Tips: Some Advice On How To Quit Masturbation

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Whether you believe that masturbation (touching oneself to stimulate sexual pleasure) is haraam/forbidden or makrooh/disliked, frequently masturbating shows a lack of self-control, preference to enjoy temporary pleasures over living one's life to please Allah the Almighty, and indecent conduct in front of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala as well as His Angels who have been assigned to record a person's intentional actions. If masturbating was allowed, the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam would have clearly mentioned that it's permissible, while marriage wouldn't be recommended to those who struggle with their desires because they can simply resort to masturbation to satisfy themselves. Those who are obsessed with masturbation tend to act as hypocrites when they can't afford to touch themselves indecently before their own parents and a curious audience yet when they're "alone" in a room, day or night, they'd enthusiastically watch inappropriate films or fantasize about a crush while masturbating, obnoxiously ignoring the fact that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, some of His Angels, and possibly a number of jinns are nearby watching. 

🔹 Five tips to quit masturbation, even if quitting may be difficult in the beginning: 

1] Always remember that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sees us at all times, and the main reason why Allah created us is to sincerely worship Him, not to be enslaved by foul desires.

2] Respect the Angels who are almost always with us observing, ready to record our deeds and statements by striving to minimize or avoid anything which could upset, annoy, or disgust them. 

3] Remind yourself of the reality of this fleeting dunya and that death can arrive anytime.  

4] Continue learning more about Islam through reliable sources. The more authentic Islamic knowledge you seek and apply, the stronger your faith/Imaan gets, which can make it easier for you to abandon sins and despicable acts. 

5] Stay away from things and people whose presence may provoke sexual tension or the urge to behave improperly. You're doing yourself a favor by avoiding unnecessary interactions with unattainable individuals whom you secretly admire. Staying as a mere stranger to somebody, to preserve your Deen, is a lot safer than attempting to strengthen the bond only for it to gradually turn into a source of fitna that makes zina or masturbation tempting.

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📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better." 

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked, “What admits most people into Paradise?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "(Taqwa) Fear of Allah and having good character." It was asked, “What condemns most people to the Hellfire?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The mouth and the genitals."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2004

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees for me what is between his jaws and his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-take-care-of-your-heart-by.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-five-reasons-why-zina-fornication.html 

https://www.troid.org/comprehensive/marital-issues/592-the-evils-and-harms-of-masturbation

Note: Three Tips For Single Muslimahs On Finding A Good Muslim Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 As a Muslimah who received several marriage proposals in my teenage years despite not having uploaded photos of myself nor signing up for accounts on matrimonial websites back then, I'd like to share three tips for currently single Muslimahs who have been waiting for at least one marriage proposal to arrive: 

1] Instead of daydreaming and wishing for the right man to come along, sincerely aspire to be a righteous Muslimah who strives to obey Allah the Almighty by doing what He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala commanded, including praying the obligatory prayers and valuing modesty. 

Displaying your beauty online and offline, through posting selfies regularly and wearing immodest attire to attract attention, isn't the proper way to find a decent spouse. Generally guys who mainly pursue women for their outward appearance are the kind of men who'd chase other ladies once they spot someone who supposedly looks more attractive. 

2] Say Du'a and request from Allah the Most Wise for whatever you need as often as you can, specially when praying Qiyaam Al-Layl and fasting Sunnah fasts. Wait for Allah's response with worthwhile patience, knowing that if Allah loves you, He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala only gives you what He knows your soul requires and at the best time, not necessarily right now and what you desire. If you can't get married in this fleeting dunya, maybe it's your Qadr/Destiny to be among those women who enjoy flawless romance in Jannah Paradise.

3] If you feel that you're ready for marriage and you're eager to start a pious family of your own, courageously express your interest to your parents, brothers, grandparents, uncles, aunties, female cousins and close friends. Maybe they can assist in searching for somebody whom they think is an ideal match for you. When the time for meeting that suitor or potential soulmate arrives, pray two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara after you've double-checked the following to determine if he's worth marrying for Allah's sake: 

1) Is he Muslim? Does he pray? And is he upon the correct 'Aqeedah? 

2) Does he have a stable job which doesn't involve anything haraam/forbidden such as ribaa/usury, knowingly telling lies (if he works as an attorney), and scamming? 

3) Does he treat his mother and sister/sisters kindly? 

4) Is he single or does he already have a wife? If he's married, can he guarantee to be fair with his multiple wives and that his other wife/wives will not regard her as a "homewrecker"? 

5) Can he promise to allow his wife to make frequent visits to her parents, relatives and friends? Or is there a likelihood that he may become an overly controlling spouse who won't give much freedom to his loved ones? 

6) If he's guilty of some awful habits like smoking or selling items which Muslims ought to avoid, will he make effort to do what he can to quit them, not for the woman he wishes to marry but sincerely to reform for Allah's sake? 

7) If after some time, he gets employed in a different city, can he bring his wife with him or at least visit her occasionally? 

A clear sign that a man can, with Allah's Will, prove to be a respectable spouse is his sincere willingness to become a better Muslim. Regardless of how handsome, tall, or wealthy he is, a Muslim who has Taqwa would strive to treat Allah's servants well, particularly his wife (or wives) whom he loves for Allah's sake.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-marry-for-allahs-sake-not-for-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-everything-including-marriage-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-think-twice-before-rejecting.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-on-few-women-who-are-uninterested.html