Note: Five Signs That Your Husband's Misconduct And Foul Acts Are Not From Himself, And Tips On How To Stay As His Patient And Loyal Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Five signs that your husband's misconduct and confusing acts oftentimes are not from himself but they're a result of the negative impact of the evil eye ('ayn), sorcery (witchcraft, black magic), or he's being coerced by nosy outsiders (jealous friends, relatives who despise his wife, competitive colleagues etc.) to misbehave so he loses his loving marriage life: 

1] While speaking to you or after talking to you, you notice many times that his eyes are teary or slightly reddish, as if he's filled with guilt or sadness concerning how he's being ordered to mistreat you. 

2] You've observed that usually when you're out or indoors together, your husband frantically scans the surroundings or anxiously looks around as if he can sense that he's being monitored or stalked by a group of spies that commanded him to treat you badly. 

3] You regularly see your husband or an image of him in vivid dreams where he's crying, shedding tears, apologizing to you, stretching out his arm to hold on to you, or enjoying romantic moments together which you can't always enjoy when you're not dreaming. 

4] Several times when you've touched him, sat beside him, or displayed affection, you realize that he unnaturally gets nervous or trembly, unlike before in your first weeks of marriage it was obvious that he felt comfortable around you. He's probably shaking with anxiety as if he's afraid that whoever coerced him to neglect you would penalize him for not following their unjust demands, or he's trying his best to overcome the negative effects of evil eye ('ayn), sorcery (witchcraft, black magic). 

5] The number of times he's been kind and loving to you outweigh the number of times he acted unreasonably or neglectfully. Maybe he's not being requested by anybody to be neglectful towards you but, he is in reality busy with his job, specially if he is employed in the medical field, or some of the bad choices he may sometimes make are due to severe depression or some sort of personality disorder which he has been struggling from. 

🔹 What you can do as a caring, understanding, patient, supportive, and admirably loyal Muslim wife: 

1 ] Continue trusting Allah the Almighty, saying lots of Du'a wholeheartedly, and praying that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala always blesses your marriage life. If you genuinely love the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your soulmate from the very moment you were engaged to marry, you wouldn't easily give up on him like a kid that irresponsibly throws away an unfinished lollipop.

2 ] Lovingly include your husband in your frequent Du'as / supplications, particularly while fasting Sunnah fasts and when praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl. 

3 ] Courageously give your husband the space that he requires once in a while (allow him to miss you. Don't be too annoyingly clingy), so he can relax, reflect, and analyze carefully to solve whatever challenges and problems he could be encountering. 

4 ] Ask him kindly to do proper Ruqyah on himself or carry out Ruqyah on him while he's awake in a good mood or when he's peacefully sleeping. Encourage him to habitually say the morning and evening Adhkaar, and to recite as many Surahs and verses from the Noble Qur'an as he can. The stronger your faith/Imaan and Taqwa, and the more righteous deeds you do sincerely, the more formidable or effective is your shield (coming from Allah the Most Powerful) against any evil eye ('ayn), sorcery, and people's enmity. 

5 ] Consistently remind yourself of why you accepted your husband's marriage proposal in the beginning. Imagine his moodiness, ignorance in certain circumstances, or occasional mistakes as branches of an imaginary wild tree that constantly tries to grab his body to cast him into a cage. If he gets locked in, will you cowardly leave your husband behind because you selfishly care more about your well-being than your spouse's needs and freedom? Or will you bravely stand by him, let him know that you remain by his side for Allah's sake, and patiently wait for his release or until you find a key to free him, as you're eager to pass this temporary test which Allah the Most Wise has sent to examine if your love is artificial or genuine.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: Increase In Income Doesn't Always Indicate Allah's Love, Specially If One's Wealth Isn't Spent In The Correct Way

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Dear self, and Muslims who try to earn halal income, 

An increase in wealth isn't always indication 

Of Allah's Love but it means more examinations, 

Additional exams on how the money is spent, 

How it's earned, and if it's given with right intention. 

~•~ 

When you go out for grocery or window shopping, 

What's your goal? To spoil yourself with worldly enjoyment? 

Or to buy what you need and survive as a Muslim, 

Purchasing necessities for cooking and sharing, 

While fully aware that this world is not permanent? 

~•~

When asked to purchase some products from friends or loved ones, 

Whether you buy eagerly or with some reluctance, 

What's your purpose in buying? To make it evident 

That you're wealthy and kind, not a miserly person? 

Or to help them for Allah's sake with good intention? 

~•~

The money which you often spend? Where does it come from? 

Through ribaa / usury / interest that's forbidden? 

Through lottery, gambling, or was it somehow stolen? 

Or through sincere efforts from a decent profession? 

Work that involves haraam is devoid of real blessings. 

~•~

You have debts (utang)? Are you indebted to someone? 

Have you completed paying for your reserved items? 

Businesses that you manage - are they lawfully run? 

Or will they bring forth problems on the Day of Judgment? 

Make sure your affluence is a blessing, not torment.

~•~

📖 Ka'b Ibn 'Iyad RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, every nation has a trial (fitna, test), and the trial of my nation is wealth."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2336

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2354

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Tips: It's Hard To Feel Jealous When You're Contented With The Role And Blessings That Allah Chose For You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 There are birds that can fly like geese, eagles and falcons. And there are birds that don't have flying capabilities, such as penguins, ostriches and chickens.

There are animals that travel on four legs like bears, pandas and cats. And there are creatures that transport themselves without legs like snails, snakes and slugs. Some animals can run really fast, like horses, jaguars and cheetahs. Others move about slowly like turtles, elephants and sloths.

There are trees that produce delicious fruits and beautiful flowers; and there are those that are useful for manufacturing paper and wooden furniture. Some plants require sand and sunlight, while aquatic plantations thrive better on water.

Some marriages were arranged by the couple's parents. Some love stories used to be haraam relationships which became halaal through lawful marriage. Other couples were wed when the marriage proposal was accepted.

Some wives are in monogamous marriages, while others are content accepting polygyny for Allah's sake patiently. Some women live with their husbands, while others continue loving the husband despite being employed in a different country.

A mother can be blessed with only one child, while another mom has many children, and another parent looks after twins. Some mothers gave birth through natural delivery, others C-section surgery, and other moms a mix of natural birth and cesarean.

There are a number of wives who are incapable of having kids due to infertility or health issues. There are also women who prefer to not get married, as they'd rather have a perfect spouse in Jannah Paradise. So they go through singlehood or spinsterhood with gratitude.

Some Muslims are talented at writing, others at delivering speeches or lectures eloquently. Some showcase intelligence by artistic and creative means, while others are experts in accountancy, solving math problems or simply controlling their temper to prevent themselves from getting into petty arguments.

Seeing how Allah the Almighty created His servants differently, each one with their own role, mission, gifts, tests and abilities, we mustn't feel inadequate, discontented, or dissatisfied whenever we're tempted to compare our life journey to others' lives.

We should be thankful to Allah the Most Wise, Alhamdulillah, for whatever blessing that He chose to bestow on us, avoid comparing our behind the scenes to what social media users frequently flaunt online, and focus on our own examinations, appreciating every gift which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave without questioning 'how come?' or 'why?'.

It takes high levels of faith/Imaan and patience with Allah's Qadr/Decree to recognize the value of every gift that Allah granted us, while expressing our gratitude to Him by utilizing Allah's favors for a good purpose, without getting jealous of others' achievements. Envy can never disturb your heart when your soul is blessed with faith/Imaan, genuine compassion and grateful contentment.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever has four things has been given the best in this world and the Hereafter: a grateful heart, a tongue that remembers Allah much, a body that can withstand trials with patience, and a wife not seeking betrayal in herself or her husband's wealth." (Allah the Almighty knows best.)

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4111

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti 

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