🗒️ Question: What advice can you give young Muslims regarding coping with loneliness while their parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles have passed away and they struggle to connect with individuals who are around their age?
📝 Answer: 1] Firmly believe that we are never truly alone, since our Creator Allah the Almighty hears and sees us at all times. Two of Allah's Angels are also nearby, observant and ready to record our actions, one on the right and another on the left side.
2] Finding it challenging to make friends with the people whom Allah the Most Wise destined that we would meet may be from Allah's trials. While some are tested with affluence, others are tested with poverty or financial struggles, and while the faith/Imaan of some Muslims is being examined through fame and popularity, others are being tested by the inability to fit in with the people they surround. Aim to pass this test by striving to stay patient for Allah's sake, feeling contented with Allah's Love and Guidance.
3] Consider solitude as an actual blessing in disguise, specifically if it means being protected from 1) socializing with the wrong kind of friends whose interests mostly prevent you from being close to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, 2) befriending untrustworthy individuals who secretly envy you and desire to see you fail in both worlds, or 3) affiliating yourself with misguided groups which in the long run would impact you negatively.
4] Understand that you're not the only human being on earth who oftentimes feels lonely. Loneliness usually occurs when you remain idle for long periods away from your duties towards our Creator Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and instead of trying to attain peace by serving Allah the Most Loving you expect to find optimum joy in Allah's flawed servants who are full of worries and problems to solve.
5] Keep yourself busy sincerely doing righteous deeds which can elevate your status, with Allah's Will, in Jannah Paradise. The more you read from the Noble Qur'an and the more authentic Islamic knowledge you acquire for Allah's sake, the stronger your faith/Imaan gets and the less prone you are to being affected by unpleasant emotions.
6] Acknowledge the fact that anything in this world which makes you cry and smile is temporary. So don't be surprised if some individuals whom you thought would support you would depart eventually. Know that everlasting happiness, pure bliss not contaminated with what's haraam/forbidden, can be enjoyed in Jannah Paradise.
7] It is possible for a Muslim who is "friendless" to be loved by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and meant for Jannatul Ferdaus. It is also possible that a number of celebrities are destined to join the inhabitants of hell/jahannam, if Allah the Most Just doesn't forgive them, despite their large following and supportive fans. Your true value as a living being isn't determined by how many people regard you as their friend. Your heart and sincere efforts to please Allah the Most Kind are what can measure your worth, and your good deeds are the ones to accompany you even after each person who claims to love you leaves the cemetery.
Allah the Almighty knows best.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149
Sahih Muslim 2960
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56
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