Tips: Some Things You Can Do To Make Sure You're Always In A Good Mood

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As a Muslim whose MBTI personality type is INTJ what are some things which you usually do to make sure that you remain in a good mood?

📝 Answer: 1] Increase in saying Dhikr (e.g. "SubhanAllah wa Bihamdih. SubhanAllah Al-'Atheem") and Istighfaar (say "AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem" as often as I can).

2] Frequently send salutations upon the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, specially more so on Fridays. 

"Allahumma salli 'alaa Muhammad wa 'alaa aali Muhammad, 

kamaa sallayta 'alaa Ibrahim wa 'alaa aali Ibrahim, 

Innaka Hameedun Majeed. 

Allahumma baarik 'alaa Muhammad wa 'alaa aali Muhammad, 

kamaa baarakta 'alaa Ibrahim wa 'alaa aali Ibrahim, 

Innaka Hameedun Majeed." 

3] Read at least two pages or any Surah from the Noble Qur'an every day and/or night. 

4] Contemplate, meditate and reflect upon Allah's beautiful creations while listening to some calming recitations from the Noble Qur'an. 

5] Listen to at least one recorded Khutbah / Jumuah Friday sermon in Arabic or English on YouTube. 

6] Listen to some Islamic lectures in Arabic or English language on YouTube, SoundCloud or Spreaker.

7] Read carefully selected articles, writings and blog posts online related to Islam, psychology and personality development. 

8] Occasionally visit some family members and relatives when I'm not busy. Spending quality time conversing or being playful with children, nephews and nieces. 

9] Feeding cats and petting them once in a while. 

10] Deliberately avoiding online and offline content which are toxic and negative, including meaningless vlogs of noisy YouTubers who aren't inspiring. Feeling a sense of accomplishment Alhamdulillah whenever I'm able to avoid gossipers, futile group conversations and untrustworthy individuals who emit bad vibes.

11] Taking naps in the daytime when necessary and trying to analyze the meanings behind a lot of my lucid dreams.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The Mufarridun (the isolated or those who like to isolate themselves) have gone ahead (in gaining rewards)." He was asked, "Who are the Mufarridun?" He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "Those men and women who remember Allah much."

[Sahih Muslim]

Arabic/English book reference: Book 16, Hadith 1436 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: Love Doesn't Hurt If It's Lawful And Purely For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Love hurts? No. Love doesn't hurt when it's for Allah's sake. 

When loving the man whom Allah chose as your soulmate 

And travel partner to Jannah is not one bit fake, 

Your faith/Imaan level doesn't drop but escalates 

And though your spouse is busy, you don't go through heartaches. 

~•~ 

When love is real, all for Allah, not just "for display", 

You feel motivated to strive, you're willing to wait 

For your friend's return when he's been gone for many days, 

And patience is a trait you easily cultivate 

Which makes it easy to forgive when mistakes are made. 

~•~ 

"Love" hurts? Yes, when that "love" is toxic, clearly misplaced, 

Mispositioned, messed up, and designed to formulate 

Dangerous pathways to zina which Allah forbade,

Like lusting over someone whose gender is the same 

As yours or flirting with somebody you can't obtain.

~•~

Sinful "love" aches because it's from shaytan's silly games 

To distract you from thriving upon Allah's Straight Way. 

To defeat the devil's plots and not be led astray, 

Discard thorns of ignorance and bravely educate 

Yourself more about Islam to enhance Imaan/faith. 

~•~

If it must be done, from every "crush" stay far away, 

Lessen needless interactions and control your gaze. 

Distractions ditched for Allah can someday be replaced 

By rewards for patience you maintain each night and day, 

With Allah's Love and guarantee to reach Jannah's gates.

~•~ 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Tips: Seven Things Which Narcissists Can't Do And How To Recognize Them On Social Media

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven things which many narcissists refuse to do because of kibr/arrogance: 

1] Most narcissists don't have the courage or actual confidence to do something which they're not entirely sure of because they fear the likelihood of embarrassment and making mistakes. They want people to witness that they're completely "perfect" and free from flaws. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

2] Since a lot of narcissists can't admit that they've made a mistake or misjudgment whenever they're clearly wrong about something, they hate making apologies. If self-interest or necessity compels them to say sorry, they'd apologize but begrudgingly while having no plans to rectify their errors. 

3] Seeing how narcissists generally get jealous of others, as they aspire to be "better than everybody", giving sincere compliments and words of encouragement are too difficult for them to do. 

4] Because narcissists care more about their selfish selves, ego and public image, they frequently invent lies or conceal certain truths to preserve positive reputation. Keeping your secrets, fulfilling promises, proving they're trustworthy, following through plans and defending you when you require support are from the challenging tasks which they won't do unless bribery is involved. 

5] Showing gratitude and thanking you for favors oftentimes cause them to feel "fake" or "artificial" because in reality they don't appreciate most people and can't genuinely thank you for what you can offer. A lot of narcissists are also too arrogant to ask for help, wrongly believing that "they don't need people at all, but people need them to survive". 

6] Narcissists typically reject admonitions and advice coming from anybody whom they perceive as "incompetent", "delusional", "uneducated", "insignificant" or "not up to standard" even if the tips they receive can improve their condition or religious well-being. 

7] Inability to attentively listen to people's problems, concerns and suggestions is common among those struggling with narcissism. If you send a message requesting them to advise you about something or asking them for a favor, they commonly leave you on "seen mode" or claim they'll get back to you later only to return after a long period of prideful silence and this time they're demanding you to pay attention to them. 

💻🚩 Three obvious signs of narcissists on social media: 

1] Frequent uploading of self-aggrandizing selfies and group photos a lot of which are filtered or photoshopped. 

2] Displaying interest in watching and sharing TikTok videos more than listening to beneficial Islamic lectures. 

3] Regularly gossiping or ranting on their online updates concerning individuals whom they can't stand. Collecting fans to dislike a particular individual through whining about them on their Facebook timelines, not with a motive to warn others against dangerous persons but to comfort their own emotional wounds. 

May Allah the Almighty forgive all of our faults and keep us away from every unpleasant characteristic which He dislikes including selfishness and kibr/arrogance. Ameen.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2588

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Three Reasons Why We Dislike Some Strangers And This Grudge Or Indifference Has Nothing To Do With Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why we dislike some strangers and this grudge, uneasiness, or lack of interest in wanting to befriend them has nothing to do with jealousy: 

1] Their name, overall appearance or general attitude reminds us of somebody who mistreated us in the past. Recalling a troublesome or disrespectful person every time you interact with a particular individual can reduce the willingness to get to know them better if you still haven’t solved certain misunderstandings. 

2] A lot of their life choices, behavior and actions remind you of toxic things you’re trying to avoid. If you value good character and integrity, it makes sense that you won’t gravitate to gossipers, actual narcissists, chronic liars, people who break promises repeatedly and who don’t take their responsibilities seriously. 

3] Indirectly they make you feel bad about a special loved one. If “A” reminds you of someone whom you love for Allah’s sake “B” in terms of their looks or temperament but “A” has notable qualities which “B” doesn’t, you may hesitate to connect with them on a more personal level if talking to them or following any of their online content makes you doubt your connection with “B”. It is not easy to network with souls who threaten your values and well-being in any way.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated:  Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “The believer is not stung twice from the same hole.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782, Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Tips: Ways To Tell If Your Friend Or Acquaintance Is A Narcissist

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Seven signs indicating that your friend or acquaintance is narcissistic (actually arrogant), and it's wiser to minimize interactions with them: 

1] You've heard them gossip and talk badly about others more than once regarding their looks, mistakes, clumsiness, flaws, body odor, values which they don't approve of, weight gain etc. 

2] They seem to expect too much from you while not giving enough in return. They have a sense of entitlement, constantly expecting attention, sympathy, freebies, gifts and compliments from you while clearly not bothering to reciprocate your favors. 

3] Whenever you unintentionally upset or disappoint them, instead of making effort to understand your situation or kindly asking why you didn't follow through on a promise or agreement, they act childishly passive-aggressive, give you the silent treatment for several days, or carry out plans to teach you a lesson. Then after soothing their hurt ego, they behave as though there wasn't any drama. 

4] They try their best to always look flawless while not caring at all about how you appear, not because they genuinely appreciate inner beauty and a strong personality but because they want their overall image to outshine yours. 

5] They're awful listeners yet demand that you listen to all the supposedly fabulous stories they invent about themselves purposely designed to make you feel jealous or insecure. 

6] They frequently roll their eyes or scowl whenever you want to inform them something, as if they find your statements boring and insignificant. 

7] From their body language, unpleasant aura and disrespectful attitude towards you, it is easy to tell that they envy your life, confidence or achievements. You hardly receive congratulations and words of encouragement from them yet they expect you to treat them like VIPs 24/7 as if you're their compliant servant. 

AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah the Almighty says: 'Might is My Garment and Grandeur is My Cloak; whoever competes with Me regarding any of them, I will punish him.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2620

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Poem: The More You Understand Your Dear Husband, The Easier It Is To Maintain Patience With Him

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If you can patiently wait for the Maghreb Adhaan 

While fasting, then you should be able to understand 

You too can stay patient, when you have strong faith/Imaan, 

With your husband who's a human, aware that each man 

Has feelings and can falter when things get out of hand. 

~•~ 

If you can wait for rain clouds to stop wetting the lands, 

Calmly hope for the fruition of trees and growth of plants, 

And await Allah's Response to your prayers and wants, 

Then you have strength to compassionately understand 

Patience with your spouse is simple with firm faith/Imaan. 

~•~ 

"How can you maintain patience..." if you ask "with the man 

Whom Allah wisely chose as your soulmate?" Understand 

That he's human, flawed and imperfect, just as you'd want 

Him to know you can't always please him, meet his demands 

Twenty-four-seven and act like a perfect servant.

~•~ 

Understand there will be moments when he needs to rant, 

Whine about work, ignore you to treat other loved ones, 

Drop your calls for tasks which he sees are more important, 

Or when he acts out each time stress and grief he confronts. 

I don't condone abuse, but understanding your man...

~•~

...whom Allah sent as your friend, not flawless assistant, 

To help each other serve Allah in the way He wants. 

Through each other's flaws your faith/Imaan can be enhanced 

When you embrace patience while love for Allah commands 

You to keep loving your spouse to earn Jannah's entrance.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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Islamic Links: Some Reminders From Brothers In Islam Moosa Richardson And Abu Khadijah

‎بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم 

In the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy.

(Allah the Almighty knows best.) 

Some recommended Islamic knowledge based websites in the English language. Recommended by Ustaadh Moosa Richardson (حفظه الله) [May Allah preserve him. Ameen].

{Compilation & Recommendation Source: http://www.bakkah.net/en/ubayd-advice-internet-forums-identities.htm#comment-80883}

Bismillah, [in the Name of Allah]:

http://www.followthesalaf.com

http://www.TROID.ca

http://www.Islaam.ca

http://www.TheNobleQuran.Com

http://www.SahihalBukhari.Com

http://www.SahihMuslim.Com

http://www.LearnArabic.Com

http://www.Aqidah.Com

http://www.TawhidFirst.Com

http://www.AboveTheThrone.Com

http://www.alBaseerah.com | Bradford UK

http://www.dusunnah.com | Shepherd’s Bush, London UK

http://www.cardiffdawah.co.uk | Cardiff, Wales UK

http://www.salaficentre.com | Manchester, UK

http://www.SalafiPublications.com | Birmingham UK

http://www.SalafiMasjid.com | Birmingham UK

http://www.markazmuaadh.com | Slough UK

http://www.germantownmasjid.com | Philadelphia USA

http://www.ah-sp.com | Abu Hakeem Bilaal Davis UK

http://www.abukhadeejah.com | Abu Khadeejah, Birmingham UK

http://www.salafiebooks.com | Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq UK

http://www.rahmaniyyahpublishing.wordpress.com | Abul-Hasan Maalik USA

http://www.Wahhabis.Com

http://www.Salafis.Com

http://www.Manhaj.Com

http://www.Takfiris.Com

http://www.Ikhwanis.Com

http://www.IslamAgainstExtremism.com

http://www.Shariah.Ws

http://www.Bidah.Com

http://www.Asharis.Com

http://www.Maturidis.Com

http://www.Mutazilah.Com

http://www.Shia.BS

http://www.Barelwis.Com

http://www.Nabahani.Com

http://www.SayyidQutb.Com

http://www.FiqhOnline.Com

http://www.Dajjaal.Com

http://www.IbnTaymiyyah.Com

http://www.IslamJesus.ws

http://www.Islam4Kids.Com

http://www.PiousMuslim.Com

http://www.AlHajuri.Com

http://www.SalafiBookstore.Com

http://www.SalafiSounds.Com

http://www.FatwaIslam.com 

In the Name of Allāh, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy.

As-salāmu 'alaikum wa rahmatullāhi wa barakātuh.

I pray you are well and in strength of Imaan, may Allah preserve you upon the Sunnah. Ameen.

Please display caution with regards to promoting websites and events and speakers that are not endorsed by the scholars, OR at least by the students of knowledge living in the countries these "Da'wah activities" emanate from.

Furthermore, be cautious and look for which websites they are linking to if any. If there are no links, then why? Why not link to Salafi websites that are known for da'wah activities upon Salafiyyah for years (and are supported by the great scholars)? Why not link to Salafi Publications, Troid, Sahab, Sunnah Publishing, etc?

So look to the links section, if there is one. If they don't make themselves apparent then do not promote them until you have sought references from the Salafi students of knowledge in the city or country the site is coming from.

Salafis cooperate with each other and aid each other and show alliance to each and support each other, and maintain attachments to the scholars - This is how we recognise the people of truth in our towns and cities and countries. The one who conceals himself, isolates himself away (in his Da'wah) and does not cooperate with well-known Salafi centres and mosques in his country usually has an agenda. Why is he isolated? Why set up independent Da'wah away from the other Salafis? Why not show alliance with them? Important considerations.

It is the pursuit of personal agendas (in the guise of Da'wah) that leads to separation in our ranks, causing feuds and even misguidance. There are too many historical examples to quote here, but please beware, baarakAllahu feekum.

So here are some tell-tale signs: Not endorsed by well-known Salafi Mosques and Maraakiz in the city or country; no web links to local Salafi Mosques and Centres; or no links at all; overt self-promotion; no links to Salafi websites globally; set up by people unknown on the "Da'wah scene".

So do not promote or endorse without asking the people of the town, for "indeed the people of Makkah are more familiar regarding its streets".

Wa-as-salaamu 'alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh.

Abū Khadījah 'Abdul-Wāhid Alam

Salafi Publications, Birmingham, England.

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Note: Why My Dear Husband And I Are Soulmates But Not "Facebook Friends"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: Why is it that you and your husband aren't connected on social media?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah, while my husband and I occasionally chat online, especially since he is employed in a different city, we aren't "Facebook friends" because I prefer it that way. From the benefits of not stalking his Facebook timeline are: 

1] Not making myself feel upset or insecure every time I notice a comment on any of his status updates coming from some of his female colleagues, female acquaintances (particularly from his high school and college days as he was one of the supposedly popular students back then) and female patients. I'd hate to be that kind of unconfident wife who regularly asks her husband questions like "who's this message from? How long have you known her? Are you 'cheating' on me?" not only because I'm perfectly okay with him being married to up to four wives but I feel that acting that way would signify I can't trust him. It's not easy to reciprocate the love of somebody who suspects your every move. 

2] I married my husband for Allah's sake so we can both make it successfully, with Allah's Will, as friends, soulmates and teammates to Jannah Paradise. I wasn't put on earth to scrutinize every one of his acts and statements (online and offline, 24/7, rain or shine), ensuring that he never does anything which confirms he's actually human. I believe that Allah the Most Wise is the One Who knows precisely how to deal justly with all of His servants in this world and on Judgment Day. 

3] Just as I want my dear husband to believe that my loyalty is authentic, I want him to feel, sense and acknowledge the fact that I trust him for Allah's sake, while being aware of how he already knows that all humans will be questioned about what they intentionally did and said on the Day of Judgment. While you can't compel a loved one to instantly change some defects or negative aspects of themselves, you can choose to focus on appreciating their commendable qualities and lovingly set a good example so they gradually become inspired by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala through you to improve as a striving Muslim.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said:

"The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, “That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala).”

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125 

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Note: 3 Reasons To Avoid Music Addiction

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful  

💌 Imagine if you were at a crowded airport. While waiting for your flight, you overhear an authoritative mom clearly instructing her kids to write down on their journals the number of times they're able to listen to an airplane loudly take off within thirty minutes, making sure they can correctly differentiate the sound of a plane taking off from that of aircrafts landing. While two of her children seem to be doing such exercise compliantly, you witness that the eldest of them appears to be attentively listening to the passenger nearby arguing vehemently with somebody on the phone, despite being repeatedly reminded by their mother and siblings to complete their auditory assignment. What adjectives would you use to describe that child? Disobedient, defiant, stubborn, distracted, and perhaps ignorant of the benefits behind the mother's request for their close attention. 

Now visualize yourself being a student attending English class in which your teacher instructs the students to draw on a sheet of paper a table with three columns. As the instructor swiftly reads an essay just once, your task is to list all the nouns in the first column, adjectives in the second, and verbs in the third. The prize of getting all the answers right would be a free trip to any travel destination they choose. Passing this kind of test is possible if the examinees try their best to pay attention to the teacher reading, without being preoccupied with other noise. 

Allah the Almighty gave His servants the ability to hear in order to serve Him, not to misuse their ears in matters which distract and distance them from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

Undoubtedly a lot of people get so addicted to music that it can become challenging for many to stop. The more a person struggles with music addiction, the more they may find reading from the Noble Qur'an and listening to Qur'an recitations "boring", or the more they feel "annoyed" whenever they hear the Adhaan being called. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 

📣 Three reasons why listening to music is haraam / forbidden in Islam: 

1] Allah the Most Wise prohibited it as a test, to see which of His slaves are determined to obey His Commands, do what He loves and stay away from what He and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam dislike, even though a large portion of society wrongly claim that music is effective "therapy" and "remedy". 

2] The ears are meant for listening to tranquil recitations from the Noble Qur'an, to the Adhaan, to Islamic lectures, to helpful warnings and beneficial reminders to become better Muslims. From the abominable things which one's ears must avoid listening to include: Music, deliberate lies (particularly untruths regarding religious issues), insincere flattery with a selfish agenda, gossip and rumors. 

3] Being obsessed with music, listening to songs as a "pastime", making effort to memorize song lyrics rather than reflecting on the meanings of the verses in the Noble Qur'an, watching music videos regularly to relieve boredom, and singing while multitasking can bring about a significant decrease in one's level of faith/Imaan. The lower one's faith/Imaan level is, the less motivated a person feels when it comes to striving to do good for Allah's sake and applying patience during times of fitna.  

~•~ 

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Malik Al-Ash'ari RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Some people from my nation will drink wine, calling it by different names, and musical instruments will be played for them and girls will sing to them. Allah will cause the earth to swallow them up, and He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will turn some of them into apes and pigs."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4020

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📑 

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/ruling-on-music-and-singing-ibn-baz-albani-ibn-taymiyyah/ 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-importance-of-staying-away-from.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-true-story-of-former-music-addict.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-from-sincere-tawbah-is-to-not-miss.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-how-to-achieve-happiness-as-muslim.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-advice-to-those-addicted-to-tiktok.html 

Poem: Catching Feelings For Certain Souls Could Be From Allah's Tests Which You Can Pass With Faith, Taqwa And Patience

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Another way to defeat feelings of attraction 

For souls whom you can't have is to recall the outcomes 

Of zina. Fornication just leads to destruction. 

Know that our foe shaytan can make the most disgusting 

Deeds seem appealing. Shield your faith and disappoint him. 

~•~ 

Imagine chatting with your "crush" nearly each evening 

Then agreeing to meet up when there's chance to see them, 

When loved ones are away for family vacation 

Or they invite you over to their quiet dwelling. 

So what comes after you've done zina, a major sin? 

~•~ 

After a night of disgraceful fun and enjoyment 

Or some minutes of touching someone who's forbidden, 

You may earn Allah's Wrath for such filthy transgression, 

Become subjects of gossipers' talks and derision, 

Or break up with that "lover", crying and regretting. 

~•~ 

Zina is like a speck of dust. It's really nothing 

Yet shaytan can trick you into thinking it's something 

Important or it can alleviate your boredom. 

Be like a traveler who spots treasures while treading 

But ignores them, aware they're trails that lead to dungeons.

~•~ 

Know that catching feelings for unreachable persons 

Could be from Allah's tests. Trials are not permanent. 

To pass them, with Allah's Will, remain firm, stay patient, 

Maintain Taqwa, learn Islam, remember death often, 

And prefer Jannah's bliss. In Jannah there's no testing.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, you will never leave anything for the sake of Allah the Almighty but that Allah will replace it with something better." 

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22565 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever guarantees (the chastity of) what is between his jaws and what is between his legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-for-allahs-sake-avoid-fitna-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-keep-fighting-to-defeat-vile.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-by-maintaining-taqwa-you-can-avoid.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-tips-to-detach-and-move-on-from.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-three-types-of-patience-apply-them.html 

Tips: Why Many INTJs Seldom Feel Surprised Or Easily Affected

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: What’s your secret, as an INTJ personality type, to apathy or feeling indifferent, unaffected and unfazed whenever some individuals behave disrespectfully such as purposely ignoring your salaams, leaving an online group chat, or when some students and colleagues are being uncooperative, uncommunicative or cowardly passive-aggressive?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah I believe that as long as I try my best to maintain integrity and decent manners, performing whatever tasks I can complete for Allah’s sake as much as possible, the unreliability, misconduct and obnoxious acts of troublemakers don’t matter to me. While I don’t believe in “karma”, I do believe that Allah’s Justice is true and He Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala knows precisely how to deal with His servants and when to carry out His retributions at the most ideal timing. What goes around comes around, if not in this world then surely in the next life or on the Day of Judgment.
I also imagine that the dishonest, obviously jealous, and unmannered people whom I occasionally encounter in this dunya are like actors in a prank or social experiment show with secret spying devices or surveillance gadgets, all working together to nosily see how I’d react to their lack of good character and untrustworthiness. I wouldn’t respond in the way they’d want me to because overacting emotionally would only satisfy their insecure egos. Not giving shaytan and his puppets (who insist on following shaytan’s suggestions) the reaction which they desperately seek annoys them a lot more than attempting to get even every single time they demand the attention that was probably not given to them by their parents, which could explain their awful attitudes and eagerness to upset others, misbehaving to distract themselves from their self-loathing and gigantic load of insecurities.
Alhamdulillah they can be blessings in disguise when their unreasonable choices or self-imposed mistakes indirectly teach me to be more patient and successful at avoiding misdeeds. The more I avoid troublemakers and overacting to their nonsense, Alhamdulillah the more I become accustomed to staying away from what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala and His noble Messenger Muhamamd SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam despise.

~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/poem-whats-it-like-being-muslim-and-intj.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-ways-to-describe-most-intj.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-some-qualities-of-intjs-mbti.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-five-things-that-most-intjs-want.html

Poem: Stay Careful And Selective When It Comes To Learning About Islam

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

 

💌 If you were on a journey, in a land new to you, 

Searching for a specific place, who would you go to? 

The locals in that area, so you won't get confused?

They're familiar with the roads and may grant advice too.

Or first-time tourists who seem relatable and cool?

~•~

If you wished to learn how to drive, from who would you take 

Lessons? Driving instructors who ensure you'll stay safe, 

Who've been driving for years and their driving is okay?

Or those who taught themselves driving from digital games, 

And their driving style guarantees a ride that's unsafe?

~•~

When it comes to learning Islam, from whom can we learn? 

Self-proclaimed "scholars" who yearn for a large following? 

Who twist Islam's message, play with Islamic rulings, 

Who aim to trigger fitna through their talks and writings, 

And they promote bid'ah or make halal "forbidden"?

~•~

Some signs of Muslim speakers to whom we can listen: 

They're sincere to Allah, to themselves and all Muslims.

They love Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and strive to revive his teachings. 

They hate bid'ah, don't do birthdays, oppose misguidance, 

And arrogantly doing takfeer doesn't suit them.

~•~

Since they want rewards from Allah and not from His slaves,

For delivering lectures they don't ask to be paid.

They do Da'wah with wisdom purely for Allah's sake, 

Not for fame nor to get involved in pointless debates.

Good manners, patience and trust in Allah they maintain.

~•~

Always they prefer what Allah and His Prophet (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) say 

To the quotes of sheikhs/shuyookh and what people restate.

Of the beard and Islamic clothes they're never ashamed.

Frequently they fast Sunnah fasts, pray Qiyaam Al-Layl, 

And their faith remains firm when critics besmirch their names.

~•~

As Muslims, they try their best to perfect their Tawheed, 

And to increase their Imaan they regularly seek

Authentic Islamic knowledge with sincerity.

When studying Islam, it's your right to be choosy.

Carefully follow those who lead to Jannah rightly.

~•~

📖 Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I have left you with two matters which will never lead you astray, as long as you hold on to them: The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam)."

Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1661

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ibn Abdul Barr

📖 Abu Najeeh Al-’Irbaad ibn Saariyah (RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave us a sermon by which our hearts were filled with fear and tears came to our eyes. So we said, “O Messenger of Allah! It is as though this is a farewell sermon, so advise us.” He (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, “I advise you to have Taqwa (fear) of Allah, and to listen and obey [your leader], even if a slave were to become your ameer (someone authorized to lead). Verily he among you who lives long will see great controversy, so you must stick to my Sunnah and to the Sunnah of the Khulafaa ar-Raashideen (the rightly guided caliphs), those who guide to the right way. Cling to it (the Sunnah) stubbornly [literally: with your molar teeth]. Beware of newly invented matters [in the religion], for verily every bid'ah (innovation) is misguidance.”

[Abu Dawud]

It was related by At-Tirmidhi, who said that it was a good and sound hadeeth.

Hadith 28 

40 Hadith An-Nawawi

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "What comes over my nation will surely be what came over the children of Israel, step by step until if one of them fornicated with his mother, one from my nation would do the same. Verily, the children of Israel split into seventy-two sects and my nation will split into seventy-three sects. All of them will be in Hellfire except for one sect." They said, “Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who follow my way and my companions."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2641

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

https://abdurrahman.org/2013/07/08/hadith-of-irbaadh-ibn-saariyah-radiyallaahu-anhu-stick-to-my-sunnah-and-the-sunnah-of-the-rightly-guided-caliphs-abu-sufyaan-uthmaan-beecher-audioen/amp/

https://www.abukhadeejah.com/what-is-salafism-and-salafiyyah/ 

📚 Some of the English-speaking Salafi/Sunni speakers who call towards the Qur'an and Sunnah of the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Try to research and listen to their lectures on YouTube attentively:

Abbas Abu Yahya

Abdul Hakeem Mitchell

Abdulillah Lahmami

Abu Adam Jameel Finch

Abu Hafsa Kashiff Khan

Abu Hakeem Bilal Davis

Abu Humayd Saalim

Abu Idrees

Abu Iyaad Amjad Rafiq

Abu Khadeejah Abdul Wahid

Abul Hasan Malik

Abu Muadh Taqweem Aslam

Abu Muhammad Al Maghribi

Abu Talha Dawud Burbank

Abu Uways

Anas Waters

Anwar Wright

Hamza Abdur Razzaq

Hassan Somali

Moosaa Richardson

Mustafa George

Raha Batts

Rasheed Barbee

Rayaan Barker

Sa'eed Rhana

Umar Quinn

Uways at-Taweel

🧾 List of Arabic-speaking scholars of today whose Islamic lectures we can benefit from:

- Imām Abdul-Aziz Ibn Bāz

- Imām Muhammad Nasiruddin al-Albani

- Imām Muhammad Ibn 'Uthaymīn

- Imām Muqbil bin Hādī Al-Wādi'i

- Imām Ahmad An-Najmī 

- Shaykh Sāleh Al-Fawzan

- Shaykh Hassan ibn 'Abdul-Wahhāb Marzooq Al-Bannā

- Shaykh Sālih Al-Luhaydān

- Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbād

- Shaykh Rabi' ibn Hādī Al-Madkhalī

- Shaykh 'Ubayd Al-Jābiri

- Mufti Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azīz Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh Sālih Āl-ush-Shaykh

- Shaykh 'Abdullāh Al-Bukhari 

https://www.salafidvo.com/external-resources.html

Tips: Wiser To Ignore Insecure Trolls Than Indulge In Ignorant Squabbles

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What's the best way to respond when somebody tagged you in an inappropriate post or sent you indecent photos? 

📝 Answer: 1] After quickly noticing that you were tagged in an inappropriate post, don't look at the image thoroughly, don't read the whole message of the user who tagged you, and don't bother analyzing the comments which the post received. 

2] Instantly untag yourself and block the user who tagged you along with anybody whom you believe is connected to such individuals, if you feel that blocking is more effective than individually deleting irrelevant posts from that user. 

3] Say Du'a against the individuals who are fooling around because of their awful upbringing. 

4] Learn not to copy their obnoxious acts and be grateful that you're nothing like them. 

5] Gradually disconnect from social networking websites or lessen your time on platforms where inwardly sad trolls enjoy pranking others to distract themselves from their self-loathing and insecurities.

~•~ 

📖 Khuzaymah Ibn Thabit RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for it is carried above the clouds. Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 3630

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

Note: Stay Contented With The Love Story Which Allah Granted You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 If you're a professional baker, which I'm not, you already know that different cakes and pastries don't require the exact same ingredients for them to be successfully baked and well designed. Banana cake, carrot cake, chocolate, vanilla and mocha flavored cakes don't have the same recipe. The presence of one ingredient in a dessert does not imply that another is a failure simply due to that ingredient's lacking or unavailability. 

Visualize five loyal, patient and contented wives in completely different love journeys: 

1] A wife who got married at the age of eighteen, divorced three years later then remarried her first husband after noticing his value and appreciating his loving efforts to win her back. 

2] A wife whose husband is employed in another country and they only get to be physically near each other at least once a year. 

3] A wife whose husband happens to be her first or second degree cousin while he tries his best to be as fair as he can with his two wives for Allah's sake. 

4] A woman who became a wife, with Allah's Will, in her late thirties after declining several marriage proposals because she stubbornly insisted on patiently waiting for her former ustadh's marriage proposal. 

5] A fourth wife in a polygynous marriage who finds it challenging to get along with her co-wives but she is determined for Allah's sake to maintain patience with them, aware that perfect bliss and everlasting peace can be enjoyed in Jannah Paradise. 

Not all couples' marriages are entirely similar. While many have had grandiose weddings in luxury hotels or function halls, others were glad to conduct their wedding ceremony at their own house or outdoors in a field. While a few spouses are satisfied with just one child or not having children, other wives and husbands prefer caring for large families. Some ladies can handle not seeing the husband for several weeks, while other women would rather move to the city where the husband works in even if they have to cope with polygyny as long as they're not residing far away from the husband. 

What is believed to be okay or necessary with one couple does not signify that another couple are in a "loveless marriage" if the latter's love story doesn't have similar features, on condition that each of the spouses similarly aim to protect the marriage for Allah's sake, striving to do what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves to be worthy of eternal joy in Jannah Paradise where its inhabitants won't be tested with negative feelings including envy, unjustified suspicion, and discontentment with Allah's wise and fair decisions.  

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-tips-to-stay-contented-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-never-compare-your-halal-love.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-not-everyone-on-earth-has-same.html 

Poem: Affluence Isn't Always A Sign That Allah Loves Someone

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 All the riches of Qarun / Korah couldn't save him 

From dying and gradual destruction through misguidance. 

Think of past celebs who died while they were affluent, 

Did their costly outfits, classy cars and large mansions 

Follow their corpses underground or benefit them? 

~•~ 

What's the point of enjoying a life of opulence 

When a slave is deprived of Allah's Love and Guidance? 

Don't they know that earth and its joys are not permanent, 

That Allah created us mainly to worship Him, 

And that delight in Jannah is more everlasting? 

~•~ 

In working to earn halal income there's no problem. 

What is wrong is to regard money as evidence 

That Allah loves you, while financially struggling 

Implies that you're unloved and deficient in blessings, 

When many from the poor shall deserve Jannah's entrance.

~•~ 

While it's fine to work for Allah and help your loved ones, 

Don't form opinion that having wealth in abundance 

Proves that you're one of Allah's most devoted servants.  

The Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) before didn't reside in 

Towers and castles yet Allah the Most Kind loves him.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The poor Muslims will enter Paradise before the rich by half of a day, the length of which is five hundred years."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2354

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Perish the slave of Dinar, Dirham, Qatifa (thick soft cloth), and Khamisa (a special garment), for if he is given (wealth), he is pleased; otherwise (if he does not receive wealth) he is dissatisfied." 

Sahih Al-Bukhari 6435 | In-book: Book 81, Hadith 24 |(English): Vol. 8, Book 76, Hadith 443 

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “O Abu Dharr, do you say an abundance of possessions is wealth?” I said 'yes'. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “Do you say a lack of possessions is poverty?” I said 'yes'. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam repeated this three times, then he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Wealth is in the heart and poverty is in the heart. Whoever is wealthy in his heart will not be harmed no matter what happens in the world. Whoever is impoverished in his heart will not be satisfied no matter how much he has in the world. Verily, he will only be harmed by the greed of his own soul."

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 1618

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-contentment-with-allahs-destiny.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-richness-in-faithimaan-and-manners.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-contentment-with-simplicity-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-what-zuhd-asceticism-really-means.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-true-wealth-is-in-faithimaan-and.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/old/1860 

Tips: How Some INTJs Deal With Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: As a Muslim INTJ personality type, how do you deal with jealousy? Or what is your coping strategy whenever you feel slightly jealous of a friend?

📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah since I'm one of those who strive to stay contented with Allah's Qadr/Decree, I'd say I hardly feel envious of others' tests and blessings. There are moments though when a female acquaintance would share some joyful news about her spouse, specially if they get to see each other a lot more often than I do with my husband, but her act of sharing her joys doesn't compel me to insecurely indulge in gossip. Instead I'd be inspired to be extra loyal, additionally grateful, and more appreciative of my husband.

Another secret or tactic I try in order to avoid acting upon jealous emotions is reminding myself of the negative qualities or different struggles found in the person who's bragging about to make me feel "jealous". For instance, if "A" appears to be so proud of how her husband takes her out to a fancy restaurant on a weekly basis, I recall how I'm blessed Alhamdulillah to not have her unpleasant tendency to occasionally tell lies and how she is incapable of doing some of the things which I can do Alhamdulillah such as reading Arabic text without the harakaat or vowels etc. 

If it's clear that other Muslims seem to enjoy their marriages, I'd train myself to be happy for them for Allah's sake because Allah the Most Wise is the One Who chose those sources of joy to examine their faith/Imaan, while I'd reminisce about the good times when my own husband and I traveled to various cities and spent time together before he became busier with his medical work Alhamdulillah. 

The stronger your belief in Allah's Wisdom and Justice in the way He distributed the gifts to His servants, the less you're prone to feeling insecure, "unaccomplished" or "inferior" whenever you notice others enjoying what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decided to grant His slaves to determine if they'll be thankful for those favors, if they'll behave arrogantly due to what they've been given (such as pleasant looks, tall height, and access to knowledge etc.) and if they can benefit other servants through them by inspiring, advising, or assisting others to reach the same goals which they've achieved with Allah's Will. Alhamdulillah.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a (true believer) believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-thank-allah-for-blessings-he-chose.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-more-contented-you-are-with-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-dont-compare-your-life-journey-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/poem-i-cant-get-jealous-over-worldly.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-how-to-deal-with-insecure.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-its-hard-to-feel-jealous-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-some-secrets-to-not-feeling.html 

Tips: Some Advice On Dealing With ESFJ Personality Types

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

✅ Five qualities which healthy ESFJs have in common, from observing the overall attitude and personality of my husband and a sister in Islam from Malaysia: 

1] As affectionate and empathic individuals who care about the well-being of both loved ones and strangers, they are eager to help out, offer advice, and provide practical assistance whenever they can. 

2] They don't easily judge people according to their looks. They value inner beauty and reliability a lot more than superficial efforts to look "flawless". 

3] They're readily forgiving, resilient, and understanding. Mature ESFJs are not nosy, not impatient, and not annoyingly melodramatic. 

4] They diplomatically know when to be quiet and when to give somebody space. If a project or an agreement doesn't seem to be working out, they can effortlessly let go and try a different activity.

5] They are not people-pleasers. Confident Muslim ESFJs strive to prioritize pleasing Allah the Almighty instead of living their lives solely to meet everybody's demands. 

❎ Five characteristics which are common among unhealthy (insecure) ESFJs, from analyzing the overall attitude and mannerisms of some female acquaintances: 

1} Very often they readily display their emotions, negative or otherwise, without carefully thinking about the possible outcomes of their acts. 

2} Generally they tend to partake in toxic gossip and seemingly enjoy criticizing the lives of most people behind their backs, as if one's ego benefits from broadcasting people's flaws. 

3} They can be too impulsive when making unfair judgment about people according to their outward actions and appearance. 

4} If they dislike you due to intense jealousy or feel intimidated by your confidence, they can be obnoxiously uncommunicative, uncooperative, and unsupportive, or treat you disrespectfully in a passive-aggressive way. 

5} Envy is an unpleasant trait which most insecure ESFJs can struggle with. Seeing other individuals whom they don't regard as loved ones doing better than them in fields or activities they're trying to thrive in compels them to be loudly resentful, selfish, unreliable, needlessly competitive, and overly sensitive.

⭐ What you can do to connect with ESFJ personality types (ESFJ-A / ESFJ-T) if you are willing to get along, specially if they are family or neighbors: 

1) Occasionally do what you can to make it obvious that you have nothing against them and their values, without sacrificing your own dignity. 

2) When you overhear them gossiping or angrily ranting about so-and-so, if you genuinely care, try to approach them one-on-one and kindly advise them regarding why backbiting is something we must avoid for Allah's sake, as Muslims. Out of the 16 personality types, a lot of ESFJs tend to be stereotypically gossipy. 

3) While you frequently include them in your loving Du'as and compassionately correct them whenever they're wrong, patiently put up with their impulsivity, insecurities, and mistakes. Loved ones who are somewhat challenging to manage can train us to improve in applying patience and good character for Allah's sake. 

4) Ensure that you don't intentionally make them feel ignored or emotionally neglected. Some unhealthy ESFJs can quickly take offense if you haven't checked on them online and offline for several days. 

5) Always provide a justifiable reason if ever you cancel plans or did something which affected them negatively. Insecure ESFJs may start doubting themselves or your connection when dealing with misunderstandings and disappointments.

~•~ 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-describing-my-husbands-personality.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/note-how-intj-wife-connects-with-her.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-on-self-discovery-and-mbti.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-what-each-personality-type-looks-like-when-they-are-unhealthy/ 

https://www.16personalities.com/articles/assertive-consul-esfj-a-vs-turbulent-consul-esfj-t

Note: It's Not A Problem If You Unfriend Someone Or Some Users Unfriend You On Facebook

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Not every act of unfriending from a Facebook user is a testimony or declaration that you are a bad person or did something abominable which upset them. Oftentimes a Muslim may decide to unfriend you because they're fed up with trying to control their nafs regarding unwanted feelings of attraction for you every time they stumble upon your name online like a tray of delectable desserts offering itself to somebody who's on a strict diet aiming to lose some weight. It also makes more sense that a non-mahram of the opposite gender would unfriend you to safeguard their faith / Imaan, not out of disappoinment or animosity. 

Other times a number of users may feel safer unfriending you because they're uncomfortable going through insecure feelings of jealousy whenever you occasionally flaunt your lifestyle or joys which they could be currently lacking. Regardless of why somebody recently unfriended you, understand that it's not necessarily your fault. 

Patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Decree in allowing the online connection to end at some point, while still maintaining good manners with them if Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees that you meet offline from time to time.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: 'And for you the same.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2732

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-allah-never-leaves-let-people-come.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-choose-your-online-and-offline.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-secret-to-feeling-indifferent-when.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-sometimes-some-people-detach.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-how-to-react-when-some-users.html 

Poem: In Jannah Paradise There Are No Problems

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Dear Muslim, created to worship Allah the One,

Don't think you're a bad person because of depression,

Magnifying your worries, forgetting your blessings,

Assuming nobody likes you - a false illusion,

~•~

Know I care for your well-being, so here's a poem 

On tips shared for Allah's sake, with heartfelt affection:

You're never alone in this journey. Don't feel lonesome.

We're all in this together, with a noble mission.

~•~

Our main purpose is to please Allah, as His servants,

Through the actions He ordered, with sincere intention.

Our value isn't based on people's criticism,

Specially when they don't know who we are when hidden.

~•~

When some loved ones display hatred or indifference,

Let's take this chance to collect rewards through calm patience,

Understand they've got their own tests and complications.

Give them space till they're strong enough to show compassion.

~•~

To be happy, you don't need a luxurious mansion,

Fancy food nor "pleasure" from forbidden relations.

You just need Allah by your side and strong connection

With our Creator, worshipping Him with contentment.

~•~

Mistakes in life and wrong decisions are tough lessons

Which remind us we're human with many shortcomings.

Nonetheless we don't give up on Tawbah/repentance.

Seeking Allah's Forgiveness is from being Muslim.

~•~

The more Allah loves us, the more Allah examines,

Granting trials so our level of faith is strengthened.

Like in some games, higher levels mean new opponents

Who show up as blessings in disguise to gain our sins.

~•~

Don't worry about haters and their wrong opinions.

It's not our fault if they hate us coz we're different.

Somewhere worldwide are souls who share our situation,

With Allah's Will, in Heaven we'll meet those companions.

~•~

For as long as we're alive let's continue striving,

Thriving with faith, Dhikr and Qur'an recitation,

And worshiping Only Allah until we meet Him

In Jannah Paradise where souls are not examined.

~•~

📖 Suhaib RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Wondrous is the affair of a believer, as there is good for him in every matter; this is not the case for anyone but a believer. If he experiences happiness, he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he experiences harm, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-live-life-to-worship-allah-and-you.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-nine-things-to-avoid-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-ways-to-deal-with-depression-as.html 

Tips: Signs Of Shallow And Superficial People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five signs of shallow or superficial people and three reasons why it's wiser to avoid getting too close to them: 

1] They judge people's values or worth according to their outward appearance, popularity, "fashion sense", income, and rumors spread about them. If you're not as physically fit or good-looking as they are, they consider you unworthy of befriending, unless you start losing weight or display how your presence can benefit their reputation.

2] While they can easily and enthusiastically discuss matters related to dunya's fleeting enjoyments, such as how much they've enjoyed binging at a buffet restaurant or what rides they thought were most enjoyable at an amusement park, they're incapable of saying anything inspirational or asking clever questions when it comes to religious talks or worthwhile discussions on how to become a better Muslim. 

3] They have an awful tendency to backbite and gossip about people's issues which don't concern them directly. If they ran out of jokes to invent regarding those whom they envy or despise unreasonably, they'd eagerly talk about the latest news on their neighbors, colleagues, or favorite celebrities. 

4] They've admitted at least once that they dislike reading or you can tell that they don't put enough effort into genuinely studying about Islam. If they're attending an Islamic webinar or conference, instead of listening attentively, they mostly distract themselves with playing games or net browsing on a different gadget or chatting aimlessly with the person beside them. 

5] A lot of the content they upload regularly on their Instagram feed or Facebook wall revolve around selfies, group photos to flaunt their likability, funny trending videos, advertisements on recommended places for tourists to visit, and cowardly passive-aggressive rants about individuals whom they misunderstand. 

💬 Three reasons why it's a blessing to not keep them as close friends: 

1] Protection from attaining the sins of other Muslims every time somebody from this toxic clique knowingly indulges in backbiting. 

2] The less time you waste with individuals who are a negative influence or who can't motivate you to improve as a Muslim, the more opportunities you find in researching about Islam and resources on self-development. 

3] By refusing to associate with those who are not eager to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while they are more focused on relishing this world's transient joys than striving to deserve Jannah Paradise, you can 

Inn-sha-Allah avoid regret on the Day of Judgment. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-three-kinds-of-friends-whom-we.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/note-your-choice-of-friends-can-say-lot.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/tips-you-have-every-right-to-be-very.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/audios/2404/133-%D9%85%D9%86-%D8%AD%D8%AF%D9%8A%D8%AB-%D9%84%D8%A7-%D8%AA%D8%B5%D8%A7%D8%AD%D8%A8-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7-%D9%85%D9%88%D9%85%D9%86%D8%A7-%D9%88%D9%84%D8%A7-%D9%8A%D8%A7%D9%83%D9%84-%D8%B7%D8%B9%D8%A7%D9%85%D9%83-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A7-%D8%AA%D9%82%D9%8A

Note: Permissibility To Pray The Next Prayer With The Same Wudhu As The One Performed For The Previous Salah As Long As The Ablution Was Not Invalidated

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Allah the Almighty knows best. 

If you have performed wudhu/ablution to pray Salat Ad-Dhuha, you can pray Salat Adh-Dhuhr with that wudhu if you're able to retain it. Likewise if you did wudhu to pray Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl, you can pray Salat Al-Fajr with that same wudhu as long as it was not invalidated (through flatulence, sleeping etc.).

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/10040/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%88%D8%B6%D9%88%D8%A1-%D8%A8%D9%86%D9%8A%D8%A9-%D8%B5%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%86%D8%A7%D9%81%D9%84%D8%A9-%D8%AB%D9%85-%D8%B5%D9%84%D8%A7%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%81%D8%B1%D9%8A%D8%B6%D8%A9-%D8%A8%D8%B0%D9%84%D9%83-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%88%D8%B6%D9%88%D8%A1 

Tips: What To Look Out For When Searching For A Good Muslim Wife And Blessings In Marrying A Righteous Muslimah

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Checklist for each brother in Islam who's willing to find a righteous Muslimah whom he can marry for Allah's sake: 

1] It is known that when she's outdoors or in the presence of non-mahram males, she wears proper hijaab/niqaab and dresses modestly. 

2] She's not the kind of woman who's obsessed with wearing heavy make-up and fancy jewelry. A righteous Muslimah may do whatever she can to beautify herself exclusively for her husband once she gets married. 

3] She actively avoids interacting with non-mahram guys online and offline as much as possible. On social media she doesn't have male users as "Facebook friends" unless they happen to be her male mahrams such as her father, brothers, and nephews. 

4] She strives to follow the correct 'Aqeedah (sound belief), while staying away from anything associated with bid'ah including celebrating birthdays and the so-called "mawlid an-nabiyy" etc. 

5] It is clear that she respects her mother and father. A lady who gets along with her parents and elders well is likely to be respectful towards her future husband. 

6] It is obvious that she doesn't have an addiction to taking nonsensical selfies and narcissistically uploading photos of herself on the social networking websites she often logs into. A pious Muslimah refrains from posting pictures and sketching images of living beings. 

7] She, as well as her parents, do not demand an unreasonably large mahr/dowry or extravagant wedding. The closer a Muslimah is to Allah the Almighty and the more she desires Jannah Paradise, the less demanding she'd be regarding materialistic things, and the more she'd prefer a simple wedding with an unpretentious lifestyle. 

🌼 A man who marries a righteous Muslimah for Allah's sake 

Inn-sha-Allah won't regret because she: 

1] ...will not expect her husband to be perfect and infallible 24/7. She is readily forgiving, empathic, and understanding of his imperfections. 

2] ...will not purposely do anything to humiliate or disrespect him, especially in front of his loved ones and friends. 

3] ...will not suspect him of "cheating" on her just because he briefly spoke to a female client, neighbor, colleague, patient, or student. 

4] ...will not annoy him by being overly clingy, irrationally dramatic, and exceedingly sensitive or unduly jealous and insecure, frequently inspecting the electronic gadgets he utilizes for communication and interrogating him with questions which showcase she doesn't trust him. 

5] ...will not insecurely threaten him with divorce whenever they argue or if ever he informs her that he is interested in marrying another dedicated Muslimah to increase the barakah/blessings in their marriage life, since she has already researched about the wisdom behind polygyny, virtues of rewarding patience, and humbly accepts Allah's Qadr/Decree, aware that Jannah Paradise is our ultimate destination while this dunya is merely temporary.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090

In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28

USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-love-for-allahs-sake-and-marriage.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-clear-signs-that-you-married.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-three-signs-that-your-marriage-is.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-how-pious-wife-reacts-when-her.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-to-single-brothers-in-islam.html