💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Question: Without sugarcoating, describe how you generally behave, as an INTJ personality type, around individuals whom you despise for Allah's sake or whom you don't trust?
📝 Answer: Alhamdulillah, since I'm aware of how true and timely Allah's Justice is, I avoid being unjust and oppressive towards His servants as much as possible. My disinterest in connecting with certain people on a deeper level though doesn't mean I'll readily gossip about them or act like an obnoxious bully whenever they're around. If there's a particular individual whom I am not eager to befriend because once upon a time they did something very unacceptable or they proved to be awfully unreliable too many times, I would...
1] Stay away from them, for Allah's sake, as much as I can both online and offline. I won't bother checking their social media accounts, including their channel on YouTube if I know they manage one, and if ever I stumble upon several comments which they've posted on any website or group chat, I would instantly and unapologetically skip through them, uninterested in evaluating the entire text.
2] Refrain from enunciating their name as much as I can, so gossiping about them is something I'd try my best to avoid, not because I believe that they're actually decent human beings but to preserve my moral values and integrity. My willingness to be morally upright and ethical causes me to be easily turned off whenever someone directly or indirectly shows me that they are absolutely untrustworthy - for instance, they are a co-worker who is incompetent and absent regularly.
3] Feel reluctant to invite them to accompany me on a shopping trip or any journey outdoors. I'd rather stay in or cancel attending a gathering than unwillingly inform them they can tag along. You can't be your usual self when a suspicious person is nearby.
4] Actively resist the urge to inquire about their interests, current life circumstances and personal background, particularly if I've already concluded that they can't be trusted at all. Although I perceive them as undependable, I strive to maintain polite manners with them as much as possible.
5] Refuse asking for their advice or feedback on anything, since I've had enough of their lousy lies, fakery, self-entitlement, selfishness, unreliability, bad influence and wrong choices.
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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, "A righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawḍat Al-‘Uqalā’ 56