💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
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🗒️ Question: Without lying at all, what would your usual reaction be if somebody informed you that a group of individuals frequently backbite and make ridiculous jokes about you?
📝 Answer: Allah the Almighty knows best. If someone told me that a bunch of acquaintances or even relatives gossip about me on a regular basis I:-
1] ...would feel unsurprised, since I understand that the majority of the people on earth are in reality very insecure or generally prone to feeling intensely jealous of those whom they inwardly admit are way better than them in multiple ways. If Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala blessed me with several gifts and innumerable blessings which those gossipers don't have apparently, including decent manners, it comes as no surprise that they'd be triggered by intense jealousy. Their ugly feelings of envy compel them to cowardly criticize me so their attention is temporarily diverted from their insecurities, failings and absurdities.
2] ...become even more grateful to Allah the Most Loving that He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala bestowed upon me some knowledge of Islam and awareness of how terrible the major sin of backbiting is. Those gossipmongers are the ones oppressing themselves and collecting a number of my misdeeds every time they idiotically backbite about me.
3] ...unapologetically, for Allah's sake, as much as possible, avoid unnecessary interaction with those gossipy individuals, those who instantly believe the nonsense which those gossipers convey, and also keep my distance from the person who shamelessly narrated to me about the nonsense which those gossipers conveyed. If one day "A" relates to me that "S" and "Z" said such-and-such about me and because of what "S" and "Z" claimed about me, "R" and "N" started acting distant, I would not only quit being interested in building a friendship with "S" and "Z" for their filthy assumptions but also with "R" and "N" since they were not supportive and smart enough to thoroughly verify the information they received before stupidly jumping to conclusions. I would be increasingly wary of "A" and their likes as well because a true friend wouldn't want you to partake in any pointless drama by narrating to you every nonsensical lie which bored and envious clowns like to invent.
I wouldn't allow myself to lose sleep over what those gossipers say about me because I:-
1] Know that worrying too much about people's opinions and remarks won't solve a single problem nor improve any condition, and excessive worry can prevent me from attaining my goals efficiently (with Allah's Will and Mercy).
2] Acknowledge that a tiny part of what they perceive about me could actually sometimes be true, and I'm willing to use some frank feedback as a tool to improve.
3] Observe that their frequent lies about me are evident proofs of how they're not familiar with me at all and how it's an enormous blessing to not be affiliated with their tomfoolery.
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📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and deliberately committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter (Jannah) Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."
Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut
📖 Abu Barzah Al-Aslami RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O you who have faith with their tongues but faith has not entered their hearts! Do not backbite the Muslims nor seek out their faults. Whoever seeks their faults (searches for their mistakes or publicizes their flaws), Allah will seek his faults. And if Allah seeks his faults, He will expose him even in the privacy of his own house."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4880
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi
