بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Tuesday, June 28, 2022

Links: Encouragement For Those Not Performing Hajj To Fast Sunnah Fasting On The First Days Of Dhul-Hijjah Especially On Yawm 'Arafah


📖 Hunaydah Ibn Khalid RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said that he would fast the first nine days of the month of Dhul-Hijjah, the day of Ashura, and three days of every month, which would be the first Monday and Thursday of the month. 
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2437
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
Allah the Almighty knows best. 
Al-Nawawi said, "It is part of the Sunnah (for those Muslims not performing Hajj/pilgrimage) to fast the first nine days of the month of Dhul-Hijjah."
Source: Al-Majmū’ Sharh Al-Muhadhab 6/386
📖 Abu Qatadah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of 'Arafah (Yawm 'Arafah, the ninth day of Dhul-Hijjah) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the previous year and the upcoming year." Then, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was asked about fasting the day of 'Ashura (10th of Muharram) and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It will expiate the sins of the past year."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Poem: Disconnecting From Toxic People And Liars Is A Blessing In Disguise

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 When Allah the Most Wise loves you, 
He grants you what's best, 
Such as eagerness to collect Islamic knowledge 
From authentic sources and guidance to pass His tests. 
Often Allah lets you meet souls who show disrespect 
So you grow stronger and learn to ditch what He detests. 
~•~
If ever you reflect on why certain people left, 
Why you and a few neighbors failed to deeply connect, 
And why some "friendships" were short-lived, know that you are blessed 
If you're close to Allah, He only wants to protect 
You and your faith from fitna and souls with foul motives.
~•~
Maybe you and so-and-so fought since Allah witnessed 
Their deep-seated grudge and envy of your countless gifts, 
Their false smiles, rehearsed lies, and wish to take advantage 
Of your kindness while their likes clash with your interests. 
Allah may not like them so you had to disconnect. 
~•~
Don't blame yourself if you were lied to. The dishonest 
Will get Allah's Justice and rewards for what they did. 
Ex-friends remind us that just Allah can be trusted. 
Although some "friends" exited, with Allah's Love persist. 
From the selfish and jealous - good manners don't expect.
~•~
When you're from those whom Allah loves, He grants you what's best 
And keeps you away from souls with malicious motives. 
Allah sees what's in the hearts of those He created. 
When you and so-and-so drift apart, don't stay upset. 
Allah's Will to send them away patiently accept.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)." 
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albaani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday." 
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albaani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109, Sahih Muslim 2638
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

Sunday, June 26, 2022

Tips: Five Things Which Insecure Females Do And How To Deal With Them

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Five things which an insecure female may do when she's jealous or intimidated by you, whether she's in her teens, twenties, thirties, forties etc.: 
1] Because she is insecure and envious, she finds it too difficult to congratulate when you achieve something, show support when you can benefit from some words of encouragement, and offer genuinely helpful tips when you ask for advice. 
2] She acts obnoxiously quiet and distant when you're thriving or in a good mood, yet when somebody criticizes you publicly or makes a joke at your expense, she quickly laughs and gets entertained by witnessing you in distress. 
3] Because noticing you happy saddens her, as she envies you, she'd do whatever it takes to depress, demotivate and demoralize you, for example by frequently ignoring your messages on a group chat or setting up a large social event, sleepover or outing while deliberately leaving you out. She's shamelessly desperate to upset you in any way so that your "sadness", "loneliness" or disappointments can prevent you from functioning well, attaining your goals, and succeeding in both worlds. 
4] She gossips about your flaws, faults and any of your attributes which she despises whenever she has the chance, assuming that by cowardly belittling you behind your back, the people who listen to her silly gossip would perceive her as more "superior". 
5] Spitefully she tries to keep track of your social media posts through somebody else's profile or a fake account, so she can amuse herself by reading negative news you share or nosily amass certain info which compel her to become more competitive jealously. 
➡️ How to deal with very insecure jealous females: 
1] Don't expect good manners, integrity, and support from them. 
2] Don't get surprised if they disappear from groups where you're discussed or mentioned positively, and when critics scold or make fun of you, they giggle and act talkative suddenly. 
3] Never feel affected, offended and bothered by their rudeness and frequent exclusion of you. Don't show them the kind of reaction they desperately want whenever they carry out their little tactics to disturb your inner peace which they really envy. 
4] Never doubt your own worth even after you've discovered that they've been gossiping about you. If they ridicule you for some aspects, recall how blessed you are, Alhamdulillah, that you don't struggle from their insecurities and inward misery which trigger their lousy conduct and rudeness. 
5] For Allah's sake, avoid needlessly socializing with them and don't bother stalking their social media accounts. If you stumble upon their comments or status updates, swiftly ignore and skip reading the entire content, as though briskly walking past unnecessary items on stores which don't interest you at all. 
~•~
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

Links: The Importance Of Hajj / Pilgrimage




Hadith: Warning Against Wailing, Being Impatient With Allah's Qadr/Decree And Crying Too Loudly Over The Deceased

Allah the Almighty knows best. 

📖 Ibn 'Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated from his father that the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him." (Refrain from wailing or crying too loudly over those who have returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.)
Reference: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1292
In-book reference: Book 23, Hadith 51
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 2, Book 23, Hadith 379 
📖 1657. 'Umar bin Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The deceased is (punished) tortured in his grave for the bewailing (of the living) over him."
[Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim] 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-seven-things-to-do-to-respect.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/tips-stages-of-bereavement-and-some.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/poem-some-advice-on-how-to-deal-with.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-some-notes-regarding-doing-good.html 
https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/5701/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AC%D9%85%D8%B9-%D8%A8%D9%8A%D9%86-%D9%88%D9%84%D8%A7-%D8%AA%D8%B2%D8%B1-%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%B2%D8%B1%D8%A9-%D9%88-%D8%A7%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D9%8A%D8%AA-%D9%8A%D8%B9%D8%B0%D8%A8-%D8%A8%D8%A8%D9%83%D8%A7%D8%A1-%D8%A7%D9%87%D9%84%D9%87 

Saturday, June 25, 2022

Tips: When To Forgive And Move On. When To Forgive And Reconcile.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Oftentimes when you argue with some oversensitive individuals or those with bad intent in trying to connect with you from the beginning, they blurt out all of their actual perceptions of you and mention remarks which they'd later regret revealing. Although it is not easy for everybody, it is encouraged to forgive other Muslims for Allah's sake just as we too would want Allah the Almighty to pardon our shortcomings when we seek His Forgiveness. In spite of that, being lenient and forgiving shouldn't compel us to stay connected with individuals whose presence brings more damage than merit. 
📨 When can we simply forgive a person and move on, without bothering to salvage the toxic "friendship" (we don't want anything to do with them anymore)?
1] If they mentioned something like "so it's true what those people said" or "so-and-so told me such-and-such about you. I see they're right" during the argument. You can't form meaningful connections with resentful gossipers who enjoy backbiting and believe in the validity of nonsensical rumors. 
2] If they lack courage or integrity to clearly clarify their misconduct, or they respond to your questions with other queries such as "What about so-and-so? They did what I did. Why don't you scold them or condemn their acts also?", "Do you know that there are many others who did a lot worse than what I did?" and "Why do you act like you're the only perfect human being? I did what I did for a reason." You can never trust anybody who is too egotistical, prideful, selfish, greedy, or narcissistic to admit their mistakes and take responsibility for their actions. 
3] If you realized they shamefully lied to you on more than one occasion. For instance, you requested them one day if they could accompany you to go shopping, and they cheerfully agreed. You asked them on the same day if they were really willing to join you outdoors and they reassured that you weren't causing any inconvenience. However, after you confront them about an abominable mistake they could've refrained from, they suddenly accuse you of being inconsiderate because once upon a time, you "made" them feel obliged to accompany you for shopping while they actually had more important tasks to do. Avoid building friendships with people who are not truthful, not trustworthy, and not transparent enough concerning how they truly feel. You can't gain anything valuable by talking to someone who willfully conceals certain truths from you, and they're more concerned about their own greed than rectifying themselves to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
✅ When can you forgive a Muslim for Allah's sake and consider reconciliation? 
1] If they expressed that they were genuinely sorry and shed tears, or they were teary-eyed while apologizing.
2] If they eagerly promise to not repeat what they did while you notice positive change in their overall behavior. 
3] If they apologized to you one-on-one plus they recruited some mutual acquaintances to apologize to you on their behalf. 
~•~ 
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 
Sahih Muslim 2998 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi  

Links: Explanation Of The Book "Kitaab At-Tawheed" (Speaker ustadh Abu Muadh Taqweem)



PDF Document e-book "Concise Commentary On The Book Kitaab At-Tawheed" by sheikh Saleh Al-Fawzaan (to learn more about Islam for Allah's sake, not for sale)

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=a3HQZQeGEUE&list=PLodS-V1Zb6SNCoTVUKO6tsFrTb-4-Dlgf&index=1

Friday, June 24, 2022

Poem: How Can You Tell That You Married A Good Man?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If you were to ask me, "Exactly how would you know 
That Allah the Most Kind and Wise has indeed bestowed 
Upon you the best soulmate? Really, how do you know 
That your husband's a good man who doesn't throw sorrow 
At you, so you can stay loyal wherever he goes?" 
~•~
I'd say, contentedly, without pretense and remorse, 
"Alhamdulillah. I thank Allah that He bestowed 
Upon me a loving spouse. With certainty I know 
There are reasons why Allah connected us two souls. 
In many cases Allah's Wisdom isn't yet shown. 
~•~
I believe and I know, without deluding my soul, 
That my husband's a good man because through him I've grown 
In countless ways, with Allah's Will, I've learned to be strong, 
More patient and understanding when my husband's work 
Keeps him busy, and despite that I don't feel forlorn. 
~•~
I believe he's a good man as I've seen that he goes 
To the Masjid whenever he can, and he has shown 
Me how charming he is with children who often go 
To him to enjoy his fun stories and cheerful jokes.
Overall my husband's vibes bring forth warmth and comfort.
~•~
Although my spouse and I don't meet up daily, I know 
That our marriage is blessed, since my faith/Imaan stays strong. 
My husband's presence inspires Shukr, and when he goes 
Out, I greet Sabr, not forgetting my man's efforts, 
And loving him for Allah's sake outweighs any gold."
~•~ 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātīḥ 5/2125 
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29 
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Thursday, June 23, 2022

Tips: Some Advice On Ignoring Toxic Individuals

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Some tips to ignore toxic individuals at work or school for Allah's sake, as they mutter nonsensical insults whenever you pass by them despite previously advising them to quit acting obnoxious or you're avoiding unnecessary conversations with them because they are notorious for gossiping: 
1] Put your headphones on when you know you'll be walking past them while listening to Qur'an recitations, Islamic lectures or inspirational talks set to loud volume, and stubbornly withhold from giving them eye contact as much as possible. 
2] If you don't have earphones, simply continue listening to some Qur'an recitations, Islamic lectures or inspirational talks on your cellphone / android tablet set to very high volume (to mute the toxic individuals), and steadfastly avoid making eye contact with them as much as possible.  
3] Try to make your walking pace or gait as quick as possible whenever you must walk past individuals who are too toxic to talk to. By behaving as though you're in a hurry and too busy to give them any attention, while minimizing your glances at them, you are signalling the fact you have no interest whatsoever in befriending those who are toxic and unreliable. 
4] No matter what they do to seek your attention, such as purposely disregarding you while being brashly chatty around others, gladly stay away from interacting with them as much as possible. Frequently recall those instances when they acted obnoxiously and proved to you they're not trustworthy at all. 
5] Understand that forgiving people from within doesn't always necessitate reconciliation if reconciling with someone whom you can't trust only brings about trouble in both worlds. Forgive them for Allah's sake as you confidently move on, distancing yourself (to protect your faith/Imaan and overall well-being) from their unreliability, despicable lack of manners, and awful tendency to tell lies countless times.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Ali ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318
Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Wednesday, June 22, 2022

Tips: Questions You May Ask Yourself To Check If You're People-pleasing Or Being Sincerely Kind And Helpful

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Seven questions you may ask yourself to determine if you are being genuinely kind and helpful or you're being a people-pleaser: 
1] The act of kindness you're about to do - are you going to do it to serve Allah the Almighty, not to impress His servants nor to be known as a generous person? 
2] Is that act of kindness something which you also give yourself and your loved ones often, not exclusively to specific individuals? 
3] By doing that act of kindness, are you certain that you only seek rewards and more love from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, instead of actually wanting the approval or attention of specific individuals? 
4] Is that something you really want to do, from your heart, and you know you're doing it for Allah's sake, free from reluctance and compulsion? 
5] Once you carry out that act of kindness sincerely for Allah's sake, can you guarantee you won't feel bothered or offended if the person whom you were kind to doesn't thank you directly, because you're truthfully making effort to please just Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala instead of His servants? 
6] Are you absolutely sure that this act of kindness doesn't oppose what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam approve of and it won't contradict your values? 
7] Can you reassure yourself that this act of kindness isn't done because you're worried about being perceived as "selfish" or "unhelpful", but rather you're trying to be kind since Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves those believers who strive to do charity/sadaqah for His sake whenever possible? 
If you answered "yes" to the above questions, then 
Inn-sha-Allah you're not guilty of people-pleasing. 
May Allah the Most Forgiving forgive all our mistakes and wrong intentions. Ameen. 
~•~
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by the displeasure of Allah, Allah will leave him to the patronage of the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Note: Some Notes About Depression

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Depression may exist in those who lack energy, enthusiasm and motivation to get out of bed, preferring sleeping instead of dealing with the outside world. So a lot of them tend to cancel plans, take breaks from work, procrastinate, avoid socializing or stay isolated for long periods. It can also be present in those who try to keep themselves busy with many activities, intending to remain distracted with what makes them forget about their worries, problems and heavy responsibilities. Depression can be found in both people who don't have a lot of friends to count on and in celebrities who are surrounded by thousands of fans worldwide yet they feel empty inside as though there's something else that's missing.
Anyone from any social class in society, whether wealthy or financially struggling, can experience depression if they don't believe in Allah's Existence. Without knowing the main purpose of our creation, when things go wrong or we're dissatisfied with life from constant comparison, we may wrongfully start thinking there's no point in living. Inner joy, peace and contentment are all possible when we realize the reality of why Allah the Almighty created us, which is to live our lives to worship Only Allah until we see Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in Jannah for our faith/Imaan and sincere striving with patience.
Don't be depressed because of lacking trustworthy companions; you have Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who always listens and understands exactly how you're feeling.
Don't be saddened if the job you currently have doesn't allow you to get as rich as you wanted to be; what matters is you continue trying your best to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala patiently and care for your loved ones with halal income that also enables you to do charity when necessary.
Don't aim to collect money for a luxurious mansion in this temporary platform of examinations; this dunya is fleeting and your destination should be Jannatul Ferdaus where happiness and perfection are everlasting.
Whenever negative feelings of regret, anxiety and sorrow visit you, recall they're meant to expiate your sins as purification, remind you that you're human, and focus on attaining Allah's Love with more Dhikr, Du'as, prayers, acceptance of Allah's Qadr and good deeds like frequent Qur'an recitation. Furthermore, the more you dislike this world for whatever reason, see it as an encouragement to persistently strive to please Allah the Most Merciful until you're deserving of Jannah's entrance.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318, Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2807
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If the sins of a servant are numerous and he does not have good deeds to compensate, Allah will afflict him with sadness as an expiation for him."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 24708
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti

Monday, June 20, 2022

Note: Random Facts About Oneself Survey (A to Z get-to-know-you questions)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 A-Z get-to-know-you questions, random survey, some facts about oneself: 
1] Adjective which accurately describes you: Loyal.
2] Breakfast you usually have: Bread and coffee. Alhamdulillah.  
3] Countries / cities you've been to: Alhamdulillah some of the places I've traveled to include 
Saudi Arabia, Malaysia (Kuala Lumpur, Langkawi, Pahang, Putrajaya), Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong, Thailand, France (Paris), England (London), Denmark (Copenhagen, Aalborg), Egypt (Cairo, Giza), USA (Washington DC, New York, Los Angeles California, Orlando Florida, Mississippi), UAE (Dubai, Abu Dhabi), at the airports only - Bangladesh, Bahrain, Qatar, Oman, Greece etc.
4] Dream you still recall: Seeing several Muslimahs in a large hall praying in different groups then walking away from the divided groupings and approaching an unidentified Muslimah wearing niqab and clad in all black who offered me a cup of tea or some warm beverage.
5] Error you've made in the past and you avoid it as much as possible: Making instant judgment about some people without being actually acquainted with them yet. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. 
6] Five qualities you want or admire in an ideal friend: 
Trustworthy, truthful, confident (not insecure nor prone to jealousy), ambitious (with notable goals) and supportive.
7] Gardening - do you enjoy it? I'm interested in it but haven't actually tried it yet. 
8] Helpful tip or advice from your dear parents: 
From my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) - Be kind and generous whenever you can. Don't stop fasting the Sunnah fasts. 
From my dear father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) - Be humble. Don't meddle in affairs which do not concern you.
9] Inspirational quote or Hadith you'd like to share: 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever travels a path in search of (beneficial and authentic) knowledge, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will make easy for him a path to Paradise."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2699
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
10] Joking or being playful with others - how often is it done?
Generally I'm serious and somewhat quiet around those whom I'm not close to. The more familiar I am with somebody, the more comfortable I am with showing my sense of humor now and then. 
11] Kindness - define it, in your own words. 
Kindness doesn't always signify giving out gifts and freebies to those whom one cares about, but to be kind is to maintain good manners and prevent oneself from treating people unjustly.
12] Love - explain it, from your perspective. 
When you truly love a Muslim for Allah's sake, including your spouse, you want them to succeed, thrive and be happy in both worlds, so patiently you help one another do the deeds which lead you to Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. 
13] Married - are you? If so, in what year did you marry? 
Alhamdulillah, yes I'm married. After rejecting several marriage proposals back in Saudi Arabia, my husband and I married in the year 2006. I was 20 while my husband was 28.
14] Nine turn-offs, awful attributes which cause you to be uninterested in wanting to befriend someone: 
1~ Numerous times they've proven to be dishonest and unreliable. 
2~ They are selfish and greedy opportunists.
3~ In general they behave like typical narcissists with overinflated ego.
4~ They are lazy, passive and unclear or not direct when communicating.
5~ They've made it evident that they're not very eager to learn more about Islam, attend Islamic classes or listen to beneficial lectures. 
6~ They are unconfident and seem to care too much about how society perceives them.
7~ Occasionally they partake in gossip and readily believe in rumors.
8~ You can sense that they're jealous of you by their frequent eye-rolls, disrespectful conduct, and unreliability.
9~ A lot of times they mistrust you and suspect your motives.
15] Opinion you have which a lot of individuals disagree with: 
I believe that if a Muslim husband is financially, emotionally and responsibly capable, he has the right to be married to up to four wives regardless of their tribe and nationality. 
16] Personality MBTI and/or enneagram type: 
INTJ 1w9 Alhamdulillah.
17] Question you frequently ask others: 
"How are you?", "Are you sure?" and "Why?"
18] Rainy or sunny weather, which do you prefer? Rainy weather. Alhamdulillah, there are more blessings especially when you say Du'a during rainfall. 
19] Subjects you disliked in school: Math and chemistry. 
20] Teacher's name whom you still remember: 
Abla Salwa at Al-Yamama National School in Riyadh city. She was one of the kindest teachers I've met. 
21] Unappealing quality or bad habit common among some individuals but which you refrain from: 
The urge to gossip or spread a Muslim's secrets. 
22] Vegetables you enjoy eating: Pumpkin, cucumbers, potatoes.
23] Weird fact about you: 
Alhamdulillah it's easy for me to emotionally detach from certain individuals. 
24] Ex-friends - do you have any? If so, what did you learn from disconnecting? 
Alhamdulillah yes. I've learned that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala is the Only One Whom we can fully trust, and that a friendship can't last long if one of the individuals is envious.
25] Year 2020 - what have you learned from it? 
To maintain strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while being carefully selective about the content you absorb online and offline.
26] Zoom application - when was the last time you used it? 
Maybe some time ago. 
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Sunday, June 19, 2022

Hadith: A Recommended Du'a To Recite Frequently Before Sleeping



📖 Al-Baraa’ ibn ‘Aazib RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When you go to sleep, perform ablution (wudhoo) as (you do so) for your prayer, then lie down on your right side and say: 'O Allah, I submit my face to You, I entrust my affair to You, and I commit myself to You, in hope and in fear of You. There is no refuge or place of safety but with You. I believe in the Book which You have revealed, and in the Prophet (Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) whom You have sent.' Then, the Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Make these your last words. If you died in this night of yours, you will have died upon (the fitrah) pure nature."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6311, Sahih Muslim 2710
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Saturday, June 18, 2022

Tips: Some Advice On How Not To Feel Nervous Or Tense Around "Attractive" People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Some advice on how not to feel tense or nervous around individuals whom you find "attractive", good-looking or "intimidating":
1] Learn to control your gaze, refrain from staring at them unnecessarily, and quit putting them on a pedestal. Don't overestimate their agreeable qualities. Never assume they're 100% "perfect" nor guess you don't have what it takes to be up to their level. 
2] Recall that despite their tall height, supposedly good looks or impressive credentials, ultimately we are all slaves of Allah the Almighty and He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala will always be above us. 
3] Remind yourself that they're similar to you in terms of being humans with their own sets of flaws, shortcomings, struggles they often go through, problems to solve, worries and other emotions they occasionally feel. Now and then they excrete body wastes and perspire like you do. Why worry too much about appearing "flawless" when they themselves have countless imperfections?
4] Acknowledge the fact that even if you perceive them as "unique", "awe-inspiring" or "outstanding", somebody else or a number of Muslims around the world may still outdo or surpass them in many ways. Don't treat them as though they're the most exceptional and invincible entity you've ever encountered. Even if they sometimes behave as though they're entitled to preferential treatment, maintain proper manners with them without underestimating yourself and denying the gifts which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to grant you. 
5] Keep a strong connection with Allah the Most Powerful, strengthen your faith/Imaan further by continuously seeking authentic Islamic knowledge sincerely for Allah's sake whenever you can, and strive to please only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala rather than desperately wanting to be seen as part of the "in-crowd" or someone who's "appealing". Confidently believe that your overall success in both worlds is not dependent on any of Allah's servants.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Friday, June 17, 2022

Tips: Five Things We Must Not Expect From Actual Narcissists

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Five things we should not expect from somebody who is struggling from actual kibr / narcissism: 
1🌼 Truth: 
A lot of narcissists like to invent supposedly remarkable stories about themselves most of which aren't true, intending to make themselves appear "special" or "superior" to individuals whom they're secretly envious of. 
❎ For example: A narcissistic woman in her fifties frequently brags to her neighbors that she worked as a photographer for a magazine in the middle east, while in reality she was employed as a housemaid in Saudi Arabia for only two years. Her lies are designed to inflate her own ego, as she can't afford to be truthful concerning her previous occupation. 
2🌼 Support / sympathy / words of encouragement: 
Since narcissists are typically more concerned about their wants than others' needs, they're unable to display empathy for anybody unless that individual can clearly benefit them in numerous ways. 
❎ For example: A narcissistic "friend" almost never shares your online posts regarding your halal business or affordable items you're showcasing for sale because they don't want you to succeed in any way.
3🌼 Sincere apologies: 
The pride or ego of a typical narcissist is usually so enormous that they are misled to assume they're too "flawless" and "infallible" to commit a single mistake. Their deluded attitude prevents them from courageously acknowledging their faults and saying sorry whenever they are aware of having done something wrong. 
❎ For example: A narcissistic professor or instructor who publicly scolded you some time ago for something they wrongly assumed about you wouldn't bother reaching out to you to apologize, even if they realized after the incident that they are actually the one who is at fault.
4🌼 Strength to forgive and accept an apology: 
If a typical narcissist is too proud and too cowardly to sincerely apologize, likewise they'd be too egotistical, too selfish, and too insecure to pardon you. 
❎ For example: A narcissistic cousin with whom you had an argument about a particular topic, whether serious or trivial, pridefully refuses to communicate with you because they're still offended by your opposition to their views.
5🌼 Actual good character/ integrity / reliability: 
Although some narcissists seem eloquent and charismatic, if you really spend time around them, you'd witness that they truly lack decent manners, they're mostly unreliable, and they'd treat you disrespectfully whenever an opportunity arises.
❎ For example: Narcissist colleagues purposely ignoring your salaams while answering others' greetings "cordially", "clumsily" bumping your shoulder when walking by, and refraining from responding to most of your messages so you can feel as sorrowful as they are, conducting themselves obnoxiously because these narcissists can't stand feeling so jealous of you.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith in his heart will enter Hellfire."
Source: Sahih Muslim 91
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhārī 5743 
Sahih Muslim 2607
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

Thursday, June 16, 2022

Tips: On Dealing With Sibling Rivalry And Jealousy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: What advice can you give regarding occasionally feeling jealous of my half-siblings? I probably wouldn’t feel as envious if it was evident that our father treats us fairly. It is obvious that he gets to spend more quality time with them than with me. Am I committing a sin every time I envy them?
📝 Answer: Negative feelings of jealousy are often triggered when you believe that you’ve been treated unfairly because a certain person has more of something than you or they were able to attain something which you have been striving to achieve. Envy is common among some co-wives when their husband doesn’t put enough effort into making it clear that he’s trying his best to take good care of them all equally. A lot of married Muslims are prone to envy when they don’t truly understand what fairness in Islam actually entails. 
Being fair in polygyny doesn’t necessarily oblige the husband to give the exact amount and size of something to each of his wives, but to strive to provide every wife of his with what she really requires, and people’s needs aren’t always alike. 
Visualize five students of the same grade, but from different schools, answering some questions in an examination hall. While they are taking the tests, the proctor or invigilator distributes several items to the students, and what they distributed are not entirely the same. Student 1 receives a protractor and drawing compass, student 2 receives three blank sheets of paper, student 3 receives a large set of colored markers, student 4 receives two highlighters and a ruler, while student 5 doesn’t receive anything until he asks for a sharpener. Would you say that the person who was distributing deserves to be described as “unfair” when the reason why they didn’t give all the examinees exactly the same item is because not all of their exams were similar and each student was given only what they required to pass the test they were taking? No. The proctor or invigilator treated the students as fairly as they could because they ensured that each student is given enough time to complete answering the questions in their test, each student has a right to keep their answers confidential and undisclosed to the other examinees, and each student has their own seat and desk to work on. Additional tools and supplies are granted depending on each student’s needs and circumstances. 
Train yourself to believe that Allah the Almighty is the Most Just and He Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala doesn’t allow anything on earth to take place unless He wants it decreed. What you and your half-siblings go through have already been predestined by Allah the Most Wise even years before you were born. While you can’t control Allah’s Qadr/Destiny, you can still aim to be an obedient servant of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala by accepting what He destines with rewarding patience/Sabr and contentment. 
Being contented with what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala chooses to give you doesn’t mean you must pretend to be happy with less than what you think you deserve but, because you’re a Muslim Alhamdulillah, you submit to Allah’s Will, patiently accept what Allah grants you or withholds from you, and look forward to earning more of Allah’s Love and peaceful admittance to Jannah Paradise where you can enjoy whatever your soul desires. 
Other tips to deal with feeling jealous of your half-siblings once in a while: 
1] Know that envy is one of the despicable traits of our enemy shaytan who envied Prophet Adam ‘alaihis salaam since the beginning of Adam’s creation. From the ways to show enmity to shaytan is to differ from him as much as possible and avoid what causes him to rejoice. 
2] Realize that Inn-sha-Allah we will not be held accountable for how we feel but for what we decide to do based on our feelings. 
You’re not committing a sin if you feel sad whenever you miss some loved ones, but you would be sinning if your sadness leads to intentional self-injury. Since your body has been entrusted to you by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala, purposely injuring yourself as a way to express distress is a sign you don’t respect what Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala has granted you. 
You’re not guilty of a sin if one day you found yourself feeling attracted to or “having a crush on” a person who reminds you of yourself or who has many admirable qualities, but you would be committing a sin if your feelings of attraction pressure you to do an action which ultimately leads to zina (fornication / adultery). 
The fact that you sometimes feel jealous of your half-siblings indicates you’re only human, and you actually care about spending time with your father, because if you never cared about your dad, those occasional feelings of jealousy wouldn’t bother you in the first place. You’re not committing a sin simply by feeling envious from time to time, as long as your jealous emotions do not provoke you into doing something which would displease Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, such as indulging in bullying or gossip, or vocally criticizing Allah’s Qadr/Decree. 
3] Comfort yourself by knowing that although your half-siblings get to spend more quality time with your dad, you still have a lot of blessings to thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala for, such as plentiful opportunities to learn more about Islam and the correct ‘Aqeedah, a strong personality that is not easily affected by criticism, and at least one righteous Muslim friend (your mother, an auntie, your future spouse etc.) who oftentimes mentions you in their loving Du’as/supplications. 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has pardoned my nation for what occurs within themselves (indecent thoughts, inappropriate imaginations, or unavoidable feelings), as long as they do not speak of it or act upon it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6287 
Sahih Muslim 127
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way to not belittle the favors of Allah."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125
Sahih Muslim 2963
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

Tuesday, June 14, 2022

Note: Minimize Pointless Conversations With Friends Who Enjoy Gossiping

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📜 Question: What's the best way to deal with friends who enjoy joking about other people so much so that I was told by some mutual friends how they also backbite about me when I'm not around? I've known them for many years, so leaving them wouldn't be easy.
📝 Answer: As Muslims, Alhamdulillah, our aim in life is to do what pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala so Jannah Paradise becomes our destiny. Anything which hinders, slows us down or prevents us from achieving our goal to deserve entry to Jannah Paradise must be stopped or avoided for Allah's sake as much as possible. You can't be a pious Muslim if you constantly hang out with misguided youths who aren't strong enough to refrain from surrendering to their desires and this dunya instead of striving to improve in the Deen. The kind of company you keep can reflect the type of person you are or want to be. So typically if you chill with gamers, druggies, gangsters, fashionistas, selfie-addicts, celeb-wannabes or gossipers, you may end up being influenced by some of their traits, absorbing their energy, or acting like them to some degree. Thus, be extremely careful with regards to who you count as your close friends.
People who find pleasure in mocking or backbiting about others are in reality insecure cowards, who are so miserable or emotionally wounded that they feel desperate to pass on their misery unto the subjects of their gossipy discussions. If they were actually clever, confident and happy with themselves, they wouldn't demoralize their values by attaining others' sins and giving out their good deeds through sinful backbiting. Every time a person talks badly about you in your presence or absence, they simply prove that they're jealous of you for having a good quality which they lack, while they receive the wrongdoings which you previously did and, if there are any, the rewards of their past good actions are added to your account of deeds. Therefore, don't feel bad when secretly unhappy clowns or jokers backbite about you. Their gossip and ridicule obviously indicate how envious they are of you, as they can't stand seeing you doing well in front of them, so they cowardly insult you from behind.
Before gradually distancing yourself from the "friends" whom you've been acquainted with for a long time, advise them sincerely and inform them about the prohibition of backbiting. Gossiping is a major sin because Allah the Most Merciful disallowed it, since those who indulge in gossip behave improperly as if Allah the All-Knowing isn't seeing them and hearing their immoral conversations, arrogantly making fun of His creations as though they themselves are free from defects and imperfections of their own.
If your companions stubbornly refuse to take your advice into consideration, gladly grant them your avoidance. Don't feel guilty about keeping yourself far away from whatever and whoever distances you from wanting to become a better Muslim. 
Bad friends can always be replaced 
Inn-sha-Allah by decent ones eventually in the future. It's better to walk alone in the correct direction than to side with a large crowd heading towards trouble or they're making the wrong decision. In the end, our good deeds are what accompany us to our graves, not our family, friends nor a supposedly impressive reputation. So even if you don't have any close friends who can make you laugh out loud often, what matters is the safety of your faith/Imaan and your good deeds aren't wasted, especially through backbiting other Muslims.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the most beloved to me are those of you with the best character, soft in nature, friendly and befriended. The most hateful of you to Allah are those who spread talebearing and gossip, who cause discord between loved ones, seeking misery for the innocent."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsaṭ 7693
Grade: Hasan li ghayrihi (Fair due to external evidence) according to Al-Albani

Note: Signs Indicating That An INTJ Feels Comfortable Around You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: What are some signs indicating that a person (of the same gender) whose MBTI personality type is INTJ feels comfortable around you?
📝 Answer: You know that an INTJ feels comfortable in your presence, since they regard you as a good friend or loved one, when: 
1] ...they don't budge, flinch or move away if you occasionally touch their arm, shoulder or upper back gently while talking to them, or if they sometimes offer you gentle pats on your shoulder, arm or upper back when speaking with you. If an INTJ is mostly aloof, distant and prefers to minimize or avoid shaking hands with you, they probably perceive you as a stranger. 
2] ...they show you their more affectionate side, clarify to you their shortcomings, are capable of being extremely sympathetic toward you, become more talkative with you than with mere acquaintances, and/or ask you if they can hug you every now and then. 
3] ...they often make effort to prolong online and face-to-face conversations with you. Instead of giving you very brief and terse answers, they try to ask you several questions to be better acquainted with you, no matter how random or weird their queries may sound.
4] ...they're able to behave playfully around you or find many of your jokes amusing. 
5] ...whenever they feel the need, they reach out to request your advice on some issue, for your interpretation on a strange dream they've had recently, or for your opinion on something they're about to undertake. 
❎ Some factors which could prevent many INTJs (and INFJs) from feeling at ease with you: 
1] Being guilty of disappointing them and proving that you're so unreliable numerous times. 
2] Showing unwarranted interest in discussing the lives of other individuals and partaking in futile gossip. 
3] Making it obvious that you're somebody who obnoxiously judges people according to how they look on the surface and what kind of outfits they choose to wear. 
4] Actually feeling uneasy and tense around them. Usually if you feel anxious, unpleasantly awkward or insecure around some INxJ types, they can sense your uneasiness and feel unrelaxed similarly. 
5] Carrying negative feelings of jealousy or uncertainty regarding their values. It can be difficult to trust any person whose acts confirm they're so envious of you.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

Monday, June 13, 2022

Tips: Seven Things Which Unhappy And Insecure Individuals Can't Really Do

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Seven things which many depressed, unhappy and insecure individuals find very difficult to do: 
1] Being sincerely happy for you, celebrating your wins and achievements, and feeling at ease when you're in a good mood. 
2] Offering some help when you require assistance, granting support when you can benefit from some words of encouragement, showing concern for your well-being, defending you in your absence or presence when some critics malign you, and providing helpful tips and advice. 
3] Treating you with proper conduct and common courtesy. 
4] Answering your salaams, greetings, invitations, calls and messages responsibly and as timely as they can. 
5] Truthfully apologizing to you once they're aware that they've committed a mistake. 
6] Wholeheartedly thanking you and expressing gratitude upon knowing that you've done them a favor. 
7] Sharing their joys or sharable items they have in abundance. 
In general, a person with sore muscles and a toothache may not interact with you as cheerfully as an individual without any ailment would, because their discomfort prevents them from behaving appropriately, unless they're strong enough to maintain good manners regardless of how they're feeling from within. 
Next time Inn-sha-Allah when you encounter a seemingly disrespectful and grouchy stranger, such as an uncongenial salesperson or waiter, understand that maybe they're struggling with a lot of personal problems which cause them to misbehave, and they're not as confident as you to be capable of retaining beautiful character despite their fluctuating moods.
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📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut