Poem: Patiently Persevere For Allah's Sake In Your Long-Distance Marriage

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 Love letter which can be sent from every loyal wife 

To her husband who's absent on many days and nights, 

Physically unavailable a lot of times, 

Employed in another city and preoccupied 

With earning halal income so his fam can survive:

~•~

"Dear husband, the man I love for Allah the Most Wise, 

Although you're not around every single day and night, 

My loyalty stays intact, and this isn't a lie. 

Despite passing by strangers whenever I'm outside, 

You're the only guy whom I wish stayed right by my side.

~•~ 

Back then when I was a teenager or still a child, 

There may have been moments when I wondered what it's like 

To cook for your soulmate, care for him when he arrives, 

And carry out the chores of typical "good housewives", 

But then Allah chose for me this kind of marriage life... 

~•~ 

...This type of love story in which both husband and wife 

Must love each other patiently more than ego/pride, 

More than the hours and miles that keep them apart sometimes, 

And more than the urge to surrender as they desire 

To maintain the bond destined by Allah the Most Wise. 

~•~

Dear husband, persevere and don't worry. You and I 

Shall, with Allah's Will, make it to Jannah Paradise 

Where lovers won't go through sorrow and hearts never cry. 

Know earth is temporary, someday we'll surely die, 

And whether you're far or nearby, my love won't decline."

~•~ 

📖 Thawban RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The best wealth is a tongue that remembers Allah, a grateful heart, and a believing wife to help one in his faith."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3094

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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Note: Not Everyone On Earth Has The Same Love Story. Be Contented With The Journey That Allah The Most Wise Chose For You.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Not everyone has the same love story. I remember my dear mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) telling me how my father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) used to make many attempts to court her, like the typical romantic Maranao guy with classic bell-bottoms back in the 80s, but she would reject every one of his efforts to gain her attention until he had the courage to speak to her family to officially seek her hand in marriage. Alhamdulillah my parents got married, visited several countries around the world including the US and UK, networked with Da'ees like Bilal Philips and AbdurRahman Dimashqiah, wrote several Islamic books together which were published by Darussalam Bookstores, and although their very first son passed away before I was born Alhamdulillah they did an excellent job at raising me and my brothers with a strict but worthwhile upbringing. Before my mom died from cancer she requested my dad to remarry so their kids can have a stepmother. My father however chose to have her as his only wife until after some months it was Allah's Qadr that my dad passed away following her. I believe his medical complications were also due to severe sadness from being a widower.

I pray that Allah the Most Merciful reunites my dear parents in Jannatul Ferdaus and accepts all their good deeds with Allah's Mercy. Ameen.

My husband's mother from what I know got married when she was around 14 or 15 years old. Alhamdulillah she and her husband, who happens to be my uncle (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) since I married my cousin, were able to have twelve children together Alhamdulillah, with one baby boy that passed away before my husband was born. 

My brother Ahmad since he was a baby was engaged to get married in the future to his childhood friend whom we'll nickname "A". A's mother and my mother gave birth at almost the same time in 1988 Dammam (northeastern Saudi Arabia). Because they were close friends, they promised they would let their babies (boy and girl) get married when they become adults. However since Allah's Plans always overtake His servants', that plan didn't take place. Thus my brother Ahmad got married to our paternal cousin who's around three years older than him. Alhamdulillah they currently have five adorable kids, whereas A is married to a Saudi guy whom she met in Malaysia and has one beautiful half-Saudi half-Filipino daughter at the moment.

My brother AbdurRahman, with Allah's Will, was the one who got married to his childhood friend Eemaan. They were never close though as little kids, but our families regularly attended the same gatherings back in Riyadh city. I pray that Allah the Most Loving blesses them with many pious Muslim children. Ameen.

My love journey is a complicated one, but Alhamdulillah every struggle comes with a set of lessons learned from whatever we experience. In my teens I received several marriage proposals, one coming from a religious Pakistani guy, one from a Filipino Muslim who was employed in Madinah at that time, one from a Filipino residing in USA, and another from a childhood friend whose name is like one of my brothers Abdul-Rahman. I rejected them all, claiming this one was too baby-faced, that one was too shy, this one was younger than me and I preferred an older guy. After some time my mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) with her motherly instincts thought I was having a haraam connection with one of my former best friends, but that wasn't the case, we just enjoyed talking to each other on the phone a lot. Because she was worried I might turn into a "lesbian" (no, I'm not gay, queer, or bisexual), which is probably why in her opinion I kept saying no to the marriage proposals I was getting, she and my dad finally got me arranged to marry my first cousin, a medical doctor. So Alhamdulillah in Shawwal 2006 I got married at age 20 to my cousin who was 28 then. Since I grew up in Saudi Arabia while he was raised in Mindanao, we saw each other like complete strangers in the beginning and Alhamdulillah we learned more about love along the way. When I was around 26 years old I became his first wife when he married this Visayan lady who's one year older than me. Alhamdulillah through this marriage I became more enthusiastic and supportive of polygyny after doing extensive research on its virtues and benefits.

Another brief love story I want to mention is that of a childhood friend who divorced her husband after having one daughter with him. Several years later they remarried and Alhamdulillah they're able to have more children. Another older acquaintance, a mother of one of our students here at Wisdom Islamic School, also divorced her husband at one point but after a number of years went by, they remarried and had more kids with Allah's Will.

Never compare your love journey to others' marriage lives, as our Qadr, capabilities and roles are not exactly the same. What makes a marriage blessed isn't the couple's large number of children nor how much money the head of the family makes, but what really adds blessings and barakah to your marital life is genuine love for Allah's sake. A marriage is a blessing from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it protects both wife and husband from getting into zina / forbidden relationships, and if it trains you to embrace patience / Sabr and gratitude / Shukr thereby completing the other half of your Deen and leading you to Jannah Paradise where the sincere believers can enjoy perfect and flawless love for eternity.

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas’ud RadhiAllahu anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu alaihi wa sallam said, "O young men, if you are able to support a wife, then get married. Verily, it restrains the eyes and guards chastity. Whoever is not able to do so, he must fast (Sunnah fasts) as it is a means of control."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1806 

Sahih Muslim 1400

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

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Note: What I Have Learned From Marrying My Older Cousin For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 When I was around eighteen or nineteen years old, back in Saudi Arabia, I received a marriage proposal from one of my male 'childhood friends'. I quickly declined his request because he was about two years younger than me and I preferred marrying an older man with more life experiences. After declining several other marriage proposals, one of them from a guy who was employed in Madinah and another coming from the son of my parents' Pakistani friends, my late mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) insisted that I at least marry my first cousin who was then studying as a medical student. Initially I refused, because I understood that a lot of doctors can get preoccupied with work, which prevents them from enjoying quality time with their families. Eventually I accepted the proposal after praying two Sunnah Rak'ahs of Salat Al-Istikhaarah and measuring the pros and cons of getting married in 2006 at age twenty.

 Alhamdulillah through this marriage, I've learned to be very supportive of polygyny, more understanding towards individuals with certain disabilities (as my husband has an autistic brother), and Alhamdulillah I'm able to hopefully inspire wives whose husbands work abroad to remain faithful and steadfastly patient for Allah's sake. Last time I checked while browsing on Facebook, I found out that the 'childhood friend' whose marriage proposal I rejected is contentedly married with one of his cousins, just like I'm wed to my cousin, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala blessed them with a number of adorable kids. 

After my mother and a good friend of hers gave birth in the same year 1988, in Ad-Dammam city, they agreed to have their kids engaged and promised they'd get them married in the future, as a way to maintain their close friendship. I remember seeing photos of my brother as a baby holding hands with another baby and, if I'm not mistaken, they had cute tiny engagement rings on. Several years later their wedding was cancelled even though my brother was all set for his groom's outfit. Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined that my brother get married to one of our cousins instead who's about three years older than him. Alhamdulillah they're both currently blessed with five cute children. The girl on the other hand whom we thought could've been his wife actually married a Saudi guy whom she met during their university years in Malaysia. Alhamdulillah they're blessed with one beautiful daughter together at the moment. 

🔸The lesson I wish to share is that even if your plans to marry someone didn't work out, and no matter how many times you've tried proposing to some women only to receive a rejection, you shouldn't feel bad about yourself or wrongly assume that Allah doesn't love you. If being a particular woman's husband wasn't your Qadr/Destiny, your marriage with her can never take place despite being bribed with millions of cash. 

If Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala didn't decree that you become somebody's soulmate, you'd always stay single in spite of meeting numerous matchmakers who guess you're compatible with so-and-so. However if Allah the Most Wise already planned that you get married to a specific person, on an assigned date, in a chosen destination, nothing and nobody can prevent Allah's Plans from occurring. So keep trusting Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and ask Him, specially when praying Tahajjud, to grant you only what is right for your overall well-being. 

It could take days, weeks, months or years... but whatever was meant to be yours, according to Allah's Plans, will ultimately come to you at the most perfect and ideal timing. 

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations gathered together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi 

💚 Note: Reminder to recite Surah Al-Kahf every Jumuah Friday and include the Muslim Ummah in your Du'as 🌼

Note: On The Prohibition Of Plucking One's Eyebrows Completely

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Allah the Almighty knows best. 

Some notes regarding plucking one's eyebrows:

1] Plucking the entire eyebrows is not allowed in Islam (for both males and females) because it indicates that the person is not satisfied with the look which Allah the Most Wise chose for them. It is a sign of disrespect that if a leader or teacher obliged you to keep a certain tag or ID for identification you'd get rid of it and replace it with something else as if you know "better". 

2] The unibrow or extra hair on top of the nose and between the eyebrows can 

Inn-sha-Allah be removed since they are not part of the eyebrows. 

3] It is okay for a female to remove the hair on the upper lip and areas around the mouth so she does not resemble males in having a moustache and beard.

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/8529/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D8%A7%D8%B2%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B4%D8%B9%D8%B1-%D8%A8%D9%8A%D9%86-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AD%D8%A7%D8%AC%D8%A8%D9%8A%D9%86