💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Question: As an INTJ personality type, what would you do if you found out that some users unfriended you? Or what's a rational way of reacting to certain people's decision to discontinue being "friends"?
📑 Answer: Alhamdulillah, without fabricating lies and ego soothing, my usual reaction when I discover that a user unfriended me on Facebook is I don't feel surprised or offended at all because:
1) I understand that people are temporary. The Only One Who always remains is Allah the Almighty.
2) Since I'm strictly selective regarding who I regard as an actual friend, I'm incapable of getting emotionally attached to people easily. So even if an acquaintance or neighbor left after several years, their departure doesn't affect me, as there was no real connection built in the first place.
3) Even if the person who unfriended me had pleasant qualities or they can't be described as "toxic", I'd accept Allah's Will, with contentment, in letting them go because Allah the Most Wise decides who gets to stay in our lives and who should exit stage right for our own well-being.
Once a user is no longer connected to me on social media, I don't bother stalking their accounts or thoroughly reading their posts and any comment mentioning their names. They're like withered leaves which fell from a tree, and picking them up for future use or evaluating if they've changed positively doesn't sound appealing to me.
Oftentimes Allah the Most Loving causes us to meet particular souls only for us to separate on a destined date to train us to rely on nobody but Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. The more we get accustomed to noticing people come and go, the more our heart detaches from the longing for others' approval to just focusing on attaining Allah's Love and Guidance to Jannatul Ferdaus where the hearts of Allah's slaves aren't tempted anymore by negative distractions such as undue suspicion, dishonesty, and jealousy.
As for relatives who aren't on my "Facebook friends" list, including my dear husband, my brothers and some aunties, of course I care about them for Allah's sake and Alhamdulillah we're on good terms. I respect the right of any human to select what kind of status updates and content they regularly absorb on their news feed.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318
Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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