بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Sunday, August 27, 2023

Note: If you do at least 3 of these, you're an immature "adult"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Checklist to determine if you're emotionally immature (or insecure) and you seriously need to work on developing your good character - if you are guilty of at least three of these, you aren't a mature adult:
1. A lot of times whatever emotion you feel inside gets outwardly expressed in the form of morally inappropriate acts or negative statements. It's obvious that you let silly emotions control you most of the time. [   ] 
2. You're obnoxiously nosy, frequently spying on others' lives instead of minding your own business. Regularly stalking the online profiles of those whom you secretly envy or despise is one of your strange obsessions. [   ] 
3. You stupidly assume that it's alright to steal, scam and deceive others. [   ] 
4. Like an oversized bully whose gigantic ego gets hurt easily, one of the weird things you usually do is giving instructions to similarly ignorant or naive people to misbehave and mistreat others just so you can feel better about your discontented self (e.g. "when so-and-so arrives, pretend to ignore her. I want her to feel as awful as I did when she told me such and such. Don't answer her messages so she can feel how I felt when she chose to boycott my YouTube channel etc.". [   ] 
5. In many instances, particularly at several social events, you've displayed how terribly greedy and selfish you are. It would be an absolute lie to describe yourself as genuinely helpful, kind and generous. [   ] 
6. You always insist on being liked or admired by certain individuals. It's difficult for you to detach and move on from an indifferent person who clearly isn't willing to start any connection with you. [   ] 
7. Idiotically you believe that it's okay to invent lies just to inflate your gargantuan ego and make others feel "jealous". [   ] 
~•~
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (The Almighty) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing is heavier upon the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection than his good character. Verily, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) hates the vulgar and obscene person (prone to wicked conduct and vile speech such as knowingly telling lies, backbiting, spreading rumors)."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2002
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Verily, among the best of you are those with the best character."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3366
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi
Labels: , , , , , , , , ,

Tips: Can an introvert wife stay contented with an extroverted husband? Of course

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: Is it possible for a wife to get along peacefully with her husband if she's an introvert while he's an extrovert? What do you usually do as an INTJ (1w9) to avoid conflict with your ESFJ (3w2) husband? 
📝 Answer: 1. Consistently remind yourself of the main purpose or multiple reasons why you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal in the beginning. If you truly love your spouse for Allah's sake, courageously forgiving him and maintaining steadfast patience (Sabr) with his shortcomings won't be challenging. 
2. Stubbornly recall all of your husband's admirable qualities as well as the numerous favors and loving gestures which he has undeniably shown you in the past and present (for example oftentimes feeding you with his right hand and generously sharing his meals with you even though you've got your own food, caring enough about you to provide sincere advice and correcting you whenever he notices you doing something wrong, attempting to make you laugh with his cute sense of humor every now and then etc.). 
3. For Allah's sake spend time together whenever you can through attending some family gatherings, particularly during Ramadan and Eid. Make it evident that you also care about his loved ones by frequently visiting them, at least once a month or every two months, and greeting them online when you're not busy. 
4. Let your husband know about your likes and dislikes, and familiarize yourself with what he prefers and what makes him uncomfortable. As his loyal and patient wife, refrain from unreasonably expecting him to be one hundred percent "perfect", and stay away from saying anything which could bring about pointless drama as much as possible.
5. As long as you both aren't doing what clearly displeases Allah the Almighty, genuinely be okay with letting him spend time with his friends and colleagues without interrogating him about every single one of his actions as if you can't trust him, just as you wouldn't want him to be the excessively jealous and insecure type of husband who prevents his wife from building meaningful connections.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
Labels: , , , , , , , , ,
Subscribe to: Posts (Atom)