بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, November 30, 2022

Tips: Five Signs Of People Who Are Sad Or Unhappy With Themselves

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What are the signs indicating that some people are depressed or actually unhappy with themselves despite efforts to act cheerful?
📝 Answer: 1] They usually act like obnoxious bullies towards those individuals whom they perceive as a threat because of jealousy. It's easy for them to be unkind, treating others disrespectfully to pacify their misery. By attempting to disturb others' peace, they believe they can feel less unhappy or less inadequate.
2] A large portion of their lifetime is wasted on jealously spying on the lives of strangers who don't have anything to do with them. Oftentimes you can tell that somebody isn't contented with their life if they nosily keep count of what others have and get to do. Frequently watching pretentious vlogs which fail to inspire you to become a better Muslim, stalking the social media posts of users whom you may secretly envy, and constantly comparing yourself to materialistic individuals are from the innumerable shortcuts to emotional distress. 
3] They readily indulge in gossiping. Anybody who seems okay with cowardly criticizing people behind their backs and talking badly about their intimate issues on a regular basis can't be truly at ease from within. If you were authentically satisfied with who you are, you'd focus on improving your own strengths for Allah's sake instead of consistently attempting to make others look or sound awful.
4] They generally give off negative, demotivating and distressful vibes. They appear to be scowling most of the time, they aren't very responsive to your text messages or calls and they tend to ignore your greetings. Those who are emotionally wounded oftentimes feel the need to bring others down to lift their insecure selves up. 
5] If they're genuinely sad or struggling with numerous problems which they fail to manage well, they typically slack off at school or work, being absent on many occasions without a valid reason and refusing to cooperate with others in doing the right thing.
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📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2999
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Tips: Seven Causes Of Stress And Ways To Avoid Emotional Distress

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📑 Seven things which cause stress and how to avoid emotional distress or minimize its negative impact: 
❎ 1] Living life as a people-pleaser and without any actual purpose. Not being aware of your true goal in this dunya while being afraid to disappoint others.
☑️ Solution: Live only to please Allah the Almighty and worship Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala patiently so we're worthy of Jannah's entry. Confidently say no to people's requests and expectations if they go against Allah's Commands and our belief.

❎ 2] Consistently comparing your journey to others' tests, nosily spying on vlogs which fail to inspire you to become a better Muslim, and allowing jealousy to overwhelm you.
☑️ Solution: Focus on thanking Allah the Most Wise for the countless blessings which He chose to grant you, and concentrate on attaining your own goals. Don't be distracted by whatever and whoever doesn't deserve your full attention, including miserable individuals who are desperate to see you look "jealous" to appease their disturbed ego and insecurities.

❎ 3] Being careless and naive with the way you use social media, spitefully stalking users whom you despise due to envy, and frequently indulging in aimless debates.
☑️ Solution: Be extremely selective and stubbornly cautious with the content and information you knowingly absorb. Unapologetically unfollow those who post meaningless status updates which mostly provoke unpleasant emotions. Distance yourself from individuals with bad intentions.
 
❎ 4] Expecting every single individual out there to be nice all the time just because you strive to be a well-mannered human being.
☑️ Solution: Acknowledge the truth that not everyone on earth is blessed to receive the affection of responsible parents like yours who are educated about good manners. When some individuals treat you disrespectfully, understand that they're either expressing their frustrations regarding unresolved problems or they enviously can't stand knowing that you surpass them in many areas - for instance, you traveled to more countries, can communicate in Arabic language more eloquently, or it's obvious you aren't insecure like they are, and they dislike how you're way more confident.

❎ 5] Forcing yourself to stay awake when you're actually tired or sleepy. 
☑️ Solution: Take frequent naps when necessary. Listen to calming Qur'an recitations and read from the Noble Qur'an more regularly to enjoy inner peace.

❎ 6] Deliberately neglecting your duties to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala on a regular basis and taking Allah's Legislations lightly, such as praying Salat Al-Fajr late too often, listening to forbidden music as a hobby or indulging in sinful gossip, so your heart feels guilty at times or empty. 
☑️ Solution: Always try your best to maintain strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala (especially by saying lots of Dhikr and Istighfaar) and, as much as possible, avoid those actions which clearly displease Him. Strengthen your faith Imaan by seeking authentic knowledge of Islam day and night. Don't sabotage your soul through arrogantly committing sins and embracing ignorance.
 
❎ 7] Demanding yourself to be "perfect" 24/7 and questioning your self-worth whenever you make mistakes.
☑️ Solution: Learn from your errors. Learn from others' faults. Have good thoughts about Allah the Most Forgiving and know that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves to forgive. Practice accepting Allah's Qadr/Decree with steadfast patience and contentment. Don't worry too much about issues which Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can control.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, not even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will expiate his sins by it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318
Sahih Muslim 2573
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Tuesday, November 29, 2022

Tips: Don't Allow shaytan And These Eleven To Spoil Your Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

✅ If you truly love your husband for Allah's sake, never allow our archenemy shaytan and these eleven to spoil your marriage: 
1] Feeling dissatisfied that your marriage doesn't appear to be as "idealistic", romantic or visibly enjoyable as the marriages of your friends and colleagues. 
2] Unreasonably expecting your husband to never disappoint and offend you, as if he's not supposed to be human nor feel some emotions of his own. 
3] Arrogantly refusing to forgive your husband even if he has tried to apologize to you directly numerous times. A marriage between Muslim husband and wife/wives may not continue until Jannah Paradise if the ego/pride or kibr of one of them is bigger than the weight of all mountains on earth combined.  
4] Being unrealistically, unreasonably and inconsiderately overly demanding, wanting your other half to be "flawless" while you yourself are full of imperfections as well. 
5] Wrongly assuming that the main sign your husband loves you is if he consistently spoils you with full attention while striving to keep you satisfied by granting large allowance.
6] Stumbling upon or overhearing unpleasant news about couples breaking up and being tempted to jump on the lousy bandwagon. "Lots of mismatched lovers splitting up? Looks like a trend I need to try. It's okay... someday somehow I can find a more deserving guy." Wrong. Marry another man and he may be even worse than the one you left, or choose to remain separated while struggling with deep-seated regret.
7] Letting yourself lose that easily to the devastating effects of witchcraft or sorcery which some awfully envious outsiders may have carried out against you and your husband. 
8] Ignorantly denying the fact that it is lawful for men in Islam to be married to up to four wives, without requiring straightforward permission from the former wife/wives to remarry, as long as the Muslim man is financially capable to sustain a big family and agrees to strive to care for his multiple wives as fairly as he can for Allah's sake.
9] Unattractive tendency to feel defeated by jealousy, frequently mistrusting your spouse and irrationally misinterpreting your husband's polite manners towards other females as "cheating" or "disloyalty". 
10] Not being strong enough to control your fluctuating feelings for certain individuals and stupidly fantasizing how they could satisfy you a lot more than your husband can. 
11] Idiotically obsessing over so-called romance films and pathetically wishing your love story were exactly similar to one of them, not staying contented with the halal love journey which Allah the Most Loving wisely designed for you.
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📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whenever a woman asks her husband for a divorce without a strong reason, the fragrance of Paradise becomes forbidden for her."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 2226
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'"
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

Sunday, November 27, 2022

Note: Some INTJ's Thoughts On INFJs And ENFJs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what do you like and dislike about INFJs and ENFJs? How do you differentiate between those two personality types? 
📝 Answer: 🔸What I like or admire about most INFJs: 
•¶ Their overall quiet confidence, if they're not struggling with low self-esteem. 
•¶ Their ability to compassionately see people's good side and give plenty of excuses to those who behave questionably or inappropriately.
•¶ How a lot of INFJs are capable of having understanding, empathy and patience towards INTJs much more than other MBTI personality types can, particularly if they have numerous goals and interests in common. 
❎ What I dislike about some INFJs: 
¶• When they oftentimes say yes to somebody asking for a favor while it is more advantageous if the INFJ said no, and when they refuse to do something just to maintain "group harmony".
¶• When sometimes they can't provide you with immediate solutions or frank advice which can be put into action, anticipating your "satisfaction" with the fact that at least they attentively listened to you describe a problem.
🔹What I like or admire about many ENFJs: 
•¶ How it seems easy for most ENFJs to conduct regular gatherings and speak confidently to a large audience.
•¶ Their generosity and love for sharing what they have a surplus of.
•¶ Their intuitiveness and frequent accuracy in determining people's actual emotions, a skill granted by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if they're Muslim and not insecure. For instance, if they can sense that something makes you uncomfortable, they purposely avoid mentioning that thing or placing you anywhere near it as much as possible.
❎ What I dislike about some ENFJs: 
¶• When some ENFJs would assume you're "unhappy" or "lonesome" upon witnessing that you're not part of any clique or they feel sorry for you if it's obvious that you don't socialize a lot.
¶• When they side with the majority or crowd at times just to avoid conflict.
📑 How to distinguish ENFJs from INFJs: 
•|° INFJs, because they're introverts like INTJs, would be more carefully selective regarding their choice of close friends and/or more reclusive, reserved and mysterious than ENFJs. 
•|° Some ENFJs are more likely to give unsolicited advice than INFJs. 
INFJs may offer tips only after you've politely requested them to advise you.
•|° Most ENFJs could get lonely if they haven't had meaningful conversations with loved ones in a long time. After several interactions with people online and offline, most INFJs would require some rest or quiet solitude to feel reenergized. 
•|° Usually if they regard you as a very close friend, an ENFJ would try to persuade you to join them for a group outing, while an INFJ would give you lots of space and not make it a big deal if you are unable to always meet up with them.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 
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Note: Some Of INTJ's Thoughts On INFPs And ISFPs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, what do you like and dislike about most ISFPs and INFPs? How do you differentiate between those two personality types? 
What are some of the things you'd usually do if you were close friends with an ISFP or INFP?
📝 Answer: 🔸What I like or admire about most INFPs: 
•¶ How a lot of them can be very open-minded, far away from being obnoxiously judgmental (if they're not struggling with jealousy and low self-esteem).
•¶ Their willingness to fight for others' rights and defend those whom they truly care about. 
•¶ How many INFPs don't focus too much on the way people perceive them as long as they believe they're doing what they value. 
❎ What I dislike about some INFPs: 
¶• When they're too oversensitive and misunderstand your actual motives behind asking them certain questions. 
¶• When some of them prove to be unreliable, somewhat forgetful regarding important matters and clumsy at times. 
🔹What I like or admire about some ISFPs: 
•¶ How creative and artistic many of them can be.
•¶ Their spontaneity and ability to be flexible sometimes. 
•¶ Their agility and capability of doing numerous tasks quickly - but only if they're in the mood to do them willingly.
❎ What I dislike about some ISFPs: 
¶• Their tendency to be stubborn at times regarding unreasonable demands or irrational choices. How a lot of them would do something just because they "feel like doing it" without understanding really why they're doing that thing. 
¶• When some of them would act unsupportive, uncooperative or cowardly passive-aggressive if you did something in the past which offended their sensitive feelings. 
📑 How to distinguish ISFPs from INFPs: 
•|° ISFPs are generally more observant and better at noticing little details than INFPs. 
•|° INFPs in general are more open-minded and receptive to different ideas, constructive feedback and eccentric thoughts etc. than ISFPs.
•|° Because many INFPs aren't always aware of their surroundings and not overly concerned with their overall appearance, you're more likely to meet an INFP wearing their shirt or outfit inside out while most ISFPs appear to be more neatly dressed or well put together.
•|° Quality time with an INFP could involve long and meaningful conversations which encourage them to reflect on their values and emotions. Quality time with an ISFP would likely consist of doing fun, adventurous or new activities outdoors... or indoors depending on their current moods. 
✅ From the things which I (INTJ) may do to indicate that I regard an INFP or ISFP as a friend: 
1] Regularly go out of my way, online and face to face, to check how they're doing and attentively listen to them rant or describe how they're currently feeling, then offer some words which are hopefully reassuring. 
2] Lovingly include them in my Du'as, whether or not I inform them that I pray for their well-being often. 
3] Frequently visit their social media accounts, pages, websites, blogs or YouTube channel(s) at least once every three months or so. 
4] Eagerly request for some advice or feedback from them when necessary. 
5] Prolong dialogues with them online and offline, and ask them random questions about themselves to be more acquainted with them instead of relying on my own assumptions about them.
6] Occasionally support their halal businesses or hobby if they have one. 
7] Directly approach them and advise them if I know that they've made an error, instead of letting them sabotage themselves through ignorance or continuity of carrying out the same mistakes. 
~•~
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

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Saturday, November 26, 2022

Note: Can INTJ Personality Types Be Talkative?

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ Question: As an INTJ-A personality type, how often are you talkative?
📝 Answer: I recall a Palestinian friend back in Riyadh city Saudi Arabia telling me, while I was writing some notes in the classroom, something like "I wish you spoke more as much as you write" or "MashaAllah. You write a lot. I wish you talked more, Mariam." and at a different school (Manaraat Ar-Riyadh) I remember one seemingly extroverted classmate jokingly complaining, when she was instructed to change seats, about how it'd be incredibly boring to sit between me and another girl since she and I were both silent most of the time. 
Nowadays if it seems to some individuals that I'm "talkative", it would be due to the fact I'm asking several questions to gather information from those who I am talking to, either because I'm genuinely interested in getting to know them at a deeper level, instead of sticking to my own assumptions about them, or I'm trying to evaluate how authentic and relatable they are so I could
Inn-sha-Allah consider building a connection with them that's hopefully worthwhile. 
🚫 From the factors which would cause me to seem quiet, distant and aloof: 
1] If the person who is speaking with me is somebody whom I regard as untrustworthy and unreliable. It can be difficult to think of what to say, besides asking them "how are you?" and commenting on the weather, when I'm around individuals who can't be trusted. 
2] If there's at least one individual at a gathering, outing or meeting whom I despise for Allah's sake, or whose vibes bring discomfort, or they're not a mahram and there's an obvious language barrier. For example, Alhamdulillah I can be rather chatty with my dear husband, but if we're traveling to a faraway destination say from one city to another, and at the front next to the seat where my husband is driving happens to be one of his male cousins or colleagues, I would refrain from chatting unless there's a necessity to speak or ask questions. 
3] If it is clear that the individuals who are talking to me enjoy gossip and discussing people's personal issues, I would be extra cautious regarding the kind of info I'd share with them.
4] If I'm preoccupied with multiple tasks and busy doing what I can to complete a number of projects etc. I would minimize small talk and unnecessary interactions, particularly with those who aren't close to me.
5] If there's too much noise and/or there are many distractions at a social event, I would appear mostly quiet and use my cellphone a lot more frequently than initiating vague, incomprehensible or regularly interrupted dialogues. 
6] Sharing positive feedback or going out of my way to compliment someone isn't something I would do enthusiastically if I dislike a particular individual (for Allah's sake and with valid reasons) or what they're wearing or doing doesn't really intrigue me. 
7] If I can sense that the person interacting with me is awfully insecure and has a tendency to get all jealous of others' lives, I would avoid prolonging conversations with them as much as possible. 
✅ At times I may put effort in keeping a conversation going and asking a person lots of questions with concern and genuine curiosity: 
🔹 ...if I can tell that the individual whom I'm talking to feels at ease in my presence as much as I feel safe near them, which very seldom occurs.
🔹 ...if I truly care about them for Allah's sake while busyness doesn't prevent me from wanting to talk to them longer. 
🔹 ...if we're in an area that isn't too noisy, say at a cozy halal restaurant, and none of the individuals who I'm meeting up with that time is someone who gives off bad energy (from feeling envious, doubting my intentions, or consistently reminding me of the mistake they did which they didn't straightforwardly apologize for etc.).
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak goodness or remain silent. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor. Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him honor his guest."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him not harm his neighbor."
And in another narration, the Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Let him uphold family ties."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5672
Sahih Muslim 47
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Friday, November 25, 2022

Tips: Advice From An INTJ On How To Not Feel Offended Easily

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Some advice from an INTJ personality type on how to remain unaffected, unfazed and indifferent when you overhear several individuals talking badly about you while walking past them: 
1] If the negative remarks you overheard are accurate or there is an ounce of truth in them such as "bossy monster incoming", "nasty lady" or "eww, I hate that person a lot", with confidence embrace the current facts sarcastically, use their cowardly passive-aggressive feedback to strengthen your personality, and inwardly laugh at how pathetic, immature and unhappy they are in reality. Their gigantic load of unresolved problems and ugly insecurities could explain why they felt so desperate to offend you indirectly so they can feel less ignorant, less inadequate and less threatened all because of jealousy.
A fictional donkey may loudly whine about how falcons and eagles are terrible vertebrates just to distract itself from its debilitating distress regarding inability to fly. An individual who frequently opens their big mouth to criticize you as you pass by is likely emotionally wounded and struggling with self-hatred from inside.
2] If what they said is an absolute lie or can't describe you accurately, for instance they perceive you as "arrogant", a "greedy golddigger" or "dyke in denial", then simply say this to yourself "Whatever. They obviously don't know me, and I do not care at all about them nor their absurdities. They're full of lies, lies upon lies, on top of lies." 
If you were a self-assured lion, you wouldn't take it personally if a tiny ant or annoying mosquito labels you "bumblebee". 
The stronger your trust is in Allah the Almighty and the more you're blessed with self-awareness and self-esteem, the less prone you are in feeling offended easily. 
3] Wholeheartedly supplicate to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala against those who treated you unpleasantly, especially if you believe that their nonsense was uncalled-for and presented unjustly. 
Inn-sha-Allah you can witness Allah's Justice taking place at the timing that's most ideal. 
4] Ingeniously twist the way you view their supposed insults. If someone described you as "stupid", imagine that word being an abbreviation for "Smartly Trying to Understand People and Interested in Development". Admit that while you occasionally make mistakes, you gladly learn from your errors and others' faults. 
If by some strangers you're perceived as "too selfish, boring and self-centered", realize that they could be stating those to catch your attention which they probably lacked when they were younger, and their parents did an awful job at educating them about the importance of good manners.
5] You're welcome to confront them regarding their obnoxious acts only if you believe that they're intelligent enough to not misinterpret your self-respect and there is more likelihood that the majority of the people in your environment would take your side instead of perceiving you as the bully. Confidently walk away from invitations to partake in pointless drama and stubbornly ignore the mockery of toxic individuals if doing so is wiser and more effective in avoiding fitna. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"The supplications of three persons are never turned away (not rejected): A fasting person until he breaks his fast, a just ruler, and the supplication of the oppressed which is raised by Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) above the clouds, the gates of Paradise are opened for it, and Allah the Almighty says: 'By My Might and Majesty, I will help you in due time.'"
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3598 Grade: Sahih
Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu said:
"Beware of the supplication of the oppressed (Du'a against the oppressive person), for the supplication of the oppressed is answered."
Source: Al-Muwaṭṭa 1890 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Thursday, November 24, 2022

Poem: The Kind Of Friends I Would Love For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ The kind of souls I'd befriend, if you were to ask me, 
Don't need to be wealthy so they'd spoil you with freebies, 
Aren't obliged to give you free meals regularly 
Like they want you to gain weight or desire worldly greed, 
And it's not a crime if they're not described as "funny".
~•~
The type of souls I would gravitate to, honestly, 
Glow brightly with strong faith, trust Allah the Almighty, 
Cleverly know that this dunya is temporary, 
Enjoy learning about Islam, and their self-esteem 
Inspires you to improve and augments your bravery. 
~•~
They're the kind of friends who won't hesitate to tell me 
That I did something wrong and they'd correct me kindly, 
They'd encourage me to read and learn regularly, 
And if in marriage I'd go through some difficulties, 
They'd advise me to stay patient and love steadfastly.
~•~
They'd be from the few who don't despise polygyny, 
They'd be from the minority who confidently
Do not rely on cosmetics and they're not guilty
Of comparing their lives to others' tests constantly. 
They'd be from the rare ones who are truly trustworthy.
~•~
They wouldn't see it as a crisis to be called "weird" 
Every time they'd do good deeds for Allah sincerely, 
From maintaining the prayers and dressing modestly
To Da'wah and listening to lectures frequently. 
We'd equally seek Jannah and please Allah Only. 
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is only that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
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Sunday, November 20, 2022

Tips: Advice From An INTJ On How To Not Feel Affected By Jealousy And Social Comparison

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, what's your secret to feeling completely indifferent and unaffected by jealousy whenever you notice individuals online and in the malls who seem wealthier, taller or more good-looking than you? 
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. Alhamdulillah as a Muslim: 
1] I adhere to my belief that Allah the Most Wise is the One Who bestowed upon His servants whatever He chose to grant them. Even the material possessions which many people enjoy flaunting were all given with Allah's Qadr/Decree. It's not our place, as Allah's slaves, to question why He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave such and such to so-and-so while we didn't earn the exact same thing. 
2] I remind myself often of all the favors, gifts and blessings which Allah the Most Loving granted me in the past and present, Alhamdulillah, including the ability to understand some Arabic words, how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala enabled me to travel to several countries before and meet a wide variety of nationalities, and being my dear husband's first wife contentedly.
3] I obstinately go out of my way to avoid nosily staring at what this customer purchased, how that shopper actually looks like, and what kind of fabric or footwear this person has on etc. Imagine a large picture frame displaying an image of a forest with tons of trees and mountains in the background. Rather than counting the number of plants there are in the photo, what shades of color were used and whether one of the mountains was covered in snow or not, I would unapologetically ignore those insignificant details and instead focus on my cellphone or gladly mind my own business, aware that there's an ornament nearby but absolutely uninterested in wanting to check what the object (or drama) is all about. 
4] If I can sense that an individual is desperately trying to make me feel "envious" because they're the one in actuality who's struggling with intense jealousy, I would feel sorry for them, that they allowed their jealous feelings to provoke them to act obnoxiously, and I would intentionally refrain from asking random questions about their personal lives, since they'd probably invent false stories about themselves to appear "enviable". 
5] On social media I stay away from stalking users who frequently post the type of status updates which are deliberately designed to make their "followers" "envy" them. I also abstain from watching vlogs on YouTube which can't inspire me to become a better Muslim and more productive human being. If there are Arab vloggers whose content I watch occasionally, the purpose of sometimes viewing their videos is to learn from how they communicate and interact with others, and to review my comprehension of the Arabic language. 
You have a right to keep your distance from those whose presence cause you to doubt yourself and attempting to spend time anywhere near them isn't beneficial at all for your faith/Imaan. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith (Imaan) and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Saturday, November 19, 2022

Note: Some Advice To Muslim Business Owners And Entrepreneurs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🌻 Reminding Muslim business owners and entrepreneurs to ensure that not only are the products they're selling halal (lawful and legal to be sold) but also their ways of advertising do not contradict Islamic values and principles as much as possible. I understand that some of you may be tempted to post advertisements which include messages like "ideal for Xmas giveaways" or "special gifts to give your loved ones this Xmas season" to increase your sales instead of limiting your customers to Muslims only, but do you actually believe that Allah the Almighty would bless your businesses if it seems that you're absolutely okay with certain celebrations which are clearly related to shirk/polytheism? 
If it is illogical for a vegan or vegetarian to work as a butcher in a meat shop or for an individual who abhors cats and is allergic to them to sell pet cat food, then it is more irrational for a Muslim who strives to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala to sell items by indirectly showing double thumbs up to the wrong ideologies of potential buyers. Displaying indirect approval to customs and events which commemorate kufr/disbelief or shirk/polytheism in any way isn't something that Allah the Most Wise would appreciate. Do you think that most teachers would like it if you're striving to study well to perform satisfactorily at school while you openly cheer for the rebellious students who encourage others to drop out? 
There are other methods of increasing the number of supportive customers without sacrificing your values and going against your beliefs. You could offer reasonable discounts or award freebies without mentioning occasions which we Muslims don't celebrate. 
Your business can Inn-sha-Allah thrive and be filled with barakah if you sincerely put effort into trying to avoid choices which could displease Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
Sometimes an action done regularly may appear to be insignificant to you but to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala it could be something serious or considerable.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one whom he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”
Source: ‘Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681
📖 'Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever seeks Allah's Pleasure by the displeasure of the people, Allah will suffice him against the people. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by displeasing Allah, Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) will leave him to the patronage of the people."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2414
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
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Wednesday, November 16, 2022

Tips: Eleven Ways To Respect Yourself

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Eleven ways to respect yourself: 
1] As much as possible avoid both the major and minor sins which Allah the Almighty and His noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam warned against, including knowingly stealing and backbiting. 
2] Be very careful and wisely selective regarding who you choose to befriend and care about for Allah's sake. Do not bother trying to strengthen connections with individuals who have proven to be untrustworthy and toxic for your overall well-being. 
3] Do not force yourself to like those who trigger you to sense negative emotions. If somebody consistently goes out of their way to make you feel jealous or guilty for whatever reason, for Allah's sake avoid their negative presence unapologetically.
4] If you weren't invited to an outing or gathering, gladly stay away from stalking the social media posts, photos and updates regarding those events which you were excluded from and refrain from asking the attendees questions concerning what occurred and whatnot. The less you know about issues which won't add any positive value to your faith/Imaan, the farther you are from emotional distress. 
5] Avoid aimlessly browsing around social media accounts and pages which clearly can't benefit you in any way. If a page, website or user's timeline is actually beneficial, you should be able to observe significant improvement in your faith/Imaan and personality. 
6] Avoid sabotaging yourself through watching indecent videos, doing drugs, gambling, inventing lies to make yourself more interesting, and committing illegal activities which could result in trouble in this world and the afterlife.
7] Do not allow yourself to be overworked. Don't agree to do non-compulsory things which you obviously cannot do. 
Take regular naps and rest when necessary. 
8] Don't be too proud and too arrogant that you're incapable of receiving constructive feedback. Some criticisms can be useful at times for self-development. 
9] Never compare the journey which Allah the Most Wise designed for you to the lives which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to give others as tests. Strive to focus on achieving your own goals. Remain grateful for Allah's blessings and gifts. 
10] Do not be contented with ignorance and insufficient knowledge. Sincerely continue learning more about Islam for Allah's sake and regularly research on how to become a better human being through the right sources. 
11] Do not insult yourself by assuming that you're not worthy enough to pursue what can benefit you in both worlds. Think of good thoughts, forgive yourself, speak to yourself compassionately, learn from your mistakes, and always seek guidance from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 
Recall that our aim is to worship Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala instead of yearning for His servants' approval.
~•~
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and purposely committing oppression / injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim


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Tuesday, November 15, 2022

Note: Three Disadvantages Of Certain Matrimonial Websites

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📋 Three disadvantages of trying to search for a good spouse via matrimonial websites: 
1] A lot of the profiles could either contain false information and include invented stories to impress other users or the developers of certain matrimonial websites may be managing those sites for moneymaking purposes - for instance, you won't be granted access to view the complete details of a particular profile until you pay the web administrators online a significant amount of money. 
2] You could be wasting a lot of time by browsing around numerous profiles and finding it very challenging to select which person is the most ideal candidate as your future spouse, particularly if it can take several weeks to receive a response that isn't ambiguous from somebody whom you may be interested in marrying.
3] There can be lots of fitna in having to browse around a variety of profiles displaying photos of non-mahrams and many of those uploaded pictures could be fake or overly edited. 

Allah the Almighty knows best.
✅ Suggested means of finding a righteous spouse 
Inn-sha-Allah, whether you're a Muslimah who was previously married or you have never had a husband yet: 
1] Inform your mother and/or father about your sincere willingness to get married for Allah's sake. 
They could Inn-sha-Allah inquire their relatives or close friends if they can recommend a marriageable Muslim man whom they believe is most suitable for you etc. 
2] Inform your grandparents, aunties, uncles, siblings or female cousins about your interest in marrying at your age. Maybe they can suggest some marriageable Muslim men whom you can choose from and request that they approach your father (individually), brothers or uncles etc. to be evaluated if they deserve to marry you. 
You can Inn-sha-Allah meet the willing suitor while in the presence of at least two of your male mahrams (📝Note: your male cousins are not your mahrams even if they're a lot younger than you) to check if you'll accept the guy's marriage proposal for Allah's sake. 
3] Courageously ask one of your friends or colleagues if they'll be okay with you as their future sister-in-law if you find yourself feeling seriously attracted to her brother or one of her brothers. If she likes the idea of you becoming his wife for Allah's sake, she could
Inn-sha-Allah inform him as well as their parents to reach out to your father or male mahrams to pursue the marriage proposal. 
•Note: It is strongly advisable to pray two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaara, to carefully contemplate before deciding to approve or decline a Muslim's marriage proposal, and to ensure that you do everything with sincerity/Ikhlaas just for Allah's sake, as decisions that are made genuinely to please Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala are in general never followed by remorse.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not resisting nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547
Sahih Muslim 1420
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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Sunday, November 13, 2022

Tips: Advice On How To Stay Calm And Chill When Your Husband Wishes To Remarry

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: What advice can you give to every Muslimah so she can stay calm and chill like you if ever her husband expresses his willingness to remarry, or what's your secret to not feeling bothered at all when you discovered that you became your husband's first wife? 
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. 
1💟 Always remember that the actual and main goal of our life isn't to construct a seemingly "flawless" relationship with any human being but to sincerely strive to please and worship only our Creator and True God Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. We're not here on earth to pamper our desires and keep our ego satisfied but we were created by Allah the Almighty to worship just Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala by trying our best to obey His Commands, avoid what He prohibited, and patiently accept what He legislated and permitted including allowing responsible and capable Muslim men to be married to up to four wives. As Allah's servants, we try our utmost to comply with His Orders and legislations instead of arrogantly and openly defying them. 
2💟 Adamantly believe that Allah the Most Wise will not grant you tests which your soul can't withstand. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala precisely knows the level of your faith/Imaan and when He examines you with certain situations it is because He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala can see that you have the ability to actually pass that test if you cleverly utilize the correct tools in responding wisely. 
So if ever you discover that your husband remarried without informing you yet directly, do well in such examination by training yourself to patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Decree. 
Acknowledge the fact that while you can't control your husband's actions 24/7 nor ensure that he never "cheats", you have absolute freewill concerning the way you react when you find him behaving strangely or questionably. Stay grateful Alhamdulillah and be glad that he's not guilty of adultery, while humbly accepting the truth that he has every right, as an adult Muslim male who's financially stable, to be married to up to four wives. 
3💟 Confidently know that your success in this world and the next doesn't entirely depend on what your husband does and chooses to do. You can still be from those believers whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves even if your husband decides to have another wife. You can still persist in journeying towards Jannah Paradise even if your husband lawfully loves another woman. Your husband still loves you for Allah's sake and genuinely cares about you even if he is blessed with two, three or four wives. The kind of marriage which Allah the Most Loving decreed for you, whether it's monogamous or polygynous, does not ultimately define your value as a Muslimah. Your worth may be in how much effort you put in maintaining a strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, regardless if you're single, married or one of your husband's wives. 
4💟 It is better to be one of your husband's patient and loyal wives than to be a divorcee who feels awfully remorseful whenever she observes how other wives in polygynous marriages have a lot more determination than her while she couldn't fully empathize with the former spouse.
5💟 Admit that our archenemy shaytan and his puppets are the ones who feel smug whenever they assume they've succeeded in disuniting Muslims and destroying Muslim families. Don't allow the delusional devils to easily spoil the beautiful connection which Allah the Most Merciful destined for you. Whenever your husband upsets or disappoints you, always remind yourself that he isn't an infallible robot and even androids or gadgets have their own defects. Even if you left him and remarried another guy, that new spouse would also be filled with loads of imperfections. If you ditched husband number two, husband number three and four and so on similarly have their own shortcomings. Why discard crumpled paper only to collect other bits of crumpled paper? 
It is better and less problematic to be contented with one imperfect husband than to leave him for another flawed substitute while occasionally finding yourself missing the first husband. 
It is better and more rewarding, in my opinion, for a Muslim man to be gratefully married to four wives with many children who can be productive assets 
Inn-sha-Allah to the Muslim Ummah than for him to remain with a wife who can't really conceive or for him to have one wife while combating the urge to commit adultery. 
If you truly love your husband for Allah's sake, you'd want him to be happy by way of lawful means rather than annoyingly attaching yourself to him and preventing him from pursuing what Allah the Most Kind allowed him to do, namely to have more than one wife. 
~•~ 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: Her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Saturday, November 12, 2022

Tips: Five Likely Reasons Why Some Individuals Can't Always Invite You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Five probable reasons why a host or some individuals didn't invite you to a gathering despite talking to each other often: 
1] They're introverts who prefer to have a tiny circle of carefully selected friends who share their likes and dislikes. If you're one of the few courageous women worldwide who are okay with polygyny while they despise even the idea of seeing one's husband remarry, most definitely they'd find it uncomfortably challenging to invite you to their get-together willingly. Or imagine a flock of lambs and sheep munching on some grass or leaves. Would it be sensible for them to beseech a wolf, fox or lion to join them or even observe what they're doing? No. Never expect invitations from those who are intimidated by your assertive vibes or who are envious of you in any way, please. 
2] They hesitated to invite you because they assumed that you already arranged other plans, probably with your husband and loved ones or other categories of acquaintances.
Imagine a captain of a large ship busily trying to navigate the craft with thick sunglasses and headphones on while you're on a crowded seashore. You wouldn't invite the captain to have picnic with you and your clique if you don't have a loudspeaker to call the captain's attention and his phone is set to airplane mode 99% of the time. If you're known for being unreachable or intimidating, why freak out over not receiving a lot of invites. Don't act like a really tall basketball hoop that whines about not witnessing any goal while the players are all diminutive and couldn't think of utilizing ladders to reach out to you. 
3] Undoubtedly they're terribly jealous of you. Your achievements, admirable qualities, confident personality, educated parents, and other attributes (which were granted by Allah the Almighty, not by you) legitimately provoke them to feel "inferior" or "incompetent". By purposely excluding you on a regular basis, they desperately wish to see you upset, so on the inside they're not the only ones feeling atrocious and distressed. 
4] They innocently forgot to include you because, if truth be told, you haven't built a meaningful connection yet. Yes you communicate with each other occasionally, but you're still strangers to one another. Imagine a supermarket near your residence and you interact with the cashiers frequently. The employees at that shop wouldn't be instantly included in your list of invitees to an outing which you've carefully planned, especially if you are aware of how preoccupied they are recurrently and you aren't well-acquainted in the first place. Faithfully and patiently accept Allah's Qadr/Destiny in not allowing you to connect with those who are clearly incompatible and who could somehow spoil your future if you actually connected. 
5] You don't have a significant role in their gathering - to them, at least. As a well-mannered and self-respecting individual who likewise detests it when others are annoyingly clingy, confidently accept their choice to reject whatever and whomever they fail to understand. Resist the urge to conduct yourself like a renowned celebrity who feels so entitled to earn colorful invitations or red carpets from anybody and everybody. 
By sincerely striving to maintain a strong bond with Allah the Most Loving Who watches you at all times, while knowing that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has assigned some dutiful Angels to record your deeds, you wouldn't be prone to feeling "lonesome" or "empty", specially when reciting from the Noble Qur'an regularly brings actual inner peace.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There will come tribulations (fitan - plural of fitna/trial) in which the one sitting will be better than the one standing. The one standing will be better than the one walking. The one walking will be better than the one running. Whoever seeks these tribulations will be destroyed by them. Whoever finds a place of shelter or refuge, let him take refuge in it."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6670
Sahih Muslim 2886
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: "If only I had done something else." Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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