💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, what's your secret to feeling completely indifferent and unaffected by jealousy whenever you notice individuals online and in the malls who seem wealthier, taller or more good-looking than you?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. Alhamdulillah as a Muslim:
1] I adhere to my belief that Allah the Most Wise is the One Who bestowed upon His servants whatever He chose to grant them. Even the material possessions which many people enjoy flaunting were all given with Allah's Qadr/Decree. It's not our place, as Allah's slaves, to question why He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave such and such to so-and-so while we didn't earn the exact same thing.
2] I remind myself often of all the favors, gifts and blessings which Allah the Most Loving granted me in the past and present, Alhamdulillah, including the ability to understand some Arabic words, how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala enabled me to travel to several countries before and meet a wide variety of nationalities, and being my dear husband's first wife contentedly.
3] I obstinately go out of my way to avoid nosily staring at what this customer purchased, how that shopper actually looks like, and what kind of fabric or footwear this person has on etc. Imagine a large picture frame displaying an image of a forest with tons of trees and mountains in the background. Rather than counting the number of plants there are in the photo, what shades of color were used and whether one of the mountains was covered in snow or not, I would unapologetically ignore those insignificant details and instead focus on my cellphone or gladly mind my own business, aware that there's an ornament nearby but absolutely uninterested in wanting to check what the object (or drama) is all about.
4] If I can sense that an individual is desperately trying to make me feel "envious" because they're the one in actuality who's struggling with intense jealousy, I would feel sorry for them, that they allowed their jealous feelings to provoke them to act obnoxiously, and I would intentionally refrain from asking random questions about their personal lives, since they'd probably invent false stories about themselves to appear "enviable".
5] On social media I stay away from stalking users who frequently post the type of status updates which are deliberately designed to make their "followers" "envy" them. I also abstain from watching vlogs on YouTube which can't inspire me to become a better Muslim and more productive human being. If there are Arab vloggers whose content I watch occasionally, the purpose of sometimes viewing their videos is to learn from how they communicate and interact with others, and to review my comprehension of the Arabic language.
You have a right to keep your distance from those whose presence cause you to doubt yourself and attempting to spend time anywhere near them isn't beneficial at all for your faith/Imaan.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
