Tips: On Dealing With The Fitna Of Same-Sex Attraction

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Is there a possibility of experiencing same-sex attraction as a Muslim? Have you ever had a "crush" on someone of the same gender, so you went through any of the following:

• You either liked them instantly the first time you saw them or you were strangers in the beginning until gradually the more you got to know them, the more you felt "attracted", "captivated" or even started questioning your sexual orientation.

• You found yourself thinking of them quite too often, missing their presence whenever they weren't around, or desiring to be near each other as much as you can.

• You may have thought to yourself "if I were a guy, I'd propose to her and we'd do all the acts that couples in love do", "if homosexuality/lesbianism/bisexuality weren't haraam, without hesitation I'd be up for it and ask her out ASAP," or "Why is it that when I'm with other women I can be myself, comfortable and at ease like we're all sisters, yet this lady in particular gives me the butterflies?"

Those weird feelings and obsessive thoughts of desiring to commit a sin such as zina and acting upon homosexual urges undoubtedly come from shaytan who is desperate to destroy humanity in any way he can think of. Feeling like commiting suicide, another major sin, when you're feeling depressed is a waswasa (evil whispering) from shaytan. Feeling like stealing your neighbor's extra set of keys to their house so you can commit theft when the residence is unoccupied comes from shaytan's deceptive tricks. Feeling like you want to kiss or get unusually touchy with a person of the same gender because you can't help but express your intense admiration is likewise a waswasa coming from shaytan's cunning plots to distract you.

Some might be afraid of admitting they're gay, queer or bisexual, when in reality those labels aren't significant in Islam and they're actually battling courageously against their nafs.

Allah the Most Wise gave this different kind of exam to certain souls and He knows that they can pass if they continue trusting Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, preferring Jannah's eternal joys to this world's temporal pleasures, and striving to preserve their chastity, actively avoiding the urge to seek any haraam relationship even though deep inside their heart longs for it.

🔹 To avoid falling into the major sin of homosexuality and behaving as rebels who oppose what Allah the Almighty created, designing males in general to be naturally partnered with females particularly to procreate and increase the human population, we can:

1] Remember our main purpose of being created, to pass Allah's temporary tests in dunya in order to reach Jannah Paradise.

2] Constantly seek authentic knowledge of Islam from reliable sources. The more we learn about Islam and implement what we learned for Allah's sake, the more our faith/Imaan is strengthened and with Taqwa, we're less prone to listening to shaytan's evil whisperings.

3] Maintain a strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and say lots of Du'as, as sincere supplications can 

Inn-sha-Allah alter one's Qadr/Destiny positively.

4] Get married and stay loyal to one's husband for Allah's sake.

5] Fast regularly Sunnah fasting every other Monday and Thursday, on special occasions like the three white days of each month as well as Sha'baan, six days of Shawwaal, and on Yawm 'Arafah for those who aren't performing the Hajj/pilgrimage.

The more we get accustomed to fasting in which we refrain from eating and drinking for some hours, the stronger our sense of self-control and self-discipline.

6] Realize that if we genuinely love another sister in Islam for Allah's sake, we'd want them to enter Jannah Paradise with us. Indulging in homosexuality is something that no decent Muslimah would seek for herself nor for other Muslimahs.

7] Focus on preparing yourself to meet our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Imagine if you died in the midst of making out with another female, whether an earthquake occurred or you had a heart attack, would you like it? No. So be persistent in defeating shaytan's vile insinuations and acknowledge from within "Yes, I totally like so-and-so but I won't pursue her because homosexuality/lesbianism/bisexuality is haraam, and I intend to die as an obedient Muslim."

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Guarantee six deeds from me and I assure your acceptance into Paradise. When one of you speaks, let him not lie. When one of you promises, let him not break it. When one of you is trusted, let him not betray it. Lower your gaze, restrain your hands from harming others, and guard your chastity."

Source: Musnad Abī Ya’lá 4195

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu reported from his father that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "A man should not see the private parts of another man, and a woman should not see the private parts of another woman, and a man should not lie with another man under one covering, and a woman should not lie with another woman under one covering."

Sunan Abu Dawud p.201 v.2

Sahih Muslim and Musnad Ahmed

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, what I fear most for my nation is the deed of the people of Lot (i.e. homosexuality)."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1374

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Al-Nu’man Ibn Bashir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, in the body is a piece of flesh which, if sound, the entire body is sound, and if corrupt, the entire body is corrupt. Truly, it is the heart."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 52, Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the companions came to the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and they asked him, “We find within ourselves that which is too grievous to speak of.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “You have indeed found it so?” They said 'yes.' The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “That is sincere faith.”

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “That is (a sign of) pure faith.”

Source: Sahih Muslim 132

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves, as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287, Sahih Muslim 127

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Ibn Al-Qayyim said, "Know that passing thoughts are not harmful. Indeed, they are only harmful if they are sought after and engaged. For a thought is like a passerby on the road; if you ignore him, he will depart from you."

Source: Al-Jawāb Al-Kāfī 1/157

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, get married. Verily, it lowers the gaze and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast as it will restrain his passions (desires)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806, Sahih Muslim 1400

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Note: Importance Of Respecting One's Parents In Islam

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 It is sad to know that some Muslims ensure they're always kind to their friends, neighbors and colleagues yet they have neglected their duties of respecting and taking care of their parents. A number of those who have embraced Islam seem so harsh to other Muslims who don't appear to be doing the same religious tasks they do so they label this as "ikhwaani" and that one "madkhali" yet they haven't even bothered sharing Allah's Message with their own parents. They excel at correcting people's mistakes and ensuring their friends remain upon the correct 'Aqeedah while they leave their parents behind not understanding yet what Islam is about. Their parents are much more deserving to know the truth than total strangers and passersby.

It is also strange how someone can speak to their friends, co-workers and students kindly yet they have the audacity to insult and raise their voices at the persons who raised them since they were born. 

If you want to evaluate how actually good a person's character is, carefully take note of how they deal with their mother and father. You can't expect loyalty, respectful treatment and trust from somebody who is obnoxiously disrespectful to the ones who brought them up, and who sees no shame in committing one of the major sins that Allah the Most Just prohibited namely disrespecting one's parents.

🌻 Allah the Almighty says: "Your Rabb (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be good towards your parents. Whether one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say to them a word of annoyance (even as minor as disrespectfully saying "uff") and do not repel them, but rather speak to them a noble word. Lower to them the wing of humility for them, out of mercy, and say: 'My Rabb (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala), have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small.'" [Surah Al-Israa 17:23-24]

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam “Who is most deserving of my good company?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Your mother.” The man asked, “Then who?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Your father.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5626

Sahih Muslim 2548 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The one who keeps good relations with his family is not the one who reciprocates the good done to him. Rather, the one who keeps good relations with his family is the one who continues to be good to them despite having been cut off by them."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5645

Grade: Sahih

Tips: Can We Be Fair With All Of Our Friends?

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: How can I be fair with all of my friends?

📝 Answer: Since Allah the Almighty created everyone differently and not all of our friends have the exact same goals, interests and personality, it is impossible to be completely fair with each one of them. There will be some friends that we like more than others, because we find them more relatable, compatible and similar to us in many ways than the others. We hang out with certain friends more frequently than with others because they live nearer to us, they're more accessible, more available, and there is no conflict in our busy schedules, so meeting up with them or going on regular outings together is a lot easier than with the other friends. Our love for specific friends is also stronger when we've known them for a longer period, we're more used to each other, and we don't see each other as strangers. Another reason why we click better with some friends more than other acquaintances is we communicate and interact with them more regularly than with those who aren't close to us yet, while the feelings of care, support and respect are mutual. The friendship isn't one-sided at all, and no one is secretly jealous of the other.

You can try your best to be fair with all of your friends by making sure you always respond to their Salaams upon seeing them. If you're in a social gathering, make sure you greet everyone you're familiar with and you don't deliberately ignore anyone in the meeting.

You can be fair by preventing yourself from lying to your friends, from betraying and backbiting. All of these friends whom you love for Allah's sake should be treated with good character and courteous manners as much as possible, regardless if you've been friends with them since you were in high school or you've just met this year. Maintain a cheerful disposition and smile in their presence. Smiling doesn't make you fake nor artificial, but it displays confidence, shows you're approachable and it's a good deed that can be counted as a charity or sadaqah which any Muslim can do for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.

When your friends seek advice, give them the most helpful tips you can, even if providing assistance may lead them to becoming more successful at a field, say school or business, than you. If you have the ability to fulfill the rights of each of your friends, then do so. When invited to a friend's wedding, try to attend. If you're unable to witness their special occasion, at least congratulate them, send a loving message or mention them in a heartfelt Du'a/supplication.

If you hear news that a friend was confined in a hospital, visit them for Allah's sake, and if you can't be there to see them personally, at least text them and pray for them.

If three of your friends are getting married on the same date but at different wedding venues, you can attend all three weddings very briefly to accept the wedding invitation, or you can go to the wedding of the friend who is most closest to you, while you send gifts and congratulations to the other friends.

Being fair with all of your friends doesn't mean you spend time with each one equally and you provide every friend the exact same amount of attention as the others, but you strive to deal with them with good character, trying your best to never offend them and if you do you're strong enough to apologize and compensate for any wrong, and if ever they disappoint you, you're willing to understand their side and forgive for Allah's sake with lots of Sabr.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638

📖 Abu Ishaq RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of what a believing man can be given is good character, and the worst of what a man can be given is an evil heart with a beautiful appearance."

Source: Muṣannaf Ibn Abī Shaybah 24747

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 Mu’adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the prophets and the martyrs.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2390

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Tips: Types Of Wives You May Encounter In Polygyny

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Eleven kinds of co-wives you may encounter if you are in a polygynous marriage:

1] The one who is in denial that she's in polygyny, and she emphasizes a lot online and offline how her husband is hers only. She accepts you being a co-wife but she likes to think she's the husband's favorite.

2] The one who's younger than you and mainly respects you because of your age. Sometimes you can't tell if it's an insult or a compliment that she calls you "atty (elder sister)".

3] The one who feels jealously threatened by your younger age and may assume that the husband you both share loves you more than her.

4] The one who acts as if you don't exist, who can't acknowledge your presence or who's okay with you being her co-wife as long as you abstain from communication.

5] The nosy or subtly competitive one who wants to know as much as she can about how your husband and hers treat you. If she discovers you and the man you both love went to a certain restaurant, she demands that she also goes there to ensure there's complete fairness and equal treatment.

6] The friendly, genuinely caring and understanding one who doesn't mind giving her share of time with the husband to you or who rarely complains if the hubby seems to like you more. 

7] The one who acknowledges that you are her husband's other wife yet she prefers to not get too close to you, while she has her own squad of friends who are likewise not interested in getting too close to you because you're "the other woman" of their friend's husband.

8] The helpful and generous one who's clearly competing with you in terms of righteousness, who tries to help you with your house chores, visits frequently, takes care of your kids, invites you to Islamic lectures, occasionally goes shopping with you, and trains herself to not get jealous of you at all.

9] The one who's busily looking for another wife (preferably from her supportive friends) for the man you both love. So instead of him being married to two wives, he can be wed to three or four not necessarily so they can all team up against you but to increase the family size, and so she and the new wife can encourage each other to be patient whenever their husband is with you.

10] The contented, clever and patient one who understands the virtues of marriage for Allah's sake, patience and polygyny. Whenever you and the man you both love get into an argument, she encourages him to forgive you and allows him to spend extra time with you if you're unwell or you recently delivered a baby.

11] The sneaky and insecure one who does whatever she can to succeed in encouraging her husband to leave you. Wives of this sort usually resort to black magic, witchcraft and sorcery (a major sin which every Muslim must stay away from) so the love between you and your husband gradually decreases.

Remember to shield yourself by trusting Allah the Almighty at all times, reading from the Noble Qur'an regularly, as well as saying lots of Adhkaar and Du'as.

💚 Note: Understand that your husband's other wife (or wives) is part of the family and it is important in Islam to treat your relatives as well as you can, or at least avoid purposely causing any harm to them, particularly if they are Muslims who pray to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and they're eager to enter Jannah with you.

There's no need to regard your co-wife as a competition concerning worldly matters when you should be focusing on trying to be the best version of yourself as an ideal Muslim wife for Allah's sake. 

The successful wife in a polygynous marriage isn't the one who receives the most gifts, romantic gestures, or quality time with the husband, but she's the one who is most patient and most contented with what Allah the Most Wise legalized for financially capable and responsible Muslim men.

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 ‘Urwah reported: Aisha, may Allah RadhiAllahu 'anha said, "I never felt so jealous about any woman as I did for Khadijah (RadhiAllahu 'anha). She had died three years before I married the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. I heard him mentioning her so often, and Allah ordered him to give her glad tidings of her palace in Paradise made of reeds. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam would slaughter a sheep and distribute its meat among her friends."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5658

Sahih Muslim 2435

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes.”

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife.”

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Tips: Eleven Signs Indicating An INTJ Cares About You

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 11 signs that someone with an INTJ personality type cares about you and loves you for Allah's sake:
1] They care enough to point out your mistakes and correct your errors, not to dishearten you but because they want you to improve and see you do well, thrive and succeed in both worlds.
2] They're apparently more tolerant, lenient and forgiving towards you than to strangers or mere acquaintances. They give you plenty of chances before regarding you as another stranger again.
3] They genuinely smile or laugh at your jokes, as long as your efforts to share laughter doesn't involve childish gossip and ridiculing others for how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala created them.
4] They often take initiative to call, visit or send a text message asking how you're doing.
5] If you were absent from a gathering or meeting, they ask the attendees if they know why you didn't show up or they contact you, check if you're alright, and inform you of any important announcement.
6] They occasionally invite you to join them in outings, Islamic seminars, or at least make it clear they're okay with you accompanying them when they are going out.
7] Without hesitation they approach you for your advice, opinions and ask you questions about matters which they believe you are knowledgeable of.
8] They're enthusiastic about getting to know you in a more personal level. You know an INTJ isn't a close friend if they don't bother trying to familiarize with you besides knowing just your name.
9] They like to say your name or nickname a lot. When an INTJ isn't interested in getting to know further about someone or something, they want absolutely nothing to do with them, almost never think of them or show eagerness in accentuating the word those strangers like to call themselves by.
10] They readily defend you and back you up if they notice you're being treated unjustly.
11] If you've received some gifts, free offers, dishes, words of encouragement, or observed any kind gesture from them, even a sincere hug which they initiate, at least three times, you're probably included in their circle of trusted companions.
Note: Whether you're close to one or not, INTJs in general intensely abhor gossiping. As Muslims especially, they'd rather focus on what can contribute to their betterment as Muslims than indulge in emotionally driven talks and obnoxious backbiting.
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing is heavier upon the scale of the believer on the Day of Resurrection than good character. Verily, Allah hates the vulgar, obscene person."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2002 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith.”
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”
Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

Note: In Jannah Paradise There Is No Boredom

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 I remember in high school back in Riyadh Saudi Arabia, a half-British and half-Saudi classmate of mine asked me a question like "If there's eternity in Heaven, if we live there forever and don't die, wouldn't we get bored in Paradise?" because I wasn't really religious and practicing during my teenage years, I couldn't provide a helpful response to her question.

Now Alhamdulillah with Allah's Guidance, after some thoughtful reflection, I can say that 

Inn-sha-Allah when we are granted entry to Jannah Paradise we won't deal with any boredom, frustration and restlessness because Jannah is the abode where everlasting joy and peace can be enjoyed - no more stress, no more worries, and no more loads of tiring responsibilities.

When you look around you, online and offline, you notice a large number of people trying to achieve so-called "happiness" and "success" in this fleeting dunya. Some are passionately busy piling up money so they can afford to travel to all the countries they're eager to explore. This one is preoccupied with trying to obtain a doctorate degree so he can have his marriage proposal accepted and start a family of his own. That one is focused on attaining a "perfect figure" by going on a strict "Vegan diet", so she can still appear fabulous in her collection of selfies scattered around social media. These are feeling "not good enough" so they consistently upload vlogs of their daily life updates to compete with other YouTube vloggers in terms of who can gather the most number of loyal subscribers. Others continue hustling, making effort to succeed in their financial affairs, so they can finally build their luxury resort or enormous dream mansion.

Almost everyone, almost not all, are behaving as though they've picked planet earth as the ultimate place of resting. Tons of people, particularly from those who claim to have no religion yet, believe in the false phenomenon of YOLO ("you only live once"). Thus many youths and the elderly do their utmost to savor the pleasures of this world before they depart, unaware that once our souls are taken by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, we actually proceed to the next life, namely the Hereafter, encountering further tests in the Barzakh and on the Day of Resurrection.

We pray that Allah the Most Merciful accepts our good deeds, forgives our mistakes, guides us to passing His tests successfully, protects us from torment in both worlds, and destine that we're among those who are awakened and ready to see Allah the Most Forgiving in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

📖 Anas bin Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If the son of Adam had a valley full of gold, he would want to have two valleys. Nothing fills his mouth but the dust of the grave, yet Allah will relent to whoever repents to Him.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6075, Sahih Muslim 1048

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path.”

Ibn Umar would say, “If you make it to the evening, do not wait for the morning. If you make it to the morning, do not wait for the evening. Take from your health for your sickness, and from your life for your death.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6053

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Abu Sa’eed RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Death will be brought on the Day of Resurrection in the form of a white ram, and it will be made to stand between Paradise and Hellfire. It will be said to the people of Paradise: 'Do you recognize this?' They will raise their heads, looking towards it, and they will say: 'Yes, it is death.' Then, it will be said to the people of Hellfire: 'Do you recognize this?' They will raise their heads, looking towards it, and they will say: 'Yes, it is death.' Then, the command will be given to slaughter the ram and it will be said: 'O people of Paradise, there is everlasting life for you and no death!' And it will be said: 'O people of Hellfire, there is everlasting life for you and no death!'”

Then, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam recited the verse, “Warn them of this day of dismay, when their affairs will be decided, yet they are heedless and they do not have faith,” (The Noble Qur'an 19:39) and he pointed with his hand to the world.

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4453

Sahih Muslim 2849

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Poem: Take Care Of Your Heart By Maintaining Taqwa

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Since Allah legislated certain laws and rulings,
And the purpose of living is to worship just Him,
Let's strive to avoid what He made haraam/forbidden,
Stay away from whatever leads to vile temptations,
And if we sin, as we're human, rush to repentance.
~*~
Don't listen to the heart; it's where shaytan's whisperings
Linger or visit often to trigger strong feelings -
Of envy, self-doubt, sorrow, and intense attraction -
Including lust for the same gender from obsession.
Shield your heart with Taqwa, Dhikr and supplications.
~*~
How some souls "fall in love" is a gradual occurrence:
It starts with a gaze, then frequent paying attention,
Then staring and desiring to be noticed by them
After seeing their traits that caused your admiration.
Tension increases with increased communication.
~*~
Each time you and the subject of your adoration
Exchange text messages and glances with flirtation,
Unwelcome emotions start rising, you imagine
Doing unthinkable things with them, fantasizing
Scenarios too unsuitable for sincere Muslims.
~*~
So long as how you feel isn't put into action -
No intentional flirting nor improper touching,
You won't be accountable for shaytan's suggestions.
Resisting evil desires and imaginations
With perseverance can actually be rewarding.
~*~
For Allah's sake shun fitna. Continue defeating
Your nafs with patience, and keep your faith/Imaan strengthened -
With ongoing trust in Allah the Most Forgiving,
Regular Tawbah, awareness of death arriving
Anytime anyplace, thus prepare for its advent.
~*~
When liking some causes emotional disturbance
And not being wed to them is an extra warning,
Warn yourself of zina's seriousness and punishment.
Recall you love Allah more, this world's not permanent,
And Jannah is the prize for every patient Muslim.
~*~
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do not envy each other, do not outbid each other, do not hate each other, do not turn away from each other, and do not outsell each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers. The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim. He does not wrong him, nor humiliate him, nor look down upon him. Righteousness is here,” and he pointed to his chest three times. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “It is enough evil for a man to look down upon his Muslim brother. The entirety of the Muslim is sacred to another Muslim: his life, his wealth, and his reputation.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2564
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Hadith: Virtues Of Shedding Tears While Remembering Allah

 📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “There are seven whom Allah will shade on a day when there is no shade but His. They are: a just ruler/leader, a youth who grew up with a love for worshiping Allah, one whose heart is attached to the mosques, two who love each other, meet each other, and depart from each other for the sake of Allah, a man who is tempted by a beautiful woman of high status but he rejects her (invitation to commit zina, a major sin), saying , ‘I fear Allah,’ one who spends in charity and conceals it so much so that his right hand does not know what his left hand has given, and one who remembered Allah in private (while saying Du'a, Dhikr or reading the Noble Qur'an) and his eyes fill up with tears.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 629, Sahih Muslim 1031
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Paradise and Hellfire were shown to me and I have never seen such good or evil as I have today. If you knew what I know, you would laugh little and weep often.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2359
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Mu’awiyah ibn Haydah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Three eyes will not see the Hellfire: an eye standing guard in the Way of Allah, an eye weeping from fear of Allah, and an eye lowering its gaze from what Allah has forbidden.”
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16375
Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi (Authentic due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

Poem: I Am Muslim, Not A Terrorist.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 I am a Muslim, I’m not a “terrorist”.

How can I be a terrorist

when I’m against all kinds of injustice.

.~

I’m against every act of sin and evil.

I hate all kinds of crime and even loathe

what Adolf did to the innocent Jewish people.

.~

I hate what God hates; He (Allah) hates oppression.

I’m against stealing, against taking away

people’s loved ones and belongings for no reason.

.~

I’m against suicide bombings,

against racism, against ignorance,

against self-harm and even derision.

.~

What God hates I hate and God (Allah) hates

oppression. I hate it too when people fight

for foolish nationalistic reasons.

.~

I’m a Muslim; I follow the true religion

of mercy from Allah the Most Merciful

Who simply wants us to answer His Call

to believe in Just One -Just One God of all.

.~

So don’t call me a “terrorist” when I clearly

don’t have a ‘mass destruction’ weapon

and my goal in life is to

be with our God (Allah) in Heaven.

.~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: When the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam sent Mu’adh RadhiAllahu 'anhu to Yemen, he said to him: "Verily, you are coming to a people among the people of the Book, so call them to testify there is no God but Allah and I am the Messenger of Allah. If they accept that, then teach them that Allah has obligated five prayers in each day and night. If they accept that, then teach them that Allah as obligated charity to be taken from the rich and given to the poor. If they accept that, beware not to take from the best of their wealth. Be on guard from the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allah."

Source: Sahih Muslim 19

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Abdullah Bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Amr ibn Absah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is Islam?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "That you surrender your heart to Allah and that the Muslims are safe from your tongue and hand."

Source: Shu’ab al-Imān 20

Grade: Sahih

In another narration of this tradition, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hand the people are safe, and the believer is the one who is trusted with the lives and wealth of the people."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 4998

Grade: Sahih

Poem: What Makes A True Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 What are the qualities that a friend should

have – that which would make a true friend so true?

A friend is one whom you like to be with

while a true friend insists on being with you.

.~

A friend likes you when you have so much in

common. True friends like you who for who you are.

True friends make you feel as though they are at

all times near, although they are very far.

.~

A true friend is one whom you can always

talk to, even at night when it is late -

when loved ones are asleep, a true friend is

always there to hear what you have to say.

.~

Friends like to share, but a true friend always

gives you – not what you want, but what you need.

The feelings you hide, as well as your thoughts,

and your dreams, a true friend can always read.

.~

A friend may forgive you or they may not

forgive, for something wrong you've done to them.

A true friend forgives even when you don't

ask. True friends forgive - again and again.

.~

Friends are close when you are close to them. A

true friend wants your friendship to be closer.

A true friend does what is best for you, and

hates that you would end up with the losers.

.~

A true friend teaches you lessons to help

you grow – lessons that are hard and easy.

A true friend is always there - having a

true friend can never make you feel lonely.

.~

Friends may sometimes make mistakes, but a true

friend is always careful not to hurt you.

A true friend is a guide and a teacher.

A true friend knows everything you go through.

.~

The true friend I mention is our God,

who kept you company before you were born.

The friendship of God, if you truly keep

and cherish, you will never feel forlorn.

.~

The true friend we all need is God (Allah) –

the One who guides and can teach us lessons,

the One who hears our calls and understands,

the One always near – in every season –

.~

Allah, as a Friend, never judges us

by the way we look and how we appear.

Allah, as a Guide, if we ask Him for

guidance, He guides us and makes our paths clear.

.~

Allah is with us – each day and each night –

He is always there when all are asleep.

Allah always listens when others don't.

He gives you comfort when He sees you weep.

.~

Fortunate are those who have Allah as

a Friend. Friendship with God is friendship true.

May Allah bless me with His Friendship and

May Allah's Friendship be shared with you too.

Ameen. Allah knows best.

.~

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty says: 'Whoever comes with a good deed will have the reward of ten like it and even more. Whoever comes with an evil deed will be recompensed for one evil deed like it or he will be forgiven. Whoever draws close to Me by the length of a hand, I will draw close to him by the length of an arm. Whoever draws close to Me the by length of an arm, I will draw close to him by the length of a fathom. Whoever comes to Me walking, I will come to him running. Whoever meets Me with enough sins to fill the earth, not associating any idols with Me, I will meet him with as much forgiveness.”

Source: Sahih Muslim 2687

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 ‘Amr ibn ‘Abasah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty said: 'My love is a right upon those who befriend each other for My Sake. My love is a right upon those who defend each other for My Sake.”

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Ṣaghīr 1092

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Allah the Almighty says: 'I am as My servant expects Me and I am with him as he remembers Me. If he remembers Me in himself, I will remember him in Myself. If he mentions Me in a gathering, I will mention him in a greater gathering. When he draws near Me by the span of his hand, I draw near him by the length of a cubit. When he draws near Me by the length of a cubit, I draw near him by the length of a fathom. When he comes to Me walking, I come to him running.'”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6970, Sahih Muslim 2675

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Just Sharing Some Links For Allah's Sake

 

In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

I was never really interested in writing poetry until my dear Mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) signed me up to become a member of this association called International Society Of Poets. Alhamdulillah after submitting some random poems to different online poetry websites, I gradually showed interest in poetry until I was able to write more than three hundred poems as a teen. However since I wasn't very religious back then, the kind of poetry I was into dealt with inner struggles as a teenager, depression, anxiety, bi-curiosity/curiousness, longing for meaningful 'love', confusion and rebellion. If my parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) weren't strict, I bet that my personality type wouldn't mind experimenting with drugs, smoking Shisha and tattooing. The only tattoo I could find in those days were the supposedly long-lasting tattoo stickers that come in different designs. I stopped wearing them when an older woman in Makkah, probably of Egyptian nationality, advised me against it when she saw tattoo prints on my hands and arms. Anyhow what I'm trying to say is the poems I used to write before were basically related to "teenage angst" unlike now which are used to share Allah's Message, do Da'wah for Allah's sake, inspire Sabr/patience and Shukr/gratitude, promote self-confidence for Muslims, encourage Tawbah/repentance and be among the few loyal advocates of polygyny, staying steadfast in marriage and preferring Jannah's eternal bliss over this temporal platform of trials.

Alhamdulillah since Allah the Almighty granted me guidance, guiding my parents to let me focus on Islamic education online instead of going to a university abroad where I could get myself into trouble, I no longer do the awful wrongdoings I did previously. That doesn't mean I'm perfect though, I'm still striving and have so much to learn about our Deen.

Seeing how "I've been there and done that" I can, with Allah's Will, utilize some of my experiences as lessons and reminders for others when asked for advice.

One of my wishes as a child was to run an orphanage then educate the orphans about Islam while taking good care of them, not knowing that in the future I'd be an orphan too. Then as a teenager one of my preferred job was to be a psychologist or guidance counselor, with an aim to see this world become a brighter place by trying to uplift others. It always saddened me whenever I heard news concerning the devastating situation of Muslim countries like Palestine, Bosnia, Kosovo, Chechnya, Afghanistan, Iraq, Yemen etc. feeling bad I couldn't do anything to financially help the oppressed and needy. So all we can do is not just include them in our Du'as but also take advantage of our writing capabilities to spread awareness and peace, invite people to Islam (based on the Noble Qur'an and Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam) and enlighten the Ummah with motivational words of positivity.

Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever relieves the hardship of a believer in this world, Allah will relieve his hardship on the Day of Resurrection. Whoever helps ease one in difficulty, Allah will make it easy for him in this world and in the Hereafter. Whoever conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in this world and in the Hereafter. Allah helps the servant as long as he helps his brother. Whoever travels a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him a path to Paradise, for a people do not gather together in the houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying it together, but that tranquility will descend upon them, mercy will cover them, angels will surround them, and Allah will mention them to those near Him. Whoever is slow in doing good deeds will not be hastened by his lineage."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim

Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday.

Free e-book on "The Benefits Of Salah/Prayer" by my late mother Dr Norlain Khadija (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.)

https://www.scribd.com/.../Salah-The-Rational-and...

Online handbook on Da'wah According To The Qur'an And Sunnah of the noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.

https://www.scribd.com/.../Dawah-According-to-the-Quran...

First e-book of random Islamic poetry

https://www.scribd.com/.../Just-Sharing-Islam-for-Allah-s...

Second e-book of 135 Islamic poems to motivate and strengthen one's faith/Imaan

https://www.scribd.com/.../Free-eBook-Journeying-Back-to...

Free e-book of 103 Islamic poems

https://www.slideshare.net/.../just-sharing-islam-free...

Old channel on YouTube

https://m.youtube.com/user/infowishes/videos

Official Wisdom Islamic School page on Facebook

https://m.facebook.com/WIS.Davao/

https://www.facebook.com/WIS.Davao/

Wisdom Islamic School website for online learning

https://k-12.wisdomislamic.online/

Current and previous blogs

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com

http://justsharingislam.blogspot.com

http://mjustsharingislam.tumblr.com/

http://veiledinblack.blogspot.com/

https://users.livejournal.com/---steadfast/

https://m.poemhunter.com/miriam-mababaya/poems/

Note: More Info On The INTJ Personality Type

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Answering a survey of questions posted at a discussion thread on www.16personalities.com as a Muslimah with an INTJ personality type:

1. Do you see yourself as cold and emotionless? I would consider myself as a person who makes decisions mainly based on logic and what is reasonable instead of deciding according to fluctuating feelings. While I do feel certain emotions, I choose to put them aside if doing so is the most rational choice.

2. Do others see you as cold and emotionless? I seem to be okay with cats and younger children. I enjoy spending time and talking to kids, especially my nephews and nieces, once in a while when I'm not busy. As for females around my age, I realize that not all of them find me approachable or easy to talk to. Usually the inability to connect is because of language barrier or our overall temperament and interests are too different that we end up clashing with one another. Only strangers who unfairly judge my outward appearance without getting to actually know me may assume I'm "emotionless", aloof or detached. 

3. Have you ever felt love or any kind of positive affection? Yes Alhamdulillah. I love my dear parents deeply for Allah's sake, as well as my husband, my daughter, my husband's kids from his second wife, my brothers, my nephews, my nieces, in-laws and relatives... even if a number of loved ones may misunderstand my ways of expressing affection.

4. Which is more important to you: rationality or emotions? Rationality. Emotions are unreliable, tend to fluctuate occasionally, and since they stem from the heart where shaytan likes to plant his vile insinuations (check a Tafseer of Surah An-Naas), we as Muslims can't always rely on what the heart wants.

5. Imagine you're talking to someone and you accidentally hurt their feelings. Do you care? I never intend to maltreat, offend or bully anyone for no reason. If a person felt offended by my frankness, correction of something wrong they did or said, or they misunderstood me in any way, I care about the fact that I'm not responsible for how people feel regarding my choices or mistakes done without awareness.

6. Is it difficult for you to make friends? Alhamdulillah I can be generally friendly and talkative around those whom I'm willing to befriend for Allah's sake. It's not easy for me too keep friends though since I admit I'm not skilled at staying in touch and answering messages instantly sometimes. Since I'm already accustomed to seeing people come and go from my circle, I don't have any problem Alhamdulillah with so-called 'friendship breakups', particularly if those ex-friends are too proudly egotistical to reconcile and their presence can't add any significant value to my faith/Imaan.

7. Do you think it's possible for you to become a popular, friendly socialite? Popularity, fame, and attending social gatherings to amass inauthentic "friends" or sycophants do not intrigue me. A Muslim's value isn't measured by their likability and quantity of supporters. The contents of their heart, willingness to contribute to the well-being of the Muslim Ummah, and strength of their connection with Allah the Almighty are what importantly matter.

8. How and why do you make friends? I don't walk around searching for "friends". The majority of the people I've met are either complete strangers, acquaintances whom I greet from time to time, and colleagues. If I notice someone, and this happens on very rare circumstances, who I sense can bring me closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, our goals are alike, and their personality can sync harmoniously with mine, then I make effort to gradually develop that bond until we become close friends 

Inn-sha-Allah for Allah's sake.

9. Is friendship important to you? Allah's Love is sufficient Alhamdulillah. Friendship to me isn't a major concern since a lot of people aren't certified trustworthy or completely honest with themselves. If the reasons for somebody wanting to be your friend include taking advantage of your generosity, benefiting from your status in society, enjoying free meals, borrowing your money, and collecting people's sins through gossiping childishly, then I'd rather enjoy solitude, contented Alhamdulillah I still have Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with me.

10. What are subjects you like to talk to people about? Islam, ways to get closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, Islamic books we've read, lectures we listened to, life story of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, history of well-known Muslims including the Sahabas RadhiAllahu 'anhum, psychology, personality development, MBTI, enneagram, lessons we've learned from our childhood and teenage years, fierce loyalty in marriage, and polygyny.

11. Do you like spontaneity? It's okay as long as the spontaneous action makes sense.

12. Is keeping a schedule important to you? Yes, although I don't always stick to every schedule because there are times when adjusting, modifying and being flexible are necessary.

13. Do you like small talk? I'm okay with small talk if the purpose is to be more familiar and acquainted with the individual in a more personal way. And as long as the conversation is free from gossip, deceit, lies, possibility of getting into an irrational debate, and obsession with dunya-related issues.

https://www.16personalities.com/community/discussions/threads/37160/view?page=1

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Al-Ahwas narrated: Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Remember Allah the Almighty often. You must not accompany anyone unless they help you remember Allah the Almighty."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 8998

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-from-self-care-is-to-choose.html

http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/intj
https://www.truity.com/personality-type/INTJ

Hadith: The Virtues Of Reciting From The Noble Qur'an Regularly

 📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The example of one who reads the Qur'an and memorizes It is that of one with the ‘righteous and noble scribes’ (The Noble Qur'an 80:15). The example of one who reads the Qur'an and is committed to It, although it is difficult for him, is that of one with a double reward.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4653, Sahih Muslim 798
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Fasting and the Qur'an will intercede for the servant on the Day of Resurrection. Fasting will say: 'O Lord, I prevented him from food and drink during the day, so let me intercede for him.' The Qur'an will say: 'O Lord, I prevented him from sleeping during the night, so let me intercede for him.' Thus, they will both intercede for him.”
Source: Musnad Ahmed 6589
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir
📖 Abu Musa Al-Ashari  RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The parable of the believer who recites the Qur'an is that of a citrus fruit, which tastes good and has a pleasant fragrance. The parable of the believer who does not recite the Qur'an is that of a date, which has no scent but tastes good. The parable of a hypocrite who recites the Qur'an is that of basil, which has a pleasant scent but tastes bitter. The parable of the hypocrite who does not recite the Qur'an is that of a vine, which has no scent and tastes bitter.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 4732, Sahih Muslim 797
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abdullah ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Whoever recites a letter from the Book of Allah, he will receive one good deed  (in his record of deeds) as ten good deeds like it. I do not say that 'Alif Lam Mim' is one letter, but rather 'Alif' is a letter, 'Lam' is a letter, and 'Mim' is a letter.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2910

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

Note: When A Pious Wife Loves Her Husband For Allah's Sake

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If a woman truly loves her husband for Allah's sake and she firmly believes that being married to him is a blessing, she wouldn't give up on him easily no matter how many times she deals with marital problems, arguments or his frequent absence. Even if her marriage were to be a trial, she'd do whatever she could to salvage the bond that Allah the Most Wise destined. 

The similitude of a loyal wife who refuses to quit loving her other half in spite of numerous challenges is that of a person whose diamond ring is stuck at the bottom of a deep hole or pit. Instead of just leaving that jewelry underground, she persistently waits for the hole to be filled with water coming from the rainfall so the ring can rise above and float towards her. With an umbrella of hope and raincoat of positive mindset to keep her standing firm, she won't depart from her spot until the ring she deeply cherishes reaches her level, regardless of how fast or slow the droplets of rain fall, and not minding if she has to keep waiting in the dark or she's slightly uncomfortable by the sounds of loud thunderstorms. She could also try other alternatives and methods to save her diamond ring: Using a long pole, stick, branch of a tree, metal bar or rope to fetch it, or by digging the ground and making the pit big enough for her to go in so she can descend towards it and get it with her own hands. She has an option to purchase a new one anytime, like other women would probably do, but instead she chooses to keep that ring because that's how much she cherishes it.

A faithful wife whose husband is in jail wouldn't look for another man. She'd be patient enough to wait for his release, even if the duration of waiting takes so many years. A grateful and loving wife whose husband works in a different city or country wouldn't go around cheating on him and flirting with distractions behind his back. She'd remain fiercely loyal and value her married status, looking forward to seeing her husband return when Allah the Most Loving allows her soulmate to come back.

If a newly married Muslimah doesn't like her husband's temper or aloof personality, she doesn't instantly call it quits but she takes initiative to do what she can so her man's heart can soften until he falls so in love with her. And if he happens to be a guy who doesn't take his prayers seriously, because he was brought up in a family that is supposedly "modern" or uneducated yet of many Islamic teachings, she excitedly sees this as a perfect opportunity to rescue her lover for Allah's sake and together they learn about Islam until they both make it to Jannah Paradise, grateful they never gave up on one another.

While divorce is lawful and allowed in Islam for couples who aren't compatible, we can all agree that a Muslim man being separated from his wife is something which entertains shaytan who feels satisfied that he did a job well done for trying to cause trouble between man and woman, and for destroying a beautiful union that our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decreed.

A massive amount of trust in Allah the Most Merciful, while maintaining loads of rewarding patience, contentment, gratitude, appreciation, understanding, and passionate refusal to give up this love journey to Jannatul Ferdaus are essential to guarantee a long-standing marriage.

Impatience, unreasonably high expectations, greed, pride, selfishness, attachment to dunya, and unwillingness to cooperate with each other are usually the factors that lead to divorce. Marriage isn't a fairytale where the wife and husband enjoy 100% bliss 24/7. It's supposed to be a journey full of ups and downs which a Muslim husband and wife/wives take towards Jannah Paradise. With Sabr and Shukr, they mutually assist one another in making sure they pass Allah's tests, striving to win against shaytan who doesn't want their blessed joy to stay alive.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Jannah Paradise from any gate she wishes.”

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Hadith: On Safeguarding Your Heart And Keeping Secrets

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “I instruct you to fear Allah in your private and public affairs. If you do a bad deed, then do a good deed. Do not ask anyone for anything, even if you drop your whip. Do not violate what is entrusted, and do not take a position as judge between two people.”

Source: Musnad Ahmed 21063
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 An-Nawwas ibn Sam’an RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Righteousness is good character and sin is what waivers in your heart and you hate for people to find out about it."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2553
Grade: Sahih
📖 Mu’adh ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Verily, you will continue to be safe as long as you remain silent. If you speak, it will be recorded for you or against you.”
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16591
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “May Allah have mercy on a person who spoke rightly and was rewarded, or who was silent and remained safe.”
Source: Shu’b Al-Imān 4579
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy.” We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter.” They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “A believer with good character.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani