Tips: Some Tips On How To Deal With Sometimes Feeling Hungry And Thirsty While Fasting

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Some tips on how to lessen or ease the feeling of hunger and thirst while fasting during Ramadan: 

1] Remind yourself that you're fasting in Ramadan only to please Allah the Almighty. Good deeds which are sincerely done for Allah's sake become worthwhile and manageable eventually. 

2] Allahu A'lam. Remember how the noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and his companions, the Sahabas, RadhiAllahu 'anhum were able to fast with patience and perseverance, even though many times their Suhoor may have consisted of just water and dates. They also succeeded, with guidance and help from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, in winning at the battle of Badr while a lot of the Muslims were fasting. 

3] Try to join those who have their Suhoor meals a few minutes, like an hour or thirty minutes, before Salat Al-Fajr instead of having the Suhoor at midnight or not having Suhoor at all. If you eat and drink some minutes before the Adhaan of Fajr prayer is called, you're more likely to feel full and remain satiated than if you had your Suhoor too early. 

4] Do not oblige yourself to drink tea or coffee while having each Suhoor meal. Hot beverages may be enjoyed after Iftaar and dinner to avoid feeling thirsty throughout the day. 

5] The more salty edibles you digest while having Suhoor, the more water you should drink to avoid feeling thirsty throughout the day.  

6] Refrain from watching videos related to cooking, especially "mukbangs" which could trigger you to feel hungrier or complain about feeling hungry. 

7] Look forward to attaining rewards from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for striving to maintain patience while fasting and doing good deeds for His sake. 

8] Occasionally take brief naps in the daytime without lazily neglecting doing the good deeds which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala loves such as reading from the Noble Qur'an and learning more about Islam through reliable sources. 

9] Recall the wisdom and reasons behind the legislation of fasting in Ramadan including to gain Taqwa, enhance self-control (if you're capable of avoiding halal actions like eating and drinking while fasting, you actually have the strength to stay away from what Allah the Most Wise has made haraam / forbidden), and to feel how the poor people feel to be motivated to be more generous when one has the financial means to do sadaqah and charity.

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever fasts the month of Ramadan due to faith (Imaan) and seeking reward, his previous sins will be forgiven. Whoever stands in prayer during the Night of Decree (Laylatul Qadr) due to faith and seeking reward, his previous sins will be forgiven."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1802 

Sahih Muslim 760

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/hadith-virtues-of-ramadan.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/tips-some-suggested-tab-titles-or.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/fasting-in-ramadan-what-does-it-mean-why-do-we-fast-what-is-gained/ 

Note: The Real Purpose Of Fasting

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Your intention of fasting shouldn't be to lose weight, 

Not to deprive yourself from blessings that Allah gave 

So your strength, devotion and piety are displayed, 

Not because your parents ordered or when friends persuade, 

But you fast sincerely and purely for Allah's sake.

~•~

Fast in Ramadan to obey Allah, as Muslims, 

And to fulfill Islam's pillars with their conditions. 

Join the righteous who love fasting Sunnah fasts often, 

Like on Mondays, Thursdays, in Muharram and Sha'baan, 

To be from the special ones who enter Ar-Rayyaan.

~•~

The virtues of fasting include: Gaining Allah's Love, 

Feeling poor people's hunger so you're more generous, 

Discipline in shunning what Allah prohibited, 

Preferring Allah's Pleasure to dunya's brief pleasures, 

And higher status in Jannah through increased rewards.

~•~

📖 Umar Ibn Al-Khattab RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, deeds are only with intentions. Verily, every person will have only what they intended. Whoever emigrated to Allah and His Messenger, his emigration is for Allah and His Messenger (SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam). Whoever emigrated to get something in the world or to marry a woman, his emigration is for that to which he emigrated."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 54 

Sahih Muslim 1907

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa’d RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, there is a gate in Paradise called Ar-Rayyaan, through which only those who fasted will enter on the Day of Resurrection. No one else will enter it along with them. It will be said: 'Where are those who fasted, so that they may enter?' When the last of them enters, it will be closed and no one else will go through it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1797

Sahih Muslim 1152

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever fasts a day in the way of Allah, Allah will move his face away from the Hellfire by a distance of seventy years."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2685

Sahih Muslim 1153

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Allah says to the angels: 'If My servant intends to do a bad deed, do not record it unless he does it. If he does it, record it as one bad deed. If he leaves it for My sake, record for him one good deed. If he intends to do a good deed and he does not do it, record for him one good deed. If he does it, record for him ten good deeds like it up to seven-hundred times as much.'"

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 7062 

Sahih Muslim 128

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah has recorded good and evil deeds and He made them clear. Whoever intends to perform a good deed but does not do it, Allah will record it as a complete good deed. If he intends to do it and does so, Allah the Almighty will record it as ten good deeds, up to seven hundred times as much or even more. If he intends to do an evil deed and does not do it, Allah will record for him one complete good deed. If he does it, Allah will record for him as one evil deed."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6126 

Sahih Muslim 131

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

https://abukhadeejah.com/fasting-in-ramadan-what-does-it-mean-why-do-we-fast-what-is-gained/

Tips: Advice On How To Deal With "Fake People" / Hypocrites

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Some tips on how to deal with "fake people" and hypocrites who a) pretend to be Muslims but in actuality conceal disbelief or b) act like they're your friend while despising you due to unresolved conflict or jealousy: 

1] Don't trust them at all. Do not be surprised if they continue proving to you that they're morally uncivilized and untrustworthy. 

2] Never take their statements, "advice" and opinions seriously. Any criticism you receive from them could be a reflection of their insecurities. 

3] When they promise to do something or agree they'll try their best to accomplish a particular task, don't expect too much, to avoid unsurprising disappointments. 

4] Be completely disinterested in wanting to become more acquainted with them. There's no point in trying to become actual friends if a lot of their responses to your questions carry obvious lies and fabricated narratives. 

5] Keep your distance, while maintaining good manners with every soul whom Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala wants you to meet, and minimize unnecessary conversations with frequent liars and two-faced individuals.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 

Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There are four signs that make someone a pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of hypocrisy until he abandons it: When he speaks, he lies; when he makes a covenant, he is treacherous; when he makes a promise, he breaks it; and when he argues, he is wicked."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 34, Sahih Muslim 58

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, among the worst of people is one with two faces, he who comes with one face to these (group of people) and another to those (acting differently towards another group)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6757

Sahih Muslim 2526

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://abukhadeejah.com/minor-and-major-hypocrisy-and-the-hypocrites-by-al-barbahaaree-explanation-of-al-fawzaan/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-what-it-means-to-hate-someone-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/poem-dont-be-from-two-faced-hypocrites.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-avoid-nifaaqhypocrisy.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-careful-of-hypocrites-who-claim-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-eleven-things-to-do-to-avoid.html 

Note: Why I Don't Believe In Wearing Engagement And Wedding Rings

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five reasons why I do not believe in wearing engagement and wedding rings: 

1] Even if one's husband can afford to purchase jewelry, it is better to refrain from wearing wedding rings to avoid imitating the unbelievers who put them on, many of whom wrongly assume that such objects bring "good fortune" or as long as you have your wedding ring your marriage life remains blessed. 

2] There is no evident command from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala in the Noble Qur'an and Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam for Muslim males and females to wear wedding rings. If wearing a wedding ring isn't mandatory nor a recommended Sunnah, why feel obliged to do something which could imply indirectly imitating the customs of some non-Muslims? 

3] There are no textual proofs and clear evidence which mention how any of the wives of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, as well as the female Sahaabiyyaat RadhiAllahu 'anhun, wore special accessories to indicate they're married.

4] Besides the fact that some individuals find wearing rings uncomfortable, slightly heavy at times or distracting, it can  cause additional stress and unnecessary anxiety when one's wedding ring gets lost or stolen, especially if it cost a lot.

5] I believe that loving my dear husband for Allah's sake is way deeper and more meaningful than what a tiny ring is designed to portray. While several adults claim to be happily married with a flashy wedding ring on, if they had the chance to commit adultery without penalty, plenty of them may not hesitate. 

True love for Allah's sake as a faithful wife, whether you're in a monogamous or polygynous marriage, isn't limited to signing marriage contracts, making audible vows and showcasing an expensive wedding ring. It's a lot more than that.

~•~ 

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever imitates a people is one of them."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4031

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever innovates into this matter of ours that which does not belong to it, it will be rejected."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever performs a deed that is not in accordance with our matter, it will be rejected."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 2550

Sahih Muslim 1718

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-in-islam-theres-no-need-to-wear.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/a-woman-offers-herself-for-marriage-the-permissible-dowry-and-the-guardians-words-of-acceptance/

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/7108/%D8%AD%D9%83%D9%85-%D9%84%D8%A8%D8%B3-%D8%AF%D8%A8%D9%84%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AE%D8%B7%D8%A8%D8%A9-%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC

Note: What Good Muslim Friends Often Discuss vs What Shallow People Find Interesting

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ From the topics which shallow people and toxic friends discuss a lot:

1] People's flaws, disagreeable attributes and faults.
2] Recent rumors or unpleasant news about a mutual friend, acquaintance or celebrity.
3] The latest updates related to items and products on sale while finding most Islamic lectures unappealing.
4] Actually narcissistic and boastful talk about one's achievements or joys without any intention to motivate others to become better Muslims.
5] Pointless complaints regarding certain difficulties without aiming to solve problems, draining your energy by whining aimlessly.
🌻✨ From the outcomes of minimizing and avoiding dialogues with shallow people:
1] Conserving your time and energy for more meaningful, rewarding and worthwhile activities, such as reading more pages from the Noble Qur'an and studying Islam through reliable sources.
2] Protecting your account of deeds from accumulating the sins of Muslims who are being criticized in their absence or discussed negatively.
3] Improved inner state, enhanced preservation of your emotional well-being, and avoidance of bad vibes.
💬 🗨️ What righteous Muslims and the right kind of friends prefer to talk about:
1] Beneficial lessons they've learned from an Islamic lecture, class or gathering.
2] Sincere reminders to do more good deeds truthfully for Allah's sake like fasting Sunnah fasts and praying Taraweeh, Witr and Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl.
3] Helpful advice to relieve you from worries, words of encouragement, inspirational tips.
4] Ways to develop one's personality and strengthen one's faith Imaan, supporting one another to succeed in both worlds, with Allah's Will, as patient, faithful and dedicated Muslims.
5] Warnings against committing evil deeds and bid'ah (religious innovated acts), not feeling reluctant to correct each other's wrongs when necessary.
~•~
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer who mixes with the people and endures their harm with patience has a greater reward than one who does not mix with the people nor endures their harm with patience."
Source: Musnad Ahmed 22588
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Ahmed Shakir
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer."
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-trust-allah-almighty-and-strive-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-when-youre-contented-with-allahs.html  

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-to-socialize-and-be-friendly-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/note-its-your-prerogative-to-choose.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-how-to-tell-if-somebodys-vibes-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/12/tips-signs-of-shallow-and-superficial.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/what-is-true-brotherhood-in-islam-and-in-the-sunnah-and-what-are-its-requirements/

Poem: Oppose shaytan And Don't Do What he Desires

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ As one who aspires to be among Allah's allies, 

Ignore shaytan's orders, don't do what the devil likes, 

And ditch the traits which got him kicked out of Paradise: 

Dissatisfaction with Allah's Decree, shameful pride, 

And enslaving oneself to despicable desires.

~•~ 

From the dreadful instances that bring shaytan delight: 

When sins like zina become widespread, when Muslims fight, 

When disputing relatives refuse to reunite, 

When deceitful souls and unlawful gains multiply, 

And when some mortals proudly spoil how they were designed.

~•~

Avoid those for Allah's sake. Leave what Allah dislikes. 

Do the opposite of what demons want - their "advice" 

And "vows" are more false than watching cows fall from brown skies. 

Differ from the devil's style. Eat and drink with your right. 

Don't be too reckless. Analyze before you decide. 

~•~ 

From the wrong decisions which can cause shaytan to smile: 

Sacrificing Jannah's joys for a sinful lifestyle, 

Neglecting Allah's Rights on purpose while finding time 

To work so one's boss and customers stay satisfied, 

Denying Allah's Mercy, or taking one's own life.

~•~ 

Guard your faith / Imaan with help from Allah the Most Wise, 

Adhkaar and Surah Al-Baqarah often recite, 

Oppose shaytan's suggestions, abhor what iblees likes, 

And that shaytan wishes for our downfall realize. 

shaytan's our worst enemy - don't do what he desires.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Recite Surah Al-Baqarah in your houses, for shaytan does not enter a house in which Surah Al-Baqarah is recited."

Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 2162

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When one of you eats, let him eat with his right hand. When he drinks, let him drink with his right hand. Verily, the devil (shaytaan) eats and drinks with his left hand."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2020

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Sahl Ibn Sa'd RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Clemency is from Allah and haste (being too reckless) is from shaytan."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2012

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Suyuti 

📖 Jabir RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, shaytan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations (mischief, trouble). One of them says: 'I have done this and this.' shaytan says: 'you have done nothing.' Another one says: 'I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife.' shaytan embraces him and he says: 'you have done well!'" 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2813 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/note-tips-to-wake-up-for-fajr-prayer.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-dismiss-shaytans-whispers-as-he.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/20-ways-to-avoid-the-places-conduct-and-plots-of-shaytan-ruqyah-series-1/ 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/9149/%D9%81%D8%B6%D9%84-%D9%82%D8%B1%D8%A7%D8%A1%D8%A9-%D8%B3%D9%88%D8%B1%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A8%D9%82%D8%B1%D8%A9-%D9%81%D9%8A-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A8%D9%8A%D8%AA

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/20-ways-to-avoid-Shaytan-and-his-plots.pdf

Note: It's Better For Muslim Teens To Marry Early Than For Them To Be Involved In Haraam Unlawful Relationships

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 According to my late mother (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) through a friend of hers back in Saudi Arabia, this guy (the woman's nephew) instantly felt "in love" with me when he saw me as a bridesmaid at my older cousin's wedding. He, who was accordingly employed in Madinah that time, was actually serious about getting married that he even requested for a formal meeting with my family at one of our apartments in Riyadh city. I remember my mother asking me to smile upon seeing him or seem a bit friendlier, to behave more femininely instead of boyish, as if she could sense that I'd meet him (in the presence of my family, not one-on-one) with an unimpressed scowl or glare at him angrily so he'd get turned off. I was around fourteen years old then, still struggling with bulimia which somewhat affected my ability to make logical decisions. So as soon as the guy left, I blatantly told my mother that I wasn't willing to marry him mainly because of his clean-shaven baby face, plus he was as tall as I was or probably several inches shorter. My late father (Allah yarhamhu. Ameen.) even laughingly agreed with me on how the suitor looked baby-faced and he let my mother know that there was no need to compel me to marry if I didn't want to. 

When I was around seventeen or eighteen years old, one of my male "childhood friends" whose parents were close friends with mine since our stay in Al-Khobar and/or Dammam, visited us with his father to express his interest in marrying me. Without even analyzing the pros and cons of accepting his marriage proposal, I quickly rejected it because, being aware that he was two or so years younger than me, I preferred marrying a man who's a lot older with more life experience. 

Some time before we moved to the Philippines from Riyadh city, I received another marriage proposal from the son of one of the Pakistani friends of my mother. Again I declined the proposal, even unplugged the cords of all the telephones around the house (back when cellphones weren't common yet) so his admirably ambitious, lovingly supportive and eager mother would give up telephoning us regarding her son's marriage proposal. My reason for not accepting his proposal was my ignorant misjudgment that he may be a boring spouse due to him being obviously a shy type of guy. At one of the gatherings we attended with other South Asian friends and families, I recall having a quick glimpse of him looking at me from a distance while he was with other guys his age. While I thought his general appearance was okay, I was the type of girl who'd go for a guy who's more domineering, charismatic, and sociable, one who wouldn't hesitate to take the lead, a bit like a stereotypical "alpha male". I pray that Allah the Most Merciful forgives all my mistakes and bestows on all those guys and their loved ones happiness, contentment and peace in both worlds. Ameen. 

As you can tell, a lot of female teenagers may reject a marriage proposal for silly reasons - maybe the guy isn't good-looking enough, according to their standards, or he's not tall enough, or there's no instant attraction in the initial stages, unaware yet that genuine love can't be enjoyed before marriage but true love is learned after one has become legally married. 

Concerning early marriage, it is possible for a female teenager to enjoy marriage life if she strongly believes that she's making the right choice, without an ounce of potential remorse, in accepting the marriage proposal of a sincere, mature, financially stable, capable and responsible Muslim man who genuinely wishes to marry her for Allah's sake, not just for how she looks outwardly.

Whether the young husband and his wife temporarily stay at the house of his parents or his wife's parents until he can afford his own residence, or the young Muslim couple are blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala with their own housing, and whether one of them is still studying or they're both pursuing their education, what matters is that their marriage ultimately leads to Allah's Love, keeps their faith/Imaan strengthened, and preserves their modesty. 

Marrying at an early age doesn't make one's marriage any better than the marriages of those who got married in their thirties and older. From among the common reasons why some Muslims decide to marry in their teens are their willingness and preparedness to get married, eagerness to avoid haraam relationships and fitna through lawful marriage, and possibly so their parents can see their cute grandchildren before Allah the Most Wise takes their souls back to Him. 

Allah the Almighty knows best.

~•~

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Marriage is part of my Sunnah. Whoever does not act upon my Sunnah is not part of me. Give each other in marriage, for I will boast of your great numbers before the nations. Whoever has the means, let him contract a marriage. Whoever does not have the means should fast, as fasting will discipline his impulses (desires)."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 1846

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani  

📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547

Sahih Muslim 1420

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-while-not-every-woman-gets-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/11/note-arranged-marriages-vs-forced.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/note-survey-on-love-and-marriage.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/19135/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B0%D9%8A-%D8%A7%D9%86%D8%B5%D8%AD-%D8%A8%D9%87-%D9%87%D9%88-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC-%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%A8%D9%83%D8%B1 

Tips: Some Things You Can Do To Brighten Your Mood Instantly

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📑 Some things you can do to brighten your mood 

Inn-sha-Allah instantly, even if you don't have close friends to talk to or can't always spend time with your family: 

1] With a melodious voice calmly read some pages from the Noble Qur'an. Try to check the Tafseer and the verses' meanings to understand Allah's Words more. 

2] Listen to some tranquil Qur'an recitations while relaxing or completing some chores. 

3] Read an Islamic book or beneficial writings of Muslims who strive to follow the teachings in the Noble Qur'an and Sunnah of the beloved Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. 

4] Attentively listen to an Islamic lecture or occasionally attend Islamic classes when possible. 

5] Research online on how to become a better Muslim, how to strengthen your personality and how to deal with different types of people. 

6] Watch motivational videos and inspirational talks on YouTube, while making sure that you avoid content which may trigger self-doubt. 

7] Go out for a few minutes to get some sunlight, enjoy the breeze, watch how clouds scatter around the skies, look at rainfall, see the stars and trees etc. Reflect on nature and your surroundings which Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala beautifully created, while saying Adhkaar and Du'a. 

8] Take a light nap and if you wake up from an interesting dream, attempt to analyze what it could mean. 

9] Improve a skill (such as calligraphy or learning how to communicate better in Arabic language) or enhance your understanding of a particular subject which you believe can benefit you in both worlds. 

10] Say Dhikr and seek Allah's Forgiveness with dedication. Say "AstaghfurAllah Al-'Atheem" and "Laa ilaaha illaa Anta SubhaanAka innee kuntu min adh-dhaalimeen" as often as you can. 

11] Gather info, through reliable sources, on how Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and his companions / the Sahaabas RadhiAllahu 'anhum, as well as Allah's other Prophets 'alaihim as-salaam, lived their lives and derive benefits from how they constructively dealt with various challenges.

~•~ 

📖 Suhayb RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Amazing is the affair of the believer, as there is good for him in every matter. This is not the case for anyone but for the believer. If he goes through ease (or happy moments), he thanks Allah and it is good for him. If he goes through difficulty, he shows patience and it is good for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2999

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Some people from the Ansaar asked the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam and he gave them. Then they asked for charity again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them. Then they asked again and he SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave them until all he had was gone. The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I had anything, I would not withhold it. Whoever refrains from asking others, then Allah will make him content. Whoever would be independent, then Allah will make him independent. Whoever would be patient, then Allah will make him patient. There is no gift that is better and more comprehensive than patience."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6105

Sahih Muslim 1053

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Nothing afflicts a Muslim of hardship, nor illness, nor anxiety, nor sorrow, nor harm, nor distress, nor even the pricking of a thorn, but that Allah will expiate his sins by it."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5318, Sahih Muslim 2573

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/tips-nine-things-to-avoid-for-allahs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-eleven-actions-that-can-with.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-how-to-achieve-happiness-as-muslim.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-what-does-actual-happiness-look.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-ways-to-deal-with-depression-as.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/tips-seven-things-to-avoid-to-achieve.html  

https://abukhadeejah.com/you-reap-what-you-sow-in-recompense-for-your-deeds/

Note: INTJs, Bullying And Some Tips On How To Deal With Bullies

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, did you ever go through bullying at school? What advice can you give on dealing with bullies? 

📝 Answer: Being the only Filipino among large classrooms of Saudi and Arab females at the Arabic (private and public) schools I went to back in Riyadh city, yes, I was usually bullied by a few students. I usually had some of my money stolen or missing from my bag, was regularly laughed at when somebody would loudly pronounce my full name incorrectly, and every now and then almost wherever I went around the school there'd be a number of girls from different grade levels rudely staring at me, giggling or calling me in Arabic "Chinese" (Sseeniyyah), "Japanese" (Yaabaaniyyah), Filipina (Filibbeeniyyah) and on one occasion "French" (Faransiyyah). Imagine a Sri Lankan student with dark skin walking around the halls while random students frequently yell out "African!", "Yo blackie!" and "Chocolate mousse". It wouldn't be fun if you were in that student's place. 

I remember one instance when I was trying to pull out a folding seat at a school bus and this chubby girl was purposely preventing me from sitting beside her. Alhamdulillah after a few minutes of struggling to sit properly, an older student motioned me to be seated near her at the back. 

Eventually when I realized the negative impact of being bullied by two or three students when I was in elementary school, I informed my loving parents (Allah yarhamhuma. Ameen.) about what was going on. Alhamdulillah they were able to solve the bullying issue, with my dear mom (Allah yarhamha. Ameen.) actually contacting some of the administrators and female staff to handle the problem directly. 

I find it strange that in spite of all the times when several students would laugh at me for looking different, for my nationality and for the way my surname sounds, I couldn't feel offended and distraught at all, as if easily getting hurt when criticized for how Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala created me isn't one of my functions. Although some students and teachers would often scowl or burst into laughter when I'd do something which they'd consider silly, particularly since I struggled to communicate well in Arabic language, I remained emotionally undisturbed and unaffected by how I was perceived by people, not knowing that being an INTJ personality type could be why I generally seemed "unemotional". 

✅ Some tips on dealing with bullying (Advice to kids, teens and those young at heart): 

1] Maintain strong connection with Allah the Almighty Who sees everything which occurs on earth and Who always deals with His servants justly. Whenever you have problems, seek guidance and help from Allah Who knows how to answer your Du'as wisely. 

2] Understand why bullies act like they enjoy bullying when in reality, deep down inside, they feel miserable, awful and guilty about behaving irrationally. A lot of them likely misbehave due to their struggles with abusive parents, disappointing academic performance or older siblings who bully them in their homes, or some aspects about you cause them to feel jealous and insecure.

3] A ) Stubbornly ignore toxic people until they get tired of bullying you. Don't pay attention to their idiotic attempts at grabbing your attention which they probably couldn't receive from their parents who didn't do very well in teaching them good manners. 

B ) Confidently talk back and defend yourself if you believe that doing so won't cause more trouble than if you stayed silent and indifferent. Your bullies may start liking you if they notice that you're capable of defending what you value. 

C ) Tell at least two adults whom you can trust about what's bothering you instead of keeping the bullying problem a secret. 

4] Do some research on how others effectively tackled bullying without intending to injure anybody. If you can't make a friend out of a bully, avoid interacting with them as much as possible, and when you must speak, be concise unapologetically. 

5] Steadfastly believe that all humans (and jinns) will be rewarded and requited for their actions if not sooner in this world then later on the Day of Judgment. A sense of relief can be felt when you know that, with Allah's Will, the outcomes of people's actions ultimately return to them at the most ideal timing.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Bin Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "The Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe."

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Al-Bukhari 10 Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi

📖 Amr Ibn Absah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is Islam?” The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "That you surrender your heart to Allah and that the Muslims are safe from your tongue and hands."

Source: Shu'ab Al-Imān 20 Grade: Sahih 

📖 Abu Nadrah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated that Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "O people, your Rabb (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) is One and your father Adam ('alaihis salaam) is one. There is no favor of an Arab over a foreigner (non-Arab), nor a foreigner over an Arab, and neither white skin over black skin, nor black skin over white skin, except by (Taqwa) righteousness. Have I not delivered the message?"

Source: Musnad Ahmed 22978 

Grade: Sahih 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/10/tips-on-dealing-with-adult-bullying.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/tips-how-most-intjs-would-respond-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/06/note-advice-on-how-not-to-get-offended.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/allah-has-forbidden-oppression-for-himself-and-has-forbidden-it-for-the-people-hadith-qudsi/ 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-you-handle-bullying-based-on-your-personality-type/ 

Tips: Some Signs Of Riyaa And How To Avoid It

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Signs that a person is guilty of riyaa (deliberately doing good deeds to show off): 

You can't really judge, since Only Allah the Almighty knows what's actually inside the hearts and thoughts of His servants. 

⚠️ Some signs that you may be guilty of riyaa (which you can repent from), and you know yourself more than other individuals do: 

1] You seldom or never purify your niyyah / intention before doing a deed which can bring you closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. When doing some righteous actions, such as praying or fasting, your real motive is not to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala but to complete them as religious customs, following in the footsteps of your parents, or to intentionally showcase to some people that you're more pious than them. 

2] When ridiculed, ostracized or criticized for doing a particular good deed, such as pausing an activity to pray on time or sharing Islamic reminders, you put a stop to it. You're eager to do a good deed only if enough number of individuals clearly show support and grant approval. 

3] You feel reluctant to do a good deed, such as praying in the Masjid and attending an Islamic lecture, unless you're fully certain that there's an audience watching. 

4] You can't deny that most of the people who are acquainted with you perceive you as a practicing Muslim yet behind the scenes you enjoy committing several sins such as watching indecent films, listening to music as a hobby, and knowingly carrying out dhulm / oppression / injustice against many of Allah's creation. 

5] You don't bother asking Allah the Most Powerful to protect you from major and minor shirk / polytheism. You generally act as if you're so sure that all of your good deeds done publicly will be accepted and you'd succeed on the Day of Judgment without any questioning. 

🛡️ What you can do, with Allah's Will, to be shielded from riyaa: 

1] Always purify your niyyah / intention before doing obligatory (waajib and fardh), voluntary (Sunnah and mustahabb), and lawful (halal and permissible) deeds, intending to do them just to attain Allah's Love and Mercy, not to impress Allah's slaves or to feel amazed with oneself. 

2] Don't be self-conscious and too concerned about how people see you when doing any good deed sincerely for Allah's sake. Patiently continue striving even if some suspect your intention or critics deride your choices, values and beliefs. 

3] Consistently seek help from Allah the Most Merciful and pray that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala blesses you with Ikhlaas (sincerity), steadfastness and accepted good deeds. 

4] Strive to increase doing secret good deeds for Allah's sake, righteous actions (including praying Tahajjud / Qiyaam Al-Layl, saying Du'a, and fasting Sunnah fasts often) without notifying any human being that you've done them. 

5] Occasionally review the knowledge that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala gave you regarding warnings against shirk / polytheism and recall why riyaa is dangerous and forbidden. 

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: A man asked the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam, “What is faith (Imaan)?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If you are happy with your good deeds and saddened by your bad deeds, then you are a believer." The man said, “O Messenger of Allah, what is sin?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If something waivers in your soul (makes you feel uncertain / doubtful), then you must leave it."

Source: Musnad Ahmed 21695

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam came to us while we were discussing the False Messiah (the dajjaal). 

The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Shall I not tell you about my greater fear for you than the False Messiah?" We said, “Of course!” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "It is hidden idolatry (inconspicuous shirk / minor polytheism / riyaa), that a man stands for prayer and beautifies his prayer when he sees another man looking at him."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4204

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Ma'qil Ibn Yasar RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: I departed with Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu to meet the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam. The Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O Abu Bakr, there is (polytheism / shirk) idolatry among you more hidden than the crawling of an ant." Abu Bakr RadhiAllahu 'anhu said, “Is there idolatry (shirk) other than to make another god alongside Allah?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "By the One (Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) in Whose Hand is my soul, there is idolatry more hidden than the crawling of an ant. Shall I not tell you something to say to rid you of it both minor and major? Say: 'O Allah, I seek refuge in You that I associate partners with You while I know, and I seek Your Forgiveness for what I do not know.'"

Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 715

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://preciousgemsfromthequranandsunnah.wordpress.com/2018/12/16/dua-for-protection-from-shirk-a-very-important-dua/

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/05/poem-importance-of-doing-good-deeds-for.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/note-importance-of-doing-good-deeds.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/01/poem-reminder-to-myself-and-others-to.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-good-deeds-must-be-done-sincerely.html 

https://binbaz.org.sa/fatwas/12504/%D8%AD%D9%82%D9%8A%D9%82%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B1%D9%8A%D8%A7%D8%A1-%D9%88%D9%83%D9%8A%D9%81%D9%8A%D8%A9-%D8%AA%D8%AC%D9%86%D8%A8%D9%87

Tips: Some Tips To Prepare Oneself For Ramadan

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Some tips to prepare oneself for Ramadan:

1] Review your knowledge about the virtues and importance of fasting in Ramadan. Read some articles from reliable sources or listen to Islamic lectures about why Muslims fast in Ramadan and how to be prepared for this blessed month.

2] Put in your heart and make the intention that you eagerly look forward to fasting in Ramadan, not out of habit but to sincerely obey Allah’s Command as a dedicated Muslim.

3] Look back on how you performed in the previous Ramadan and reflect on how you can

Inn-sha-Allah perform much better than before in this upcoming month.

4] Ensure that you have completed fasting all of your missed obligatory fasts.

5] If you habitually fast every other Monday and Thursday, continue doing so for Allah’s sake particularly since it is still Sha’baan.

6] Prepare in advance your Ramadan schedule, Inn-sha-Allah with an aim to be more productive, focused and aware of which tasks need to be prioritized.

7] Sincerely from within, for Allah’s sake, forgive every human being who has mistreated you in the past and, if you’re strong enough, unblock all of the users who are currently on your lists of blocked users (on social media). It doesn’t make sense to request Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala for things you want and need while purposely blocking a large number of individuals. Although you’re not closely associated with some people anymore, it is recommended to maintain good manners with every soul whom Allah the Most Wise decrees you’d meet.

~•~

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Whenever the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam saw the new crescent moon, he would say, "Allah is the Greatest! O Allah, bring it over us with safety and faith, peace and Islam, and guidance to what our Rabb (Allah) loves and is pleased with. Our Rabb (Allah) and your Rabb is Allah." ["Allahu Akbar. Allahumma ahillahu 'alaynaa bil-amni wal Imaan, wa as-salaamati wa al-Islaam, wa at-tawfeequ limaa Tuhebbu wa Tardaa, Rabbunaa wa RabbukAllah. Ameen."]

Source: Sunan Al-Dārimī 1729

Grade: Sahih li ghayrihi according to Al-Arna’ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever fasts the month of Ramadan due to faith (Imaan) and (sincerely) seeking reward (from Allah the Almighty), his previous sins will be forgiven. Whoever stands in prayer during the Night of Decree (Laylat Al-Qadr) due to faith and seeking reward, his previous sins will be forgiven."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 1901

Sahih Muslim 760

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The five prayers, Friday to Friday, and Ramadan to Ramadan will expiate the sins committed between them, as long as the major sins are avoided."

Source: Sahih Muslim 233

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/note-start-fasting-for-allahs-sake-in_10.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/hadith-virtues-of-ramadan.html

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/tips-some-suggested-tab-titles-or.html

https://abukhadeejah.com/fasting-in-ramadan-what-does-it-mean-why-do-we-fast-what-is-gained/

https://abukhadeejah.com/important-ramadan-fasting-and-moonsighting-questions-to-the-scholar-the-sheikh-dr-salih-al-fawzan/

➤ Ramadan Qur’an reading schedule:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DctF-0MbCL0S6b0f489XN4JIP6_nktD6/view?usp=drivesdk

➤ Ramadan Qur’an reading schedule (recommended for Muslim kids and those who are still learning how to read Arabic text):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1j7sMHjd3_2MWSc-mbkGfbzadsRZkNzIr/view?usp=drivesdk

Note: INTJ Personality Types And Holding Grudges

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, do you hold grudges?

📝 Answer: While there are a number of individuals whom I despise for Allah's sake, my resentment isn't due to emotional reasons. It's possible for me to continue loving some Muslims for Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aa, such as my spouse and relatives, even if they've done or said things in the past which many people may find "offensive". What causes me to be disinterested in building a friendship with some females is when they've clearly indicated they are untrustworthy, unreliable and too toxic to interact with that attempting to connect with them brings more disadvantages to my overall well-being than merits. 

Three examples of acquaintances whom I had to unfriend unapologetically, without specifying their names: 

1] Someone who proved that they can never be trusted by making the mistake of asking me to collect change for a certain amount of money. After searching around for some change, I realized that she already paid the delivery guy using some of her savings and the payment he received was a lot more than the actual price of items she ordered on our behalf. She could've waited until I arrived. What caused me to dislike her even more is the fact she's willing to purchase products online without asking for any receipt. 

2] An older female who frequently tells stories about random moments she enjoys with her husband, as if indirectly she's emphasizing that her spouse is better than mine, when I'm not desperate to compete with her (or anybody else concerning marriage) in the first place. I loathe how she's incapable of teaching me anything about Islam yet when it comes to describing numerous times how fabulous her husband is, she acts all pretentiously enthusiastic and talkative. Looking forward to learning something valuable and gaining advice from somebody in their 40s only for them to act more immature than kindergartners flaunting their colorful scribbles isn't worth tolerating. 

3] An individual whose name I've been acquainted with for more than five years. Alhamdulillah after giving her countless chances to reform, I decided to regard her as another stranger when she'd persist in doing the same mistakes which I warned her against. No decent individual would want to be besties with troublesome clowns that take pleasure in disturbing the peace and tossing tomatoes at them. 

Although I've forgiven all of those who have intentionally and unknowingly disappointed me before, specially before the noble month Ramadan returns, I refuse to indulge in gossiping about them, doing what I can to spoil their public image and plotting ways to get even. I'll still answer their salaams, meet them with a polite smile and provide assistance if necessary, without eagerness to become "close friends", particularly after discovering that they're mostly a bad influence. 

If you wish to be closer to Allah the Almighty and join those believers who make it to Jannah Paradise without any penalty, it is illogical to waste your energy and resources on forming connections with anybody who's not authentic, supportive and trustworthy.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 

Sahih Muslim 2998 

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/poem-three-reasons-why-we-cannot-click.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/02/tips-ways-to-tell-if-your-grudge-is-due.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/note-five-reasons-why-we-cant-vibe-well.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-long-you-hold-a-grudge-according-to-your-personality-type/ 

https://personalitygrowth.com/how-you-handle-feelings-of-resentment-based-on-your-personality-type/

Tips: Advice On How Not To Regret Your Decision To Discontinue Building Friendship With Some People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Five tips to not feeling regretful at all about your decision to stop trying to stay friends with certain people: 

1] Recall all the negative qualities of those ex-friends and the very reasons why you've finally decided to emotionally disconnect from them. 

2] Appreciate the good outcomes of detaching from those toxic individuals. Acknowledge the fact that the blessings and benefits of no longer being close to them outweigh the disadvantages of discontinuing such unreliable connection. 

3] Totally unfollow their social media accounts and don't bother asking anybody about details regarding their current circumstances. If somebody informed you of their wedding or recent travel to another country, refrain from collecting any information which won't improve your overall well-being. Nothing valuable can be obtained by frequently attempting to make sense of nonsensical nightmares.

4] Patiently accept that Allah the Almighty decreed such connection to cease at some point. If Allah the Most Wise saw any goodness in them for you and your faith / Imaan, the friendship would've remained intact. 

5] Contentedly understand that the cessation or disappearance of a character's role from one chapter does not signify a story's ending. If you were able to survive in your younger years without them, your choice to quit considering them as a friend after less than five years mustn't be a problem, especially if their vibes and presence fail to inspire you to become a better Muslim.

~•~ 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782

Sahih Muslim 2998

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan." 

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-allah-almighty-controls-all-things.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/poem-no-regrets-in-cancelling.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-tips-on-how-not-to-regret-letting.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/09/poem-toxic-friendships-which-we-cease.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-five-signs-indicating-it-is.html