Poem: As A Muslim, Don't Be Rude And Insecure.

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Don't question your self-worth when strangers treat you rudely,
When your salaams are ignored though you said them clearly,
And you receive scowls when you're trying to be friendly.
The problem's with them; they're full of self-hate or envy.
~•~
Confident souls that glow with sublime inner beauty
Don't roam around bullying and forming enemies.
With hearts that don't keep grudges, bad vibes and jealousy,
They treat others with fairness and basic courtesy.
~•~
Speak, and they won't roll their eyes, but listen carefully.
Slip or fall, and they won't laugh, but grant help if you need.
If you're mistreated, instead of staring silently,
They'll defend you or bravely confront childish bullies.
~•~
Rude clowns in contrast gloat in their insecurities.
Their hatred of themselves manifests through being mean,
Maltreating those who threaten their tiny self-esteem.
Their lack of manners stems from ignorance of our Deen.
~•~
Next time you meet someone who treats you impolitely,
Pity them, understand that inside they're unhappy,
Likely jealous they're unlike you - you thrive morally,
Guided by Allah to treat everyone humanely.
~•~
📖 'Ali Ibn Abi Talib RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “A Muslim has six rights over another Muslim in good conduct: To greet him with peace when he meets him, to respond to his invitation, to respond to his sneeze, to visit him when he is sick, to follow his funeral prayer when he dies, and to love for him what he loves for himself.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2736

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abdullah Bin 'Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The best of you in Islam are those with the best character, if they have religious understanding."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 9880
Grade: Sahih
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

Tips: Differences Between INTJs, ISTJs And ENTJs

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five different scenarios and probable reactions of most INTJs, ENTJs and ISTJs to know how to tell them apart:
1] When entering a conference or social gathering:
Most ISTJs would dutifully greet the people whom they're acquainted with one at a time or just enter quietly and greet them individually afterwards.
Most INTJs would focus on the most ideal seat for them where they won't be distracted from the lecture then formally greet the people whom they are familiar with after the seminar, or they won't bother greeting anybody at all if they have other tasks to do later.
Most ENTJs would go in the hall with a loud entrance and confidently greet everyone whether they're strangers or not.
2] When waiting for the elevator to arrive while being in a hurry to rush to the next floor:
Most ISTJs would patiently wait until the elevator door opens.
Most INTJs would change their route and quickly go for the staircase or escalator in order to be efficient.
Most ENTJs would loudly complain how the elevator is causing them to be late, question the people around if it is functioning or under maintenance, start casual conversations with those who are waiting, or take the staircase/elevator while audibly complaining about the unsatisfactory facilities.
3] During meetings and group discussions:
Most ISTJs would converse in a calm, serious and formal tone. They can make sarcastic remarks or jokes when they feel more at ease.
Most INTJs would be silently observant throughout the meeting and ask questions only when necessary. When many of the attendees are laughing or joking around, most INTJs would keep a straight face or smile discreetly.
Most ENTJs would be very vocal, boisterous and talkative, typically taking over the whole discussion. Giving out orders or being domineering comes naturally to them.
4] When they genuinely like you and care about you:
Most ISTJs would make sure that your basic needs are met, they see to it that you are visibly well taken care of, and you get to see a more funny, relaxed or goofy side of them which outsiders don't.
Most INTJs would take initiative to contact you and check how you're doing, they'd be more tolerant and patient with you instead of critical, and they allow you to see their more sensitive and emotional side.
Most ENTJs would spoil you with gifts that they believe would make you happy, they'd be less bossy towards you, or they would let you take the lead in making decisions when you're out together rather than commanding you what you should do.
5] When they don't like you because your overall temperament, values and interests are too different from theirs:
Most ISTJs would show no interest at all in getting to know you better or they'd try to minimize interacting with you.
Most INTJs would remain aloof, distant and indifferent to you if you're not close to them, yet inside they're willing to learn about you if you can prove that your companionship is worthwhile or you're intellectually stimulating.
Most ENTJs would make it obvious that they're not in good terms with you, and will stubbornly decline your invitation to reconcile, unless you agree with their beliefs or guarantee you won't change who they are.
By discovering more about people's personality types,
you can Inn-sha-Allah learn how to adjust yourself to get along more effectively with others or understand why we can't vibe with every individual we meet in life.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the  phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Poem: Alhamdulillah Always

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 When asked "How are you?", "Alhamdulillah," I'd respond.

Praise be to Allah, the Only One Who understands,

Who sees every situation, knows my condition,

And Who's always with me - so Allah deserves my thanks.

~*~

Behind each "Alhamdulillah, I'm okay," statement

Are untold stories of patience and sweet contentment,

A heart that may be broken, cries that are unspoken,

And concealed tears that flow through Du'a/supplication.

~*~

Although I've sinned, Alhamdulillah there's repentance.

Indeed Allah is the Most Kind and Most Forgiving.

Though not so rich, I'm content with what Allah destined.

There's wisdom in all that Allah decrees to happen.

~*~

Even if I've lost some loved ones and gained some ex-friends,

Alhamdulillah for Allah's Mercy and Guidance,

For guiding me to depend on no one except Him,

And for saving me from those who are bad influence.

~*~

Alhamdulillah, even if I wish to complain

And whine about individuals who lie and betray,

I thank Allah that I'm not like them in any way.

Through haters I've learned to stay patient for Allah's sake.

~*~

While each night and day can be a battle or challenge,

Full of trials that have my faith/Imaan examined,

Alhamdulillah, I have Allah Who can strengthen

And guide me to Him when He hears my supplications.

~*~

Alhamdulillah when I'm happy, stressed, or crying.

All Praise and thanks belong to Allah the Most Loving,

Who granted me not all my wants but my requirements,

Who truly understands my words and silent moments.

~*~

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The first to be called to Paradise are those who always praised Allah in times of ease and adversity."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who praised Allah in every situation."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 12345

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

Tips: Know When To Refrain From Asking Personal Questions

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 From the signs of trustworthy friends: They respect your need for privacy at certain times, they understand you're not required to disclose all the personal details of who you were in the past, and they don't compel you to reveal everything that happens to you in your life. Questions like "When was the last time you and your husband did it? How often do you make love? With lights on or off?", "What kind of adult websites did you enjoy browsing when you were a teen?" and "Why did you move to different schools a lot?" wouldn't be asked by a decent person who knows when to mind their own business and give you some space.

° Three instances when it's better to refrain from asking a personal question:

1) If the answer you receive will not benefit you at all in this world and the afterlife. 

2) If their response could lead you or them to trouble, or their reply is a potential topic for gossip.

3) If the reason for asking is to collect information which you plan to use against them.

You can be good friends with another Muslim without needing to pry into topics which they're not comfortable discussing with just anyone. Knowing a lot about someone isn't always essential to build intimate friendships. It is possible for two persons to be close because they have many similar interests, share common qualities, and mutually help each other become better Muslims for Allah's sake without nosily interfering with matters which do not concern them.

📖 Ali ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him.”

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Poem: Loving Them From A Distance For Allah's Sake

 💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 To whom it may concern, who I love for Allah's sake,
Whose passion for learning Islam increases my faith,
Whose gentleness inspires me to improve my own traits:
I love you for Allah though it's not clearly displayed.
~•~
Fighting the urge to chat with you daily, I'm afraid
That my affection and care for you may escalate
Into something not normal, or inappropriate,
So I distance myself, so you and I remain safe.
~•~
From the outside it seems like you and I can't relate,
But inside I feel we're the same in so many ways.
We've struggled, shed tears, challenging problems we both faced,
And to join those whom Allah loves is one of our aims.
~•~
Trust me, I think of you a lot, nearly night and day,
During Tahajjud thinking if you're likewise awake,
And after Fajr eager to remind you would say
Your Adhkaar, then reaching out to check if you're okay.
~•~
We could talk for hours, but fitna makes me hesitate.
You know how shaytan is patient with his cunning games.
Thus I love you from a distance and sincerely pray
That we both make it to Jannah Paradise someday.
~•~
📖 Mu’adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light, admired by the prophets and the martyrs.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 2390

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection: 'Where are those who love each other for the sake of My Glory? Today, I will shelter them in My Shade on a day when there is no shade but Mine.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2566
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'”

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim