Note: Difference Between Intuition And Suspicion

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Intuition: The ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning.
Suspicion: A thought or assumption that something is possible, likely, or true, without actual proof and clear evidence.
Intuition is a special gift which Allah the Most Wise grants those believers who are close to Him. The closer you are to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, the stronger and more accurate your intuition is.
🔹 A few examples to clarify how intuition can be a helpful asset from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala:
1] When you're about to inform someone of what you saw in a vivid dream, but then you hold back and decide not to share it because an inner voice keeps warning you that such a person with a bad tendency to gossip cannot be trusted.
2] When you have a feeling that a certain speaker isn't the most reliable figure to learn authentic Islamic knowledge from, because you find it questionable how they claim to love the Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam yet they have an enlarged photo of themselves at the front cover of their books. Are they supporting Allah and His noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, or are they utilizing Da'wah to be some sort of overly revered celebrity?
3] When you've agreed to join a women-only sleepover at a friend's house but then cancel your decision to go, because you can sense that going there while leaving your husband behind isn't an appropriate idea.
🔹 Some scenarios to illustrate that your notions are based on unjust suspicion, not intuition:
1] Assuming that a user is simply showing off or they're desperate for social approval when they regularly share Islamic reminders. Have you actually checked what's inside their heart to confirm you're right about their niyyah/intention?
2] Viewing somebody as an 'arrogant snob' after they didn't answer your comments or messages as early as you expected them to, unaware of the possibilities that they have a busy schedule, they didn't check their notifications, or they were temporarily deprived of internet connection.
3] Doubting your friendship with another Muslim when they decline your invitations to visit you, heedless of the likelihood that they have other chores and priorities, or they lack sufficient allowance for transportation.
🔹 To enhance your capability to think, analyze and act intuitively:
1] Sincerely strive to maintain a strong connection with Allah the All-Knowing and continue seeking Allah's Guidance through frequent Du'as, particularly when praying Qiyaam Al-Layl Tahajjud.
2] Learn from your errors and others' mistakes.
3] Notice patterns and distinct behaviors.
4] Study body language, basic psychology and be familiar with different personality types.
5] Give excuses to others and acknowledge the fact that things aren't always the way they appear to be. Don't rely on all stereotypes nor judge people's motives hastily.
6] Observe how you feel around someone. If they give off negative vibes or make you feel so uncomfortable in their presence, don't be too quick to trust them.
7] Assess the pros and cons, advantages and disadvantages, of carrying out an action. If doing it could lead to more drawbacks and trouble in the future than benefits, then desist from it.
Pray two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah and pray to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that He guides you to the most ideal option which is rewarding for you in both worlds.
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📖 Abu Sa’eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the intuition of the believer. Verily, he sees with the Light of Allah." Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited the verse, 'Verily, in that are signs for those of discernment.' (The Noble Qur'an 15:75)
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3127
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Haythami
Ibn Al-Qayyim said, “It is a light that Allah bestows in the heart of His servant, by which he distinguishes between truth and falsehood, advantage and disadvantage, the honest and the liar.
Source: Madārij Al-Sālikīn 2/453
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man asked the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam “What is faith?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If you are happy with your good deeds and saddened by your evil deeds, then you are a believer."
The man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is sin?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If something wavers in your soul, then you should abandon it."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 21695
Grade: Sahih
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah said: 'Whoever shows enmity to a righteous friend of Mine, I have declared war against him. My servant does not grow closer to Me with anything more beloved to Me than the duties (obligations) I have imposed upon him. My servant continues to grow closer to Me with extra good works until I love him. When I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask something from Me, I would surely give it to him. Were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant it to him. I do not hesitate to do anything as I hesitate to take the soul of the believer, for he hates death and I hate to disappoint him.'"
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6137
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Note: Avoid Being Close Friends With Those Who Gossip.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 A sensible person doesn't need a PhD or Master's Degree to realize that gossiping is pointless chatter which doesn't benefit anyone except for the jealous and insecure. Backbiting about others' flaws and childishly laughing at people's mistakes are awful habits that befit only clowns who are emotionally wounded or guilty of inferiority complex. To compensate for their overwhelming self-hatred or to pacify their depressing feelings of inadequacy, gossipers assume it's okay to indulge in ridiculing the individuals they envy, ignorantly forgetting the obvious fact that they too aren't perfect at all.
No matter how many times they spread rumors about us or laugh at our past errors, their darkened hearts won't get prettier in that manner, while the whiff of their feces still doesn't remind one of flowers.
It is illogical to deride another Muslim for their shortcomings and imperfections when you similarly have innumerable defects and insecurities of your own. It is also deplorable to partake in backbiting, a major sin which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned us against, and act as though there aren't special Angels assigned to record our actions and deliberate statements.
From the many ways to preserve our faith/Imaan and well-being is to ensure we befriend pious Muslim companions, friends who sincerely have Taqwa and trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and who are mature enough to stay away from discussing the private matters of others.
Just as backbiting can be done offline when the subject being discussed isn't around, it is possible for some users to participate in obnoxious gossip on social media through:
1] Cowardly posting passive-aggressive status updates on their timeline. When a status update is intended to offend someone indirectly or describe them in an insulting way, even if their names aren't mentioned but you can tell who is being referred to, commenting on such message with further jokes is similar to backbiting.
2] Joking about so-and-so in an exclusive chat group or online community, assuming they're not reading your abhorrent messages yet talking badly about them anyway.
3] Reacting to a status update on a page or user's timeline, then tagging selected friends and saying something like "I think we know who does this * wink *" or "remember that time etc." and you're referring to somebody whom you all dislike.
If you have nothing kind, positive or helpful to say about anybody, it is from good manners to refrain from uttering words which could lead to a lost opportunity to keeping a loyal friend, long-lasting remorse, or a clear confirmation that the gossiper is envious of the Muslimah being gossiped about.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him not harm his neighbor.”
And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Let him uphold family ties.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672, Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Al-A’mash reported: Ibrahim al-Nakha’i, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “Verily, I will see something I dislike in someone, and nothing stops me from speaking about it except fear of being put to trial in the same way.”
Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 6353

Poem: It's Okay To Detach From False "Friends"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Alhamdulillah I'm not afraid of losing "friends",
As true friends don't disappear in spite of far distance.
Ex-friends are blessings in disguise that carry lessons,
Reminding us that this world's joys aren't permanent,
While Allah is the Only One we can depend on.
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Dear ex-friends, wherever you may be, I am sorry,
I'm sorry I can't join you in your future journey.
We could've talked daily and discussed about our dreams,
But I stopped when the moves were only coming from me,
Or left when I knew that you were consumed by envy.
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I could've chatted with you as often as I liked,
Brought you with me on outings, asked you for more advice,
Or save up money for our planned adventures and flights,
But I turned silent when I saw you liked to backbite,
Betray, tell lies, and keep taking while you were unkind.
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The very first moments you hurt me, I forgave you.
Each time you declined my invite, I'd give you excuse.
When you found other friends, I continued loving you
And supporting you for Allah's sake until I knew
Our friendship was one-sided, so I discontinued.
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It's okay. Though we don't talk as much as we used to,
I'll still smile and say Salaam if I bump into you.
Although our closeness disappeared, my manners stay true.
There's a purpose for each soul we meet and "friends" we lose -
Accept Allah's Qadr with patience and gratitude.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim