بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Tuesday, November 1, 2022

Tips: A To Z Checklist Of Some Of Your Husband's Actions So Your Love For Him Can Increase For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 A to Z checklist / questionnaire regarding some actions which your husband has done and/or still does to inspire you to continue loving him with gratitude, patience and loyalty for Allah's sake: 
Your husband...
A] Allows you to occasionally visit your family and friends - he is not overly jealous and insecure. ( ✓ ) 
B] Bought or brought you souvenirs often after arriving from duty, work and/or travel. ( ✓ ) 
C] Cooked for you at least twice and/or complimented you on your cooking. ( ✓ ) 
D] Drove you several times to destinations which you asked him to transport you. ( ✓ ) 
E] Economizes when necessary and encourages you to spend money for Allah's sake wisely. ( ✓ ) 
F] Finds a way to make you laugh and smile effortlessly. ( ✓ ) 
G] Gives you some space when necessary, so he isn't obnoxiously nosy and/or goes to the Masjid frequently. ( ✓ ) 
H] Helps you with some household chores whenever he can. ( ✓ ) 
I] Inspires you every night and day to become a better Muslimah. ( ✓ ) 
J] Jokes with you now and then, as he loves to see you in a joyful mood. ( ✓ ) 
K] Kisses and/or hugs you goodbye whenever he embarks on a journey. ( ✓ ) 
L] Listens to you patiently or eagerly whenever you complain about an issue or share with him some news. ( ✓ ) 
M] Massaged you oftentimes when you felt tired and manages, with Allah's Will, to motivate you to work more ambitiously for Allah's sake. ( ✓ ) 
N] Negotiates well when necessary. ( ✓ ) 
O] Optimizes his time as much as possible. He isn't one of those immature guys who waste much of their lifetime nosily spying on strangers' lives and aimlessly watching uninspiring vlogs etc. ( ✓ ) 
P] Played with you at least twice some games or sports like badminton etc. ( ✓ ) 
Q] Quietly or very gently wakes you up for Salah when the time for prayer has arrived. ( ✓ ) 
R] Respects your mother and/or father, as well as your relatives. ( ✓ ) 
S] Shared and shares with you some of his belongings, like jacket or large slippers, whenever he can. ( ✓ ) 
T] Tried to teach you something which you weren't familiar with before and/or shed tears with you when you both were discussing some emotional topics. ( ✓ ) 
U] Understands your language and overall personality. ( ✓ ) 
V] Valiantly apologized to you at least once. ( ✓ ) 
W] Washed some of your clothes or did the dishes for you at least once and/or works with admirable determination. ( ✓ ) 
X] Excellently recalls a lot of random facts about you, such as your date of birth and favorite color. ( ✓ ) 
Y] Yearns to reunite with you and his other loved ones in Jannah Paradise with Allah's Mercy. ( ✓ ) 
Z] Zealously does what he can to ensure that his earnings are halal / lawful. ( ✓ ) 
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not absolutely necessary, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."
Sunan Ibn Majah 2055
In-book reference: Book 10, Hadith 40
English translation: Vol. 3, Book 10, Hadith 2055 
📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Note: Eleven Questions To Ask Yourself To Feel More Certain That You Married A Good Man

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Eleven questions to ask yourself to feel more certain that you've indeed married your soulmate for Allah's sake: 
1] When you look back on the first actual conversations with your husband, can you wholeheartedly smile as you recall his cute efforts to be romantic or flirtatious with you? 
2] Can you mention at least three instances when he has been helpful, kind and compassionate to you? 
3] Do you miss his comforting hugs and loving presence whenever he is absent? 
4] If you had the option to choose between staying over at a resort with some close friends for one week and moving to the city where your husband is employed, would you select the latter as long as you're granted consent to visit your family whenever you like? 
5] If you're incapable of completely satisfying your husband, can you be strong enough to stay married while he loves another woman as his legal second wife, because you'd rather keep loving him faithfully while you're in a polygynous marriage than have him disappear from your life? 
6] Whenever his responses to your calls and messages are delayed, are you able to understand his side and still forgive him for Allah's sake with astounding patience? 
7] Whenever you encounter or notice supposedly happy couples, instead of feeling jealous, do you instantly thank Allah the Almighty for bestowing upon you the unique love story which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined for you and your husband? 
8] Does loving your husband sincerely for Allah's sake beautifully inspire you to become a better, wiser, more mature, more patient and understanding Muslimah? 
9] Do you love it whenever your husband leads you in prayer and every time you hear an Imam reciting some verses from the Noble Qur'an you're usually reminded of your husband's amazingly soothing voice? Or if ever your husband asked for divorce, can you imagine rejecting all marriage proposals from interested suitors while patiently waiting for another wedding from your ex-husband, aware that divorcees in Islam can remarry twice?
10] Although you can't always meet your husband or go on halal dates with him, are you capable of staying fiercely loyal to him, avoiding "emotional affairs" and anything which could lead to fitna, even when he hasn't been around for a long time? 
11] Is it true that you've cried or shed tears many times while mentioning your husband's name in heartfelt Du'as, praying that Allah the Most Merciful protects him, guides him and enables him to pass Allah's tests so you can both succeed, with Allah's Will, in making it to Jannah Paradise? 
Allah the Almighty knows best. If you've answered "yes" to at least seven of the above questions, then it's likely true that your husband is your soulmate whom you should never quit on. Don't let the shaytan who envies your joy feel smug about his attempts to disrupt your obvious blessing.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125 

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