Tips: Five Differences Between Those Who Genuinely Care About You And Those Who Prefer To Keep Their Distance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five differences between someone who likes you as a friend and somebody who isn't interested in befriending you, so you can 

Inn-sha-Allah identify who is worthy of your efforts to become more acquainted and quit attempting to connect with those who are clearly incompatible: 

1] When meeting face-to-face or on video calls, those who genuinely like you appear happy to see you. Regardless of their current mood, they can readily smile or greet cheerfully upon your arrival. In contrast, those who dislike you for whatever reason, due to jealousy or an unresolved misunderstanding, roll their eyes with annoyance or scowl as soon as they notice you or hear your voice.

2] Those who don't have any envy or grudge against you generally talk to you with a cheerful tone. When asked a question, they respond with enthusiasm and also return your questions with queries of their own, a sign they're willing to get to know you better. On the other hand, those who despise your presence usually behave as if they don't enjoy interacting with you. Besides rolling their eyes or frowning, they seem rudely distracted or indifferent whenever you try to socialize, answering your questions abruptly or vaguely and seldom asking you about yourself. 

3] Friends of the same gender who care about you often initiate hugs, offer handshakes, and give you friendly pats or lightly touch your shoulder or upper arm when speaking to you. Someone who still regards you as a stranger would do whatever it takes to avoid touching your skin and sitting nearby.

4] Somebody who is eager to build a connection occasionally makes the first move when it comes to calling, sending messages, asking how you're doing, inviting you to a gathering, and keeping the friendship stable. A person who sees you as an acquaintance only reaches out when there is an absolute necessity. 

5] Individuals who consider you as part of their circle occasionally share some of their belongings, food and personal details with you. Those who prefer to keep their distance wouldn't bother sharing anything with you even if they were neighbors, colleagues or seatmates. 

• How to deal: 

° With those who show interest in improving their connections with you: Reciprocate their favors. Value their companionship with steadfast patience, gratitude, good manners, loyalty and willingness to forgive as many times as you're capable of forgiving. 

° With someone who is unreachable or unwilling to associate with you: Maintain basic politeness with them, answer their salaams, and don't expect too much from them to be free from disappointments. Your secrets, dreams, plans, projects and valuables should be kept far from them, specially if their trustworthiness hasn't been confirmed. Understand their disinterest does not measure your worth as a Muslim. If the temperament, goals, and languages of two souls are completely different, it makes logical sense that establishing harmony may be unlikely or take some time.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 8945

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is friendly and befriended, for there is no goodness in one who is neither friendly, nor befriended. The best of people are those who are the most beneficial (helpful or cooperative in what is right) to the people."

Source: Al-Mu'jam Al-Awsat 5937

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

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Poem: Five Signs That You're A Tough Wife And Your Husband Is Fortunate To Be Married To You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five signs that you're a tough wife, and loyal wives are few, 

And your strength comes from Allah Who knows your love is true: 

One - In spite of challenges you may sometimes go through, 

You still love your spouse - to quit loving him you refuse, 

As discarding blessings is not something you would do.

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Two - When at times he acts in a way that can confuse, 

Or his choices often cause critics to misconstrue, 

You empathize, remain firm, don't feel at all "abused", 

Because you sense behind his actions are reasons you 

Don't know yet, and he's not someone you're willing to lose.

~•~

Three - Since being his wife is a gift which you value, 

Other wives' complaints about their men can't impact you, 

And stories of divorcees inspire you to ensure 

That fierce loyalty towards your soulmate remains true. 

You're not a fake lover whose commitment is untrue.

~•~

Four - You're not nosy, even if some assume it's cute 

When ladies spy on their lovers to be reassured. 

Lack of clinginess or nosiness doesn't reduce 

Your care for your other half, but it implies that you 

Trust him, and believe Allah sees what His servants do.

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Five - Whether he remarries or he works far from you, 

You're content with loving him, and of his love you're sure, 

And your faithfulness won't drop even if he is poor, 

Outwardly aloof, or to strangers not good for you. 

Marriage is like a game which strong wives don't wish to lose.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Ḥibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as.