💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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📝 Five reasons why maintaining friendship as adults can be challenging at times, why some adult friendships gradually dissipate:
1] Very obvious differences in goals, interests and priorities.
✅ For example: A woman whose husband works abroad is more likely to connect well with other wives who don't always get to see their husbands or who are similarly okay with polygyny, while she'd keep her distance from those whose presence could threaten her contentment with her marriage life whether directly or indirectly.
2] Busyness with work and multiple projects or conflict in their schedules regarding available timings for chatting and meeting up etc.
3] Each of them is also busy with trying her best to care for her husband, parents, child/children and families.
4] If they are all introverts, they're probably waiting for each other or somebody to make the first move in organizing a meaningful gathering and sending out invitations.
5] They could all be equally struggling financially, so attempting to be the host of a memorable event or conducting a group outing may not be something they'd readily do on a regular basis if they're currently on a tight budget.
✨ If you want a connection to last longer Inn-sha-Allah for Allah's sake:
1. The intention and purpose of two friends connecting should be purely for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not for selfish gain.
2. Both friends must be extremely forgiving, understanding, caring, supportive and patient for Allah's sake with one another, regardless of how often they communicate face to face.
3. None of them should be insecure and guilty of envy. Jealousy is a common reason why many potential friends drift away.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is a mirror to his faithful brother. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back."
Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, 'The believer is a mirror to his brother. If he sees something wrong in him, he should correct it.'
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 239
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56
