Tips: INTJ "Courtesy" vs Companionship

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Five signs that a person whose MBTI personality type is INTJ only appears to be maintaining courtesy (especially to avoid drama), and they don't regard you as a close friend: 

1] They are reluctant to send you a "Facebook friend request" and don't bother stalking your status updates despite their awareness of the link to your online profile.

2] They remain unaffected if they notice you "unfriended" them, blocked their account, left a group chat or forum which they usually participate in, or excluded them from a gathering.

3] It is obvious that they ask other individuals more personal questions than when briefly interacting with you. If an INTJ already made a conclusion about you, for instance they realized that you're not reliable at all or they can sense that you feel so intimidated by them, they'd purposely desist from asking you random queries about yourself because they're uninterested in connecting with you on a much deeper level. 

4] All in all they're serious (aloof or emotionally detached) when you're around and they don't easily show you their goofy side. 

5] Although they're aware of where your room or residence is located, they haven't paid you a single visit within three or more months or they don't go out of their way to initiate meaningful conversations with you. 

✅ Five signs they actually like you for Allah's sake even though they seem distant most of the time: 

1] They regularly check your online posts or ask how you're doing even if it's done once a year. 

2] They make effort to pay regular visits to you, if they know where you reside, at least once every two or more months.  

3] When texting or chatting with you, a lot of their messages tend to be long as they enjoy communicating with you. 

4] They quickly defend you in your presence or absence when you're being treated or mentioned unfairly. 

5] They find many of your jokes funny and/or they're capable of patiently tolerating your dissimilarities.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

Al-Azimabadi said, “That he hates for the sake of Allah does not mean he harms the one he hates. Rather, the hatred is for his unbelief and disobedience.”

Source: 'Awn Al-Ma’būd 4681

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/tips-intjs-when-they-like-you-in.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-busy-intjs-vs-avoidant-intjs.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/08/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/12/tips-intj-acquaintance-vs-intj-friend.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/01/note-signs-that-intj-doesnt-regard-you.html 

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Tips: Some Questions Which You Can Ask Yourself Before You Say Yes To A Muslim's Marriage Proposal

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📝 Some questions which you can ask yourself before deciding to accept a Muslim's marriage proposal, after or before praying Salat Al-Istikhaara: 

1] Is this guy really a Muslim and is he upon the correct 'Aqeedah / belief (Sunni / Salafi methodology)? Or at least is he willing to learn more about the truth Islam together with me? 

2] Does he show due respect to his mother and father? Can his parents describe him as a loving son? 

3] Without making it a rule that he must have a master's or doctorate degree, can you be certain that this guy already has a stable job and the income he earns is lawful? 

4] Can he promise to let you visit your family and loved ones whenever you'd like to spend time with them? Can he guarantee that he'll try his best to avoid becoming an overly jealous, insecure and mistrustful spouse? 

5] Is it known that he tries to pray the obligatory prayers in a Masjid as promptly and regularly as he can? Can some of his relatives confirm that he's not one of those ignorant males who deny the importance of praying? 

6] If Inn-sha-Allah in the future you wish to have at least one child with this man, is there a way to prove that he isn't sterile? 

7] If you prefer to not have any or many kids with this guy, can you both agree to never allow this issue (infertility or decision to not have children together) to become a problem for the two of you? 

8] Can he assure you that 

Inn-sha-Allah if ever he wishes to remarry he'd inform you in advance and refrain from keeping his other marriages confidential? 

9] If he is employed or studying in a different city, can you imagine yourself accepting his request to relocate with him while maintaining good connection with your other loved ones? 

10] Can you visualize yourself becoming a better, more contented and more enlightened Muslimah if you accept, for Allah's sake, the marriage proposal of this Muslim man? 

11] Are you sure that you're not marrying this guy mainly for his money, to no longer be under the care of your mother and/or father, or to emulate your friends who became wives early? Can you purify your intention concerning your willingness to marry this Muslim for Allah's sake and stay true to yourself, acknowledging that you're not marrying for self-interest?

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📖 Aisha RadhiAllahu 'anha narrated: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, should women be asked for their consent (permission) before marriage?” The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Yes." I said, “Indeed, sometimes a virgin is too shy to speak when asked.” The Prophet SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Her silence (not refusing nor complaining) is her consent (sign that she accepts the marriage proposal)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6547

Sahih Muslim 1420

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials (fitna/fitan) on the earth and the spread of corruption."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1084

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/03/note-why-muslims-who-love-allah.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/04/poem-to-each-muslimah-whos-currently.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/03/poem-dont-marry-this-kind-of-guy.html 

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/08/note-some-reasons-why-number-of-women.html 

Poem: Recall Death More Often And Your Faith Imaan Level Can Rise

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 When we, slaves and creations of Allah the Most Wise, 

Recall that life's a test and death can come anytime, 

Accepting what Allah decrees, bestows and denies, 

With patience, becomes more manageable and worthwhile. 

Recall death more often and your faith level can rise.

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When we remember the reality of this life, 

And believe that all humans will eventually die, 

Dunya's ornaments and pleasures become less admired, 

And what people possess of worldly joys won't entice

Us to envy nor entertain worries from inside.

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Why desire the gifts of people which Allah decides 

To give as tests, and why remain worried when this life 

Is transient along with its trials of various kinds? 

Why worry about enjoying a lavish lifestyle 

When the grave is the next place where bodies must reside?

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This life is short, death is real, and know that anytime 

We humans shall return to the One Who gave us life, 

To Allah the Almighty Who sees us day and night, 

And Who won't judge us based on how much wealth we've acquired

But on sincere efforts to earn Jannah Paradise. 

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Remember often the destroyer of pleasures," by which he meant death.

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2307

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path."

Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma would say, “If you make it to the evening, do not wait for the morning. If you make it to the morning, do not wait for the evening (do not live in this dunya as though you'll remain alive forever). Take from your health for your sickness, and from your life for your death.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6053

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: A man said, "O Messenger of Allah, which of the believers is the best?" The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those with the best character." The man said, "Which of the believers is the wisest?" The Prophet Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Those who remember death often and have best prepared for it with good deeds; those are the wisest."

Source: Sunan Ibn Mājah 4259

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

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https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-live-as-stranger-or-traveler-who.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/poem-what-does-actual-happiness-look.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/02/poem-more-we-remember-death-regularly.html 

Links: Some Selected Adhkaar And Du'a We Can Say In The Morning And Evening

📔 PDF document "Some recommended Adhkaar, Du'a and supplications which we can say in the morning and evening" 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1h30Wr9XO1DkbecJudtfgoDhCrAqm53o8/view?usp=drivesdk 

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بعض الأدعية و الأذكار

📜 In Arabic language: 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1h7nIPYHTAD_tQA-raGLkjz9vtZ0BjqNr/view?usp=drivesdk

Tips: Advice On How To Avoid Feeling So Insecure About One's Appearance

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

🗒️ Question: What advice can you give to those who feel insecure about their general appearance, who dislike how their teeth look, or who know they're not very good-looking when compared to their siblings, cousins or acquaintances? 

📝 Answer: 1] As a Muslim, Alhamdulillah, strive to be patient and contented with how Allah the Almighty designed you. Recall that our main goal in life is to serve and please Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, not His servants, regardless of our looks. 

2] Understand that many of those supposedly "flawless" and attractive celebrities and social media influencers went through cosmetic surgery and/or spent large amounts of money on modifying their appearance, which shows they're either arrogantly discontented with how Allah the Most Wise created them or they are actually so unconfident that they feel compelled to alter their looks to cowardly avoid criticism from society. Be grateful Alhamdulillah that you don't have their kibr / arrogance, despicable attachment to this fleeting dunya, or low self-esteem.

3] Quit consistently comparing yourself to other people, particularly if those individuals are not guided by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala yet to the truth Islam. Whenever shaytan wants you to become upset so your faith / Imaan level can decrease (many Muslims usually feel less eager to do good deeds for Allah's sake when their level of faith / Imaan is low), especially after you've noticed how others seem to surpass you in certain aspects, disappoint shaytan by thanking Allah the Most Loving for all the favors, gifts and blessings which He Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala chose to bestow upon you, such as being blessed with at least one parent or loved one who cares about you as well as the ability to read from the Noble Qur'an in Arabic language. 

4] Know that physical attractiveness alone will not guarantee true happiness and success in both worlds. A lot of females worldwide whom many societies would describe as "beautiful", "gorgeous" and "cute" may actually be very unhappy and depressed on the inside, specifically if they don't have a meaningful purpose, and our main goal in life is to worship Only Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, despite how we look. 

5] A person isn't truly beautiful if their heart is tainted by unpleasant feelings including jealousy and resentment against anybody whose qualities or achievements (granted by Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) trigger them to feel "inferior" or "inadequate". Thank Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala for granting you better self-awareness and realization that faith / Imaan, sincerity / Ikhlaas, dignified manners, patiently striving for Jannah Paradise, and inner beauty are much more important than desperately seeking people's admiration for a pretty face. 

6] Realize that any person who calls you "ugly" or claims that you look unattractive is in reality insecure and emotionally wounded from within. Genuinely confident people don't walk around bullying others, acting like egotistical snobs, and spreading bad vibes. 

7] Firmly believe that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala already selected the souls who can get along with you and who'll love you for His sake beyond your overall appearance.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, for it is the best way to not belittle the favors of Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6125 

Sahih Muslim 2963

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but rather He (Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala) looks at your hearts and actions."

Source: Sahih Muslim 2564

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/07/note-on-inner-beauty-and-trying-to-look.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/07/note-ways-to-answer-someone-who-calls.html 

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