Poem: What You Can Do To Avoid Feeling "Inadequate" Or "Inferior"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 When you walk by some people who are taller than you, 

Instead of feeling inadequate or insecure, 

Recall those who are shorter, those with legs but can't move 

Unless they have a wheelchair or crutches they can use, 

And those with dwarfism who often get ridiculed.

~•~ 

When you meet couples who married earlier than you, 

And they bring up many kids while you have less than two, 

Recall those without partners who contentedly choose 

To stay single and marriage proposals they refuse. 

Marrying isn't crucial for one's life to improve.

~•~ 

When you come across vlogs of socialities on YouTube, 

Videos of grand house tours and reviews of luscious food, 

Remember the homeless, refugees worldwide, the poor, 

Those who are in jail and can't request what to consume, 

And patients who receive nutrients by way of tubes. 

~•~

When you encounter professionals more skilled than you, 

Or peers who surpass you in some things you like to do, 

Recall those with special needs, those who dropped out of school, 

And those who, though without degrees, are business tycoons. 

In your grave, good deeds matter more than misused fortune.

~•~ 

As Muslims, be grateful for the gifts Allah gave you, 

And don't let constant comparison spoil current moods. 

Just as trees, seas and mountains have their own pleasant views, 

While butterflies, eagles and owls have their own virtues, 

Allah blessed you too. Strive with patience and gratitude.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125 

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim  

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-dont-compare-your-life-journey-to.html 

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Poem: Allah Never Treats His Servants Unjustly. Don't Be Too Hard On Yourself. Do Good Deeds Consistently.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Allah the Most Kind knows you're not a superhuman, 

You're not infallible nor free from imperfections. 

Allah the Most Loving expects you, as His servant, 

To obey His Laws, avoid what He has forbidden, 

And do your best to serve Him till you return to Him. 

~•~

Allah is fully aware that there will be moments 

When you struggle with frequent fatigue, stress and mood swings, 

When you miss Tahajjud on some nights as you're sleeping, 

Or miss a Sunnah fast when you lack motivation. 

Allah sees your struggles and current situation. 

~•~

Allah wants us to worship Him with right intention, 

Without being extremists, purposely negligent, 

And without forgetting that He's the Most Forgiving. 

Allah may love us more when we do other actions 

Which please Him to compensate for our past shortcomings.

~•~

When accursed shaytan whispers, "Look at you, pretending 

To be pious and perfect when you've got an audience, 

Yet privately you're guilty of many wrongdoings. 

Quit your efforts. There's no way that you'll be forgiven.",

Increase good deeds, do Tawbah, shun shaytan's deceptions.

~•~ 

You missed Qiyaam Al-Layl? Pray Duha in the morning. 

Couldn't fast a Sunnah fast which you perform often? 

Do charity, feed stray cats, console a sad Muslim, 

Babysit kids, or share tips to benefit someone. 

Allah loves it when you're consistent and keep trying.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Allah the Almighty says: 'I am as My servant expects Me and I am with him as he remembers Me. If he remembers Me in himself, then I will remember him in Myself. If he mentions Me in a gathering, then I will mention him in a larger gathering. When he draws near to Me by the span of his hand, I draw near him by the length of a cubit. When he draws near Me by the length of a cubit, I draw near him by the length of a fathom. When he comes to Me walking, I will come to him running.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6970

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do good deeds only as much as you are able, for the best deeds are those done regularly (consistently) even if they are few."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4240

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Follow the right course, seek nearness to Allah, and give glad tidings. Verily, none of you will enter Paradise by his deeds alone." They said, “Not even you, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Not even me, unless Allah grants me His Mercy. Know that the most beloved deed to Allah is that which is done regularly, even if it is small (or few)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6099

Sahih Muslim 2818

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-benefits-of-praying-tahajjud.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-sincerity-and-consistency-are.html 

Note: On Inner Beauty And Trying To Look Good On The Outside

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some females only befriend women who appear as beautiful as them, while others would distance themselves from you if your beauty level is above average due to feeling jealously threatened and fearful that your good looks may outshine theirs. If you enter a cosmetics store looking pretty, some of the saleswomen would enthusiastically welcome you and treat you in a friendly manner. On the other hand, if your overall appearance isn't appealing enough, or you seem like a customer who can't afford branded products from Zara, Sephora and Forever 21 etc. you may receive unprofessional treatment from ignorant salesladies who despise you for your simplistic look without even knowing who you are.

Some men's marriage proposals get rejected simply because the women they were interested in marrying didn't find them handsome. A teacher may be more popular than the other teachers just for looking like a typical runway model. A student could either earn popularity among his/her peers for having a cute face or he/she may be hated by a squad of jealous bullies for looking better than them physically.

Having a beautiful heart is underrated, while making sure that one looks good or stays in shape is a priority for a lot of youths, particularly those who aspire to imitate their favorite celebrities many of whom undergo cosmetic surgery, or make-up guros on YouTube who indirectly cause certain viewers to think they don't look good enough when their make-up application is flawlessly on fleek.

As Muslims Alhamdulillah we must remind ourselves that Allah the Almighty created us to worship Him Only, not to impress His creation especially with superficial beauty. When we focus on pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, people's criticism can't affect us negatively. Our hearts then remain at peace and radiate good energy or positive vibes which other beautiful souls can recognize easily. So if someone calls you 'pangit', 'ugly' or 'not pretty enough', just ask them "Oh is that your nickname? Interesting." or confidently say, "I never asked for your opinion. You can evaluate your own looks somewhere else. I am not a mirror, thank you." or walk away patiently, content with how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala made you and grateful you're not like those rude individuals in being immature, uncivilized and incredibly insecure.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance nor wealth, but rather Allah looks at your hearts and actions."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-allah-judges-hearts-not-appearance.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/poem-ways-to-react-when-told-youre-ugly.html 

Poem: Some Signs That Someone You Know May Be Struggling With Narcissism

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some signs that a family member or friend could be 

A narcissist with big ego and self-interest, 

Who may act as if they like you, just a tiny bit, 

If staying connected with you profits their success, 

While your choice to tolerate them can spoil your wellness: 

~•~

When they notice you struggling with some kind of test, 

They don't ask if you need help nor attempt to assist. 

Anytime they see you losing, they laugh about it, 

And when their jokes sting, they'd say, "Don't be too sensitive." 

Yet when you treat them likewise, they get so aggressive. 

~•~

When chatting, their lives and selves are their favored topics. 

Once you mention yourself, they quickly become quiet, 

Roll their eyes, or purposely ignore your last message. 

They expect you to be perfect, while they won't accept 

Any no from you, delayed replies, and excuses. 

~•~

Since they're so focused on their looks and public image, 

They show disrespect if your skin has pimples or zits, 

Refuse to spend time with you unless you're nicely fit, 

Insist that you lose weight or go on a strict diet, 

And respect you less if you don't appear attractive.

~•~ 

Cancel plans with them? They'll get really disappointed, 

And even if you're sick, they can't readily forgive. 

Keywords or adjectives which describe real narcissists: 

Selfish, self-obsessed, overly materialistic, 

Greedy, pretentious, vain, and oftentimes merciless.

~•~ 

If they're mad at you, they'll ensure you're uninvited 

To a meeting or gathering which they've conducted, 

Give nice things to mutual friends yet leave you excluded, 

And delay answering your online text on purpose, 

Expecting you to chase them and pitifully beg. 

~•~ 

Stay patient if Allah tests you with some narcissists, 

Specially if they are close or distant relatives. 

Include them in your prayers, pray that Allah gets rid 

Of the arrogance/kibr they may be dealing with, 

And don't grant them complete trust or intimate secrets.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/note-checklist-to-determine-if-you-have.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-nine-signs-of-actual-narcissists.html