Poem: Some Tips To Be Your Husband's Loyal And Empathetic Wife And Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Tips for fiercely loyal wives to practice empathy, 

Ways to be an empath to the man you love deeply, 

While loving Allah of course more than anybody, 

And when you're truly empathetic to your hubby, 

You can put up with LDR and polygyny: 

~•~

Since he's your other half, you'd want him to be happy, 

Even if his joy doesn't involve you directly. 

You want to see him smiling. His tears lead to worry. 

The emotions he goes through you similarly feel, 

Except when he's mad, you want his wrath to disappear. 

~•~

When you can't always give him what he requests or needs, 

Such as more babies, you permit him to remarry. 

The sight of him doing well, feeling pleased and at ease, 

Brings you relief, knowing you did your best to succeed 

In being your soulmate's grateful and faithful wifey.

~•~

When your husband fails at some of his spousal duties, 

Or work prevents him from communicating daily, 

You'd imagine being him, and forgive readily. 

Forgiving someone you care for comes so easily 

When you know they're human and cherish shared memories.

~•~

"I love him for Allah," recall that repeatedly, 

"I wish to be from the reasons why my zawj succeeds 

In both worlds, and prove our love since day one remains real." 

With trust in Allah, whilst having Sabr, empathy, 

And Shukr, your marriage can stand strong eternally.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise)".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: Five Signs That Someone Who Has Hurt You Doesn't Deserve A Second Chance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Not everyone you forgive deserves a second chance. 

Sometimes it's safer for you both to grant some distance, 

When reconnecting reopens doors to more problems. 

Five signs that someone must go, though they've been forgiven, 

And they can't be a close friend, but just an acquaintance: 

~•~

One: They still treat you with rudeness and indifference.

Each time you tell them something, you catch their eyes rolling, 

As though they'd prefer it if you're absent or silent. 

Two: Their apology was an act, not genuine.

Don't put up with disrespect, even if they're joking.

~•~

Three: They're the same. In their morals there's no improvement. 

They keep doing things which they know you find annoying, 

Address you often with nicknames that are demeaning, 

Receive your kind favors without properly thanking, 

And their love for gossiping toxifies their presence.

~•~

Four: You're not at peace when around them, for some reason, 

Fearing they may harshly judge you at any moment, 

Betray, or leave you in public with embarrassment.

Five: Friendship with them lacks spiritual joy and substance.

From them you can't learn, and your advice they're not taking.

~•~

Forgive them and maintain good manners, as a Muslim, 

As you avoid, for Allah's sake, their bad influence. 

When can reconciliation be rightly given? 

When they're truly sorry for their faults, not repeating 

Past mistakes, and keeping them as friends is a blessing.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 

Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Hasan Ibn Ali RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Leave what makes you doubt for what does not make you doubt. Verily, truthfulness brings tranquility, while falsehood sows doubt."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2518

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Poem: Five Advantages Of Not Having Any Human As A "Close Friend"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Advantages of not having humans as close friends, 

Or merits of being content with independence, 

While trusting Only Allah instead of His servants, 

To comfort those who can't form meaningful connections 

Or who stand out in crowds and can't click with anyone:

~•~

One: Less time with people gives space for self-reflection, 

Inspiration to increase Adhkaar, Qur'an reading, 

Supplications, and researching for self-improvement. 

Two: Few friends or no close companions means protection 

From feigned flattery, discourtesy, and backbiting.

~•~

Three: Your secrets stay safe if you don't build connection 

With people who secretly envy your achievements, 

Or who treat your friendship as toxic competition. 

Four: Less friends or no comrades leads to better saving. 

No point in spoiling ingrates who feed on kind treatment.

~•~

Five: In times of fitna, no close friends is a blessing, 

Specially when surrounded by those who hate learning. 

You're not closely linked to disputing groups and factions, 

And by not joining specific associations, 

You're far from drama, hearing rumors, and arguments.

~•~

We're Muslim, guided by Allah. That's more important. 

Amassing tons of likes, subscribers and following 

Isn't a requirement to deserve Jannah's entrance. 

If keeping trusted friends seems like a tricky mission, 

Be patient, and with Allah's Love achieve contentment.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Whoever shows hostility (enmity) to a righteous friend of Mine, I have declared war upon him. My servant does not grow closer to Me with anything more beloved to Me than the obligatory duties that I have imposed upon him. My servant continues to grow closer to Me with extra good works (nawaafil deeds like praying Tahajjud and fasting Sunnah fasts) until I love him. When I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask something from Me, I would surely give it to him. Were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant it to him. I do not hesitate to do anything as I hesitate to take the soul of the believer, for he hates death and I hate to disappoint him.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6137

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

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