Note: Busy INTJs vs Avoidant INTJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: How can you know when an INTJ personality type is just busy or if they are being avoidant? 

📝 Answer: When someone with the INTJ personality type cares about you as a friend or loved one but they're preoccupied with several tasks which they're trying to complete: 

1🔹 At least once every three months or so they make effort to visit you or contact you on social media, initiating chat conversations or commenting on at least one of your status updates. 

2🔹 When speaking face-to-face and you're of the same gender, they look at you with a genuine smile, offer a hug or enthusiastic handshake, and occasionally give gentle pats on your shoulder or arm to display affection. 

3🔹 Although they may seem in a hurry while interacting, they don't forget to ask how you're doing or request to send their salaams to your loved ones with whom they're familiar. 

4🔹 You can tell they're not bothered by your delayed replies, just as they hope you'd have patience with their late responses, when they're able to continue your online conversations without scolding you about your inability to answer them earlier. 

5🔹 From time to time they hand out freebies or gifts without asking for anything specific in return. 

📨 When an INTJ is purposely avoiding you because they don't feel secure around you, they're trying to avoid gossip, or they dislike how you oppose their values (for example you disagree with polygyny which they advocate openly): 

1] They deliberately refrain from asking you about your past, interests, and plans for the future even though INTJs are generally very curious and inquisitive when they find something or somebody intriguing. 

2] Even if you're neighbors, coworkers or classmates, avoidant INTJs would do whatever they can to minimize unnecessary interactions with you. They'd rather find solutions to solve a problem by discussing their ideas with a cat (feral, domesticated, imaginary) than unwillingly interact with a person who is a threat to their values. 

3] If you have mutual friends with an INTJ while they aren't connected to you on Facebook, an INTJ who is uninterested in building a connection with you would never stalk your timeline, respond to your comments, or type lengthy messages when chatting, although they're actually capable of talking for long periods if they discuss topics which interest them while they regard you as a trustworthy individual.

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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow up a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

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Poem: A Righteous Muslim Wife Is A Loving Friend To Her Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 You know she's her husband's friend, and her love's not a lie, 

When she can shush her pride to ensure the bond survives, 

And seeing other couples thrive in their marriage lives 

Inspires her to pray for her spouse more each day and night, 

While she does what she must to keep the link tightly tied.

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It's clear that she's her husband's real friend when she can rhyme 

About him anytime she likes despite rolling eyes, 

And efforts to understand him doesn't make her tired. 

Instead of whining about his faults foes criticize, 

Her friend's favors and merits she loves to magnify.

~•~ 

She won't quit even if his feelings are paralyzed 

Temporarily due to impact of the evil eye, 

Sorcery done by outsiders who envy their life, 

Or his workload and worries are what destabilize 

His ability to show empathy all the time.

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She's more stubborn than a mule that won't budge to the side 

When advised to leave her spouse and search for a new guy. 

She's the kind of friend whose loyalty can't be denied. 

Even if he departs, she'd still love him from inside. 

True friends don't ditch. They drag you with them to Paradise.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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