Tips: INTJ Acquaintance vs INTJ Friend

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five signs someone with an INTJ personality type regards you as an acquaintance and they are uninterested in getting to know you in a more personal level:

1] While they are aware of your presence, notice you often on social media, or acknowledge that you're neighbors, they don't bother visiting, checking your posts or initiating deep conversations.

2] If you're in a meeting or conference and you ask a question, they make no effort to turn around, and feel more comfortable avoiding or minimizing eye contact with you. This doesn't mean they're being arrogant or concealing attraction, but there are other more important tasks which they're trying to focus on.

3] Dialogues with them are significantly brief, interactions feel mostly forced or unnatural, and they're incapable of being talkative around you. If they're unwilling to describe their actual mood or go into details about how their day went, you're just an acquaintance to them, not a close friend.

4] They give you permission to keep making the same mistakes, show no interest in correcting your repetitive errors, and when you do something wrong, instead of pointing it out, they seem oblivious or indifferent. 

5] If they regard you as an acquaintance, not a friend or loved one, they find it difficult to laugh at your jokes. A straight face, confused stare or hesitant smile is usually an INTJ's reaction to strangers trying to joke around.

🌻 Five signs of being friends with an INTJ personality type:

1] At least once every two months or so, they take initiative to converse with you online and offline. Asking about your well-being and offering their assistance if you need anything are some obvious signs that an INTJ cares about you, even if they do those on very rare occasions.

2] If you're speaking or having a dialogue, they tend to gaze at you more frequently and intently than when they're interacting with somebody who isn't closely connected to them.

3] INTJs asking you a lot of questions about yourself, making themselves emotionally available, and purposely prolonging your chat conversations are indicators that they genuinely enjoy your company.

4] They strike a balance between being tolerant with your flaws and striving to help you become a better version of yourself. The more special you are to an INTJ, the more frequent they'd advise you, without giving up on you too easily.

5] If you're friends with them, they try their best to protect you from feeling bad about yourself. So if you attempt to make others laugh, they readily display appreciation or compliment on your joke even if they didn't find it funny.

INTJs treating people differently, based on their level of familiarity, is their way of being authentic, fair and efficient with themselves and the individuals they meet.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Al-Ahwas narrated: Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Remember Allah the Almighty often. You must not accompany anyone unless they help you remember Allah the Almighty."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 8998

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”

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Poem: Pure Hearts Believe In Allah And Can't Envy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 The heart is like a vessel, if it's filled with good thoughts,

Hope and eagerness to be worthy of Allah's Love,

If you keep it purified with Adhkaar and Du'as, 

There won't be space for envy, doubts and toxic self-talk.

~•~

The more pure your heart is, the less likely you'd question 

Allah's Qadr, His blessings and His slaves' intentions.

The stronger your faith/Imaan, patience and contentment, 

The softer your heart and the more you shun suspicion.

~•~

Those whose hearts don't carry jealousy's heavy burden 

Are capable of sleeping peacefully, forgiving, 

And detaching swiftly from distracting attachments.

Aim to have a clean heart to attain Allah's Guidance.

~•~

Some souls roam around with a misleading appearance 

Concealing hearts that are impure, disturbed and darkened.

Hating people whose good moods bring them disappointment,

Bitterness misleads them to lying and backbiting.

~•~

Have mercy on your heart and allow it to relax 

By patiently accepting what Allah gives and does.

And each time your heart gets lost, do Tawbah and come back 

To serving Allah with much Istighfaar and Ikhlaas.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "People whose hearts are like the hearts of birds will enter Paradise."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2840

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

An-Nawawi said, “It is interpreted to mean they are those who rely upon Allah, or those who have soft hearts.”

Source: Riyāḍh Al-Ṣāliḥīn 1/45

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, who are the best people?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One with a heart swept clean and truthful in speech.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, we know truthful in speech. What is a heart swept clean?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One that is mindful of Allah and pure, in which there is no sin, nor aggression, nor envy.” We said, “Who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “One who hates worldliness and loves the Hereafter.” They said, “And who shows a sign of it?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “A believer with good character.”

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 4457

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, when the servant commits a sin, a black mark appears upon his heart. If he abandons the sin, seeks forgiveness, and repents, then his heart will be polished. If he returns to the sin, the blackness will be increased until it overcomes his heart. It is the covering that Allah has mentioned: 'No, rather a covering is over their hearts from what they have earned.' (The Noble Qur'an 83:14)"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3334

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti

📖 An-Nu’man ibn Bashir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, in the body is a piece of flesh which, if sound, the entire body is sound, and if corrupt, the entire body is corrupt. Truly, it is the heart."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 52

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

Poem: My Brief Niqab Story To Inspire Sisters

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Quick story to share with you for Allah’s sake

Of how I started wearing niqaab with faith:

From birth to about ten years old, my young days,

That time when I too traveled to U.S.A.

I did not wear hijab at that early stage.

~•~

As a preteen, before age thirteen years old,

I embraced wearing hijab when outside home.

In sixth grade, I wore niqaab as school dress code,

At those Saudi public schools that are well-known,

Yet for a while I hid feelings that were wrong.

~•~

I wanted niqaab worn only in Saudi,

Was shy of wearing it in other countries,

Was conscious back then of many stares at me,

‘Till some Sheikhs answered my questions on T.V.

About niqaab – I’ve learned it’s mandatory.

~•~

Though young I was eager to learn more Islam,

So I researched more online to understand.

One proof of the obligation of niqaab:

Female pilgrims should not wear it during Hajj.

The niqaab also uplifts one’s faith/Imaan.

~•~

In my teenage years I wore niqaab when out,

Yet my confidence back then was not yet loud,

‘Till I saw her at this hotel’s restaurant,

A niqaabi in black, with good vibes about,

She inspired me – of her Islam she was proud.

~•~

In my twenties I learned to love niqaab more,

Whether in Saudi, Philippines, or abroad.

Of the niqaab’s virtues I became more sure,

Not caring what critics thought nor scared of slurs.

When people insult, your sins are theirs galore.

~•~

Niqaabis are judged not by their choice of clothes,

Appearance, riches, or beauty cheaply shown.

By our faith and personality we’re known.

To be with Allah, as His friends, is our goal.

May Jannatul Firdaus be our final home. Ameen.

📖 It was narrated from Safiyyah Bint Shaybah RadhiAllahu 'anha that 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha used to say: "When these words were revealed – “...and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – they took their izaars (a kind of garment) and tore them from the edges and covered their faces with them."

Narrated by Al-Bukhaari, 4481. The following version was narrated by Abu Dawood (4102): "May Allah have mercy on the Muhaajir women. When Allah revealed the words, “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)”, they tore the thickest of their aprons (a kind of garment) and covered their faces with them."

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