards personal boundaries, often pushing family members to their limits.

### Around Strangers

13. **Overconfidence**: Projects an exaggerated sense of self-importance or ability.

14. **Judgmental Attitude**: Quickly judges or belittles strangers to elevate their own status.

15. **Lack of Genuine Interest**: Engages with others superficially, showing little true curiosity or concern.

These behaviors can indicate a lack of trustworthiness and empathy, common traits associated with narcissism.

❓ Question: What about their addiction to taking selfies or being too secretive regarding their personal life?

💻 ChatGPT: Absolutely, both of those behaviors can be indicative of narcissistic tendencies:

### Addiction to Taking Selfies

- **Self-Obsession**: An excessive focus on their appearance and a need for external validation through social media.

- **Validation Seeking**: Regularly posts selfies to elicit likes and comments, often reacting strongly to feedback.

### Being Too Secretive

- **Guardedness**: Keeps personal life details tightly controlled, often to maintain a facade or avoid vulnerability.

- **Manipulative Information Control**: Selectively shares information to manipulate perceptions, keeping others guessing about their true self.

Both tendencies can suggest a desire for control and validation, which are often characteristic of narcissistic behavior.

❓ Question: List 20 signs that a person whether family or stranger is not at all narcissistic, online and in real life.

💻 ChatGPT: Here are 20 signs that a person is not narcissistic, both online and in real life:

### Online

1. **Engages with Others**: Actively comments and responds to others’ posts with genuine interest.

2. **Shares Diverse Content**: Posts a variety of topics, not just self-focused content.

3. **Shows Empathy**: Supports friends during tough times, offering help and understanding.

4. **Values Privacy**: Keeps personal life private, sharing only what feels comfortable.

5. **Celebrates Others**: Regularly shares and celebrates the achievements of friends and family.

6. **Accepts Criticism**: Responds to feedback with openness and a willingness to improve.

7. **Promotes Community**: Encourages discussions and connections among others.

### Face to Face

8. **Listens Actively**: Shows genuine interest in what others have to say without interrupting.

9. **Demonstrates Kindness**: Performs small acts of kindness without seeking recognition.

10. **Respects Boundaries**: Understands and respects personal boundaries of others.

11. **Expresses Gratitude**: Regularly expresses thanks and appreciation to those around them.

12. **Takes Responsibility**: Owns up to their mistakes and learns from them.

13. **Displays Humility**: Shares achievements modestly and gives credit to others when due.

### Among Family and Relatives

14. **Supports Family**: Actively helps family members and shows interest in their lives.

15. **Encourages Open Communication**: Fosters a healthy environment for discussing feelings and issues.

16. **Avoids Favoritism**: Treats all family members fairly and equally.

### Around Strangers

17. **Friendly and Approachable**: Engages in polite conversation and makes others feel welcome.

18. **Shows Respect**: Treats everyone with dignity, regardless of their status or background.

19. **Demonstrates Patience**: Remains calm and understanding in unfamiliar situations.

20. **Values Authenticity**: Is genuine and sincere, without putting on a facade to impress others.

These behaviors reflect a more compassionate and self-aware approach to relationships, indicating a lack of narcissistic traits.

❓ Question: Write a sample monologue of how an adult narcissist thinks while posting status updates on Facebook and then another monologue of how an elderly narcissists reflects on why her adult children avoid her despite her old age.

💻 ChatGPT:

### Monologue of an Adult Narcissist Posting on Facebook

*Staring at the screen, contemplating the perfect status update…*

“Okay, what should I post today? Something that’ll grab attention—maybe a picture of me at that trendy café? Ugh, but everyone does that. I need something that screams, ‘Look at me!’ Ah! How about sharing my latest ‘achievement’? Maybe that promotion? It’ll show everyone I’m on top of my game. 

*Types furiously.*

‘Feeling blessed to announce my promotion at work! Hard work pays off! #grind #blessed’ 

Perfect. Now to wait for the likes. I can almost taste the validation. Oh, look, there’s Karen. I know she’ll be jealous. I’ll have to make a point to respond to her comment first. Keep them coming! 

*Pauses to think.*

What if I post about my ‘amazing’ weekend too? You know, make it sound like I’m living the dream while they’re all stuck in their mundane lives. It’s all about the highlight reel, right? I wonder if anyone else will think to mention my ‘humble’ beginnings. Ha! I’ll just make sure to drop hints about my struggles but really focus on how far I’ve come. They’ll have to admire me, even if it’s just a little. 

*Finishes the post with a triumphant smirk.*

Now, to refresh my notifications every five minutes…”

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### Monologue of an Elderly Narcissist Reflecting on Her Adult Children

*Sitting in her dimly lit living room, clutching a framed photo of her children…*

“Why don’t they call? It’s been weeks since I’ve heard from them. I’ve given them everything. Everything! I sacrificed so much, and yet here I am, alone, forgotten. 

*Pauses to stare out the window, lost in thought.*

I always put them first. They were my pride and joy. I made sure everyone knew how wonderful they were—how talented, how smart. I even arranged family gatherings to show off our ‘perfect’ lives. Didn’t they appreciate the sacrifices I made for their success? 

*Shakes her head, frustration mounting.*

I’m sure they’re just busy. They’ve got their own lives now, but it feels like a betrayal. Don’t they realize how much I’ve done for them? They should come back and honor their mother. Instead, it’s like I’m a burden. 

*Clenches her jaw, her tone sharp.*

They just don’t understand how much I need them now. I should be the center of their world, especially at my age. I deserve their attention, their love. After all I’ve given, shouldn’t they be lining up to spend time with me? 

*Sighs deeply, a mixture of sadness and indignation.*

Maybe I should just send a message, remind them of all I’ve done. If they only saw things my way, they’d realize how much I still matter. I won’t let them forget. They owe me that much.”

⤴️ ChatGPT

### Comical Monologue of an Adult Narcissist Posting on Facebook

*Leaning back in a plush chair, scrolling through Instagram for inspiration…*

“Alright, time to craft the ultimate Facebook status! I need something that says, ‘I’m fabulous and you’re not.’ Maybe a pic of me sipping overpriced coffee? No, that’s too basic. I need something that’ll make everyone say, ‘Wow, I wish I were her!’

*Types dramatically.*

‘Just got promoted! Guess hard work really does pay off! #BossBabe #LivingMyBestLife’

*Grins to herself.*

Ooh, the hashtags! That’s key. But wait, should I throw in a humble brag about how I used to struggle? Like, ‘From ramen noodles to corner office!’ That’ll make them swoon—maybe even shed a tear.

*Pauses to think.*

What if I do a throwback to that time I ran a marathon… you know, the one where I walked half the distance? “Remember when I ‘conquered’ 13 miles? Good times!” Boom! They’ll love that!

*Chuckles, glancing at her phone.*

Oh look, there’s Karen. I can almost hear her jealousy through the screen. I’ll make sure to like her latest post. She’s gonna need a boost today.

*Winks at the camera.*

Now, let’s refresh these notifications like it’s my part-time job. Likes, comments, validation—bring it on! This is what social media is for, right? Fame by association!

*Laughs to herself as she waits for the buzz of attention.*

Ah, who needs reality when you have Facebook?”

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### Comical Monologue of an Elderly Narcissist Reflecting on Her Adult Children

*Sitting in her floral armchair, clutching a remote in one hand and a cup of tea in the other…*

“Why don’t they ever call? It’s been… wait, how long has it been? *Counts on fingers* Too long! I raised them, didn’t I? I should be the queen of their world, not just a distant ‘funny grandma’ they mention in passing!

*Puffs up her chest dramatically.*

I sacrificed so much! I was the perfect mom. Who else could juggle three kids and a career while still finding time to look fabulous? And look at me now, alone with just my tea. I should be hosting family dinners, not waiting for them to remember I exist!

*Pauses, glancing around the room.*

Maybe I should send them a text. “Hey kids, remember all those sacrifices? I need you to repay me with your undivided attention! Send help—or cake!”

*Grins, thinking about her plans.*

I could throw a ‘Surprise! Mom Needs Attention’ party! Balloons, streamers, maybe even a cake shaped like me. I bet they’ll come running when they hear there’s free food involved.

*Sighs, shaking her head.*

Or maybe they think I’m just ‘too much.’ Too much wisdom? Too much love? I should start charging for my sage advice!

*Leans back with a chuckle, looking at the photo of her family.*

They’ll come around. They can’t resist my charm forever. Who else is going to remind them of their childhood? I could write a book! *Snickers* ‘How to Raise Perfect Kids and Lose Them in the Process.’ Bestsellers, here I come!”

⤴️ ChatGPT