Poem: Welcome To The First Wives Club

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A tribute to first wives whose hearts are one of a kind,

Who love Allah the most, and value the husband's rights, 

Who live for Allah so polygyny they don't mind, 

Wise enough to know the reality of this life.

~•~

Keep loving your husband for Allah with sweet Sabr.

Don't give up the love because he married another. 

The other woman shouldn't make you a weak quitter.

If she can please your man, then love him too but harder. 

~•~

Be strong on the inside like a mountain wouldn't budge 

When the wind blows and brings with it piles of leaves and rocks. 

While your spouse married a second, you're still his first love -

His chapter two mustn't cause your love story to stop. 

~•~

For Allah's sake, love your husband with fierce loyalty, 

Fearless patience and acceptance of Allah's Decree. 

A co-wife's entry doesn't need to break your journey.

In countless ways she can benefit your family.

~•~

The other wife's presence can effectively train you 

To exercise Sabr for Allah, with gratitude,

To recall how your husband's love for you remains true, 

And to always prefer Jannah where none can feel blue. 

~•~

That's how you know your love is real - when it stays the same, 

Or the romance keeps growing nearly each night and day. 

Whether he's near you or his body is far away, 

The love for your soulmate is too solid it can't fade. 

~•~

First wife, you're not an option when your man re-married.

Dear Muslimah who's fine with what Allah permitted, 

Who loves Allah and whose faith/Imaan is deep-seated,

Don't quit. Marriage must never be taken for granted. 

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Develop Good Character For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 A woman doesn't become instantly "righteous" by calling herself 'Umm fulaan' or 'Omm fulaana', wearing niqab with modest jilbab, and sharing Islamic posts while arrogantly looking down on Muslims who don't appear to be as religious as she is. It doesn't make sense that one claims to be Muslim and a follower of the Prophet's Sunnah yet their actions clearly contradict the way the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam treated others with admirable mercy, kindness and fairness.

While it is rewarding to regularly attend Islamic halaqas and listen to beneficial lectures, a lot of those who may consider themselves as religiously superior to those who aren't equally righteous  are guilty of the following:

1] If it is not known or you haven't declared yet that you are 'Salafi', they completely ignore your salaams and look at you with unfriendly scowls. We're commanded by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in the Noble Qur'an and by His beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam to answer others' salaam, if not with a better greeting then at least to return it, whether the person saying salaam is a Muslim or not.

2] They doubt your sincerity and quickly assume your good deeds are done to cover up an ulterior motive. You encourage others to do charity? Automatically they guess you're "khaariji", when that's not the case at all. They found you being friendly with Muslims from a different organization? You're a deviant "hizbi" to them, when you're simply implementing decent manners with other humans.

3] They think it's permissible to ridicule, backbite and gossip about sinners, deviants and the ignorant, unaware that they themselves are also prone to making errors now and then since no human being is 100% perfect.

It is okay to choose your close friends wisely. It is okay to be careful regarding who to trust. What's not okay is to treat somebody rudely just because they don't seem trustworthy, relatable, or exactly identical to you.

Avoid acting like you know what a Muslim's intentions are, as only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows who are the truly guided ones and only He sees all of His servants' hearts.

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly and befriended, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended. The best of people are those who are most beneficial to the people."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsaṭ 5937 

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing is heavier upon the scale of the believer on the Day of Resurrection than good character. Verily, Allah hates the vulgar, obscene person."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2002 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you know who is bankrupt?” They said, “The one without money or goods is bankrupt.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the bankrupt of my nation are those who come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers, fasting, and charity, but also with insults, slander, consuming wealth, shedding blood, and beating others. The oppressed will each be given from his good deeds. If his good deeds run out before justice is fulfilled, then their sins will be cast upon him (the one who oppressed and mistreated others) and he will be thrown into the Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2581 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, gentleness is not found in anything but that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything but that it disgraces it."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2594 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Al-Nawwas ibn Sam’an RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Righteousness is good character, and sin is what disturbs your heart and you hate for people to find out about it."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2553 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim