Poem: "Loneliness" Isn't Valid Reason To Befriend Anyone And Everyone

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 From time to time the cursed shaytan, our archenemy, 

May suggest that you need new friends as you seem "lonely". 

"Loneliness" must not let you befriend anybody. 

Don't build connections with people just because they speak

Your dialect. Don't put your trust in each soul you meet. 

~•~

Not every person you pass by at work, in the streets, 

And online deserves your attention and energy. 

Many are motivated by foul ego and greed, 

Most are driven to mistreat when triggered by envy, 

And all humans have the freewill to misuse their speech.

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To succeed in both worlds, choose your close friends carefully. 

Wasting your time and money on the wrong company, 

Conversing with gossipers and liars aimlessly, 

And acting like besties with those who are secretly

Jealous of you can breed misery eventually.

~•~

Wolves, with Allah's Will, can thrive without distraught donkeys, 

And to survive in the wild it's not necessary

For each lion to connect with malicious monkeys, 

For elephants to mingle with crocodiles freely, 

And for eagles to glide around pesky flies or bees.

~•~

We don't require lots of friendships to live peacefully. 

Allah the Almighty didn't create us to be 

Enslaved by people's wants and embrace everybody. 

Live to please Allah despite some critics' enmity. 

Shun those who can't inspire us to rise in piety.

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📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "The souls are like conscripted soldiers. They come together upon what they recognize, and they differ upon what they reject."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 3109 

Sahih Muslim 2638 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his close friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Three things follow a deceased person (to the person's grave). Two of them return and one remains. His family, his wealth, and his deeds follow him. His family and wealth return, but his deeds remain (with the dead in their graves)."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6149 

Sahih Muslim 2960

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

📖 Abu Musa RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Verily, the parable (similitude, example) of good company and a bad company is that of a seller of musk and a blacksmith. The seller of musk will give you some perfume, you will buy some, or you will notice a good scent. As for the blacksmith, he will burn your clothes or you will notice a bad smell."

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 5534, Sahih Muslim 2628

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (Authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim 

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https://abukhadeejah.com/only-true-friends-and-righteous-companions-will-benefit-you/ 

Note: On INTJs And Trust Issues

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As a Muslimah whose MBTI personality type is INTJ, how do you deal with individuals whom you can't trust? What are some signs indicating that a certain person is untrustworthy? 

📝 Answer: When it comes to some individuals whom I don't really trust, I: 

1] Don't bother stalking any of their social media accounts nor oblige myself to stay updated with their personal lives. 

2] Intentionally refrain from asking them for any advice and consultation even if I know they're a lot older than me or they have the potential to offer constructive feedback. 

3] Find it difficult to have worthwhile, deep and meaningful conversations with them, so I seldom prolong dialogues when they're around, and won't initiate chatting with them online unless it's absolutely necessary. 

4] Don't bother showing them my actual emotions and sharing with them some of my dreams. I'd rather ask a complete stranger about their standpoint of a dream I've had than begrudgingly listen to the probable lies of someone who already proved they're not at all trustworthy. 

❎ What to look out for to determine if somebody is unreliable: 

1] They've acted in ways that confirm they are actually envious of you, such as treating you disrespectfully and purposely excluding you from gatherings frequently. 

2] They knowingly lied to you or wasted your time on purpose more than twice. 

3] They're not very responsive or a lot of your messages were left on "seen" mode by them. 

4] When you're obviously in a good mood, they're resentfully silent. When they notice that you committed a mistake, they eagerly throw in mockery, complaints and criticism. 

5] The words "cooperative", "supportive", "inspiring", "understanding" and "loyal" aren't suitable to describe them at all.

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📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: I was riding behind the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam when he said to me, "Young man, I will teach you some words. Be mindful of Allah and He will protect you. Be mindful of Allah and you will find Him before you. If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations were to gather together to benefit you, they will not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they will not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2516

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to At-Tirmidhi

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/10/note-how-most-intj-personality-types.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2022/06/note-signs-indicating-that-intj-feels.html 

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2021/11/note-busy-intjs-vs-avoidant-intjs.html 

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Note: Thirteen Lessons Learned From Around 16 Years And More Of Marriage (Alhamdulillah)

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

💌 13 Lessons learned on loving your spouse, from around 16 years of being married (Alhamdulillah):

1) Getting married isn't the main source of happiness. Your joy, inner peace and contentment should be found in sincerely obeying Allah the Almighty. Regardless of what your marital status is (married, single, widowed, separated), you can never be happy if you don't have Islam, faith/Imaan and Taqwa / piety.

2) Genuinely loving your husband for Allah's sake, with actual sincerity / Ikhlaas and patience / Sabr, can help you go through any trial, challenge and difficulty in marriage life. By stubbornly remaining loyal to your destined soulmate for the sake of Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala, you have the ability 

Inn-sha-Allah to continue loving him patiently as his faithful wife despite the different kinds of struggles which you both go through once in a while.

3) Instead of feeling easily hurt when he doesn't return your calls or answer your text messages instantly, be brave enough to forgive, understand him and accept the likelihood of him being so busy, or realize maybe he didn't reply because he had no load that time to send text messages, or his other wife (who could be insecure and awfully envious of you) is trying to disrupt your communication if you're in polygyny. Earn abundant rewards by practicing patience for Allah's sake rather than demanding for divorce unreasonably.

4) Be grateful for even the smallest acts of kindness and gestures of love from your husband, whether it's found in him feeding you with his own right hand while eating together, drinking from the glass you drank from, enjoying the dishes you cook for him while refraining from inconsiderately criticizing your cooking, letting you lovingly massage him, and showing enthusiasm or willingness to pay close attention when you inform him how your day went or you wish to share some insightful lessons.

5) It's not always that you get to sleep and spend time with your husband. There will be moments when he has to travel to another city or country for several days or months, so you anxiously miss him. Missing someone's presence is clear evidence that you really care about them.

6) Don't expect everything to be ideal or flawless in marriage. Expect instances when your husband makes a mistake, hurts your feelings or cancels appointments. Acknowledge the truth that your spouse is human. Consider every disappointment as an opportunity to develop your strength in accepting Allah's Qadr/Destiny with rewarding patience.

7) Being patient with your husband doesn't indicate you're weak or you are settling for less than what you actually deserve, but you're in actuality strong enough to not let your ego take control over your actions and you don't allow temporary examinations to keep you upset.

8) It's not a necessity for every Muslim couple to be exactly alike and perfectly compatible for them to get along with each other. In some marriages, the husband is more religious than his wife, whereas in other love journeys, the pious wife has a beautiful chance to inspire her husband to become more righteous for Allah's sake with admirable perseverance.

9) The number of kids that Muslim couples have together do not measure the quality of their love life. It is possible for a man and woman to remain married without bringing up any children. Their infertility is a test from Allah the Most Merciful, to examine their level of patience and contentment or acceptance of Allah's Decree. Not having offsprings may be their chance to earn more of Allah's Love by showing interest in taking good care of orphans or those who are deprived of the affection of responsible parents.

10) It is absolutely normal for husbands and wives to argue with one another now and then. Instead of asking for divorce after an argument, find the courage to be the first to forgive, the first to apologize, the first to reconcile and try to sympathize with how your husband is different. If he stubbornly insists on committing an obvious wrongdoing though, such as smoking or gambling, don't be too quick to abandon him. Pray to Allah that He guides your husband and include your spouse in your frequent supplications.

11) Your marriage life is a blessing and gift from Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala if it leads you and your spouse to Jannah Paradise, protects you from haraam/forbidden relationships, and trains you to give preference to pleasing Allah over surrendering to shameful desires.

12) In some cases there can be a possibility for a wife to feel attracted to someone other than her husband, or for a man to admire other women who are not his wife/wives. This is another type of test from Allah the Most Forgiving. You are not accountable for whatever thoughts or feelings you have, as long as you try your best to ensure you don't put those inappropriate urges into intentional actions. Strengthen your connection with Allah the Almighty, patiently persist in disciplining your nafs, and courageously lower your gaze as a striving Muslim.

13) Once in a while you may feel slightly jealous of other people's marriages, especially if the sort of friends you hang out with tend to frequently brag about how their love lives seem "perfect". Rather than doubting the quality of your own marriage or feeling discontented, confidently be happy for them, encourage them to stay loyal for Allah's sake, and appreciate the love journey that Allah the Most Loving wisely selected for you. What works for you may not work out for others, and what goes well with others' love lives may not be suitable for your love journey. Since Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala created His servants with unique roles and abilities, not everybody goes through life's trials similarly. 

There are various ways of reaching the peak of a mountain, either by traditional mountain-climbing or mountaineering, ascending a flight of stairs if a stairway has been constructed, riding a cable car if there is one, flying with a helicopter, or even just imagining you've already reached the top of the mountain. 

Avoid comparing the chapters of your marriage life to others' romance. Do your best for Allah's sake to be a pleasant wife to your husband until you reunite in Jannah Paradise where profound bliss and perfection can be enjoyed for eternity.

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: The Messenger of Allah SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If a woman prays her five prayers, fasts her month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise from any gate she wishes."

Source: Sahih Ibn Hibban 4252

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

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Poem: Dunya Isn't Everlasting. Prepare For The Meeting With Allah The Almighty.

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful

💌 Contemplate and reflect on how many people died 

Unexpectedly, most of whom wished for longer lives. 

How many passed away before trying marriage life, 

Before completing their studies, or while still a child?

~•~

How many women were widowed while they never tried 

Making love or traveling with their spouse far and wide?

How many took their last breath whilst in their beds at night, 

And news of their sudden death brought loved ones much surprise?

~•~

How many friends got into arguments due to pride, 

Unaware that one of them after some days would die?

How many relatives went without formal goodbyes,

With wills they did not write and huge fortune left behind?

~•~

How many tourists were excited for some fun times 

Only to be taken by Allah during their flight?

How many died in car accidents, physical fights, 

Earthquakes, floods, or by lightning, with Allah's Will and Might?

~•~

Note to self, and dear human: Death can come anytime. 

So prepare yourself to meet Allah each day and night, 

With good deeds for Allah and trusting Him as you strive 

To do sincere Tawbah before your destined demise.

~•~

Don't wait for clear warnings or for old age to arrive 

To be inspired to pack your luggage for the next life. 

Delete your selfies, albums of songs, indecent files, 

And have the guts to detach from forbidden desires.

~•~

For Allah's sake purify your heart. Keep this in mind: 

"I've forgiven all Muslims, even those I dislike."

Day and night say Dhikr, and Surah Al-Mulk recite.

Please Allah to be from those who smile when death arrives.

~•~

📖 Ibn 'Abbas RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah’s noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Take advantage of five before five: Your youth before your old age, your health before your illness, your riches before your poverty, your free time before your work, and your life before your death."

Source: Shu’ab Al-Imān 9575

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani

📖 Anas Ibn Malik RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "There is a chapter in the Qur'an, not but thirty verses (Surah Al-Mulk), which will argue on behalf of its companion until he enters Paradise. It is the chapter: 'Blessed is He (Allah the Almighty) in Whose Hand is the Dominion.'" (The Noble Qur'an 67:1)

Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Awsat 3667

Grade: Hasan (Fair) according to Al-Albani

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "When the human being dies, (the rewards of) his deeds come to an end except for three: Ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge (taught or left behind), or a righteous child who prays for him."

Source: Sahih Muslim 1631

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Muslim

📖 Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveler along a path."

Ibn Umar RadhiAllahu 'anhuma would say, “If you make it to the evening, do not wait for the morning. If you make it to the morning, do not wait for the evening. Take from your health for your sickness, and from your life for your death.”

Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari 6053

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Bukhari

https://mjustsharingislam.blogspot.com/2020/04/poem-if-you-knew-exactly-when-youd-die.html 

Note: How Some INTJs View Some ISFPs, ESFPs And INFPs

💐 In The Name Of Allah The Most Gracious The Most Merciful 

📜 Question: As an INTJ personality type, which three of the 16 MBTI personality types do you find most challenging to get along with often, and why? What would you typically do if you were willing to befriend them for Allah's sake as you share similar goals and interests?

📝 Answer: I usually clash with many ISFPs, ESFPs and INFPs, unless they're a family member. When it comes to my relatives, I try my best to maintain good connection with them regardless of their MBTI personality type. 

What I hate about the following types from what I've observed: 

ISFPs - when they make wrong choices or act impulsively without carefully thinking about the consequences of their actions, and when they're unable to discern or acknowledge the long-term benefits of doing something because they are more concerned about how they feel in the present moment. 

ESFPs - when several of them indulge in childish gossiping and childishly make fun of how others appear or dress, and when they'd do whatever they can to obtain something they desperately want regardless of seeming selfish, greedy or irrational.

INFPs - when a lot of them are overly sensitive and expect you to babysit their fluctuating feelings or spoil them with affection when they've forgotten about the multiple instances in which they proved to be very unreliable. 

❎ From my turn-offs: Stubbornness in remaining ignorant, unwillingness to correct one's mistakes, persistence in doing illogical acts in spite of the outcomes, deliberate dishonesty, cowardice, injustice, arrogantly deriding other humans while denying that you too have plentiful imperfections, pointless gossip and unreliability. 

✅ If I'm actually interested in connecting with an ISFP, ESFP or INFP, I'd: 

1] Ask them more questions about themselves to be better acquainted and go out of my way to show that I care about them for Allah's sake. 

2] Instantly defend them in their absence and presence when naysayers mention their name negatively. 

3] Prolong meaningful conversations with them online and offline, and know when to give them space. 

4] Advise them gently one-on-one instead of brashly criticizing them in front of an audience or intentionally ignoring their mistakes due to disinterest in their self-improvement. 

5] Train myself to be more understanding or tolerant of the things they do which I oppose, or frequently supplicate that Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala grants them more guidance. 

⚠️ Note: Inability to get along peacefully with certain personality types is not an excuse to resort to bullying and behaving oppressively. If you can't connect with a particular individual, simply minimize unnecessary interactions with them for Allah's sake as much as possible to preserve your overall well-being.

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📖 Abu Umamah RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, hates for the sake of Allah, gives for the sake of Allah, and withholds for the sake of Allah has perfected the faith (Imaan)."

Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4681

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Albani 

📖 Abu Huraira RadhiAllahu 'anhu narrated: Allah's noble Messenger Muhammad SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends."

Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2378

Grade: Sahih (Authentic) according to Al-Nawawi 

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