Tips: One Sign Of Disloyalty And How To Prevent Infidelity

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 From the signs of infidelity in marriage, which a Muslim wife should avoid, is constantly feeling the need to hide certain matters from one's husband or deleting particular text messages before a wife gives her husband permission to browse through her cellphone. If you have to delete specific messages, chat conversations or photos prior to letting your husband borrow your gadget, because you're ashamed of the actual nature of those contents, then you shouldn't have been indulging in them in the first place.
🚫 Seven example of messages which a wife is likely to delete and wouldn't want discovered by her husband:
1] Inappropriate messages with her husband's brothers or any of his male relatives e.g. "I admire the way you take care of your wife. I wish my husband were as romantically attentive as you, (insert cutesy nickname which only those who are very close to him use)."
2] Questionable or provocative messages with other male non-mahrams e.g. "Trust me, I think you're a likable guy. If I were single, I'd be willing to marry you." or "Let's wait until my husband dies. Once I'm widowed, I may consider you as my second spouse. Add that to your agenda."
3] Flirtatious messages with the same gender that could drastically invite fitna e.g. "You know I adore you, so much so I feel like we're married." or "I can't help it but I've been having intense feelings for you ever since I saw you shed tears for the first time. You reckon I'm 'demisexual' or emotionally attached?"
4] Indecent photos, videos or selfies sent to a non-mahram whether male or female.
5] Complaints, rants or lies about one's husband sent to other users.
6] Complaints, rants or lies about any of the family members of one's husband sent to other users.
7] Intimate and very personal topics which you freely discuss with individuals besides your husband. Feeling as though you're emotionally connected with someone more than with your husband could lead to "emotional affairs".
🔹 Five tips to remain as your husband's loyal wife:
1] Make sure your messages are not purposely designed to provoke unwanted feelings of attraction.
2] Delete male non-mahram users from your "online friends list" and avoid unnecessary interactions. If you must interact with a male user such as a colleague, professor or salesman, do your best to keep the convo brief, professional and free from cheesy emoticons.
3] Remind yourself of how much you're in love with the man whom Allah the Almighty selected as your soulmate, do your best to strengthen your marriage for Allah's sake, and stay away from obstacles or distractions that occasionally emerge as part of Allah's tests.
4] Before sending a message to any user, ask yourself "Will this please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala? Will my husband's love for me change if he ever reads it? If I die and left those messages behind, will they testify for me or against me on the Day of Judgment?" An ounce of guilt, hesitance or uncertainty could indicate that it's safer to cancel what you're about to do.
5] Persistently say Du'a, praying to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that He blesses your marriage life, while protecting you and your other half from fitna. Steadfast trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and regular Du'as (particularly on Fridays, during Tahajjud/Qiyaam Al-Layl and fasting etc.) can
Inn-sha-Allah guarantee the longevity, blessings and satisfaction of your marriage life.
📖 Al-Nawwas ibn Sam’an RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Righteousness is good character, and sin is what wavers in your heart and you hate for people to find out about it."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2553
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Wabisah ibn Ma’bad RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said to me, “Have you come to ask about righteousness and sin?” I said 'Yes'. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam clenched his fist and struck his chest, saying, "Consult your soul, consult your heart, O Wabisah. Righteousness is what reassures your soul and your heart, and sin is what (disturbs) wavers in your soul and puts tension in your chest, even if the people approve it in their judgments again and again."
Source: Sunan Al-Dārimī 2533
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Haytami

Poem: Life Lessons Learned From My Teenage Years

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If I could speak to my younger self, I'd share nine things, 

Some lessons learned from my teenage years to present teens, 

To advise them and those young at heart through some warnings,

So they don't clone my mistakes when I was still learning:

~•~

One: Listen to your parents' advice and realize 

They know more than you as they're more experienced in life.

Two: Apologize to them when you're wrong, when you fight, 

And when you raise your voice. To yell at you they have right.

~•~

Value your parents' love. They won't be around for long.

It can be tough missing their words and hugs when they're gone.

To cope with your parents' absence, pray for them often,

And to dodge future remorse, respect them with patience.

~•~

Three: Be careful with your choice of friends. They can affect 

Your lifestyle. Welcoming the wrong squad invites regret.

Four: Solitude with Allah while He keeps you guided 

Is better than "friendships" that are toxic and pointless.

~•~

Five: Once someone has betrayed you or showed their colors,

Nine times out of ten it's safer to forget traitors.

Befriending foes who take you as a laughing matter 

Or gossipers is a recipe for disaster.

~•~

Six: Forgive. Move on. By pride refuse to be consumed.

Seven: Stop ranting on your journals. They can't help you.

Substitute your complaints with Du'as, Dhikr, Sujood, 

And Qur'an reading. Trust Allah Who hears, guides and cures.

~•~

Eight: Don't rush in rejecting each marriage proposal.

Prior to deciding, seek Allah's Guidance/Counsel. 

Do all deeds for Allah and you won't be regretful.

With Allah's Love as your goal, life becomes meaningful.

~•~

Nine: This world isn't perfect. Expect disappointments, 

Confusion, injustice, critics, problems now and then -

Just as smiles aren't lasting, tears aren't permanent.

Moments are blessings if you have learned and grown from them.

~•~

Live for Allah and pass His tests with perseverance.

To keep going: Learn Islam so your faith is strengthened.

Rely only on Allah rather than His servants.

Know that Jannah is where good souls find relaxation.

~•~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are two blessings which many people waste: Health and free time."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6049

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani