Note: Good / Righteous Friends vs Toxic Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ Five signs indicating that a person is a righteous and good friend: 

1] You feel comfortable and at ease when you're with them, aware that they won't suddenly criticize you in front of others nor talk badly about you when you're not around. Judging people's appearances and pridefully laughing at their mistakes are things they avoid doing.

2] For Allah's sake they regularly share Islamic reminders on social media, advise gently when you require consolation, and correct you whenever you do something wrong. 

3] They motivate you to treat your parents respectfully, maintain family ties, and show genuine concern for your loved ones, instead of wanting all your attention to themselves like insecure and manipulative narcissists.

4] After talking to them online or face to face, you notice a significant increase in the level of your faith/Imaan, because the topics you often discuss actually energize you and bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

5] You're incapable of feeling anxious before attempting to visit them and check their Facebook timelines, as you know that their actions, statements and postings are devoid of gossip and passive-aggressive behavior. You don't perceive them as a threat to your religious and emotional well-being. In fact, you look forward to learning from them as you can't get tired of their good vibes and positive influence. 

❎ Five indicators of toxic people who don't deserve our trust and friendship: 

1] You don't feel safe and secure when they're nearby, as if you can sense that they have the potential to offend you anytime or compel you to do something which you dislike. 

2] You've observed that even after a long time of being acquainted with their names, you still didn't learn anything valuable and inspirational from them. They seem to be more obsessed with pretentious selfies, consumerism and worldly matters than willing to put effort into seeking authentic knowledge of Islam through reliable sources.

3] You can tell that they despise one or some of your family members due to unreasonable reasons. Those who hold grudges against anybody from the individuals who are closely connected to you mustn't be trusted. 

4] After interacting with them personally and virtually, even for a few minutes, you feel emotionally worn out and unmotivated. Their words mostly consist of lies, rumors, gossip, mockery and complaints which trigger negative emotions.

5] Almost every time you're about to join a meeting with them or check their online posts, you feel agitated and uneasy, as though it is obvious that your soul's energy clashes with theirs.

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📖 AbdurRahman ibn Ghanm RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best servants of Allah are those who remind you of Allah when they are seen. The worst servants of Allah are those who carry gossip, separating between loved ones and seeking misery for the innocent."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 17998

Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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Tips: Ways To Tell If Your Grudge Is Due To Jealousy Or Being Too Different

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some ways to tell if your grudge against another Muslim is due to jealousy or being unrelatable and too different: 

❎ If you hate a certain individual because their beliefs, attitude, personality, interests and goals are too "weird" or in conflict with yours, you would: 

1] Feel uninterested in wanting to build any connection with them, so thinking of interesting topics to discuss online and face to face or asking them personal questions can be difficult. 

2] Acknowledge the fact that their absence and presence have no significant impact on you. When they've been absent for several days, you don't miss them at all. Once they're around and easily reachable, you prefer to keep your distance and begrudgingly interact with them only when necessary. 

3] Avoid them for Allah's sake as much as possible (on social media and offline) because you can't gain anything valuable from being affiliated. Chatting with them feels artificial, time-consuming and pointless.

❌ If your hatred for some individuals actually stems from envy, you would: 

1] Act distant upon seeing them express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for the blessings which He gave, and angrily scowl whenever you notice a smile on their face. 

2] Ardently focus on their negative qualities much more than their agreeable traits, annoyingly make a big deal out of their mistakes, and publicly criticize them whenever you can to spoil their image and name. 

3] Admit that you cringe with jealous animosity whenever you go through their online posts or hear their voice and laughter. 

4] Agree that you've become accustomed or addicted to gossiping and backbiting about them, to feel good about yourself and less inferior. 

5] Avoid actually spending quality time with them because you can't stand how most of the information they oftentimes share with you trigger uncomfortable feelings of jealousy. 

📑 Reminder to myself and others: While you're allowed to unfriend and unfollow anybody whose Facebook status updates make you feel uneasy, it's not okay to utilize social media as a virtual stage where you behave like a politician bashing other politicians to obtain the crowd's votes and sympathies. Before attempting to collect fans to hate on another Muslim through sinful backbiting, ask yourself "am I about to disseminate info which can 

Inn-sha-Allah motivate others to become more confident Muslims? Or should these complaints be left unsaid because shaytan and his allies find arguments between Muslims absurdly amusing?"

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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