Note: Fear Allah More Than Fearing The "Evil Eye"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 Our fear of Allah the Almighty and our trust in Him Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala must be much greater than fearing the effects of someone's evil eye. What can protect you as a Muslim from sorcery, witchcraft and the evil eye is your strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala by striving to obey Him, avoiding what He prohibited as much as possible, and by saying lots of Dhikr, especially the morning and evening Adhkaar.
How can you earn customers if you hesitate to advertise your products and refuse to display your items because you're afraid your business may be impacted by the evil eye?
How can you encourage others to study about Islam if you keep withholding the wealth of knowledge that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala bestowed upon you, fearing your intellect may be affected by the evil eye?
How can you gain students in your Islamic institution or regular halaqa if you don't announce to anyone in the world about its availability because you're worried you may catch the evil eye?
Concealing the blessings that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave you, in order to preserve them, is reasonable in other ways.
🔹 Just as you wouldn't publicly declare the details which lead to your bank account, it makes sense to not upload photos of the following:
1] Your wedding pictures, photos of you with your husband, others' photo collections.
2] Pictures of your children and other kids.
3] Photos of yourself with or without the niqab/hijaab. Any picture basically which clearly portrays a person is often one of the necessities that witches or magicians require so black magic can be effective.
4] What you had for lunch, whether you ate at a fancy buffet restaurant or enjoyed a homemade dish you creatively prepared.
5] Travel photos that are uploaded to indicate how rich you are, or to deliberately trigger jealous feelings in specific users, instead of uploading them with the intention to make others feel as if they traveled with you.
🔸 Revealing certain personal information at times may be beneficial or understandable if:
1] Your true story of how you had a second or third wedding with your husband can inspire women to remain as loyal, grateful, forgiving, patient and tough wives.
2] The experiences you share from childhood or your teenage years can somehow motivate Muslims to become better versions of themselves.
3] The photos you post concerning charity prove that the donations were received or you intend to inspire other Muslims to be likewise generous if they have the financial means.
4] The photos of food are uploaded for Allah's sake to support another Muslim's halal business.
5] Posting photos of the items you bought from a store is your way of encouraging others to purchase those helpful stuff you generously recommend.
If a person feels that their fear of the evil eye is too difficult to let go, and they still cannot trust in Allah's Power to shield them, they might as well migrate to a remote location, like a cave in an unidentified island, to avoid people's stares, misjudgment and intentions.
📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu' alaihi wa sallam said, "The evil eye is true. If anything could outrun the decree (Qadr/Destiny), it would be outran by the evil eye. When you perform a ritual bath, wash well."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2188
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Mu’adh Ibn Jabal RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Seek help in the fulfillment of your needs by being discrete (secretive, low-key, private), for everyone who is given a blessing will be envied."
Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabīr 16644
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take up your shields." They said, “O Messenger of Allah, is the enemy present?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No, rather your shields from the Hellfire are to declare the Glory of Allah, the Praise of Allah, there is no God but Allah, and Allah is The Greatest. (Say 'SubhanAllah', 'Alhamdulillah', 'Laa ilaaha ilAllah', 'Allahu Akbar') Verily, they (Adhkaar) will come on the Day of Resurrection as saviors and guardian angels, and they are the ‘righteous deeds everlasting.’" (The Noble Qur'an 18:46)
Source: Al-Sunan Al-Kubrá lil-Nasā’ī 10204
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Note: Obvious Signs You're Still In Love With Your Husband

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 It baffles me to imagine how a woman can have the guts to say about her ex-husband "I don't love him anymore", "he means nothing to me now", or "I'm no longer attracted to him. I want somebody else." Whether a divorcee left her spouse because she was unsatisfied with the kind of lifestyle he could afford to provide her or she ditched him for a different guy who seems more "husband material", divorce, although halal/permissible, in my opinion shows that a woman never truly loved her husband since the beginning. If the love between the married couple was genuine from the start, she wouldn't have demanded that the divorce documents be signed so easily without carefully reflecting on the possible negative consequences of divorcing.
Not everyone has the exact same definition and perception of what an ideal marriage life is. My understanding of "true love" in matrimony is to patiently continue loving the soul whom Allah the Most Wise selected for you as your other half and soulmate until his soul is returned to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
Marriage should not end because you and your husband no longer enjoy physical intimacy, love-making became boring, or you're temporarily struggling with financial problems, or you can't get along with your in-laws, or you admit you're secretly 'in love' with another far more intriguing person.
The bond that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala destined you to have with your husband must go on for Allah's sake even until your reunion in Jannah, acknowledging the truth that perfect bliss can only be attained in Paradise, not temporary dunya.
🔸 Signs that you wholeheartedly still love and care for your husband:
1] You mention your husband's name frequently in your loving Du'as.
2] Nearly whatever task, project or activity you are preoccupied with, you notice yourself wishing your husband was there beside you. Missing someone's presence is a huge indicator that your love for them isn't a joke.
3] Visualize getting ready to make your divorce official, in case you've considered asking for a separation. After signing the divorce papers, can you envision yourself regretting your decision, wishing you shouldn't have left him, specially if you later discover that he married again? Perhaps with a woman whose name is similar to yours? Even worse, one whose facial features and figure almost resemble your own? If you can sense that leaving him is a terrible idea, sincerely make effort to do whatever you can to solve the marital problem and mutually rekindle the romance between you two.
4] Despite feeling as though you have an uncontrollable attraction for certain individuals, you still have stronger feelings for your husband, so cheating on him is something you can never consider.
5] If you saw him in trouble, you'd try your best to help and save him. For instance, if you caught him stuck in a car laying upside down from an accident, you'd actually attempt to drag his body away from the vehicle regardless of knowing for sure carrying him can be challenging but necessary and worthwhile.
Marriage is a serious affair which shouldn't be taken lightly as though it is something that can be discarded anytime you like.
It's a journey Inn-sha-Allah that leads to Paradise. Just like any road or pathway in life, the husband and wife shouldn't be surprised to encounter numerous obstacles, bumps of various sizes, ups and downs, or moments where momentary breaks are required once in a while.
Keep in mind that you married a human being who gets stressed out at times, with flaws and limited abilities like you - not a robot or fictional genie that grants whatever wish you desire.
📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "I was shown the Hellfire and (found) that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
Sahih Al-Bukhari 29
In-book reference: Book 2, Hadith 22
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 2, Hadith 29

Note: More Tips On How To Deal With Haters

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
💌 After analyzing the reasons why I've clashed with several individuals in the past, Alhamdulillah I realized that those with whom I don't get along can be grouped into a number of categories:
1] Facebook users who have a completely different manhaj or understanding of what Islam is. A lot of them shared content from the likes of Anwar Al-Awlaki and Ahmad Musa Jibril many of whose lectures or writings incorrectly advocated violence, rebellion and an extremist mindset in Islam. It makes sense that if you follow the correct 'Aqeedah according to the teachings in the Noble Qur'an and Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, you may not harmoniously vibe with those who promote ignorance, wrong ideologies and who insist on committing bid'ah.
2] Those who can't fully trust me because their standards unfairly justify I'm not "Salafi enough" until I totally abandon those who haven't openly labeled themselves as a "Salafi", unaware of the virtues of doing Da'wah and maintaining good character with every soul whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala decrees us to meet.
3] Those who hesitate to get acquainted on a more personal level fearing I may be "judgemental" or harshly critical towards them, not knowing that I understand it's our duty as Muslims to invite others to Allah's Way without forcing our beliefs onto anyone.
4] Females who misunderstand my intense dislike towards gossip and backbiting. I'm willing to strengthen the sisterly bond with them on condition they avoid discussing the flaws and private matters of other people.
5] Women who haven't found the strength yet to patiently accept the beautiful concept of polygyny or who notice some aspects in me that unintentionally triggered feelings of jealousy.
6] Those who roll their eyes when I post "too much" on social media, ironically tolerant of other users uploading frequent selfies and actually cringy viral videos, while suspecting me of committing riyaa or shirk. AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem.
7] Those who still judge me by my jaahiliyyah past. Once I sense a person is uncomfortable in my presence, I do them a kind favor by distancing myself from them further to protect us from each other.
🔸 Tips to deal with the various people in your life who can't stand you:
1] Acknowledge the fact that we are not directly responsible for how people feel about us. Continue serving Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, trying your utmost to please Only Him regardless of His creation's ways of dealing with you.
2] Adjust yourself and positively change for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala Only, not to satisfy His servants and meet their unreasonable expectations.
3] The sun continues to shine brightly, with Allah's Permission, even if some people complain about the sun's heat and hot weather. Similarly keep being the positive, friendly and cheerful Muslim that you are. Don't allow negative, rude and grumpy individuals, who are either jealous or struggling with serious insecurity issues, to lower the rating of your noteworthy manners.
4] Since not all humans can relate to your journey, interests and values, don't expect everybody to appreciate you. If you're moving forward in life or climbing up a mountain, inevitably you may make enemies along the way who want you to remain where they are, because they're that unmotivated, oblivious to what is upright, or simply insecure.
5] A strong connection with Allah the Most Merciful is what can guarantee success in both worlds Inn-sha-Allah. On the Day of Judgment, we anticipate being questioned about the good deeds we sincerely did for Allah's sake, not how many fans we've gained and friends we made.
6] Focus on the few people who love you for who you are and who recognize your value, especially if your unique squad is inclusive of your loving parents, destined spouse and like-minded souls who have similar characteristics or goals as you.
7] Criticism, insults and false accusations or misjudgment from whoever doesn't really know you are like pesky flies that you can brush away or walk away from. Consider them as ideal tools to enhance your levels of patience. Let them effectively train your ability to stay away from the wrongdoings that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala has forbidden.
Forgive your haters for Allah's sake, and be tough enough to resist being influenced by fluctuating emotions.
Remember that the only approval worth seeking is that of the love of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and His noble Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam.
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Charity does not decrease wealth, no one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor, and no one humbles himself for the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A bedouin asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “When is the Hour (The Day of Judgment)?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “What have you prepared for it?” The man said, “Love for Allah and his Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam).” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, “You will be with those whom you love.”
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3435, Sahih Muslim 2639
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim