Tips: Five Signs Of People Who Are Sad Or Unhappy With Themselves

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What are the signs indicating that some people are depressed or actually unhappy with themselves despite efforts to act cheerful?

📝 Answer: 1] They usually act like obnoxious bullies towards those individuals whom they perceive as a threat because of jealousy. It's easy for them to be unkind, treating others disrespectfully to pacify their misery. By attempting to disturb others' peace, they believe they can feel less unhappy or less inadequate.

2] A large portion of their lifetime is wasted on jealously spying on the lives of strangers who don't have anything to do with them. Oftentimes you can tell that somebody isn't contented with their life if they nosily keep count of what others have and get to do. Frequently watching pretentious vlogs which fail to inspire you to become a better Muslim, stalking the social media posts of users whom you may secretly envy, and constantly comparing yourself to materialistic individuals are from the innumerable shortcuts to emotional distress. 

3] They readily indulge in gossiping. Anybody who seems okay with cowardly criticizing people behind their backs and talking badly about their intimate issues on a regular basis can't be truly at ease from within. If you were authentically satisfied with who you are, you'd focus on improving your own strengths for Allah's sake instead of consistently attempting to make others look or sound awful.

4] They generally give off negative, demotivating and distressful vibes. They appear to be scowling most of the time, they aren't very responsive to your text messages or calls and they tend to ignore your greetings. Those who are emotionally wounded oftentimes feel the need to bring others down to lift their insecure selves up. 

5] If they're genuinely sad or struggling with numerous problems which they fail to manage well, they typically slack off at school or work, being absent on many occasions without a valid reason and refusing to cooperate with others in doing the right thing.

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📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Tips: Seven Causes Of Stress And Ways To Avoid Emotional Distress

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Seven things which cause stress and how to avoid emotional distress or minimize its negative impact: 

❎ 1] Living life as a people-pleaser and without any actual purpose. Not being aware of your true goal in this dunya while being afraid to disappoint others.

☑️ Solution: Live only to please Allah the Almighty and worship Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala patiently so we're worthy of Jannah's entry. Confidently say no to people's requests and expectations if they go against Allah's Commands and our belief.

❎ 2] Consistently comparing your journey to others' tests, nosily spying on vlogs which fail to inspire you to become a better Muslim, and allowing jealousy to overwhelm you.

☑️ Solution: Focus on thanking Allah the Most Wise for the countless blessings which He chose to grant you, and concentrate on attaining your own goals. Don't be distracted by whatever and whoever doesn't deserve your full attention, including miserable individuals who are desperate to see you look "jealous" to appease their disturbed ego and insecurities.

❎ 3] Being careless and naive with the way you use social media, spitefully stalking users whom you despise due to envy, and frequently indulging in aimless debates.

☑️ Solution: Be extremely selective and stubbornly cautious with the content and information you knowingly absorb. Unapologetically unfollow those who post meaningless status updates which mostly provoke unpleasant emotions. Distance yourself from individuals with bad intentions.

 

❎ 4] Expecting every single individual out there to be nice all the time just because you strive to be a well-mannered human being.

☑️ Solution: Acknowledge the truth that not everyone on earth is blessed to receive the affection of responsible parents like yours who are educated about good manners. When some individuals treat you disrespectfully, understand that they're either expressing their frustrations regarding unresolved problems or they enviously can't stand knowing that you surpass them in many areas - for instance, you traveled to more countries, can communicate in Arabic language more eloquently, or it's obvious you aren't insecure like they are, and they dislike how you're way more confident.

❎ 5] Forcing yourself to stay awake when you're actually tired or sleepy. 

☑️ Solution: Take frequent naps when necessary. Listen to calming Qur'an recitations and read from the Noble Qur'an more regularly to enjoy inner peace.

❎ 6] Deliberately neglecting your duties to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala on a regular basis and taking Allah's Legislations lightly, such as praying Salat Al-Fajr late too often, listening to forbidden music as a hobby or indulging in sinful gossip, so your heart feels guilty at times or empty. 

☑️ Solution: Always try your best to maintain strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala (especially by saying lots of Dhikr and Istighfaar) and, as much as possible, avoid those actions which clearly displease Him. Strengthen your faith Imaan by seeking authentic knowledge of Islam day and night. Don't sabotage your soul through arrogantly committing sins and embracing ignorance.

 

❎ 7] Demanding yourself to be "perfect" 24/7 and questioning your self-worth whenever you make mistakes.

☑️ Solution: Learn from your errors. Learn from others' faults. Have good thoughts about Allah the Most Forgiving and know that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves to forgive. Practice accepting Allah's Qadr/Decree with steadfast patience and contentment. Don't worry too much about issues which Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can control.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318

Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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