💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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🗒️ Seven questions to ask yourself to determine if a person is too toxic for you and they are not worthy of being regarded as a good friend - if you answer yes to at least four of these, then it is better to avoid socializing with them for Allah's sake as much as possible:
1] Do you feel so much better and more relaxed when they're absent from work/school or when you haven't seen them for several days because their presence mostly generates very negative energy?
2] After talking to them online and offline, do you usually sense some negative emotions as if you can tell they're deliberately doing whatever they can to make you feel "jealous", "demotivated" or "unsafe" in any way?
3] Would you describe a lot of your conversations with them online and face to face as "unpleasantly awkward", "uninspiring", "emotionally draining" "artificial" or "obviously fake"?
4] Is it true that one of the aspects which you intensely despise about them is their awful tendency to start gossip or spread rumors? Or did it ever occur to you that they cowardly backbite about you with other gossipmongers when you're not around?
5] Are they one of those users on social media whose posts you have unapologetically "unfollowed" or you were never interested in sending them a "friend request" or "add to contacts" since you know for sure that their status updates and content which they frequently share oppose your values?
6] Would you legitimately describe them as "narcissistic", "selfish", "self-entitled", "unrelatable", "unreliable", "passive-aggressive" or "unsupportive"? Refrain from associating yourself with anybody who can't motivate you to attain your goals.
7] Can you accurately state that you haven't learned a single valuable lesson from them and they are incapable of teaching you anything meaningful?
It is wiser to go solo at times for Allah's sake than to waste time with someone who acts as an obstacle distracting you from your aims or they're a dangerous invitation to trying out avoidable drama and mistakes.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56
