Links: PDF Booklet On The Rites Of Hajj And Umrah

📔 Islamic PDF document booklet on "the Rites of Hajj and 'Umrah" compiled by Abu Khadeejah Abdul-Wahid Alam based on the works of the major scholars of the era: Ibn Baaz, Ibn 'Uthaimeen, Al-Albaani and Salih Al-Fawzaan - May Allah the Most Merciful have mercy on them all, accept their good deeds and make them and us among the people of Jannatul Ferdaus with Allah's Mercy. Ameen. (This PDF document is a sadaqa jaariyah, not for sale):

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CgSK-SAPzVY7e53wkyMOUE0uLmVRaEa6/view?usp=drivesdk

https://abukhadeejah.com/hajj-and-umrah-madinah-guide-book-complete/

Note: How An INTJ Can Become Indifferent At Times

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Three usual instances when an individual with the INTJ personality type can become very indifferent or unconcerned: 

1] When an INTJ contentedly feels indifferent to jumping on the bandwagon: Just because a lot of celebrities or social media influencers follow a particular trend or buy certain products which are high in demand, most INTJs would remain unimpressed and unwilling to participate in something which conflicts with their strongly held values. 

2] When they unapologetically abstain from nosily stalking the accounts of users who "ghosted" them or excluded them from specific gatherings: If some individuals refused to invite or reconcile with an INTJ, don't expect that INTJ to stalk your online posts (so you can keep the cowardly passive-aggressive remarks and uploads to yourself since they won't bother scrutinizing them) nor watch videos (or random "vlogs") on YouTube and elsewhere which are related to the event you wrongly assumed they'd be "missing out" on. 

3] When they're genuinely uninterested in absorbing content irrelevant to their goals and when they gladly desist from feeling negatively affected by people's criticism: You claimed that an INTJ is such and such? They'll probably acknowledge the fact that your disrespectful acts are a confirmation of your intense jealousy or they could guess you're struggling from severe sorrow due to your enormous load of insecurities.

~•~

📖 Ali Ibn Husayn RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, part of perfection in Islam is for a person to leave what does not concern him."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2318

Grade: Sahih li ghayri (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: ‘Awn al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/poem-allahs-love-is-more-important-than.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-what-i-intj-personality-type-do.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2023/03/note-introverted-and-socially-selective.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/11/tips-advice-from-intj-on-how-to-not_25.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-jomo-joy-of-missing-out-on.html 

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-indifferent-you-appear-based-on-your-personality-type/

https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-easily-you-can-detach-from-others-based-on-your-personality-type/

Tips: Seventeen Questions To Avoid Asking Your Husband To Prevent Unnecessary Drama

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💚 Seventeen questions to avoid asking your husband to avoid unnecessary drama and preventable arguments: 

1❎ "Do you really love me?" 

2❎ "Who do you love more - me? Or your mother?" 

3❎ "Whose cooking do you enjoy more - your mother's? Or mine?" 

4❎ "Tell the truth, do you ever think about remarrying?" Or "Do you have plans on having a second wife?" 

5❎ "Do you think she's pretty?" Or "Who's prettier - me? Or that woman?" 

6❎ "On a scale of one to ten - how beautiful am I? Be honest!" 

7❎ "Which female celebrity do you want me to look more like?" 

8❎ "Who do you love more - me? Or your sister/sisters?" Or "Am I prettier than your sisters? Or do you find them better-looking than me?"

9❎ "Do you ever regret our marriage?" 

10❎ "Do you feel jealous whenever I talk to non-mahram males?" 

11❎ "Be as frank as you can - are you a lot happier being married or single?" Or "Do you ever wish you're still single so you have less responsibilities?" 

12❎ "Are you sure you don't have another cellphone which you secretly use to communicate with non-mahram women?" 

13❎ "How come you never react to any of my Facebook posts?" Or "Why won't you comment on my social media posts more regularly?" 

14❎ "Who do you enjoy spending quality time with more often - your male friends or me?" 

15❎ "Why do you spend more time with your male friends / brothers than with me? Are we married or what?" 

16❎ "Why do you always arrive late?" 

17❎ "Can you please have a makeover so you appear more handsome like this male celebrity?"

~•~

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1159

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to At-Tirmidhi

Ali Al-Qari said, "That she prostrates to her husband is due to the number of his rights over her and her difficulty in maintaining gratitude for them. This rhetorical point conveys the obligation of the wife to obey her husband in his rights. Indeed, prostration is not lawful to anyone other than Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala."

Source: Mirqāt Al-Mafātih 5/2125

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abdullah Ibn Amr RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The world is enjoyment and the best enjoyment in the world is a righteous wife."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1467

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/05/note-mindset-of-ideal-muslim-wife-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-checklist-to-determine-if-your.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-as-muslim-wife-dont-be-petty-and.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/08/poem-what-is-love-true-love-whats-its.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/11/note-eleven-questions-to-ask-yourself.html 

https://abukhadeejah.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/Righteous-Wife-P1-WEB-7.3-Print-Complete.pdf 

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Tips: Ways To Tell That Someone Feels So Intimidated By You And What You Can Do About It

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ If someone does at least three of these things around you, they're most likely intimidated by your confident personality granted by Allah the Almighty: 

1] On a regular basis they feel too terrified to contact and approach you directly. If ever they need to ask you a question or inform you about something, they request somebody else to do that on their behalf. 

2] They generally can't make proper eye contact with you and smiling genuinely is too difficult for them to do in your presence. 

3] In most instances whenever they're about to cross paths with you, they instantly turn around and take a different route because they are too scared to have any interaction with you. 

4] Through observing their overall behavior and mannerisms, particularly when you're around, you can describe them as "disrespectful", "rude", "agitated", "insecure" or "uncooperative".

5] A lot of them quickly depart from any online group conversation (group chat) which you add them to without explaining to you the reason for their fleeing. 

6] When talking to them, you can really tell how nervous they are and admit that most of their responses with you are very brief and terse or vague and ambiguous. 

7] They have the silly audacity to cowardly criticize you behind your back yet when you confront them about their infantile acts and despicable gossiping, they're too afraid to say anything.

✅ What to do when it's confirmed that those individuals find your confidence "intimidating": 

1. Never doubt your self-worth and abilities all blessed by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. 

2. Don't feel compelled to modify your attitude just to become more "approachable" or "likable" to them. As long as you intend to do something only to please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while you're not oppressing anybody on purpose, the opinions of Allah's servants shouldn't negatively affect your life choices. 

3. Focus on pleasing Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala while appreciating the special few souls whom Allah the Most Wise chose and destined to truly connect with you.

~•~

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is one who is trusted by the people. The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand the Muslims are safe (not guilty of backbiting, telling lies, and knowingly committing injustice). The emigrant (muhaajir) is one who emigrates away from evil. 

By the One (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is my soul, a servant will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure from his harm."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibbān 515 

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Arna'ut

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: 'Allah has decreed what He wills.' Verily, the phrase ‘if only’ opens the way for the work of shaytan."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2664

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-signs-of-people-who-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/poem-some-reasons-why-insecure-or.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-3-qualities-which-make-you-seem.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/poem-three-signs-that-youre-confident.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/tips-some-advice-on-how-not-to-feel.html 

Note: Never Expect Meaningful Friendships With Narcissists

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ If you have some real empathy and true self-respect, 

Don't expect lasting friendships with actual narcissists 

Most of whom may connect with you to take advantage

Of your kindness - selfishly they wish to benefit

From your willingness to assist them in their projects.

~•~

Once they have profited from you and they've accomplished

What they wanted, expect these conceited narcissists

To vanish amidst conversation. New messages

From you gradually stop receiving quick responses.

They tend to "ghost" those who provoke them to feel jealous.

~•~

Or maybe so-and-so left you as they were upset, 

By one or some of your posts they got so offended.

They failed to reach out because they had zero courage 

To hear the truth or witness your gifts get acknowledged.

Or the disconnect was due to them being distressed.

~•~

Regardless of why they decided to act quiet,

Recall you can't build real connection with narcissists 

Who are typically selfish, obsessed with cosmetics, 

And they would rather embellish their public image 

Instead of seeking logic and collecting knowledge.

~•~

So if one day by some narcissists you get "ghosted", 

Don't suspect your self-worth. Stay strong. Don't feel dejected. 

Most shoppers reject anything that's too expensive. 

Perhaps your frankness causes them to feel defective, 

Or they've bad motives, and your faith must be well-guarded.

~•~

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed (or atom) of arrogance in his heart will enter Paradise." Someone said, "But a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes." The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance means rejecting the truth and looking down on the people."

In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of faith (Imaan) in his heart will enter Hellfire."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "No one who has the weight of a seed of arrogance (atom's weight of kibr) in his heart will enter Paradise." A man said, “But a man likes to have nice clothes and nice shoes.” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah is Beautiful and He loves beauty. Arrogance (kibr) is to disregard (or reject) the truth and to look down on the people."

Source: Sahih Muslim 91

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-signs-of-people-who-are.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/05/note-self-respect-vs-actual-narcissism.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/tips-nine-signs-that-youre-not.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/09/poem-deluded-narcissists-dont-flatter.html 

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