💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 One of the secrets that lead to a contented marriage life, with Allah's Will besides marrying for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala sincerely, is surrounding yourself with pious friends who encourage one another to be loyal, grateful and faithfully patient wives to their husbands. You can't expect to be an ideal wife if you're surrounded by overdramatic and materialistic bimbos who are controlled by their fluctuating emotions, constantly giving you indirect hints to leave your husband without even trying to resolve issues wholeheartedly.
Scrolling through my news feed and then stumbling upon an immature status update on how a female user woefully broadcasts her hatred for ex-husband is an irresistible invitation to hit the "unfriend" button and gladly quit checking that user's timeline in the future. I unapologetically disassociate myself especially from anyone who is idiotic enough to describe their marriage life "like hell". You can't liken anything in this world, no matter how awful or depressing, to "Hell" since Jahannam is obviously a place where you haven't been in and don't plan on even seeing. If you had the intellectual capacity to settle matters between you and the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose as your other half, your bond could've progressed gradually with patience and gratitude.
Marital problems usually occur when:
1] ...the wife decides to disrespect her husband and pridefully neglects his rights until he makes the first move, not knowing that maybe the reason why he seems so aloof is because he's actually struggling from severe depression or overtiredness from work.
2] ...some of the wife's shady friends incessantly persuade her to ditch her man for a new guy, so one of them could take her place, or so she ends up being a divorcee like some of them are.
3] ...some obnoxiously jealous outsiders carried out black magic, sorcery or witchcraft against the couple, which explains their frequent quarrels, passive-aggressive behavior and silent treatments that surface from the most petty reasons.
4] ...the woman greedily prefers dunya and her selfish desires more than serving Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. So she finds it difficult to imagine living several years demonstrating loyalty to her husband.
5] ...it's the husband's initial fault in allowing their love to decline, but the wife doesn't care enough to make effort to talk things out together.
Marriage is a trust and amaanah from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Thus we mustn't take it lightly. If a Muslimah truly loves her husband ever since they got married from day one, she'd do whatever she can patiently for Allah's sake to keep the marriage alive, praying that she and her soulmate can enjoy eternal bliss and everlasting perfection in Jannah Paradise.
Reminder to say Du'a today Jumuah Friday before Salat Al-Mahgreb, even for a few minutes, including the Ummah, as well as your loved ones in your Du'as.
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📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29
