بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Sunday, September 24, 2023

Note: Unaffected By The Idiocy Of The Insecure, Jealous And Ugly Inwardly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📜 Question: A neighbor and acquaintance promised to me some time ago that when they get married (for the 2nd or 3rd time) they would surely invite me to their wedding. Just recently I discovered that she already had her wedding yesterday but she, as well as all our mutual acquaintances, never informed me of her remarriage. If you were in my situation, how would you deal as an INTJ-A? 
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. If I were in that case, I wouldn't feel surprised at all - especially if she is a former divorcee who failed to control her unstable emotions when she was previously married. You can't fully trust a person who allows their idiotic feelings and negative thoughts to spoil moral values and basic etiquettes. 
She promised to invite you in the past and proved to you in the present how she can never be trusted in the future from now on. Never rely on her 
Inn-sha-Allah for anything, for any advice and transaction, because her despicable efforts to make you feel excluded or left out, without even a genuine apology, confirms that she is intensely envious of you. 
Perhaps she envies how you were married at a younger age, that your husband, Alhamdulillah, is more than a gazillion times better than the stranger who proposed to her to possibly take over whatever business she may be managing temporarily or she despises your inner beauty, admirable Sabr and strength to faithfully welcome polygyny for Allah's sake.
Knowing for sure that certain individuals are massively jealous of you is enough reason for your soul to remain contented Alhamdulillah that you don't have their inward ugliness, jealousy and enormous load of insecurities. 
Don't bother asking them why they broke their promise (again most likely) and refuse to ask anyone else how their wedding went. Don't bother stalking any of their online posts nor giving them a belated gift to demonstrate artificial courtesy. You can't be totally courteous with someone whose acts more often resemble the moodiness and misconduct of aggravated monkeys and donkeys.

While you strive for Allah's sake to avoid befriending unreliable individuals, appreciate the few Muslim friends and loved ones whom you genuinely care for and maintain dignified character as much as you can wherever you are. 
Let these types of people with lousy low morals remind you how it's a blessing Alhamdulillah that you are nothing like them in being unethical, insecure and miserable inwardly. Avoiding them for Allah's sake online and offline is also an excellent opportunity to train our patience and enhance our ability to refrain from going anywhere near the deeds which Allah the Most Wise commanded us to avoid.

Also check:
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Thursday, September 21, 2023

Note: What Some INTJs Do When Feeling Tired At Times

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ-A, what are some things that you would usually do when you feel tired? 
📝 Answer: 1. Increase saying Du'a and Adhkaar. 
2. Read at least a page from the Noble Qur'an to enhance inner peace, strengthen my faith Imaan and maintain emotional stability. 
3. Recall and reminisce about all the countless gifts and blessings which Allah the Most Wise has granted me Alhamdulillah in the past and present, appreciating how my current situation is a lot better than the circumstances of several individuals worldwide, in a contented not smug kind of way, thanking Allah the Almighty especially for guiding me to the truth Islam and blessing me with loving parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen) who cared enough to ensure that I keep learning more about Islam until we meet Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
4. Continue avoiding toxic writings, content and negative people online and offline. 
5. Take at least 45 minutes nap if necessary while listening to a tranquil recitation from the Noble Qur'an on an electronic gadget.
6. Selectively watch motivational or educational videos to review or discover something new, read inspiring quotes and articles, and listen to some Islamic lectures or learn from a number of beneficial reminders to stay motivated for Allah's sake. 
7. Remind myself that this dunya / world together with its various tests and challenges, as well as emotions, are all temporary, and that true joy and eternal rest can only be found in Jannah Paradise. 
8. Look forward Inn-sha-Allah to expiation of previous sins every time I feel somewhat fatigued, stressed or sleepy. 
9. Spend some quality time with a loved one such as my dear husband when he is around and not busy or talk for some minutes with another Muslimah (online or face to face) whom I care about for Allah's sake and I regard them as trustworthy - not a single ounce guilty of carrying jealous resentment towards me.
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📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Wednesday, September 13, 2023

Hadith: As Much As We Should, Avoid Hypocrisy And Telling Lies


📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: There was no behavior more hateful to the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, than dishonesty (being untrustworthy and knowingly telling lies on a regular basis). A man would tell a lie when speaking in the presence of the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam would not be satisfied until he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam knew that he had repented.

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1973
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Monday, September 11, 2023

Note: INTJs Don't "Play Hard To Get". If We're Interested We Grant Full Attention

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, give some examples of how very selective you are when it comes to befriending and being curious about others? 
📑 Answer: Some examples depicting how choosy I am regarding my choice of close friends and who deserves my full attention at times:- 
1. Regularly waking up from vivid and unforgettable dreams and imagining how nice it would be to discuss what they could mean, but refraining from mentioning what I dreamt of to certain individuals because I know for sure they're not trustworthy.
2. Browsing around social media late at night for several minutes and noticing that so-and-so is online, yet I don't feel interested in reaching out to them although I've got the energy and ability to type quickly Alhamdulillah and chat for long periods about random topics. 
3. Someone whose vibes I don't trust informs me about their Facebook profile or website and I show absolute zero interest in scanning and evaluating the pages they desperately wish I'd look at.
4. Despite not being busy in the workplace or during a gathering for some minutes at times, I would rather browse around my mobile phone or read something such as a downloaded PDF document than start a long conversation with a colleague or mere acquaintance who's just a few steps away. 
5. Not bothering to ask how someone's vacation or trip went when we haven't communicated with each other for many days, even though I believe I'm capable Alhamdulillah of asking a wide range of questions when I am genuinely interested in something or somebody e.g. "oh you were at the same hotel which I and my family stayed at when we traveled to that city before. Did you feel the floor rotating at their revolving buffet restaurant? How often did you go out for sightseeing or did you mostly relax indoors? Have you visited such and such a place? What are some of the most memorable activities you did? Anything funny or intriguing which you discovered? Did you try riding a camel? What about a carriage pulled by two or more horses? Tell me all about your journey, I'm all ears." etc. 
➡️ When I am uninterested in connecting with someone on a more personal level, because they've already shown me how unreliable or inauthentic they are, or I figured that our goals and temperament are too mismatched, I: 
1. Don't take 99% of their acts, promises, statements and stories they invent seriously.
2. Don't bother checking out their social media posts and websites etc. 
3. Refuse to prolong most conversations with them, and I avoid unnecessarily talking to them as much as possible. 
4. Almost never mention their names to others (unless another individual has the same name as theirs) if there's nothing positive to state about them. 
5. Almost never request for their advice and opinion on anything, until they prove to be reliable and not guilty of even an ounce of jealousy.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 5
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📝 MBTI and cognitive functions test with more accurate results:
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Sunday, September 10, 2023

Note: 15 Awful Things To Never Say To Your Husband If You Want To Keep Him For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💎 Fifteen disrespectful statements to never say to your husband, if you wish to protect your marriage from divorce, arguments and pointless drama:
1. "You're so useless; all you do is play games and spy on other people's lives, obsessed with nosily watching pretentious vlogs of strangers who have nothing to do with you, as if you've got no goals and meaningful life of your own."
2. "I'm immature? Look who's talking! The oversized boy who gets offended easily and acts all passive-aggressive whenever his brittle feelings get hurt." 
3. "If you're a real man, then divorce me - now!"
4. "You're just like your dad - uneducated and ineffective at managing one's time and family." 
5. "You are so ignorant. How stupider can you get?" 
6. "You're very irresponsible. Sometimes I wonder how old you actually are." 
7. "It's funny and sad (pathetic) at the same time to see you acting like you're all that, when in actuality you are also flawed and full of unappealing qualities."
8. "Did you know that my father and brothers are a lot more masculine than you? Then again, I understand that your closeness to your mother is probably why you're not as manly as other men."
9. "Why are you "ALWAYS" late?" 
10. "How come you "NEVER" buy me anything nice and memorable?" 
11. "Can you be at least five percent romantic as my friend's husband?"
12. "We should go out for dinner almost "EVERY" night together like the husband of so-and-so." 
13. "I wish we never met." 
14. "If only I didn't say yes to your marriage proposal..." 
15. "I wish you looked more like this celebrity..."

AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

Always remind yourself of why you willingly agreed to this marriage for Allah's sake and recall your husband's numerous handsome characteristics whenever shaytan tries to make you despise or disrespect him due to obnoxious pride / blameworthy kibr.
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📖 Ibn Hibbaan narrated that Abu Hurairah RadhiAllahu 'anhu said that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter (Jannah) Paradise from whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.’"
Classed as Sahih by Al-Albaani in Saheeh Al-Jaami’ no. 660 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Tirmidhi 
Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Saturday, September 9, 2023

Tips: Sharing Some 11 Tips To Minimize Or Avoid Mental Fatigue

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ Sharing some tips 
Inn-sha-Allah to minimize or avoid mental fatigue and headaches:- 
1. Always remind yourself of why Allah the Almighty created us in the first place - to worship nothing and nobody except to worship Him Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
2. Do your best to please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and refuse to be affected by what people claim and assume about you. Those who often treat you badly are either guilty of intense jealousy towards you because they witness and acknowledge the fact that you're a lot better and more blessed than them in many ways, or they're actually so unhappy with themselves that they try to upset you whenever they can since they don't want to be the only ones struggling emotionally. Feel sorry for them and ignore their negativity. 
3. Never compare your unique life story with others' journeys. Don't bother following social media posts and watching pretentious vlogs on YouTube which cause you to feel "unsatisfied" or "less than" in any way. Give your attention only to valuable content which can motivate and inspire you to become a better and more educated Muslim. 
4. Frequently calm your heart and soul by saying lots of Adhkaar and Du'a. Also read as many times as you can from the Noble Qur'an, at least two pages from the Mushaf every other night and/or day. Reading from the Noble Qur'an shouldn't be done just in Ramadan but it should be a part of your daily routine as a striving Muslim. 
5. Avoid anything and anybody online and offline which could trigger negative emotions such as envy, annoyance and frustration. If you're unable to stay away 24/7 from certain things and individuals that are toxic, train yourself to have patience with their presence without directly involving yourself with them as much as possible - as if you're in a store and you completely ignore browsing around the shelves displaying cigarettes and intoxicants. 
6. Develop your connection with Allah the Almighty by praying more Sunnah prayers on a regular basis, at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Ad-Duha before you start your day after sunrise and at least two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat At-Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl late at night, making sure you have prayed Salat Al-Witr as well.
7. Steadfastly and enthusiastically keep learning about Islam through reliable sources whenever you find the opportunity to seek authentic knowledge and apply for Allah's sake what you have learned. 
8. Learn to let go of what you can't control. If you can't force something, let it go for Allah's sake and pray that Allah the All-Knowing deals with it at the most ideal timing. Understand that as human beings it is impossible to achieve absolute perfection in this temporary and imperfect world.
9. Instead of constantly regretting about what you could have and should have done in the past, admit to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you've made some mistakes and humbly ask Allah the Most Forgiving for His forgiveness and guidance. Learn to not repeat previous errors and if you err again, do Tawbah and continue learning with humility.
10. Focus on trying your best to pass Allah's tests, while never allowing your fear of people's opinions to become greater than your fear of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. All humankind and jinn will 
Inn-sha-Allah have their actions and statements questioned about on the Day of Judgment.
11. Take naps and rest whenever you feel tired or sleepy, while listening to some calming Qur'an recitations and again say a lot of Dhikr and Du'a as many times as you can until you meet Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala 
Inn-sha-Allah in a peaceful state.
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📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah (The Almighty) and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125 
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of righteousness), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318 
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah (The Almighty) than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Note: Avoid Negative And Irrelevant Notes On Facebook Messenger Application


🌸 Some tips on how to hide or temporarily remove random users with irrelevant notes on Facebook messenger which are negative, unmotivating or questionable: 
1. Select the user whose nonsensical or depressing note you wish to conceal. Long press with one of your thumbs if you're utilizing an android phone. 
2. Press "hide contact" unapologetically. 
3. Gladly unfriend that user if they regularly post negative notes and block them for Allah's sake, avoid associating with them online and offline as much as possible, if necessary, not out of "arrogance" but to shield your emotional well-being from ignorant acts and excessive negativity.





✅ Some examples of positive notes: 
1. Reminders to say Dhikr often such as "Alhamdulillah always", "Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illaaBillaah" and "AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem".
2. Announcements regarding important events such as "Ramadan Mubarak", "sisters' Islamic circle at my place today 3:45 pm to 4:45 pm" and "don't forget to attend this afternoon's halaqa everyone!" 
3. Uplifting and inspiring messages, not negative ones, such as "For Allah's sake stay strong, patient and beautiful inside out", "Only Allah the Almighty can judge us. Don't worry about how Allah's servants perceive us." and "A tough wife welcomes polygyny coz her love, fierce loyalty, contentment, gratitude and patience with her hubby is bigger than ugly ego".

Thursday, September 7, 2023

Poem: If Divorce Was A Door I'd Never Want It Opened

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Divorce is despicable, simply adds more problems, 
Stirs up drama in most cases in my opinion, 
And shows that those who gave up weren't truly trying
Their best to save the union since what's more important
Is foul pride which exceeds their drive to find solutions.
~•~
Divorce is like doors designed with fake advertisements 
Directing to false bargains which I don't want opened, 
Even if those who access them are wealthy women 
Who regard divorce as "courage" and "independence" - 
It's a trap, in my opinion, increasing problems.
~•~
Divorce is like a bridge that leads to dismal islands. 
Those who cross it often greet grief instead of "freedom",
And thoughts like "I shouldn't have left" may sometimes tease them, 
If the former lovers had a child or some children, 
Or the woman's ex was well-received by her parents.
~•~
Divorce is like a neon sign, I can imagine, 
Flickering at night and catching drivers' attention, 
Causing more destruction and remorse than enjoyment. 
Even if large crowds bought its message, I'd stay stubborn
And resilient for Allah's sake with my dear husband.
~•~
Even if divorce disguised itself as a close friend 
Pleading, "if you choose me, I guarantee contentment", 
I'd likely ditch it with "you're lawful but revolting.".
Most divorcees actually lacked strong faith and patience, 
And more than sincere love their ego was important.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious (righteous Muslimah) woman (otherwise) you will be a loser." 
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise (Jannah) becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Tuesday, September 5, 2023

Note: If Both Guys Wish To Remarry, Whose Remarriage Proposal Can She Accept?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Question: I've been through two divorces then after some time my ex-husbands approached a number of my biological brothers asking for a remarriage. While I agree that both of them have a lot of merits and handsome qualities, I'm confused regarding whose second marriage proposal I should accept. What questions can I ask myself to determine which guy deserves another chance to be with me? 
📝 Answer: Firstly, purify your niyyah/intention concerning your willingness to reconcile with one of them for Allah's sake then ask yourself these questions after you've prayed two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara and supplicate to Allah the Most Wise asking Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to guide you to making the best decision:
1. Which of the two Muslim men do you believe is a lot more like a special gift and blessing from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala than a test? 
2. Which of them is more effective at directly and indirectly inspiring you to become a better Muslimah in many ways? 
3. Which of them is more loved and accepted by both of your parents? 
4. Which of them can you sense is more eager to sincerely learn about Islam and teach you whatever they have learned whenever they can?
5. Which of them are you more comfortable around and contented being seen with whether outdoors or indoors, and among relatives and strangers etc. 
6. Which of them is better at giving useful advice and you've witnessed their loving gestures a lot of times? 
7. Which of them evidently shows more concern about the well-being of their faith Imaan and yours? Who from them is a lot more enthusiastic about passing Allah's tests and wanting to succeed with you in the next life than showcasing undue attachment to dunya? 
8. Which of them is easier to forgive and love authentically for Allah's sake? 
9. Which of them is currently working in a profession or field that can 
Inn-sha-Allah bring them and you closer to pleasing Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala (e.g. being employed in a clinic, earning halal income as an ustadh or teacher at an Islamic school etc.)? 
10. Which of them has more loved ones and relatives who clearly support his request to remarry? 
11. Which of them is obviously less demanding, toxic and overbearing? Who from them is more caring, patient and understanding of you? 
12. Which of them brings you more tranquility and true contentment from within? 
13. Which of them has more female relatives such as sisters and female cousins whom you think you can trust and/or talk to easily?

The guy whose name appears more frequently than the other can be the one whom you remarry for Allah's sake, particularly if thinking about reconciling with your ex doesn't come with an ounce of guilt, hesitance, doubt, shame and remorse.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife." 
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
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Sunday, September 3, 2023

Note: What Many INTJs Respect - Authenticity, Reliability And Strong Personality

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ-A, what are some things which if a person does can increase your respect for them? In your opinion, what makes someone respectable? 
📝 Answer: If... 1] They sincerely try their best for Allah's sake to remain honest, trustworthy and dependable. For instance, if they're a colleague, they avoid slacking and frequent absences as much as possible. 
2] It's obvious that they don't have any selfish agenda while they genuinely want what is best not just for their faith Imaan but also for others' spiritual well-being in both worlds. They're authentically generous, helpful and kind without expecting specific rewards from you in return. 
3] They're morally strong and confident enough to refrain from acting passive-aggressive whenever they deal with temporary negative emotions. Even if they may slightly dislike several individuals, they won't gossip about them, since cowardly backbiting is commonly an indication of the gossipers' intense envy. 
4] Flattery, compliments, rhetorical questions, criticism and people's opinions of them do not affect their feelings and goals at all. They strive to be persistent for Allah's sake in doing what they firmly believe can please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala regardless of what people say and perceive. 
5] They are always eager to learn more about Islam (without being "religiously arrogant"), apply the good lessons they've learned and generously share their knowledge with others online and offline for Allah's sake whenever they can. 
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📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (The Almighty) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it (the righteous deed) will erase it (the sin), and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The merciful will be shown mercy by (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) the Most Merciful. Be merciful to those on the earth and the One (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) in the heavens will have mercy upon you."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1924
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A bedouin asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam “When is the Hour (the Day of Resurrection)?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “What have you prepared for it?” The man said, “Love for Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) and His Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You will be with those whom you love."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3435
Sahih Muslim 2639
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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