Poem: Mindset To Cope With Polygyny

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Suggested mindset for each wife who often worries 

About the man whom Allah chose for her to marry:

"Dear husband, I married you for Allah's sake mainly, 

I want you not for your looks, your status or money, 

But for you to accompany me in this journey -

~•~

To Jannah where we can enjoy peace eternally.

I don't know how many women you've loved previously, 

I don't know if there's another lawful wife you keep, 

Not sure if you have another group of family, 

And if sometimes you're with somebody else whilst I sleep.

~•~

Unsure if you have other wives in other cities, 

I, as Allah's female servant, decide to believe 

In Allah's Justice, and accept Qadr/Destiny.

I know it's your right to remarry, and your duty 

To try your best to treat your multiple wives fairly.

~•~

I don't know how many lips you've kissed passionately 

Nor the number of times in your life you've hugged tightly,

But I know, with you as my soulmate, you guarantee 

You'll strive to love the whole of me, your wife, completely, 

So we both pass Allah's tests and Jannah we achieve.

~•~

I don't know how long I'll live, if you'll die before me, 

Or if dying together is from Allah's Decree, 

But I know if we try our best to make this succeed,

With Sabr and Shukr, we can earn Jannah's entry 

For believing and passing Allah's tests patiently."

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: The Demerits Of Divorce

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If divorce were a bridge leading to so-called freedom,

I wouldn't cross it if doing so meant impatience,

Discontentment with the man whom Allah has chosen 

As my spouse and expecting him to breathe perfection.

~•~

If divorce were a mansion glowing with adornments 

And buying it guaranteed lasting satisfaction, 

I wouldn't even tour it if it brought more problems 

And further fitna would arise through separation.

~•~

If divorce were a doorway that led to a kingdom 

Which many women went through and easily opened,

I wouldn't come near it if making that decision 

Was uncertain while remorse and grief are its outcomes.

~•~

Divorce is lawful, if it comes with valid reasons, 

And if staying married causes your faith to weaken.

Before requesting for divorce, seek Allah's Guidance, 

And with the man you married, have a good discussion.

~•~

If you truly loved him from the very beginning, 

You'd do what you can for Allah to save this union.

Quarrels, frequent absence, and distance have solutions - 

Patience, understanding, and not letting shaytan win.

~•~

It's shaytan who wants to break halal love connections, 

Who wants people to serve their ego and resentment,

And who finds spouses arguing so entertaining -

Don't give in to his plans. Be patient with your husband.

~•~

Remind yourself, your other half is only human.

In loving your man for Allah's sake be determined.

With Jannatul Ferdaus as your main destination,

Pray that your soulmate succeeds too - don't rush to leave him.

~•~

📖 Fadallah ibn ‘Ubayd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not permissible to joke about three matters: divorce, marriage, and emancipation."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 780

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim