Poem: Quick Advice For The Wife Who's About To Become Her Husband's First Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Advice to wives whose husbands intend to remarry, 

And it's their first time to get into polygyny: 

Firstly, Alhamdulillah, the fact that you agreed 

To let your spouse love another woman lawfully 

Indicates your strength and patience with Allah's Decree.

~•~

So glad tidings, good on you, you're not someone who seeks 

Dunya's fleeting pleasures and desires temporary. 

You're strong enough to accept Allah's Will patiently 

In letting your husband marry again legally.

You want him happy, not guilty of adultery.

~•~

Understand your husband loving others doesn't mean 

The love he has for you has prominently decreased. 

See it as a way of granting more space and relief. 

When he's with the other wife, you're free to eat and sleep, 

Resting from constant perfection of spousal duties.

~•~

Your husband's second wife shouldn't be your enemy. 

Together, for Allah, or indirectly compete 

Not in who receives the most love from your shared hubby, 

But in who's good at self-control when sad or angry, 

And who's better at Sabr when triggered by envy.

~•~

Since she's part of the family, show some sympathy, 

Pray that Allah grants you pure hearts free from jealousy, 

Don't let ego make you both emotionally weak, 

And if gradually you can't be close friends then at least 

Don't harm her. Treat her with manners, fairness and mercy.

~•~

📖 Abdullah ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Poem: Have Good Thoughts About Allah And Believe In Allah's Mercy

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 "I didn't pass the board exam. Does Allah hate me?", 

"Until now I'm single. Is this for eternity? 

Is my singlehood a sign that Allah is Angry?", 

"Frequent miscarriages. No kids. Is Allah Displeased? 

What have I done to go through all these calamities?"

~•~

"Life is so stressful. Am I from those whom Allah hates?", 

"I overslept. Did I do something wrong yesterday? 

I hope Allah still loves me though I prayed Fajr late.",

"Is Allah still punishing me for my past mistakes? 

Why are Allah's responses to my prayers delayed?"

~•~

When negative thoughts about our Creator arise, 

Recall: Allah is the Most Merciful and Most Kind. 

Allah's Love is greater than a mother's to her child.

Allah provides us with what's right, not what we desire. 

Allah knows we're not perfect and loves it when we try.

~•~

Our sins are not larger than Allah's Ability 

To forgive those who do Tawbah with sincerity.

Allah sees our limitations, capabilities, 

Our needs, our condition and eagerness to succeed. 

In Allah's Rahmah/Mercy never cease to believe.

~•~

Keep doing good to please Allah. Be glad you're trying. 

When you fall into temptation, rush to repentance, 

Believing that Allah is indeed Most Forgiving. 

Slack, err, forget, get tired at times because you're human. 

Trust Allah, strive and think well of Him, as a Muslim.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Allah the Almighty says: 'I am as My servant expects Me and I am with him as he remembers Me. If he remembers Me in himself, then I will remember him in Myself. If he mentions Me in a gathering, then I will mention him in a larger gathering. When he draws near to Me by the span of his hand, I draw near him by the length of a cubit. When he draws near Me by the length of a cubit, I draw near him by the length of a fathom. When he comes to Me walking, I will come to him running.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6970

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves to meet Allah, Allah loves to meet him. Whoever hates to meet Allah, Allah hates to meet him." I said, “O Prophet of Allah, all of us hate death and are averse to it.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is not like this. Rather, when a believer is given glad tidings of the Mercy of Allah, His pleasure, and Paradise, he loves to meet Allah and Allah loves to meet him. When a disbeliever is given news of punishment at the Hand of Allah and hardship to be imposed by Him, he hates to meet Allah and Allah hates to meet him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 157

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Follow the right course, seek nearness to Allah, and give glad tidings. Verily, none of you will enter Paradise by his deeds alone." They said, “Not even you, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Not even me, unless Allah grants me His Mercy. Know that the most beloved deed to Allah is that which is done regularly, even if it is small."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6099

Sahih Muslim 2818

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Note: Regarding Not Completing The Sunnah Fasting Of The White Days (Ayyaam Al-Beedh)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: While I fasted two days from the Sunnah fasting of ayyaam al-beedh (the three white days, 13th, 14th and 15th of each month), I did not fast on the third day due to some circumstances. Will I still receive rewards for the two days I fasted?

📝 Answer: Three is no doubt that you will (Inn-sha-Allah) be rewarded for them if you sincerely fasted those days for Allah's sake, not intending riyaa (to show off or impress others) nor sum'ah (to be heard that you did some righteous actions). 

Allah the Almighty says, "Whoever comes (to Allah) with a good deed will be rewarded tenfold." [Surah Al-An'aam verse 160] 

(There are other Ahadith/narrations regarding how a Muslim is rewarded for the good deeds they do to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.)

From the Fataawa of sheikh AbdulAziz Ibn Baz (May Allah have mercy on him. Ameen.)

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📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has recorded good and evil deeds and He made them clear. Whoever intends to perform a good deed but does not do it, Allah will record it as a complete good deed. If he intends to do it and does so, Allah the Almighty will record it as ten good deeds, up to seven hundred times as much or even more. If he intends to do an evil deed and does not do it, Allah will record for him one complete good deed. If he does it, Allah will record for him a single evil deed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6126

Sahih Muslim 131

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Note: Patiently Persevere For Allah's Sake As Your Husband's Loyal Wife

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If you're a wife who's been married for at least a year now, you may have noticed that your husband occasionally shows he doesn't 24/7 make you his top priority. Because of his human flaws and personal necessities, sometimes he behaves like a gigantic baby when he prefers to sleep all day instead of going out with you on a memorable date, or his concentration on the latest news seems a lot more focused than when he chats with you, or he seems more in love with playing games or sports like basketball than spending romantic moments beside you exchanging hugs and sweet cuddles. Other times you wonder if you're the one he married or he technically proposed to his office, car or electronic gadgets a long time ago. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem. As a Muslim wife Alhamdulillah who loves your husband for Allah's sake, the man whom Allah the Most Wise chose to be your other half because He knows that there are many similarities between you and your spouse along with all the shared experiences to which you both relate, you must expect that not everything in marriage life can go perfectly always. When situations get tough and blood temperatures often raise, one of you should be strong enough to stay patient and from needless drama walk away. After talking out your concerns and marital problems to Allah the Almighty, embrace patience for Allah and gain plenty of rewards by honoring your significant other with unconditional love fortified by steadfast loyalty. The rewards of the patient believers are never wasted. Never give up loving your husband for his inability to watch over you every second nor disconnect a blissful union because of a temporary problem. At all times rely on Allah the Most Wise. Remain as your husband's faithful wife not because you're weak and submissive, but because you're a strongly determined Muslimah who can fight off your selfish desires (without overlooking your own rights) and you believe that the ephemeral joys of this world can never be compared to the eternal bliss of Jannah Paradise.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhī 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

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Note: In Islam There's No Need To Wear Engagement Or Wedding Rings

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📜 Question: Is wearing a ring for the women a bid'ah that is derived from Christian customs? Because I have read that the wedding ring or engagement ring is just for the man even if it is made from silver. Is this correct?

📝 Answer: The ring which the questioner is asking about we do not know of any basis for it (in Islam). And it appears to us that wearing such a ring (to display that one is married or engaged) is similar to resembling some unbelievers, as it is from their customs, according to what we were informed. Thus it is better to not take it as your own practice. What signals (or indicates) marriage is through official engagement and formal agreement between the one proposing and the proposed, and that is sufficient without requiring any special ring. And once the marital rites have been sealed or finalized, all matters have been accomplished, so there is no need for a wedding or engagement ring (to prove one's marital status), specially if this is one way of imitating the practices of the enemies of Allah the Almighty. It is imperative to avoid copying the misguided ways of those who oppose Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala as much as possible.

From the Fataawa of sheikh AbdulAziz Ibn Baz (May Allah have mercy on him. Ameen.)

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by displeasing the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of people by displeasing Allah, Allah will leave him to the patronage of the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever imitates a people is one of them."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4031

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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