Note: Three Reasons Why We Dislike Some Strangers And This Grudge Or Indifference Has Nothing To Do With Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why we dislike some strangers and this grudge, uneasiness, or lack of interest in wanting to befriend them has nothing to do with jealousy: 

1] Their name, overall appearance or general attitude reminds us of somebody who mistreated us in the past. Recalling a troublesome or disrespectful person every time you interact with a particular individual can reduce the willingness to get to know them better if you still haven’t solved certain misunderstandings. 

2] A lot of their life choices, behavior and actions remind you of toxic things you’re trying to avoid. If you value good character and integrity, it makes sense that you won’t gravitate to gossipers, actual narcissists, chronic liars, people who break promises repeatedly and who don’t take their responsibilities seriously. 

3] Indirectly they make you feel bad about a special loved one. If “A” reminds you of someone whom you love for Allah’s sake “B” in terms of their looks or temperament but “A” has notable qualities which “B” doesn’t, you may hesitate to connect with them on a more personal level if talking to them or following any of their online content makes you doubt your connection with “B”. It is not easy to network with souls who threaten your values and well-being in any way.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated:  Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The believer is not stung twice from the same hole.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782, Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Tips: Ways To Tell If Your Friend Or Acquaintance Is A Narcissist

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven signs indicating that your friend or acquaintance is narcissistic (actually arrogant), and it's wiser to minimize interactions with them: 

1] You've heard them gossip and talk badly about others more than once regarding their looks, mistakes, clumsiness, flaws, body odor, values which they don't approve of, weight gain etc. 

2] They seem to expect too much from you while not giving enough in return. They have a sense of entitlement, constantly expecting attention, sympathy, freebies, gifts and compliments from you while clearly not bothering to reciprocate your favors. 

3] Whenever you unintentionally upset or disappoint them, instead of making effort to understand your situation or kindly asking why you didn't follow through on a promise or agreement, they act childishly passive-aggressive, give you the silent treatment for several days, or carry out plans to teach you a lesson. Then after soothing their hurt ego, they behave as though there wasn't any drama. 

4] They try their best to always look flawless while not caring at all about how you appear, not because they genuinely appreciate inner beauty and a strong personality but because they want their overall image to outshine yours. 

5] They're awful listeners yet demand that you listen to all the supposedly fabulous stories they invent about themselves purposely designed to make you feel jealous or insecure. 

6] They frequently roll their eyes or scowl whenever you want to inform them something, as if they find your statements boring and insignificant. 

7] From their body language, unpleasant aura and disrespectful attitude towards you, it is easy to tell that they envy your life, confidence or achievements. You hardly receive congratulations and words of encouragement from them yet they expect you to treat them like VIPs 24/7 as if you're their compliant servant. 

AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem.

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📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty says: 'Might is My Garment and Grandeur is My Cloak; whoever competes with Me regarding any of them, I will punish him.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2620

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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