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Saturday, April 13, 2024
Note: How Do You Stay Patient With Your Husband As His Loyal Wife?
💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
✅ Some time ago a sister in Islam asked me on how I manage to stay patient with my husband. Alhamdulillah the noble quality of patience is a special gift that is given only by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to those whom He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows have the capacity or willingness to use it (patience) for His sake. Not everyone's level of Sabr is the same. However the more you try to understand the wisdom of why some people behave as they do or if you make earnest effort to see the bright side of a situation, the more you can develop and embrace patience, a characteristic that is foreign or unbecoming to people who are narcissistic, selfish or arrogant.
Being married to my husband since Shawwaal in the year 2006 Alhamdulillah and becoming his first wife in around 2012, I'd like to share some tips on how you can also be patient as your husband's wife:
1• Remember that Allah the Almighty loves those sincere believers who remain patient for His sake during trials, while obeying Him, and avoiding what He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala forbade.
2• Acknowledge the fact that your husband is a human being with several flaws just as you too have a number of imperfections. If you can't change a quality in him which some may find unpleasant or intolerable, train yourself, as his empathetic wife, to be more tolerant and look at his other qualities that are attractive and appealing, such as his cute sense of humor, fatherly personality, and enthusiasm to help people in general.
3• Be patient like you can patiently wait for the Adhaan of Salat Al-Maghreb to be called when you're fasting. Be patient like you can expect a seed to grow beautifully into a large tree, a stormy evening to be followed by clear blue skies the next day, and a caterpillar to fascinatingly transform into a colorful butterfly. Be patient like you're traveling in a dark tunnel towards an open passageway, knowing that even though your journey may be bumpy, tiring or uncomfortable,
Inn-sha-Allah you'll ultimately rest and enjoy the sweetness of victory once you reach your destination.
4• Your striving to stay patient with your other half doesn't mean you tolerate his negative traits or serious mistakes. Being patient for Allah's sake isn't settling for less than what you deserve nor does it signify you're weak. You simply won't allow shaytan to be victorious in disconnecting the blessed bond (i.e. marriage) that Allah the Almighty destined, and in order to be more deserving of Allah's Love, you put on your armor of Taqwa that enables you to make use of rewarding patience and grateful contentment. Patience with your Muslim spouse, concerning permissible matters, doesn't indicate weakness or cowardice at all. On the contrary, Sabr shows how strong a person is to not be overcome by emotions, unreasonable expectations and insignificant arguments.
5• Knowing the reality of how this world is undoubtedly temporary, you know that trials are brief examinations which are meant to examine your faith/Imaan, difficulties are sent to expiate sins and after every hardship follows ease, maybe not so soon all the time but eventually.
Part of deeply, faithfully and genuinely loving your husband for Allah's sake is to never give up on him easily, because you want to see him
Inn-sha-Allah with you in Jannah Paradise where you both can enjoy eternal bliss, free from excessive worldly responsibilities, distractions and worries.
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah (The Almighty) will make him contented. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1400
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
Poem: Unfriendly Salafis? Or Religious Arrogance?
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📝 For some time now I've noticed that among certain groups
Are insecure females who display bad attitude,
Acting rude and ignoring salaams once they assume
You're not like them in following the belief that's true,
While they have lots of learning and researching to do.
~•~
Many of them who claim to be Salafi are new
To Islam yet they act as though they're "better" than you
Regarding their decision to embrace the real truth.
Don't they know that Allah the Most Wise is the One Who
Led them to the right 'Aqeedah with the guided few?
~•~
Why do they act like they're "flawless" as they ridicule
Individuals whom trusted scholars often refute,
And those who are not their equals are quickly eschewed?
Don't they know: Just as Allah guided them to the truth,
Allah can let them go astray or keep them confused.
~•~
To the pretentious snobs from them: Why forsake those who
Don't appear "Salafi enough" according to you?
Ever heard of Da'wah? Invite others to the truth,
With wisdom and sincerity, not vile attitude.
Reminders benefit us believers - old and new.
~•~
The Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) showed patience and gratitude,
And was never a liar who's obnoxious and rude.
With beautiful character, call others to the truth,
While studying more about Islam and the virtues
Of good manners which prevent aimless fueds and disputes.
~•~
Reminding myself too, check your niyyah before you
Ban someone from forums or delete some from chat groups.
Why do you act aloof as if unkindness is cool?
Arrogance usually suits those who are immature
And jealous of those whom they act unpleasantly to.
~•~
Respond to the salaams of a Muslim who greets you.
Seriously, what makes you one hundred percent so sure
That so-and-so is not upon the belief that's true?
Even non-Muslims in Islam shouldn't be abused.
Be kind/fair. Don't let kibr spoil your faith and values.
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📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One that is mindful of Allah (The Almighty) and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy." We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter." They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A believer with good character."
Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah (The Almighty) is Beautiful and He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) loves beauty. Arrogance (kibr) means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."
In another narration, the beloved Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith (Imaan) in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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