💌 One fond memory I can't forget concerning my husband is that time when we, along with some relatives, were at the airport to fetch his mom who was arriving from Hajj. As my elderly mother-in-law was walking towards the car, my husband requested me to sit at the backseat instead of sitting beside him at the front like I usually do. I could've protested saying "But I want to sit near you! As husband and wife we should be right next to each other." but I didn't, as doing so would seem bratty, stubborn or laughably childish on my part. So Alhamdulillah I obeyed him, sat behind where he was driving and rested my hand on his left shoulder like I was massaging him softly during the drive.
💚 Three lessons learned regarding your husband and mother-in-law:
1▪ Just because your hubby has a close bond with the special person who gave birth to him doesn't mean he loves you less or your companionship isn't meaningful at all. Regardless of whether or not he is a mama's boy, try to appreciate the fact that he's doing a good deed in respecting his beloved parents. If you persist in succumbing to insecure feelings of jealousy, even with regards to his mother and father, there may be something wrong with you.
2▪ Maintaining good ties and friendliness with your husband's family, particularly his mother, can make him a lot more attracted to you. Although your spouse may not always show his sensual romance overtly, if he regularly sees you talking to his mom like you're best friends or catches you and his mother cooking together in the kitchen, or he passes by you sympathetically listening to her stories, despite not fully understanding all of them, he'd be having butterflies in his tummy giving him a rewind of what it feels like to have an intense crush again, as he adores you from a distance. Nonetheless spend time with your mother-in-law sincerely to gain extra rewards, rather than simply putting on an act to impress your husband.
3▪ Don't make it an issue if your husband isn't the passionately romantic type. Some men who grew up as boys with complicated upbringing or difficult student life are unable to demonstrate loving emotions as easily as other confident lovers can. Wives whose husbands showcase love in subtle ways instead of carrying out extremely grand gestures of devotion should strengthen the Muslim wives' patience, train her to remain grateful for Allah's sake and enhance her acceptance of whatever Allah the Almighty has destined.
A husband's love isn't necessarily proven in frequently buying you classic roses and expensive gifts, but in constantly thinking of you, having strong feelings for you, mentioning your name in his regular Du'as, complimenting you from time to time, and trusting you that you'll stay as his tough loyal wife who is courageously ready to forgive him and understand his side of the story, which only a few would care enough to know.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi
Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."
Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125
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