Tips: Questions You May Ask Yourself To Check If You're People-pleasing Or Being Sincerely Kind And Helpful

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Seven questions you may ask yourself to determine if you are being genuinely kind and helpful or you're being a people-pleaser: 

1] The act of kindness you're about to do - are you going to do it to serve Allah the Almighty, not to impress His servants nor to be known as a generous person? 

2] Is that act of kindness something which you also give yourself and your loved ones often, not exclusively to specific individuals? 

3] By doing that act of kindness, are you certain that you only seek rewards and more love from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, instead of actually wanting the approval or attention of specific individuals? 

4] Is that something you really want to do, from your heart, and you know you're doing it for Allah's sake, free from reluctance and compulsion? 

5] Once you carry out that act of kindness sincerely for Allah's sake, can you guarantee you won't feel bothered or offended if the person whom you were kind to doesn't thank you directly, because you're truthfully making effort to please just Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala instead of His servants? 

6] Are you absolutely sure that this act of kindness doesn't oppose what Allah and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam approve of and it won't contradict your values? 

7] Can you reassure yourself that this act of kindness isn't done because you're worried about being perceived as "selfish" or "unhelpful", but rather you're trying to be kind since Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves those believers who strive to do charity/sadaqah for His sake whenever possible? 

If you answered "yes" to the above questions, then 

Inn-sha-Allah you're not guilty of people-pleasing. 

May Allah the Most Forgiving forgive all our mistakes and wrong intentions. Ameen. 

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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by the displeasure of Allah, Allah will leave him to the patronage of the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Some Notes About Depression

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Depression may exist in those who lack energy, enthusiasm and motivation to get out of bed, preferring sleeping instead of dealing with the outside world. So a lot of them tend to cancel plans, take breaks from work, procrastinate, avoid socializing or stay isolated for long periods. It can also be present in those who try to keep themselves busy with many activities, intending to remain distracted with what makes them forget about their worries, problems and heavy responsibilities. Depression can be found in both people who don't have a lot of friends to count on and in celebrities who are surrounded by thousands of fans worldwide yet they feel empty inside as though there's something else that's missing.

Anyone from any social class in society, whether wealthy or financially struggling, can experience depression if they don't believe in Allah's Existence. Without knowing the main purpose of our creation, when things go wrong or we're dissatisfied with life from constant comparison, we may wrongfully start thinking there's no point in living. Inner joy, peace and contentment are all possible when we realize the reality of why Allah the Almighty created us, which is to live our lives to worship Only Allah until we see Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in Jannah for our faith/Imaan and sincere striving with patience.

Don't be depressed because of lacking trustworthy companions; you have Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Who always listens and understands exactly how you're feeling.

Don't be saddened if the job you currently have doesn't allow you to get as rich as you wanted to be; what matters is you continue trying your best to serve Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala patiently and care for your loved ones with halal income that also enables you to do charity when necessary.

Don't aim to collect money for a luxurious mansion in this temporary platform of examinations; this dunya is fleeting and your destination should be Jannatul Ferdaus where happiness and perfection are everlasting.

Whenever negative feelings of regret, anxiety and sorrow visit you, recall they're meant to expiate your sins as purification, remind you that you're human, and focus on attaining Allah's Love with more Dhikr, Du'as, prayers, acceptance of Allah's Qadr and good deeds like frequent Qur'an recitation. Furthermore, the more you dislike this world for whatever reason, see it as an encouragement to persistently strive to please Allah the Most Merciful until you're deserving of Jannah's entrance.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318, Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most privileged people in the world among the people of the Hellfire will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in the Hellfire, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any good? Did you get any blessing?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord!' Then the most miserable people in the world among the people of Paradise will come on the Day of Resurrection to be dipped in Paradise, then it will be said: 'O son of Adam, did you see any hardship? Did you have any distress?' He will say: 'No, by Allah, my Lord! I did not once see hardship or distress.'"

Source: Sahih Muslim 2807

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If the sins of a servant are numerous and he does not have good deeds to compensate, Allah will afflict him with sadness as an expiation for him."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 24708

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti

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