بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Sunday, January 29, 2023

Poem: To Those Who Enjoy Gossiping About Me, I Can Tell You're Jealous

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
📝 To the bashers out there who stalk my posts frequently 
With bitterness, awareness they're guilty of envy
And eagerness to gossip and bully childishly, 
Who seem shaky when I'm nearby yet they cowardly 
Diss me in my absence so their ego is appeased: 
~•~
I can tell you're jealous. Don't deny it. It's so clear - 
Your envy is like elephants hiding nervously
Behind a leafless tree, or like a frightened monkey 
Trying to conceal itself beneath a tiny leaf. 
You're jealous, and you know it. Your rudeness makes it clear. 
~•~
Your envy is shown each time you roll your eyes at me 
When I speak or try to contribute generously
To most group conversations, and you'd appear to me 
As if you often grumble to yourself "why does she 
Feel the need to brag and prove she's better constantly?" 
~•~
It's so obvious, your exasperating jealousy, 
When you exclude me from planned gatherings purposely, 
When you break promises a lot, when you feel the need 
To point out my flaws and criticize my family, 
When you recruit more clowns to partake in your envy, 
~•~
And when I discover how you've been regularly
Talking badly about me to heal your jealousy. 
You're jealous because I'm okay with polygyny, 
My parents are educated while yours probably
Failed to teach you basic manners and integrity, 
~•~
You despise how my husband deserves my loyalty, 
How he's a doctor who owned many cars previously 
And tries his best to improve in faith and piety, 
And you envy how I don't keep him for his money
But I want him with me in Jannah eternally.
~•~
You're jealous. Even if you won't admit it, it's clear - 
Your envy - when you mention my name negatively
Or treat me rudely so your frail ego is relieved. 
Collect all my sins each time you backbite about me.
I forgive and distance myself from your misery. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever wrongs his brother in his honor or anything else should resolve the matter today before it cannot be resolved with gold and silver coins. If he has good deeds to his credit, they will be taken from him according to the measure of his injustice. If he has no good deeds left, he will bear the evil deeds of the one he has oppressed."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2317
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Faith and envy do not combine within a believing servant."
In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Greed and faith are never combined in the heart of a (true Muslim) servant."
Source: Sunan Al-Nasā’ī 3109
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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Note: Indicators Of Jealousy On Social Media And While Chatting

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

📝 Subtle and obvious signs that a person may be intensely jealous of you regardless of their age through chatting and social media: 
1] Although they claim to be educated and frequently capitalize the first letter of other individuals' names while chatting or commenting on posts, you notice an absurd pattern in them consistently misspelling your name (even though your correctly spelled name may be evident in your username) or typing it incorrectly all too often, as though they're desperate to show disrespect in any way to alleviate their unpleasant feelings of jealousy towards you and your blessings. 
2] While they regularly try to answer other Muslims' salaams online or on chat groups, they seem to be obnoxiously consistent in answering your messages or posts without responding to your salaams. Intentionally ignoring your greetings online and face to face may be their strange coping mechanism with debilitating feelings of extreme envy. 
3] If they're part of a chat group which you're a member of, they are consistently nonreactive or silent whenever you share some beneficial content or ask questions. However, as soon as you make a mistake or forward certain misinformation, they excitedly point out your errors, publicly scold or criticize you in the main body of the group chat instead of correcting or advising you one-on-one, and they do this a lot. Envious people would do whatever they can to upset you to enjoy a temporary feeling of "superiority".
4] On a regular basis they deliberately leave you out when tagging a number of users (on some of their status updates or while conversing in a chat group) who are your mutual acquaintances and you all were active participants in the same activity, despite being fully aware of your account and presence in the group conversation. 
5] You've never received a single compliment or congratulatory message from them whenever you shared joyful moments or uplifting news, in spite of them being "connected" with you on social media, and if ever you express gratitude to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala or display any form of joy for an achievement, you've heard them say something like "you're just lucky", "good for you. I'm so jealous of you now", "jeez, why are you such a show-off?", "stop being narcissistic" or "whatever".
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of envy, for it erases good deeds just as fire devours wood or grass."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4903
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Envy consumes good deeds just as fire burns wood. Charity (Sadaqah) extinguishes sinful deeds just as water extinguishes fire. Prayer is the light of the believer and fasting is his shield from the Hellfire."
Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4210
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Ibn Asakir
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the most false of tales. Do not seek out faults, do not spy on each other, do not contend with each other, do not envy each other, do not hate each other, and do not turn away from each other. Rather, be servants of Allah as brothers."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5719
Sahih Muslim 2563
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
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Saturday, January 28, 2023

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Wednesday, January 25, 2023

Poem: Not Lonely. Just Inspired By Allah To Leave Those Who Failed To Prove They Are Trustworthy.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📜 Trust me when I say this, I'm not the type that's clingy. 
I don't need the love of flawed humans to feel complete, 
Don't expect them to respect me while they frequently
Deal with foul envy and loads of insecurities, 
And I won't wait for them to greet me consistently.
~•~
Once I start believing that someone's untrustworthy, 
Unworthy of my trust, affection and energy, 
I gladly avoid them for Allah the Almighty,
As much as possible, to preserve my well-being. 
Their posts no longer appear on my Facebook news feed.
~•~
I unfollow them online, and offline don't go near 
Them as often as I can, not out of pride and fear 
But because I believe that Allah's Love is more dear 
To me than allowing toxic actors with severe 
Attachment to dunya to disrupt my goals and dreams.
~•~
Yes they distract me at times when they chat aimlessly, 
Discuss pointless matters, yap about "celebrities", 
Gossip about those whom they're jealous of intensely,
And decline invites when I ask them to learn with me 
More about Islam so our faith Imaan can increase.
~•~
The wrong pals are like leeches that watch you as you bleed. 
You're better off without their lies, lousy tendency
To deceive you and mislead, and without their appeals
To receive your loyalty for their clear fakery. 
Not "lonely". Blessed by Allah to leave tomfoolery.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56 

Tips: There Are Reasons Why Allah The Most Wise Doesn't Want Us To Befriend Certain People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Five reasons why Allah the Most Wise caused you to quit befriending certain souls whom He knows are actually bad for you, and detachment from them is really a blessing: 
1] Allah the Almighty saw how you were wasting so much time and energy whenever you were anywhere near them. For instance, you regularly spent two or more hours literally almost everyday chatting with them about futile issues and this fleeting dunya while you could be smartly utilizing those vacant periods to effectively strengthen your faith/Imaan by reading a lot about Islam and attentively listening to beneficial Islamic lectures. 
2] Allah the Almighty observed that in the hearts of those toxic individuals disguising themselves as "friends" linger undeniable envy, negative intentions and resentment. During the whole time they were pretending to vibe with you, they were just acting, intending to appear friendly only for their selfish gains. 
3] Allah the All-Knowing has seen how your companionship and closeness with them would have been so detrimental for your faith/Imaan and emotional well-being. 
4] Your willingness to open up to them at a point when you felt more at ease, revealing facts about yourself which are better kept confidential, was clearly known to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and He the Most Merciful prevented that from occuring for your own protection. 
5] Allah the Most Loving didn't want you to emotionally suffer whenever you had to tolerate listening to those narcissists' pointless chatter, absurd lies, frequent bragging, sinful gossip and abhorrent ridiculing of others. It's an evident sign that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wants you to succeed in both worlds when He distances you from every insecure and inwardly miserable individual who lacks genuine interest in self-development as a Muslim and their unpleasant presence acts as an obstacle to your goals. 
Imagine a true friend called "A" and a group of colleagues with many characteristics or interests in common. This clique is connected to other groups that are conspiring against you as though they are nosy spies who envy your lifestyle, marriage life or achievements. "A" would do whatever they can to stop you from becoming "close friends" with those people to shield you from their awful agenda. One must be grateful Alhamdulillah to be far away from anything which could ultimately lead to fitna. 
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to An-Nawawi
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, knowingly telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 
By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is a mirror to his faithful brother. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back." 
Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, 'The believer is a mirror to his brother. If he sees something wrong in him, he should correct it.' 
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 239 
Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 
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Sunday, January 22, 2023

Poem: Don't Fear Being Different As Long As You're In The Right Direction

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Dear fellow Muslimah, trust Allah the Almighty. 
With strong faith Imaan, never be affected by three: 
People's opinions of you - don't care how you're perceived; 
Temporary feelings - don't rely on how you feel; 
Large numbers - don't make choices based on majority.
~•~
Be like a real diamond. If this stone was placed near 
Decaying substances, the gem wouldn't disappear. 
Even if toxic posts on social media appear 
Daily, you remain unfazed by strangers' rants unclear. 
Their frequent complaints can't augment your worries and fears. 
~•~
This one cries "I'm lonely", that one "I've shed lots of tears. 
Nobody understands me. Why am I even here?" 
And several others online whine about severe 
Sadness or anxiety when "friends" disappeared, 
Forgetting the fact that Allah always sees and hears.
~•~
Be like a crow or eagle surrounded by white sheep, 
Not eager to sacrifice its feathers, wings and beak 
To blend in with mammals that have a weird tendency
To follow crowds and obey commands submissively. 
Don't shy away from being unique, to be more free.
~•~
Occasions when you were not invited were likely
Lessons to be more independent and to fully 
Depend on Allah Who knows what's best for you really. 
Purposeless socializing can disrupt your soul's peace.
Solitude turns to a gift when you spend time wisely.
~•~
If many wives complain "I hate my husband, as he 
Is too cheap and miserly.", don't be compelled to leave 
Your spouse because most females are influenced by greed. 
Don't copy the crowd. Don't be emotionally weak. 
No guilt in standing out as long as Allah is Pleased.
~•~
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, which of the people are most severely tested?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "They are the prophets, then the next best (in terms of piety), then the next best. A man is put to trial according to his Deen/religion. If he is firm in his religion, his trials will be more severe. If he is weak in his religion, he is put to trial according to his strength in religion. The servant will continue to be put to trial until he is left walking upon the earth without any sin."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2398
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah the Almighty than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Saturday, January 21, 2023

Poem: To Every Wife Who Needs To Make Sure Her Husband Never Cheats

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 "What tips can you share so my husband will never cheat?" 
"How can I ensure that my husband won't cheat on me?" 
And "Steps to prevent my zawj from cheating - advise, please?" 
If I were to receive those queries, I'd say: Let's see... 
So you wanna make sure that your hubby never cheats?
~•~
So your husband never cheats, ensure absolutely 
That every night and day, while he's awake and asleep, 
That each moment when he moves about, and as he breathes, 
That you're the only pretty female he likes to see, 
The only soul on earth who can sweep him off his feet. 
~•~
Make sure that all his colleagues are males and straight fully, 
That all his patients or clients and whoever deals 
With him directly and indirectly are only
Males who are married and loyal or who'd never dream 
Of going anywhere near lust and adultery. 
~•~
Ensure that no female ever shows up on his screens, 
And no female catches his attention in the streets, 
Not even one whisper from females flirtatiously 
Trying to talk to him, while he is contentedly 
Wed to just one wife - no urge to break his loyalty...
~•~
...like he's a machine or android compliant puppy 
Ready to follow orders and unable to feel 
Emotions - feelings which can make pretence appear real 
At times or cloud judgment so one can't decide clearly. 
Your husband's not flawless. He's like you - human being. 
~•~
Let him learn from his mistakes. You're flawed similarly. 
If ever you find out, through a loved one or colleague, 
That your husband has been acting overly friendly 
With another woman, keep calm and think carefully
Of the causes that led to him behaving oddly? 
~•~
Perhaps your disrespectful tone inspires him to flee, 
Or some jealous outsiders carried out sorcery? 
Or the lass he seems to like found him delightfully 
Attractive so she tried a love spell ignorantly? 
Or shaytan spoiled the peace when your faith/Imaan was weak. 
~•~
Trust Allah always. Pray for your husband frequently. 
Care for your spouse without being doubtful and clingy. 
Make your ego much smaller than your ability
To forgive. Join the brave who welcome polygyny. 
Love Allah more than your spouse. Love your man patiently. 
~•~
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
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Thursday, January 19, 2023

Tips: Seven Things You Can Do To Succeed In Causing An INTJ To Avoid You

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Seven effective ways to cause someone with the INTJ personality type to despise you and unapologetically quit putting effort in trying to get to know you better: 
1❎ Prove to them that you're truly untruthful and untrustworthy. 
➡️ For instance: If they agreed to search around for some change for your 500 Pesos or Saudi Riyals and you clearly told them that you'd wait for them, make sure that you patiently wait for them instead of paying the courier by spending from your own money which you suddenly remembered. Otherwise find a way to properly compensate for showing them you can no longer be trusted. 
2❎ Accuse them of arrogance or act as though you perceive them to be arrogant, while you don't really know them and have never even had a meaningful conversation with them which lasted for more than five minutes. 
3❎ Show them that you're unreliable and/or disrespectful. 
➡️ For instance: Frequently make grammatical errors and typos on purpose, and intentionally refrain from capitalizing the first letter of their name. Doing this persistently can guarantee the INTJ to become utterly (but gladly) disinterested in befriending you and instead more eager to avoid you (and possibly anybody who is directly affiliated with you) as much as possible.  
4❎ Make it obvious that you're intensely envious of them by regularly excluding them from gatherings or outings in which mutual acquaintances are invited to, by gossiping and spreading negative rumors about them often, or by acting affectedly aloof. 
5❎ Appear uneasy or irrationally offended whenever the INTJ asks you several questions regarding yourself intending to become more well-acquainted with you. The more unreasonably nervous, apparently intimidated or insecure you seem around most INTJs, the more they'd do what they can to stay away from your disconcerting vibes to steer clear of emotional drama. 
6❎ Annoyingly poke them or be too touchy-feely when you've known them for less than a year and have never spent quality time together outside of school or the workplace. 
7❎ Continue doing something which you're aware that they dislike, or obstinately refuse to take their advice when you requested for some tips and they sincerely want you to do what is right. 
The above no-nos can also be applicable to other intuitive types, not just the INTJ personality.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782
Sahih Muslim 2998
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Keep only a believer for a companion and let only a righteous person eat your food."
At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud
Reference: Riyaad As-Salihin 366
In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 366
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Wednesday, January 18, 2023

Note: Why Many INTJs And INFJs Don't Have Long-lasting Friendships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Three reasons why most INTJs (and a number of INFJs) may find some difficulty at times to maintain long-lasting friendships and why a lot of us are okay with not being "popular": 
1] INTJs are generally very goal-oriented. 
If an individual's presence is too toxic or so negative for us that they become like an intolerable obstacle to any of our goals, we won't hesitate to gradually distance ourselves from their bad vibes or instantly disconnect from them (online, in real life and emotionally) without necessarily informing them about our detachment the moment we realized they consistently distract us from our values... unless, in my case, they are part of my family then I try to maintain patience with all my relatives as much as possible. 
2] Most INTJs can be astoundingly supportive and fiercely loyal when they truly connect with someone whose temperament, communication style and main mission in life resonate with theirs. 
We don't want to show loyalty to the wrong person nor waste our emotions on meaningless causes or inauthentic and untrustworthy individuals.
3] Excessive socializing can sometimes be draining for many INTJ/INFJ personality types, particularly if we must pretend (out of courtesy) to like certain souls whom we don't gravitate towards. This is why we introverts tend to select our close friends carefully and with a purpose. 
Having more friends - actual friends, not mere acquaintances or neighbors - could entail more obligations, more responsibilities and more loved ones to worry about and check on regularly. A lot of INTJs can be satisfied with even one friend on earth, even if that "kindred spirit" happens to be their spouse, parent, sibling, cousin or aunt. 
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of a good companion and a bad companion is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good smell (pleasant scent). As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
➡️ Some MBTI and cognitive functions test with more accurate results:
~•~
https://personalitylingo.com/free-communication-style-quiz/
https://personalitylingo.com/thinker-communication-style/
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Poem: Why I Believe That My Husband Is Handsome While Not All May Agree

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
💌 If you ask me, "So what is it? What makes him handsome, 
Your husband, the man whom Allah has wisely chosen 
As your soulmate, travel partner to Jannah Heaven, 
And special friend with whom you have a lot in common? 
What makes him attractive really in your opinion?"
~•~
I'd say: Yes he's handsome; my husband is good-looking 
And appealing in a way not clear to everyone. 
He's like a wooden treasure chest filled with diamonds
And tons of emerald gems which worms and elephants 
Would perceive as "plain", "pointless" or "uninteresting", 
~•~
While he's valuable to me - my husband is handsome 
Since he's a gift to me from Allah the Most Loving.
I've witnessed countless times my handsome spouse has proven 
To be caring, busy, productive and hard-working. 
Though not very athletic, he's got my attention. 
~•~
His efforts to serve Allah, his sincere intention
To save up to perform Hajj with his hard-earned income, 
His charisma with children, patience with his patients, 
And his eagerness to become a better Muslim 
Are from my reasons for regarding him as handsome.
~•~
To me, he's more handsome than the "hottest pop icons" 
And him having a pure heart is much more important 
Than staying in shape and pampering his appearance. 
I'm grateful to Allah for granting me my husband, 
My handsome husband who taught me about contentment.
~•~
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A woman is married for four things: Her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman otherwise you will be a loser."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 5090
In-book reference: Book 67 Hadith 28
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith 27
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 
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Tuesday, January 17, 2023

Note: To Stay Contented With Your Husband, Appreciate The Many Ways You're Both Alike

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 One of the many secrets to remaining grateful to Allah the Almighty for the marriage and unique love story which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wisely planned for you is to appreciate at least three qualities which you and your husband have in common. 
Alhamdulillah. Seven ways in which my dear husband and I are very much alike: 
1] My husband and I used to be slim back in our late teens. After marriage, we both could be described as overweight or thickset.
2] Before I was born in Saudi Arabia, my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) gave birth to a baby boy but he died as a newborn (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.). My husband also had a brother who passed away before he was born (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.).
3] There was a time when I often played soccer during P.E. subject with some of the girls during high school. If I'm not mistaken, my husband also played soccer/football when he was in college. 
4] Alhamdulillah we both can read text in Arabic language without the harakaat / vowels. 
5] My husband and I can be talkative, quiet, serious, funny or corny depending on the situation. 
6] We try our best to be thrifty and generous instead of being overly materialistic, obnoxiously selfish and unreasonably demanding. 
7] Even though we're aware of how certain individuals despise us, we prefer to forgive those Muslims for Allah's sake, distance ourselves from any negativity and confidently move on. Indulging in futile drama and attempting to reconcile with toxic people don't intrigue us. 
~•~ 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are the best in behavior to their women."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1162
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 
📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is provision and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman."
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Imam Muslim
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Sunday, January 15, 2023

Note: As An INTJ What Was Your Childhood Like

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: With INTJ as your MBTI personality type, what was your childhood like? 
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah some of the things I did as a child (in the 90s back in Saudi Arabia) to give you an idea of what some INTJ children are like: 
1] Eating the polvoron (Philippine delicacy consisting of toasted flour, sugar, butter and powdered milk) which my dear mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) made for me during recess time while many of my Arab male and female classmates in kindergarten (at Al-Yamama National School) were staring at me probably wondering why I was nonchalantly trying to consume sand particles in a lunchbox. Strangely I didn't feel anxious about the worried stares and some laughter. 
2] While my mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) was attending some Islamic lectures with other Muslimahs at one of the WAMY branches in Riyadh city (WAMY: World Assembly Of Muslim Youth where we also learned more about Islam and basic Arabic language) I remember trying to figure out, with some kids of varying ages and nationalities, how to go inside a locked play area. Some days later I brought a pair of scissors and cut open a portion of the net of the trampoline playground from one of its corners (not sure what it's called - it had a slide and bouncy surface with multicolored balls etc.) and invited some of the children to join me through the secret opening (I cut the net in such a way that the hole wasn't very obvious). I guess I wasn't well-mannered enough as a child to request one of the adults to simply unlock the door leading to the playground. May Allah the Most Merciful forgive all my mistakes, misjudgment and ignorance. Ameen. 
3] Back in Riyadh Saudi Arabia, my family and I usually prayed Salat Al-Jumuah at one of the large mosques / Masaajid which I assume was constructed by some of the royal families (not sure if the Masjid is called Al-Rajhi Mosque?). After the Friday Khutbah or lecture, we and other Muslim families occasionally had lunch together at one of the palaces of a Saudi royal family. The invitation to have lunch there (for those who prayed at the Masjid regularly) was a form of Sadaqa/charity I believe. While waiting for the chefs and staff to prepare the long dining tables, I recall walking around, again with a number of children, and curiously exploring different parts of the lavish palace which I thought visitors were allowed to tour until several parents advised us to behave ourselves and refrain from going to the other guest halls unnecessarily. I also remember sometimes walking around various rooms at the WAMY branch for women, imagining what it would be like if I could design my own building or office. For some reason, when I was around eleven or twelve years old I would often daydream about running an orphanage where orphans are cared for well. 
4] I remember quietly waiting for the bus to be filled with other students and noticing two noisy Arab girls who were around my age that time blatantly joking to each other about how I appeared (at least to them) to be mostly frowning. I think it's interesting how I didn't feel offended or embarrassed by their mockery even when there were many passengers around. Although we exchanged glances, I didn't bother answering back because not only was I unaware of how to respond eloquently in Arabic language but I thought they were spot-on regarding my occasional scowl. I'm guessing I was in fourth or fifth grade that time. 
5] Since I was the only Filipino student among Saudis and other Arabs, from grades one to seven I didn't have a fixed group of close friends, particularly as I wasn't really talkative due to not being fluent that time in Arabic language. During recess I would typically stay in the classroom reading some books, rearranging my bag or trying to complete some assignments in advance, or if the students weren't allowed to linger aimlessly in the classrooms I would take a leisurely walk around the school campus or browse around the library while reflecting on random thoughts until it was time for the next class. While there were moments when I actually played some running games with several students of various grade levels, I preferred reading books to participating in loud group activities. 
➡️ Some of the qualities shared among INTJ children: 
1] They tend to ask lots of questions and become apparently curious when they're interested in a particular subject. 
2] Unlike the more sensitive types, INTJ children don't cry or get ashamed easily. 
3] They can be extremely picky with their choice of friends and seldom do they feel "lonely". 
4] If you describe INTJ kids as "nerds" or "weirdos", most if not all of them would perceive those words as compliments. 
5] They're more likely to enjoy solving puzzles and riddles or learning something new than partaking in projects which involve unproductive socializing.
~•~
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I guarantee a house on the outskirts of Paradise for one who leaves arguments even if he is right, and a house in the middle of Paradise for one who abandons lies even when joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for one who makes his character excellent."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4800
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
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Poem: Advice To Those Who Find It Challenging To Make And Keep Friends

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Some advice to Muslims who struggle with making friends, 
To those who build connections most of which quickly end, 
To those who wonder why it's hard for them to fit in 
And who no longer trust individuals who pretend
To like you while harboring envy and resentment: 
~•~
Don't care about how people see you. Show no concern 
For the censure and brief feelings of Allah's servants, 
Specially while serving Allah and you don't intend
To propagate oppression but seek self-improvement.
Only Allah can judge us on the Day of Judgment.
~•~
It's one of Allah's tests for some of His creation 
To often feel "left out", "misunderstood" or "lonesome". 
One reason why some acquaintances are reluctant 
To send you invites to their their gatherings or outings 
Could be jealousy - they hate it when you outshine them. 
~•~
Perhaps they simmer with bitterness when your presence 
Reminds them of their failures and flaws which bother them. 
Maybe they loathe how you're blessed with successful parents
While theirs failed to give them Islamic education 
And good manners. They feel pathetic when you're present.
~•~
Or they resent the fact that you're relaxed from within, 
Beautified with firm faith Imaan and real confidence. 
Like snakes which find no use in gliding near diamonds 
And like bats which shy away from brightly lit lanterns, 
They exclude you when your glow and success distress them. 
~•~
Remain unfazed, unaffected and indifferent 
When unhappy humans act unfriendly and distant. 
Remind yourself "I wasn't born to entertain them. 
Whether they meet me with goodwill or unacceptance, 
I'm still complete. Allah's Love is much more important." 
~•~
Keep yourself busy worshipping Allah, researching
More about Islam, and praying for Allah's Guidance. 
Frequently read from the Qur'an. Your righteous actions
Can be companions in your grave when life on earth ends. 
Solitude that leads to Allah's Love is a blessing.
~•~
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 
Sahih Muslim 2960
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109
Sahih Muslim 2638 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah loves a servant who is righteous, independent, and obscure (unknown, unpopular, not famous)."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2965
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
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Friday, January 13, 2023

Links: Old Poem - Will You Travel With Me To Heaven Jannah Paradise - 2011


🗒️ From one of my old journals (Will You Travel With Me To Heaven Jannah Paradise) written in 2011 when I was around 24 years old: 

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