بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين

بسم الله. ربي زدني علما. امين
May Allah the Almighty grant us more beneficial knowledge, accept our good deeds, forgive our mistakes, protect us from fitna, and join us with the righteous believers in Jannatul Ferdaus. Ameen.

Wednesday, June 8, 2022

Tips: Nine Signs That You Are Thick-skinned

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Nine signs that you're thick-skinned and Allah the Almighty blessed you with a strong personality: 
1] You don't doubt your self-worth nor act overly upset when some Facebook users unfriend you or reject your friend requests. 
2] You remain unfazed and unaffected when people criticize you, whether in a one-on-one setting or social gathering. Although you're capable of responding to insults with a clever comeback, most of the time you choose to ignore trolls and insecure individuals who may misconstrue your words.
3] You've been yelled at, scolded or laughed at several times but Alhamdulillah those incidents only inspired you to become tougher for Allah's sake and to move on confidently. 
4] You don't feel the need to keep anybody on your list of blocked users. After arguing with a user, if ever you get into an argument, you may block them temporarily to let them know you're uninterested in chatting further, then you unblock them after some days while staying away from stalking their social media posts. 
5] In general when somebody treats you disrespectfully, instead of wondering if there's something wrong with you, you analyze the possible reasons behind the disrespectful person's misconduct and thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala that you're not as miserable as that person is inwardly. 
6] You're courageous enough to show up the next day at work or school, rather than hiding yourself and being absent, when you go through a situation which many people may regard as "embarrassing" or "awkward". 
7] You're not afraid to walk past individuals who had a misunderstanding with you nor are you scared to attend meetings or conferences which are attended by some acquaintances whose attitudes conflict with yours. 
8] You don't overreact irrationally when some users fail to answer your messages in a timely manner. 
9] You don't make it a big deal when some individuals didn't answer your salaam, aware that they're probably ignorant of how to properly exchange greetings in Islam or they were distracted by other tasks or thoughts.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.' Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Note: Some Tips On How To Deal With A "Broken Family"

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
🗒️ Some advice to kids, teens and Muslims who can relate concerning "broken families" - what you can do to patiently deal with your mother and father being separated, particularly if one or both of them remarried, and you tried your best to reconcile them but they mutually moved on while still loving you: 
1] Look forward to attaining rewards for striving to have patience with what Allah the Almighty destined, as a Muslim who strives to accept Allah's Plans and Qadr/Destiny. Understand that whatever occurs in the universe only takes place because Allah the Most Wise allowed it, and there's always wisdom behind every occurrence even if we may not be able to grasp the reasons yet. 
2] While you can't fully control the actions, feelings and choices of your parents, you have the freewill to select how you can respond to your parents' decisions. As a Muslim, ensure that you behave in a manner which pleases Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala and which won't lead to any sort of trouble in this world and the afterlife. 
So if your parents have made it clear that they're already contented with the new spouses, show both of them respect by not arguing with them regarding their remarriage. Maintain family ties with your mother and father even if they've decided to avoid one another to protect each other's emotional well-being. 
3] Try to put yourself in your parents' shoes. If you have finalized your decision to quit staying in touch with somebody who is too incompatible, unbearable and toxic for you, you wouldn't find joy in pretending to like them if some loved ones insisted that you remain connected. While you may enjoy dining out with two individuals whom you regard as friends but they despise one another simultaneously, those two would probably be better off and farther away from fitna and avoidable problems if you spent quality time with each friend separately, not in the presence of the person who triggers their bad moods. 
4] Confidently believe that your connection with particular individuals, or any of Allah's servants, has nothing to do with your entry to Jannah Paradise and passing Allah's tests. You can 
Inn-sha-Allah make it to Jannatul Ferdaus even if your parents are no longer married to each other and if any relative disowned you. In fact, on the Day of Judgment, and Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala knows best, you'll be more concerned about yourself, your deeds and the results of your actions much more than worrying if your family is complete or not. 
5] Sincerely continue doing Da'wah for Allah's sake to both of your parents and their families often, so that 
Inn-sha-Allah you can all succeed in deserving a beautiful entrance to Jannah Paradise where there will be no room at all for negative emotions including resentment, unjustifiable suspicion and jealousy - all instigated by our archenemy shaytan.
~•~
📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The bond of family (kinship) is suspended from the Throne and it says: 'Whoever upholds me, Allah will uphold him. Whoever severs me, Allah will sever him.'"
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5643, Sahih Muslim 2555
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Jubayr Ibn Mut'im RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The one who severs his family ties will not enter Paradise."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5638, Sahih Muslim 2556
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The strong believer is more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but there is goodness in both of them. Be eager for what benefits you, seek help from Allah, and do not be frustrated. If something befalls you, then do not say: 'If only I had done something else.’ Rather say: "Allah has decreed what He wills." Verily, the phrase 'if only' opens the way for the work of shaytan."
Source: Sahih Muslim 2664
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

Saturday, June 4, 2022

Note: Three Despicable Deeds To Avoid Even If You've Decided To Detach From Some Toxic People

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
📑 Three disgraceful wrongdoings you must avoid for Allah's sake, as a Muslim, even if you've decided to stop being friends with some individuals who proved to be untrustworthy: 
1] Any gift or amount of money which you gave them sincerely to please Allah the Almighty should not be given back to you. If you gave a former friend some Islamic books, accessories or modest garments etc. it's not right in Islam to demand that they return those items to you even if they did something unacceptable in the past. Move on for Allah's sake and let Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala deal with them. 
2] Any secret which they entrusted you with or confidential information they told you when you thought you were friends mustn't be spread to others in the form of spiteful ranting or gossip. If you've truly moved on from a broken friendship with someone who's toxic, you wouldn't bother mentioning that person's name a lot nor disclose the secrets they shared with you because you basically don't want anything to do with them in the future.
3] Even if they gossiped about you numerous times, don't insult yourself by imitating their lousy lack of good manners. 
 Trust that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala will deal them justly for their immature conduct of badmouthing you often, while you've already moved on. 
~•~ 
📖 Abu Barzah Al-Aslami RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "O you who have faith with their tongues but faith has not entered their hearts! Do not backbite the Muslims nor seek their faults. Whoever seeks their faults (searches for their mistakes or publicizes their flaws), Allah will seek his faults. And if Allah seeks his faults, He will expose him even in the privacy of his own house."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4880
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When Allah gathers together the earlier and later generations on the Day of Resurrection, He will raise a banner for every (betrayer) treacherous person. It will be announced that this is the treachery of this person, the son of this person."
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5823
Sahih Muslim 1735
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abdullah bin Tawus RadhiAllahu 'anhu reported on the authority of his father who reported from Ibn Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma who reported from Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam that he said: "One who gets back his gift (from someone) is like a dog which vomits and then swallows its own vomit." 
Reference: Sahih Muslim 1622g 
In-book referencee: Book 24, Hadith 14 
USC-MSA web (English) reference: Book 12, Hadith 3960 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-what-friendship-breakups-teach-us.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/poem-open-letter-to-ex-friends-and.html 
https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/09/poem-to-my-ex-best-friend-wherever-she.html 
https://youtu.be/GSxLqO7V92o
https://youtu.be/ZZq-RMptDw0  

Friday, June 3, 2022

Tips: Seven Signs That Solitude Is Better Than Wasting Time With A Cliquish Group

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 
🗒️ Seven signs that a cliquish group of acquaintances is too toxic for you, while quality time with Allah the Almighty is so much better for your well-being: 
1] You yourself have witnessed that many, if not all, of this group's members have a bad tendency to cowardly criticize certain individuals behind their backs and a lot of their conversations involve lousy gossip. 
2] If they manage a group chat or link to an online meeting (via Zoom, Skype, Google Meet etc.), you notice that most of the members are not reliably communicative, as if they have another exclusive group chat or link where they converse with one another while you're deliberately excluded. 
3] You have observed that attempting to have meaningful dialogues with most of the members of this group often makes you feel awkward and uncomfortable, because they're either clearly nervous around you, intimidated by your confidence, or simply they are incapable of comprehending your spoken language. It's obvious you're the one mostly talking while they're distracted by their phone, daydreaming, or failing at figuring out what you're saying.
4] You admit that since you're not close friends with many, if not all, of the members of this group, you don't bother visiting their Facebook walls. Several months would pass by while you remain completely uninterested in checking out their frequent status updates. After your initial discovery of their social media accounts, you realize the kind of content they regularly share can't inspire you at all to become a better Muslim.
5] Even if they've conducted a number of gatherings without you in the past, you don't feel as though you're missing out on anything because with or without them in your life there's no considerable difference. Imagine having a solo picnic at a large park while a swarm of pesky flies gather around some trash somewhere nearby. You can still enjoy the gentle breeze and beautiful scenery without obliging yourself to see what the flying insects are up to. 
6] Although you've been acquainted with their names for at least three years, you still don't know enough personal details about them and the awful vibes they give off trigger uneasiness until now. 
7] When speaking to any of them online or face to face, even for a few minutes, you feel as though you're just wasting time and not gaining anything valuable. It may be more beneficial to listen to ducks quack or learn new words from the dictionary than to aimlessly socialize with those who find your language incomprehensible. 
✅ How to deal with cliquish groups: 
1] First and foremost, maintain strong connection with Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. The closer you are to Allah the Most Loving, the less likely you become influenced by His servants' actions and decisions. 
2] Avoid getting too attached to any cliquish group and refrain from siding with one particular group against other groups. 
3] Aspire to serve Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala. Stay away from pointless drama and arguments as much as possible. 
4] Look unaffected and don't feel bothered if some cliquish groups exclude you from a meeting. Taking part in such activity isn't part of Allah's Qadr/Destiny. There's no use in whining about something which Allah the Most Wise didn't destine. 
5] Patiently believe that in Jannah Paradise 
Inn-sha-Allah you can enjoy better connections. Perhaps the reason why some cliquish groups reject or despise your presence is their worry that welcoming you with open arms could somehow make you appear even more "superior" to them i.e. feeling jealous of you or very insecure about themselves is what compels them to act dismissive.
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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Darda RadhiAllahu 'anhu said: "A righteous companion is better than loneliness, and loneliness is better than an evil companion. A good writer is better than one silent, and one silent is better than an evil writer." 
Source: Rawdat Al-‘Uqalā 56  

Thursday, June 2, 2022

Tips: Checklist To Determine If You Should Reconcile With A Former Friend Or Avoid Them For Allah's Sake

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ In some cases, when we've decided to quit trying to maintain friendship with an individual due to realizing how toxic or unreliable they are, we may find ourselves missing the fun times and long talks we enjoyed, or consider reconciliation so that the gifts we gave them aren't wasted. Occasionally missing a particular ex-friend isn't valid excuse for you to reconcile. 
Just because you "miss" doing some sins in the past which you've repented from doesn't make it mandatory to return to them. 
📝 Checklist to determine if it's better to keep moving on and refrain from considering rebuilding a detrimental connection with a person who isn't good for you (if you agree with most of these points, then continue avoiding the negative individual for Allah's sake, believing that there's a reason why Allah the Almighty decreed your disconnection in the first place): 
1] You can recount at least five instances when this former "friend" did something offensive or unacceptable to you (online and offline). [    ] 
2] At least two of these adjectives very much describe them: "narcissistic", "selfish", "passive-aggressive", "uncommunicative", "unpredictable", "unsupportive", "uncooperative", "unhelpful", "untruthful", "distressing" or too "sarcastic". [    ] 
3] More than once when you've asked them for advice, they left your messages on "seen" mode or informed you they didn't know what to say or how to show support. [    ] 
4] You can sense that they're undeniably jealous of you for some reason, or you can tell that they despise at least two of your relatives. [    ] 
5] Overall your conversations are mostly awkward or disconcerting, or you feel that they don't truly understand your soul's language. [    ] 
6] You can imagine that if you were neighbors, you wouldn't bother visiting them as often as you'd like because there's something about them which makes you feel very distrustful, unsafe or uneasy. [    ] 
7] Even if you may miss them once in a while, you can't help but remember the unpleasant things they said or did to you and/or someone whom you care about for Allah's sake. [    ]
~•~ 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Love whom you love moderately, perhaps he will become hateful to you someday. Hate whom you hate moderately, perhaps he will become your beloved friend someday."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1997
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani  
📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith."
Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The believer is not stung twice from the same hole." 
Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5782 
Sahih Muslim 2998 
Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 
📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378
Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi