Tips: Advice On How To Tell If You've Married The Right Man

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: Are there any signs indicating that I've married the right guy or the most ideal man for me? How can I tell for sure that I'm in a blessed marriage? 

📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. You can sense that Allah the Most Wise blessed you with an ideal husband when:- 

1] ...it's absolutely easy to forgive your spouse for Allah's sake no matter how many times his responses to a number of your text messages are delayed, how often he may talk to you with an annoyed tone of voice, and how sometimes he forgets to comply with some of your requests simply because he's a human being who goes through various challenges at times just like you etc. Even if he didn't apologize directly for a certain mistake he's done, you've already forgiven him wholeheartedly.

2] ...almost every night and day, you find yourself mentioning his name lovingly in a lot of your Du'as/supplications and prayers. 

3] ...you can't stop yourself from missing your other half and soulmate whenever he's not around. Oftentimes when you're having a meal, when attending a gathering, when outdoors, a few minutes before sleeping, and even while doing the laundry or dishes, you literally miss your husband and wish he was nearby, particularly to observe your fierce loyalty towards him at all times. 

4] ...every time you notice several couples online and offline flaunting how joyful they are in their love life, instead of feeling envious and insecure, you're actually inspired to appreciate and persistently respect your husband even more for Allah's sake. 

5] ...you're truly unable to feel jealous whenever somebody brags about their marriage story or expresses their admiration for spouses with plenty of children. For instance, if someone tells you "so-and-so got married to a Turkish Muslim", "she and her new husband with their twin newborns reside in a ginormous mansion" and "her Saudi partner is taking her to South Korea this vacation", your reaction would be like "good for her. What's important is that she's contented from the heart and their marriage ultimately, with Allah's Will, leads to Jannah Paradise. As for me, Alhamdulillah, my contentment with the man whom Allah the Most Loving wisely chose as my soulmate and husband is undebatable, undeniable and not artificial at all. He's the only soul in the entire universe whom I'm in love with and, if truth be told, I don't regret marrying him for Allah's sake at all." 

6] ...you and others have observed that ever since you willingly accepted your husband's marriage proposal for Allah's sake, the level of your faith Imaan has increased significantly and remarkably. 

7] ...there's a strong probability of not wanting to marry anybody else but him if ever he decides to split up with you for whatever reason. You'd rather have a second and third wedding / Nikaah with him for Allah's sake in the future than to begrudgingly search for a different man.

~•~

📖 Thawbaan RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbaan 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: The Type Of Woman I'd Like To Be If Possible

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 To join the good souls whom Allah the Most Powerful

Loves and always guides to Him is one of my life goals. 

The qualities which I believe are admirable

In a Muslimah are those which make her capable

Of striving towards Jannah with faith unshakable.

~•~

I'm still a work in progress; I'm not infallible, 

Yet I'm trying my best to do what is feasible. 

The kind of woman whom I regard as notable

And worthy of emulation is one who's able

To sacrifice her pride for deeds more profitable.

~•~

She trusts Allah, she's not overly emotional, 

And by fluctuating feelings she is not controlled. 

She doesn't act on envy, she's not unreasonable, 

And by this world's brief enjoyment she is not enthralled.

She lives to serve Allah, not to please people at all.

~•~

The type of woman I'd like to be, if possible, 

Is one who never feels tired or fatigued when stressful

Situations arise so she can do more worthwhile

Actions which lead to Jannah but that's impossible - 

I feel exhausted at times; I'm not invincible -

~•~

But I won't quit serving Allah the Most Merciful

Who sees my eagerness to do what is essential

For my soul to succeed in both worlds. With Allah's Will, 

I'll do whatever I can to achieve my life goals, 

And ignore shaytan's pleas to give up sincere efforts.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Do good deeds only as much as you are able, for the best deeds are those done regularly (consistently) even if they are few."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4240

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is no envy but in two cases: A man whom Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) has given wealth and he spends it rightly in Allah's Way, and a man whom Allah has given wisdom and he acts upon it and teaches with it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 73, Sahih Muslim 816

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best of women among the people of Paradise are Khadija bint Khuwaylid (RadhiAllahu 'anha), Fatimah bint Muhammad (RadhiAllahu 'anha), Maryam bint 'Imraan ('alaihas salaam) and 'Aasiyah bint Muzahim ('alaihas salaam) the wife of fir'awn."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 2896

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Poem: If We're Too Different, We Won't Connect, And I'm Not Bothered By It.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ I'm unsurprised when certain souls and I can't connect, 

Like when wood and plastic stay still when placed near magnets. 

When actors with foul motives or clowns who are depressed

Meet one who's authentic and grateful for Allah's gifts, 

Don't expect them to become besties. They won't connect...

~•~

....Souls won't connect if they don't share the same interests, 

If the languages they speak invite frequent conflict

And their conflicting vibes mostly trigger awkwardness, 

Like when a turtle would hide or stare with nervousness

Upon seeing creatures bigger or stronger than it.

~•~

Some females and I can't click? I'm not bothered by it. 

This one glorifies divorce offline and in public, 

While I encourage myself and loyal wives to keep 

Loving with patience the man whom Allah selected 

As your soulmate. Don't take a blessed marriage for granted.

~•~

And that one ...with this one, they're so materialistic, 

Interested in amassing joys which are short-lived, 

While I prefer to join the few whom Allah guided

To strive for true success and Jannah's eternal bliss.

The wise don't incline to those who live like slugs and pigs.

~•~

To guess that a person's "lonely" for not posting pics 

Of their group outings and trips online is as stupid

As suspecting a couple's love if they don't have kids. 

We're here to serve Allah, not to build many friendships.

I feel no shame in being cautious and selective.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56

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Tips: Why Some Loved Ones Can't Always Answer Your Messages In A Timely Manner

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 Seven probable reasons why someone who cares about you for Allah's sake (such as your spouse, sibling, relatives or colleague etc.) may not always answer your messages in a timely manner, so forgive them when their responses are delayed sometimes: 

1] Maybe they actually typed their response and pressed the "send" or "submit" button but their internet connection was unstable at that time or unknowingly they weren't connected to a WiFi network for some reason. 

2] Maybe they typed a message and sent their response but due to some temporary glitches or technical issues in the messaging application from their side or yours, some of their messages failed to reach your inbox. 

3] They probably responded but somebody who has access to your gadgets may have borrowed your cellphone and deleted their messages from your inbox for some reason, possibly due to intensely despising the sender or they believe that deleting unnecessary, irrelevant or incomprehensible messages would make inboxes appear more organized. 

4] There could be a possibility that they noticed your new messages and quickly opened the message thread or conversation panel but something else came up when they were about to respond to you. Maybe they were distracted by one of their children, nieces, nephews or an infant they were entrusted with, or they had to take an important phonecall or video call until they eventually forgot to answer your messages. 

5] Perhaps they've just had an argument with a loved one and they felt too upset or agitated to answer your messages after skimming through their inbox. 

6] Perhaps they're seriously struggling with overwork or depression and their stress or bad mood prevents them from feeling enthusiastic about answering every message they receive. 

7] Maybe they're one of those lazy or traditional individuals who aren't interested in typing messages, whether lengthy or concise, and they are more comfortable with talking to you face to face. 

If you truly love a Muslim for Allah's sake, you wouldn't easily abandon them even if they aren't very communicative at times.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719

Sahih Muslim 2563

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

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Note: Adult Bullies And "Mean Girls"? Don't Be Too Stupid To Join Them.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Five examples of situations in which bullying (or unfair treatment) among "adults" (in their late 20s, 30s, 40s etc.) can occur sometimes: 

1🔹 At one's workplace. For example: when some of your colleagues frequently exclude you from group meetings online and offline because of your weight, tribe/race/nationality or "intimidating" personality etc. 

2🔸 Among co-wives. For example: when you're the fourth wife and the first three wives dislike how their allowance has been significantly reduced because the husband has to divide the amount to be distributed as fairly as he can to the four women whom he loves for Allah's sake. Or when you're the third wife while the other two wives treat you as if you don't exist because you've recently embraced Islam and they assume you're just a "golddigger".

3🔹 Among entrepreneurs or managers of home-based businesses. For example: when a number of them evidently endorse one another while encouraging their supportive customers to boycott your products. 

4🔸 Among older students attending regular classes and lectures. For example: when some of them form a circle of close-knit friends and they consistently remind each other to deliberately ignore you as much as they can because they enviously perceive you as more competent and knowledgeable than them. 

5🔹 Among mothers of children enrolled at the same school. For example: when some of the moms split into various cliques and they all make you feel unwelcome whenever you try to interact with them. Deep-seated jealousy or awfully low self-esteem causes them to act disrespectfully. Perhaps your kids are more successful than theirs, they loathe how your inner beauty reminds them of their ugly insecurities, or they simply detest you for not being capable of speaking in their language or dialect. 

✅ How to cope with grownup bullies who are so immature and inwardly miserable despite their age: 

1] Thank Allah the Almighty that He did not make you as unhappy, agitated and ethically pathetic as they are. Alhamdulillah you're able to sleep soundly and peacefully while those emotionally disturbed bullies can't stand how acknowledging that you're way better than them in myriad ways compels them to constantly conspire against you. 

2] Unapologetically unfollow them on social media. Don't bother checking on their status updates filled with cowardly passive-aggressive rants and lame calumnies indirectly referring to you. 

When you discover that they went on an outing or event without you, do yourself an immense favor and gladly ignore the cheesy photos they upload which thankfully have no connection with you. Imagine yourself as an eagle or owl while those bullies are maggots or wild beasts enjoying themselves feasting on filth and mud. You're not missing out on anything valuable if a get-together fails to inspire you to become a better Muslim since most of the discussions involve gossip and petty complaints.

3] Shield yourself with Taqwa and firm trust in Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Don't be affected at all by what Allah's servants claim and assume about you, particularly if they themselves are the ones who are depressed and it's true that they don't know you entirely. 

4] Stay adamant and uncompromising when it comes to being selective and careful concerning your choice of close friends. Never feel sorry for yourself for avoiding toxic individuals and disengaging from those who clearly proved to you that they're untrustworthy due to their irrefutable envy towards you.

5] Remind yourself that you're not the only one in the entire universe who must counteract jealous opponents or deal with critics. Even our Only King and Creator Allah the Most Powerful Who owns the Most Magnificent Names and Attributes regularly witnesses ignorant acts and bad conduct from His slaves. 

May Allah the Most Loving forgive us always, protect our faith Imaan, cause us to hate whatever He hates, and guide us to the best deeds which lead to Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. 

~•~

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

📖 Abu Nu'aym reported: Fudayl Ibn 'Iyaad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If you mix with people, mix with those who have good character; it only invites to good. Do not mix with those who have bad character, for it only invites to evil.”

Source: Ḥilyat Al-Awliyā’ 11728

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Poem: They Think I'm Jealous? They're Just Flattering Their Ego

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 From my secrets to feeling unfazed by jealousy, 

Unaffected when some people try to purposely 

Make me "jealous" when their acts simply provoke pity, 

Are contentment and patience with Allah's Destiny, 

And positive self-talk which can augment self-esteem.

~•~ 

I believe Allah distributed His gifts wisely 

To His servants. No matter how much each soul receives, 

There's wisdom in what Allah gives, withholds, and retrieves, 

To observe if we'll respond with gratitude or greed, 

And if the blessings become keys to Jannah's entry.

~•~

If I sense that certain users online cheesily 

Post photos or status updates to arouse envy, 

I don't get "jealous", can't wish "if only that were me", 

As I refuse to admire anyone who's guilty 

Of inauthenticity or insecurities. 

~•~ 

If I feel that someone loves Allah the Almighty, 

While their faith/Imaan is firm and their good vibes are real, 

I reject invites from shaytan to greet jealousy, 

Since the gifts a soul enjoys come from Allah Only, 

And I don't take for granted what Allah chose for me.

~•~ 

If I truly "envied" some, I'd act ungraciously, 

Mistreating them and gossiping to soothe misery. 

Still I'm not "envious", can't question Allah's Decree, 

And when I spot things I want enjoyed by somebody, 

I thank Allah, knowing Allah knows what's best for me.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look to those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way not to belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125 

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a (true Muslim) servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

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Tips: How To Tell If Some Souls Weren't Destined To Connect With You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: How can you determine or sense that you and certain individuals were not destined by Allah the Most Wise to get along while you don't feel guilty at all about your disinterest in befriending them? 

📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. I believe that I and certain souls weren't meant to truly connect and become more than mere strangers:- 

1] ...when I am uninterested in learning more about their life story, interests, goals and personal background. Coming up with questions to ask them about themselves can be a challenge particularly if there are several things they've done which cause me to perceive them as "fake", pretentious, inauthentic and untrustworthy. 

2] ...when I am aware of their account/s on social media, including their YouTube channel or Facebook page/s if they manage one, but I never bothered to comment on or check out any of their posts, not even a single one, while more than seven months have already passed by. 

3] ...when it's obvious that I despise mentioning the word they selected to address themselves as, and I actively abstain from stating their first name vocally and in print as much as possible. 

4] ...when they've requested a number of individuals to go out with them someplace or to work on a project together and I actually feel delighted and relieved from within that they felt the need to exclude me so I am spared from enduring their rehearsed acts, absurd lack of basic good manners, and lousy lies they invent to massage their overly gargantuan ego.

5] ...when I don't expect any goodness from them, so I'm unsurprised whenever they do something supposedly disappointing or "offensive". To me, their awful efforts to act like overgrown yet still immature bullies indicate they've got to be intensely jealous of me for several reasons, perhaps because I'm okay with polygyny, have traveled to more than eleven countries and can understand some Arabic language Alhamdulillah, am married to a medical doctor and I am not the type of insecure female who feels envious easily etc. 

☑️ Note: Although I don't show interest in starting a friendship with those females (most of whom are ESFPs and ISFPs) who are incompatible with me, I avoid: 

1) Backbiting and gossiping about them. 

2) Treating them unjustly on purpose. 

3) Knowingly stealing from them and damaging any of their belongings. 

4) Disrupting their image and inviting "fans" to join me in despising them. 

5) Ignoring their salaams if they're Muslim or sharing constructive feedback if they politely request for my opinions. 

Lions aren't obliged to learn how to bark to achieve inner peace and contentment if some puppies enjoy barking at them for their attention, and for self-fulfilment a wolf doesn't have to chase disdainful donkeys when the latter start acting aloof and distant. 

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-allahs-love-is-more-important-than.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-differences-between-people-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-three-reasons-why-our-vibes.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-five-reasons-why-were-uninterested.html 

https://youtube.com/watch?v=gNntYrRnxPE&si=EnSIkaIECMiOmarE

https://youtu.be/G6gNx-HeEUs

Tips: Don't Bother Trying To Reconnect With Jealous Narcissists Who Are Too Proud To Forgive You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: A group of friends and I had a falling-out (silly argument). I approached them to apologize for whatever I did that offended them but they still refuse to treat me in a friendly way like they used to. They even deleted me from their group chat and unfriended me on social media. What can I do to become close to them again? 

📝 Answer: A group of sad clowns, sorry, individuals with such gigantic ego and lousy oversensitivity, who are too obsessed with themselves that they can't let go of the past drama, aren't worthy of your companionship and attention. There's a stronger reason to avoid them for Allah's sake if they happen to be toxic narcissists who are excessively attached to this transient dunya while they fail so badly to inspire you to become a better Muslim. 

If Allah the Almighty observed any goodness in their hearts, He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala could have guided them to becoming softhearted and humble enough to forgive you. Perhaps Allah the Most Wise allowed them to drift apart to protect you and your faith Imaan from their negative vibes, obnoxious competition accompanied by jealousy among themselves regarding materialism and ridiculous stuff, and their awful tendency of probably gossiping about you when you weren't listening to their absolute nonsense.

Imagine them being worms, snakes or leeches that decide to slither away from you once they discovered that you're a genuine diamond, with a tough surface, or "you can't mess around with me" persona that intimidates them, and they realized you can't provide them with the substance they're desperately searching for. To them, you can't spoil them with false flattery so they choose to avoid you. They're absolutely terrified of getting caught for concealing some ugly lies and invented tales about themselves to appear less plain or tedious, so they frequently exclude you from their shallow gatherings to make you feel as insecure and inwardly gloomy as they are because they despise seeing you cheerful, thriving and contented. 

Attain inner peace in patiently accepting Allah's Qadr/Decree and remind yourself that you weren't created in such a way to be appealing to every single soul whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wants you to meet. Inevitably the more you appear successful or the more you emit good vibes due to strong faith Imaan, Taqwa and inner beauty, the more you may encounter envious females who resent you for being able to do multiple things which they can't carry out (for instance being capable of communicating in Arabic language Alhamdulillah or being one of the few formidable Muslimahs who are fine with polygyny etc.) or haven't yet accomplished. 

Don't force yourself to become "friends" again with people whose despicable pride and ignorance about Islam overshadow their willingness to demonstrate beautiful character. Who cares if they don't like you back, and why bother wishing to be liked by them if they, due to their insecurities, envy and inward misery, likely abhor themselves so much so that they are unwilling to beautify their souls with the strength to pardon other Muslims for Allah's sake? 

For Allah's sake move on confidently, unapologetically unfollow those who are too spiteful and sorrowful to be followed, and focus on doing what you believe can lead you closer to Allah's Love regardless of how His servants perceive us.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."

Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Aslam Al-Habashi RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction." It was said, "How is this?" Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "When you love someone, you become infatuated (obsessed) like a child. When you hate someone, you want destruction for your companion (sister or brother in Islam)."

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1322

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-patience-with-allahs-servants.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/poem-im-not-people-pleaser-i-dont-care.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/tips-three-types-of-grudges-and-how-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-its-not-your-fault-if-youre.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-more-tips-on-how-to-deal-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-forgive-haters-and-move-on.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/poem-to-those-who-enjoy-gossiping-about.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-reasons-why-we-cannot-click.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/06/poem-what-often-leads-to-conflict-or.html 

https://youtu.be/G6gNx-HeEUs 

Tips: Dealing With Awkward Moments As An INTJ Personality Type

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslim whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how do you handle awkward situations? 

📝 Answer: Three examples of "awkward" moments I went through and sometimes do but I don't find them that bothersome: 

1] During our first years of settling in the Philippines after moving from Saudi Arabia when I was trying to practice Tagalog language, I told a salesperson something like "oh buntis ka? Ilan months buntis (pregnant)?" to which the person answered "lalaki ako" meaning "I'm a guy." and I responded with something like "oh sorry, ha! 

(A)kala ko babae ka" (I thought you're female). 

2] Asking an individual "how are you? And so how are you?" (like a malfunctioned android robot) a number of times in one conversation or too frequently in one day when I've already asked them how they're doing upon our initial greeting. 

3] Appearing ignorant when it comes to "formal dining" as the handle of the spoon or fork I'd be using would become messy at times, which is usually why I prefer to ask the staff at most restaurants where the washbasin is to wash my hands and eat with the right than struggle with utensils. 

➡️ How to avoid "awkward" moments: 

1] Think very carefully before you decide to do something and reflect in advance on the probable outcomes of your actions. 

2] Thoroughly analyze your surroundings and see if the environment or condition you're in is convenient or ideal for you to proceed with the task you're about to carry out. 

3] Considerately put yourself in the shoes of the other individual or group and imagine how they may react to your statements or feel about you after behaving in a certain way. 

Those three points are some of the things which a lot of INTJs consider unimportant or unnecessary since they prefer to be direct and straightforward, eager to achieve their goals efficiently without giving too much thought on people's emotions and opinions. This is why looking "awkward" isn't that big of a deal for us.

☑️ Some tips on dealing with "awkward" situations: 

1• Always live life to please and serve Only Allah the Almighty regardless of how His servants perceive you. As long as you believe that you're doing the right thing, without causing deliberate injury to anybody, you shouldn't care about how people view you. They're imperfect and prone to encountering "awkward" situations too.

2• Be aware that every feeling which you allow or encourage yourself to feel on earth is temporary. Feelings of "awkwardness" or slight "embarrassment" will 

Inn-sha-Allah gradually subside, especially if you busy yourself with more productive, meaningful and rewarding activities including reading from the Noble Qur'an with sincere intention and saying some Adhkaar regularly.

3• Be humble enough to recall that you're a human being, so it's normal to make errors now and then. Learn from your mistakes and others' faults, and avoid repeating them as much as possible. 

Being able to laugh at yourself when you make a mistake shows confidence and implies you are not the type of person to let temporary and trivial issues affect how you feel from inside. 

Shame or disgrace on the Day of Judgment is a lot worse than feeling temporarily "ashamed" or "awkward" in this transitory dunya. 

May Allah the Most Merciful always protect us from actual humiliation in both worlds. Ameen.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day (the Day of Judgement), let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, "Let him not harm his neighbor."

And in another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him uphold family ties."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672

Sahih Muslim 47

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "May Allah have mercy on a person who spoke rightly and was rewarded, or who was silent and remained safe."

Source: Shu’b Al-Imān 4579

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-few-tips-on-dealing-with-awkward.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/tips-nine-signs-that-you-are-thick.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/tips-what-immaturity-is-and-what-its-not.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-each-personality-type-handles-awkward-situations/

https://personalitygrowth.com/do-you-know-how-to-assert-yourself-based-on-your-personality-type/

Note: Wretched Couples VS Truly Contented And Blessed Muslim Couples / Spouses

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 Five qualities of wretched couples who deserve each other and who aren't worthy of envy and admiration at all: 

1:- They ignorantly disbelieve in Allah the Almighty and don't know how to properly worship Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

2:- They lack the enthusiasm and sincerity to learn more about the truth Islam. They'd rather stay misguided or delusional than educated and well-informed. 

3:- They resemble each other in being awfully narcissistic, egoistic and obnoxiously full of themselves, appallingly obsessed with materialism or excessive consumerism. 

4:- Although they try to appear contented and confident, inwardly they're actually unsatisfied with what Allah the All-Knowing granted them while they are consistently prone to feeling intensely envious of other individuals. Their discontentment with themselves is revealed through their lousy lack of basic good manners and their inability to quit immature acts such as gossiping and instantly trusting nonsensical rumors. 

5:- They're both incompetent at controlling their gaze, casually mingling with non-mahrams of the opposite gender on a regular basis, and exactly alike in disloyalty, frequently checking out or flirting with multiple strangers despicably. 

✅ Five signs that you and your Muslim spouse are blessed by Allah the Most Merciful to be married to each other: 

1💚 This marriage which Allah the Most Wise has destined actually causes your faith Imaan to strengthen and brings you both closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Thus, there's no remorse at all in marrying each other sincerely for Allah's sake. 

2💚 Through loving each other for Allah's sake, regardless of how busy you both can be, you're mutually enlightened and motivated to study about Islam whenever you can, striving to inspire each other (directly and indirectly) to increase in doing righteous deeds which please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

3💚 Not only has your eagerness to learn more about Islam increased, with Allah's Will and through this pure love, but you and your husband have also improved a lot in gratitude, humility, patience, adulting and empathy. 

4💚 As much as possible you and your soulmate avoid unnecessarily mixing with non-mahrams and behaving indecently with strangers. You both are knowledgeable about the true concept of loyalty. 

5💚 Instead of being selfish and overly attached to dunya, you and your other half strive to generously do Da'wah and charity whenever you can for Allah's sake. You can tell that your marriage is 

Inn-sha-Allah an enormous blessing when becoming a better and wiser Muslim has been attained.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162

Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://quran.ksu.edu.sa/tafseer/saadi/sura24-aya26.html

https://noblequran.com/surah-an-nur/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-why-muslims-who-love-allah.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/10/note-prayed-salat-al-istikhaara-then.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-dont-compare-your-marriage-life-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-good-intentions-in-marrying-can.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf

Note: INTJ 1w9

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Seven things which you may relate to if you're an INTJ personality type with enneagram 1w9: 

1] While you're thick-skinned, confident and unafraid of criticism, you avoid socializing as much as possible with unreliable individuals whose negative vibes you despise.

2] You don't oblige yourself to appear likable to every single individual you meet. If somebody is unwilling to reciprocate your attempts to befriend them, you eventually stop trying to develop the connection since you generally abhor wasting time on anything unfeasible or unreasonable.

3] If you seem helpful and cooperative at times, your willingness to cooperate and show support isn't due to wanting appreciation and validation but you strive to do what you believe is right because of your moral values and integrity. You care more about justice and etiquettes than people's perception of you.

4] Oftentimes you're about to share a joke or comment which you think is amusing but you abstain from doing so not necessarily to spare someone's feelings but because it includes a lie, and intentionally spreading misinformation isn't something you enjoy. 

5] You tend to respect or incline to those who do whatever they can to stay away from ignorance, injustice, acting on despicable jealousy, unreliability, undue discrimination, debts and deception. 

6] Being described as "weird", "awkward", "scary", "intimidating" or "annoying" doesn't bother you, as you're not the type of person who is easily influenced by people's opinions. 

7] You're not interested in following the content and posts of users who fail to inspire you to become a better human being. If an acquaintance is clearly incompatible with you, you simply refrain from paying close attention to them and almost never take their statements or acts seriously.

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, knowingly telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues to tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhāri 5743 

Sahih Muslim 2607

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/07/note-why-lot-of-intjs-are-not-very.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/note-seven-differences-between-intjs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-ways-to-describe-most-intj.html 

✅ Some MBTI tests which you can try taking online to discover more about yourself and other personality types:

https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

http://www.michaelcaloz.com/personality/

https://sakinorva.net/functions?lang=ar (in Arabic language)

https://sakinorva.net/functio bens 

https://app.cloverleaf.me/16types

https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/OEJTS/

https://www.123test.com/jung-personality-test/

https://personalitymax.com/personality-test/

~•~

https://personalitymax.com/report/?pt=5-5-84-79&et=c0a0805c4079c0782098607e207a609d607f&name_key=5116246f5c

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-self-aware-you-are-according-to-your-personality-type/

Tips: Some Advice On How To Behave Around Those Who Feel Resentful Towards You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some tips on how you can behave in the presence of somebody who clearly doesn't like you and it's obvious that they don't have any interest in trying to get to know you better, whether they're a colleague and you're attending a meeting, they're a schoolmate and you're in the cafeteria, or they're a relative or casual acquaintance and you're both guests at the same wedding:

1] Patiently accept the fact that Allah the Almighty didn't destine you two to get along harmoniously. You can't force individuals to connect if Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala doesn't want such connection to take place. 

2] Maintain good manners and etiquettes, as much as possible, with every soul whom Allah the Most Wise decrees you'd meet. Disliking a person for some of their attributes or actions which you disagree with shouldn't provoke you to act like an oppressive tyrant. 

3] You have every right to decide not to sit near individuals whom you know despise you, especially if you're uncomfortable with their vibes and/or you don't wish to overhear irrelevant conversations. If in some cases you must be seated beside someone who despises you as much as you loathe them, do whatever you can to avoid unwelcome physical contact and refrain from looking at them whenever they speak to others, to signal you're uninterested in what they have to say and you don't desire any drama. 

4] During breaks or intermissions, converse with somebody whom you genuinely care about for Allah's sake, read some beneficial writings or do some productive tasks on your cellphone or laptop, or temporarily leave the area where the individuals who can't stand you are, then return when the necessary activities resume. Don't oblige yourself to act concerned or curious about some people if begrudgingly chatting with them is more disadvantageous than uplifting. 

5] Avoiding pointless interactions with individuals who hold a grudge against you is almost similar to intentionally staying away from touching objects at a store which aren't useful for you. Don't feel apologetic or guilty about your indifference towards them, specifically if most of their goals and values contradict yours. 

While we can't control how Allah's servants view us or feel about us, we have the freewill to choose how to respond to their feelings and perceptions. Every action we humans do on purpose has its consequences, and Allah's Justice always prevails if not in this fleeting world then on the Day of Judgment. 

Incompatibility mustn't cause us to commit sins such as deceiving, backbiting, stealing, denying people what is rightfully theirs, and oppressing.

~•~

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-stay-connected-to-allah-and-youll.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/note-imagine-people-you-meet-as-items.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-some-tips-to-cope-with-being.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/note-differences-between-people-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-its-okay-to-not-be-liked-by.html 

Note: Sharing Five Qualities Which I Admire In Other Muslims

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: List five qualities which you admire in other Muslims or cite at least five characteristics that would make someone more admirable or likable in your opinion, as an INTJ personality type? 

📝 Answer: 1] Authenticity: They strive to be honest, authentic and truthful, so they're not actors "fake people" frequently pretending to be whom they aren't. 

2] Ambitiousness or dedication: They are driven, dedicated and sincerely enthusiastic about pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while eager to succeed in both worlds. 

3] Cooperativeness: They're willing to assist and support you for Allah's sake in doing what they believe can bring you all closer to Allah's Love and a beautiful entry to Jannatul Ferdaus, without being susceptible to feeling insecure and envious at all. 

4] Outstanding patience: They are blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with the ability to stay patient with you, your quirkiness and people in general, including one's co-wives or co-wife if they're in a polygynous marriage. 

5] Generosity - with good intention to please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Not putting on an act with ulterior motives: Without neglecting their own needs and sacrificing their values, they try their best to do charity and Da'wah for Allah's sake often, while they genuinely don't expect others to return their favors. 

~•~

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A bedouin asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam “When is the Hour?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “What have you prepared for it?” The man said, “Love for Allah and His Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "You will be with those whom you love."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3435

Sahih Muslim 2639

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "None of you will have (complete) faith until I am more beloved to him than his children, his father, and all of the people."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 15

Sahih Muslim 44

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Mu'adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Allah the Exalted said: 'Those who love each other for the sake of My Glory will be upon pulpits of light and they will be envied by the prophets and the martyrs.'"

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2390

Grade: Sahih

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are troops collected together. They come close upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109

Sahih Muslim 2638

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “When bodies meet in the world, they come together or differ according to how they were created. The righteous will incline to the righteous, and the evil will incline to the evil.”

Source: Sharh Al-Nawawī ‘alá Sahih Muslim 2638

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/09/note-five-reasons-why-some-people-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/01/note-some-admirable-things-that-my-esfj.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/11/tips-five-likely-reasons-why-some.html