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🗒️ Question: There are a number of acquaintances at my school / workplace who frequently make fun of me for being "poor", unable to afford branded clothes and own expensive items. What tips can you share on dealing with those types of people?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. Those types of shallow people who enjoy looking down on those who aren't as wealthy and "fashionable" as they are, while they judge Allah's servants according to their job titles or size of their earnings, are in reality very miserable on the inside. They probably envy the lives of those who appear much more affluent than them, and their coping strategy with their undeniable distress or dissatisfaction with Allah's Qadr Destiny is acting like obnoxious bullies towards those whom they perceive as economically inferior, to feel better about their lousy insecure selves.
A person who is blessed with actual inner peace, contentment and confidence would never sabotage their morals by behaving worse and more irrationally than an oversized fifth grade bully. It is unreasonable for them to deride you for not being that "rich" while you're just minding your own business and you never signed up to join some sort of competition wherein the contestants do what they can to impress the judgmental judges with their money. They despise you for being "poor"? So what? At least you're not the sad clown whose irresponsible parents failed at moral upbringing. It is better to be described as "poor" yet your lofty manners and integrity surpass their ignorance, ugly ego and stupidity than to take pride in being "well-off" but still full of low self-esteem, obsessed with jealously comparing oneself to others' superficial conditions constantly. Even all of the world's donkeys and monkeys combined are way more civilized than such arrogant snobs if they wrongly assume they're more "superb" or "outstanding" than most of humanity for enjoying luxury. They're like proud dung beetles flaunting their collections in front of lions and falcons that aren't at all interested in competing.
Allah the Most Omnipotent does not love those prideful braggarts, so why feel jealous of those who are despised and possibly cursed by our Only Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala?
May Allah the Most Loving forgive all of our mistakes and keep us away from anything that displeases Him. Ameen.
View those shallow individuals as opportunities to train yourself to be more effective and successful at avoiding the wrongdoings or foul characteristics which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala disapproves of.
Allah the Most Wise may oftentimes decree that we meet a number of souls with poor character so that our ability to avoid those toxic individuals for Allah's sake can also be applied when striving to distance ourselves from what He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala forbade.
If you have the strength to desist from befriending envious gossipmongers and frequent liars, then abstaining from addiction to music should be feasible for you.
↪️ What you can say to those who classify you as "poor":
1] Why do you feel the need to point out something which doesn't really bother me? Is that a weird tactic of yours to distract yourself from your insecurities and misery?
2] How old are you again? For somebody in their late thirties, forties or fifties, you sure act so immaturely. Didn't your mommy or daddy educate you a single thing about when to speak and when to shut up when your nonsensical thoughts verbalized are unnecessary?
3] "Poor"? That's subjective. Aren't you aware of how many refugees and needy people there are worldwide? If you're so rich and at ease inwardly, why not live a meaningful life and try to improve those people's circumstances rather than acting out selfishness, despicable greed and inanity.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2354
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Narrated 'Imran bin Husain RadhiAllahu 'anhu: The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I looked into Paradise and found that the majority of its inhabitants were from the poor people, and I looked into the Hellfire and found that the majority of its dwellers were women (a lot of whom show ingratitude to the husband)."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 6449
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O Abu Dharr, do you say an abundance of possessions is wealth?" I said 'yes.' The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do you say a lack of possessions is poverty?" I said 'yes.' The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated this three times, then he said, "Wealth is in the heart and poverty is in the heart. Whoever is wealthy in his heart will not be harmed no matter what happens in the world. Whoever is impoverished in his heart will not be satisfied no matter how much he has in the world. Verily, he will only be harmed by the greed of his own soul."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 1618
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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