Note: INTJs And Social Interactions

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

🗒️ How most individuals with the INTJ personality type treat people according to the kind of connection they have: 

1] If you are only an acquaintance, they: 

• are mostly very brief and businesslike with you. 

• may occasionally greet you. 

• show no interest in your background, aren't curious about your past, or they do what they can to avoid asking you personal questions. 

2] If you are a casual friend, they: 

• have invited you to go out with them for shopping or an outing more than once. 

• seem to enjoy talking to you online and face-to-face. 

• try their best to support your halal business, projects, and hobbies, lovingly supporting you without wanting anything in return. 

3] If you are a close friend, they: 

• may have fought or argued with you once in a while but you always end up forgiving each other for Allah's sake. 

• regularly go out of their way to reach out, visit, communicate, ask how you're doing, and they're able to patiently wait for your delayed replies. 

• requested for your advice or borrowed items from you multiple times. 

• often give you freebies, edibles, drinks, books, or gifts not necessarily for a special occasion but they simply felt like giving something they can offer to demonstrate their love for Allah's sake. 

• are capable of joking around with you, so you're one of the carefully selected few who get to see their less serious side of their personality. 

4] If you're a spouse, family member or relative, they: 

• tolerate your differences and flaws with patience. 

• will staunchly assist or defend you if they saw you in trouble, as long as attempting to help you doesn't conflict with their values and goals. 

• don't permanently hold grudges no matter how many times you've scolded, mistreated, or insulted them. They readily forgive, while being slightly distant to protect you both from pointless arguments. 

5] With strangers whom they are uninterested in befriending, they: 

• never stalk their social media accounts nor bother reading their comments entirely. 

• can appear socially awkward, unapproachable, or somewhat snobby. Most conversations feel forced, uncomfortable, or don't flow smoothly. 

• don't make much eye contact, as if the stranger is a mosquito or fly buzzing around their personal space bubble temporarily. 

A person's choice to be cautiously selective regarding who gets to enter their circle doesn't make them "arrogant". It's your right to maintain connection with those whose vibes align with yours and minimize problems by staying away from distractions.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi

📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."

Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

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Note: Maintain Good Character Even If Not Everyone You Meet Shows Good Manners

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Just because your dear parents educated you about Islamic ethics and good manners doesn't mean everybody you encounter will always treat you well. You can't expect a wolf or lion to become a hundred percent vegan and not devour you simply because you don't eat them.

Even though you may be one of the nicest individuals on earth who never did anyone wrong intentionally, there will still be many insecure characters who mistreat you without any respect either because they hate seeing you surpass them in some way, they're struggling with serious insecurities, they had an awful upbringing, or they're undeniably jealous of your achievements and confident personality. So next time a few ignoble oafs show lowliness in being enviously rude, don't stoop to their level by acting immaturely as they do. Keep smiling with patience and understanding, while maintaining noble Akhlaaq and cheerful attitude.

Remember that how others deal with you doesn't define your value. The beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam himself had troublesome enemies from among the unbelievers, hypocrites, and liars who weren't guided by Allah the Most Wise to accept the truth.

📖 Abu Dharr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Fear Allah wherever you are, follow a bad deed with a good deed and it will erase it, and behave well with good character towards the people."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1987

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

📖 Abdullah bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 10 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi 

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Note: Tips To Avoid Or Minimize Stress

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 While it's not possible to avoid stress at school or in the workplace always, there are some things that we can do to lessen the negative effects of stress on us:

1) Always do everything for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Anything you do sincerely for Allah's sake is never wasted and it doesn't come with regret but lessons learned, patience and contentment.

2) Stay away from people who are bad for you and whose companionship can do more harm to your faith/Imaan than good. Minimize unnecessary interactions with those who enjoy backbiting, spreading rumors or speaking untruthfully.

3) When you are given the choice to choose between justice and mercy, try to select being merciful, tolerant and forgiving whenever possible. Not only does practicing sympathy and forgiveness develop your good character, but trying to be more understanding towards others can protect you from a lot of unwanted drama or trouble.

4) Be strong enough to say sorry to those whom you've mistreated. Be tough enough to accept someone's apology and enhance your inner strength by showing more willingness to understand, give space and forgive.

5) Know when to mind your own business, when to distance yourself from certain individuals and when not to participate in situations that don't concern you. If a particular task isn't part of your duty or expected responsibilities, never feel guilty of walking away from what isn't rewarding or worthy of your energy, response or attention.

6) When stressed out, make it a habit to get used to seclusion or isolation at times. Take brief naps if necessary. Spending quality time with Allah the Most Loving by praying Sunnah prayers like Salat Ad-Duha in the forenoon, saying Dhikr and Du'as, or gaining extra rewards through Qur'an recitation, is a lot better than wasting time with people who simply collect others' sins each time they preoccupy themselves with gossip and backbiting.

7) Obtain comfort and inner peace by reading Islamic books and beneficial articles online.

8) Control the kind of content you expose yourself to on social media. Realize the difference between status updates that give you a bad mood and those informative posts which uplift you, energize you and inspire you to become a better Muslim.

9) Remind yourself constantly that this world is temporary. Any struggle, trial and hardship you go through not only expiates your sins, but trials are meant to strengthen your faith/Imaan and upgrade your level or ranking in Jannah Paradise as long as you strive to survive this temporal dunya with Taqwa, gratitude and patience.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318, Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Hudhayfah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: If the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam was distressed about anything, he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam would pray.

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 1319

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

Poem: I Believe That My Husband Was Wisely Chosen By Allah For Me

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 If my husband were a toy that I could redesign, 

If he were a robot which I could personalize, 

And if I had freedom to control him anytime, 

I'd say my delight as his wife would be amplified, 

Specially if he'd stay beside me each day and night. 

~•~

So he'd be my ideal type of guy, I'd modify 

His body size, so he'd be in shape, increase in height, 

And his inner glow would outshine how he looks outside 

Every time he clearly strives to be knightly and kind, 

While there'd never be fights as he'd do everything right.

~•~ 

But that's only a dream, wishful thinking, and desire. 

How nice it would be if he were flawless all the time. 

Before when I was single, and this isn't a lie, 

I asked Allah for a caring spouse. Thus I surmise 

My husband is a blessing from Allah the Most Wise. 

~•~

I confirm I can find another guy if I liked, 

Claiming I'm tired of just seeing this man a few times 

Or the amount he provides can't fully satisfy,

But I won't substitute him even if I were bribed. 

I choose to love him for Allah till one of us dies.

~•~ 

He's not very rich nor romantic, I certify, 

But being his wife inspires my faith / Imaan to rise. 

I apply patience when his absence prompts me to cry, 

And when he makes me smile, gratitude is exercised.

I pray this bond leads to perfect love in Paradise.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Umm Salamah RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah (Paradise).".

[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan]

Riyad As-Salihin 286

In-book reference: Introduction, Hadith 286

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

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